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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent

My friend obviously did not react well when she found out about the incident. How should she make up for it to her daughter? She should apologize. You say your friend didn't react ideally, I'd say ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?

To answer the question as to "why protests turn to riots" it often comes down to people not feeling like they are heard. Think about if you (or your child) is asking for something, something you ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?

This is a difficult problem for parents because we hate making our children cry, but it seems to me that you use 'the naughty place' / timeout and that can be effective. I don't call it 'the naughty ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?

You could use it as an example of https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crowd_psychology - what can happen when people feel like they are a part of a crowd. Their individual responsibility is diffused, things ...
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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent

No parents are entitled to be told by their children about things they would want to know. It may be right for their kids to tell them, it may be good and helpful, it may be reasonable and all sorts ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?

It seems from your question fairly evident that you don't know yourself why people would behave this way as members of the privileged majority it's not easy to intuit why people feel a more ...
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Child with ODD and ADHD

Someone will probably comment that ODD and ADHD can't be diagnosed reliably in a preschooler. Not only is that unhelpful, it's also untrue. I can't speak to your child's ADHD, but it sure sounds like ...
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What to do after my nephew showed a graphic video to my 9-year-old son?

Am I overreacting?? Possibly. Probably. To adults this act - showing a young person a beheading - is horrifying, because we know all that it means. But a child might not see it that way, especially ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?

It sounds like what you have is a breakdown in communication. It's especially difficult around this age since she is trying to make use of her newly acquired language skills. Look at it from her ...
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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent

1a. Is it the fear of re-living the trauma that kept the child quiet? Possibly. It might also be that she didn't want to betray what she saw as a confidence. Or she might have been worried that her ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?

As others remarked, the riots are puzzling to us adults as well — that's the reason you are asking. We are struggling to explain it not because there is a truth so terrible that it is unsuited ...
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How to make a 2.5-year-old stop beating, biting and hurting others if he thinks it is a game?

A 2.5 year old doesn't have a lot of empathy, understanding of causing pain to others, or a well developed sense of values, but they do know what gets a reaction out of people and, well, it's kind of ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?

My feeling is that this is not directly about the phone. The outburst is symptomatic of an unmet need, and it's not the need for your phone. Your child is two. You are on your phone. The message to ...
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What to do about an overly confident 4.5-year-old who retaliates at nursery?

I've got a child about the same age and about the same size, and I definitely understand the difficulty you're having. First off, don't expect to have a 100% perfect solution. All children ...
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My daughter tells me her teacher slapped her. How should I proceed?

First off, when it involves your children being physically assaulted, always believe them. Children (especially so young) don't tend to have a strong concept of consequences. Because of this, it is ...
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How do I make my girlfriend's 4 year old stop hurting my dog?

It's pretty clear to me that the boy's behavior isn't about the dog. It's about YOU. He's testing boundaries and trying to see what he can get away with, and has discovered that hurting the dog ...
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What to do about a 5-year-old girl being violent and insulting?

There's something going on here, and it's your job to figure it out. :-/ That's usually best done by talking once the child is calm. But there are a lot of things you can try to improve the immediate ...
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How to change a 4-year-old's violent and defiant behavior when his parents made him our responsibility?

Spanking doesn't stop (or even seem to influence) the behavior, so you might as well stop. Besides, it sends a pretty bad message to the child, and using the strap can get you involved with Child ...
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Should I let my child play with gun toys?

One of the purposes of toys is to give children a safe way to learn about dangerous things. So yes, you should not only allow, but encourage your children to play with toy guns, knives, hammers, saws,...
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Should I worry About My 10yo Nephew's Interest in Violence?

I'd probably recommend Tai Chi over karate, but you should try out different styles and see if anything "clicks" with him. If he is reluctant, show him the recent remake of the Karate Kid. I'd ...
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Is "slapping a badly-behaved child" against the law in US?

It depends on the state and the circumstances. State law trumps federal law in most cases.See https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Corporal_punishment_of_minors_in_the_United_States. In this case, it is ...
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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent

My questions are: Is it the fear of re-living the trauma that kept the child quiet? Something else? How can my friend ask her daughter, and get her to talk about this? Should she even try to ...
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Found loaded gun after son threatened to kill the family

I concur with @AskAboutMonica: your first priority must be to keep yourself and the rest of your family safe. In addition to your own safety a murder conviction is not going to do your son much good. ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?

There's a whole bunch of moving parts, and some are beyond explaining, even to adults. I'll aim for the pre-teens with this. Let me caveat this by saying that I understand the George Floyd situation ...
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Should I tell my 2.5 YO son to stay away from another kid?

The most important reason not to warn your son to stay away from the boy who bit him is that doing so makes it your son's responsibility to stay safe. It's not. (It's not the same as running into the ...
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How to make my 3-year-old stop throwing things at people?

This is a response I wrote for another family, that will help you. Take 20 uninterrupted, totally involved completely focused undistracted, minutes doing activities your child completely loves to do. ...
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Should I let my child play with gun toys?

I think that the correct answer to this problem is entirely contingent on locale. I grew up in Alaska, where guns are so prevalent that my school actually took us to the range for a day during middle-...
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