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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent
My friend obviously did not react well when she found out about the incident. How should she make up for it to her daughter?
She should apologize. You say your friend didn't react ideally, I'd say ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?
To answer the question as to "why protests turn to riots" it often comes down to people not feeling like they are heard. Think about if you (or your child) is asking for something, something you ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?
This is a difficult problem for parents because we hate making our children cry, but it seems to me that you use 'the naughty place' / timeout and that can be effective. I don't call it 'the naughty ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?
You could use it as an example of https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crowd_psychology - what can happen when people feel like they are a part of a crowd. Their individual responsibility is diffused, things ...
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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent
No parents are entitled to be told by their children about things they would want to know. It may be right for their kids to tell them, it may be good and helpful, it may be reasonable and all sorts ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?
Kids, just like adults, want to "be cool", to have fun and to have something they can share with their friends. TV, video games, pro wrestling, whatever. And the parts they want to talk about/...
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How to explain Paris terrorist attack to primary school age children?
I've got a hard time explaining the motives of the terrorists.
I don't know whether this is the best article on the subject (it's near the top of this Google search) but for example What Motivates ...
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Story of a sad mom - adult son who is violent and suffering from depression
when I was driving and he used bad words to me and punched to my head many time, I wanted to call 911 , but he said I will kill you later if you do it.
We asked police before , but they said we can ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?
It seems from your question fairly evident that you don't know yourself why people would behave this way
as members of the privileged majority it's not easy to intuit why people feel a more ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?
Violence and play fighting is an innate aspect of human behaviour.
You can observe animals play fighting as well.
Domestically, you can observe cats and dogs play fight, more commonly as juveniles....
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Child with ODD and ADHD
Someone will probably comment that ODD and ADHD can't be diagnosed reliably in a preschooler. Not only is that unhelpful, it's also untrue. I can't speak to your child's ADHD, but it sure sounds like ...
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What to do after my nephew showed a graphic video to my 9-year-old son?
Am I overreacting??
Possibly. Probably. To adults this act - showing a young person a beheading - is horrifying, because we know all that it means. But a child might not see it that way, especially ...
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How to explain Paris terrorist attack to primary school age children?
This is the line I've taken, for better or worse...
Like in school we trust teachers to be telling the truth about things in lessons. The people who attacked France, were told lies by their teachers ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?
It sounds like what you have is a breakdown in communication. It's especially difficult around this age since she is trying to make use of her newly acquired language skills.
Look at it from her ...
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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent
1a. Is it the fear of re-living the trauma that kept the child quiet?
Possibly. It might also be that she didn't want to betray what she saw as a confidence. Or she might have been worried that her ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?
As others remarked, the riots are puzzling to us adults as well — that's the reason you are asking. We are struggling to explain it not because there is a truth so terrible that it is unsuited ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?
Why is kids picking up on 'inappropriate behavior' appropriate?
"The social group basically polices itself and enforces the rules of social dominance, the social mores of the troupe, and monkeys who ...
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How to make a 2.5-year-old stop beating, biting and hurting others if he thinks it is a game?
A 2.5 year old doesn't have a lot of empathy, understanding of causing pain to others, or a well developed sense of values, but they do know what gets a reaction out of people and, well, it's kind of ...
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What to do about an overly confident 4.5-year-old who retaliates at nursery?
I've got a child about the same age and about the same size, and I definitely understand the difficulty you're having.
First off, don't expect to have a 100% perfect solution. All children ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?
My feeling is that this is not directly about the phone. The outburst is symptomatic of an unmet need, and it's not the need for your phone.
Your child is two.
You are on your phone.
The message to ...
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My daughter tells me her teacher slapped her. How should I proceed?
First off, when it involves your children being physically assaulted, always believe them. Children (especially so young) don't tend to have a strong concept of consequences. Because of this, it is ...
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How do I make my girlfriend's 4 year old stop hurting my dog?
It's pretty clear to me that the boy's behavior isn't about the dog. It's about YOU. He's testing boundaries and trying to see what he can get away with, and has discovered that hurting the dog ...
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Should I let my child play with gun toys?
One of the purposes of toys is to give children a safe way to learn about dangerous things. So yes, you should not only allow, but encourage your children to play with toy guns, knives, hammers, saws,...
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Kindergartner with no control over his emotions/behavior
I've realised after writing this that your question is months old but I'm going to post it anyway because I also have a child who behaves differently to others and want to offer encouragement. Your ...
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Should I worry About My 10yo Nephew's Interest in Violence?
I'd probably recommend Tai Chi over karate, but you should try out different styles and see if anything "clicks" with him. If he is reluctant, show him the recent remake of the Karate Kid. I'd ...
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How to change a 4-year-old's violent and defiant behavior when his parents made him our responsibility?
Spanking doesn't stop (or even seem to influence) the behavior, so you might as well stop. Besides, it sends a pretty bad message to the child, and using the strap can get you involved with Child ...
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What to do about a 5-year-old girl being violent and insulting?
There's something going on here, and it's your job to figure it out. :-/ That's usually best done by talking once the child is calm. But there are a lot of things you can try to improve the immediate ...
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Is "slapping a badly-behaved child" against the law in US?
It depends on the state and the circumstances. State law trumps federal law in most cases.See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Corporal_punishment_of_minors_in_the_United_States. In this case, it is ...
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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent
My questions are:
Is it the fear of re-living the trauma that kept the child quiet? Something else? How can my friend ask her daughter, and get her to
talk about this? Should she even try to ...
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