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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent

My friend obviously did not react well when she found out about the incident. How should she make up for it to her daughter? She should apologize. You say your friend didn't react ideally, I'd say ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?

To answer the question as to "why protests turn to riots" it often comes down to people not feeling like they are heard. Think about if you (or your child) is asking for something, something you ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?

This is a difficult problem for parents because we hate making our children cry, but it seems to me that you use 'the naughty place' / timeout and that can be effective. I don't call it 'the naughty ...
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Should I let my child play with gun toys?

I take what I consider to be a pragmatic approach: if there is no toy which is obviously a gun, kids just make their own (60-80% of boys, 30% of girls, play with "aggressive toys" of some variety). ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?

You could use it as an example of https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Crowd_psychology - what can happen when people feel like they are a part of a crowd. Their individual responsibility is diffused, things ...
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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent

No parents are entitled to be told by their children about things they would want to know. It may be right for their kids to tell them, it may be good and helpful, it may be reasonable and all sorts ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?

Kids, just like adults, want to "be cool", to have fun and to have something they can share with their friends. TV, video games, pro wrestling, whatever. And the parts they want to talk about/...
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How to explain Paris terrorist attack to primary school age children?

I've got a hard time explaining the motives of the terrorists. I don't know whether this is the best article on the subject (it's near the top of this Google search) but for example What Motivates ...
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How to persuade my father to stop physically abusing my mother?

There are no easy answers. You need to seek professional help and encourage your mother to do the same. A domestic violence helpline is a good place to start. Be patient and supportive, and help ...
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Can a punishment be devoid of any "violence"?

I want to address a particular issue I see in the comments: the (important) distinction between punishments and consequences. Punishments are distinct from consequences, and work differently. Many ...
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Stop a 14 month old from hurting the dog

14 months is pretty young to learn to be truly nice to another - he almost certainly has very little empathy at this point. He's not trying to hurt the dog; he's pushing a button that makes a bell ...
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How to persuade my father to stop physically abusing my mother?

First off let me applaud you loudly for taking this step. Many in similar situations are too ashamed to admit it to others. Your mother is one example. Unfortunately, this is a large complex problem, ...
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Story of a sad mom - adult son who is violent and suffering from depression

when I was driving and he used bad words to me and punched to my head many time, I wanted to call 911 , but he said I will kill you later if you do it. We asked police before , but they said we can ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?

It seems from your question fairly evident that you don't know yourself why people would behave this way as members of the privileged majority it's not easy to intuit why people feel a more ...
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Can a punishment be devoid of any "violence"?

No, punishment is violence. Violence, a fact of life, is a part of nature and their world. The question implicit is what are the tolerable/intolerable externalities of violence and how to manage the ...
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Child with ODD and ADHD

Someone will probably comment that ODD and ADHD can't be diagnosed reliably in a preschooler. Not only is that unhelpful, it's also untrue. I can't speak to your child's ADHD, but it sure sounds like ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?

Violence and play fighting is an innate aspect of human behaviour. You can observe animals play fighting as well. Domestically, you can observe cats and dogs play fight, more commonly as juveniles....
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What to do after my nephew showed a graphic video to my 9-year-old son?

Am I overreacting?? Possibly. Probably. To adults this act - showing a young person a beheading - is horrifying, because we know all that it means. But a child might not see it that way, especially ...
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How to explain Paris terrorist attack to primary school age children?

This is the line I've taken, for better or worse... Like in school we trust teachers to be telling the truth about things in lessons. The people who attacked France, were told lies by their teachers ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?

It sounds like what you have is a breakdown in communication. It's especially difficult around this age since she is trying to make use of her newly acquired language skills. Look at it from her ...
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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent

1a. Is it the fear of re-living the trauma that kept the child quiet? Possibly. It might also be that she didn't want to betray what she saw as a confidence. Or she might have been worried that her ...
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Should I let my child play with gun toys?

Most important then if you should let your child play with toy A or toy B, is what you already posted in your question: What are the effects this kind of play have in the children's psichology? ...
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Can a punishment be devoid of any "violence"?

For us, psychological abuse is a serious issue. I've seen children who've never been hit more traumatised than ones who've been seriously physically hurt through "discipline". I know that ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?

As others remarked, the riots are puzzling to us adults as well — that's the reason you are asking. We are struggling to explain it not because there is a truth so terrible that it is unsuited ...
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5-year-old tantrums and misbehavior - what am I doing wrong?

Kids mess up. A lot. If it were possible to do something for a month that would make them stop messing up, they wouldn't need to live with you anymore. Kids messing up isn't a sign that you're ...
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How do I help my son deal with a sexually abusive bully in preschool?

This has to be one of the most painful parts of parenting. It's good that the teachers are contacting you**; having Cain's parents sit in, though, while very important for Cain and his parents, is ...
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My 10 year old daughter punches her legs when she gets angry or doesn't get her way

In some ways this might be considered a healthier reaction than punching other things. It shows that she is trying to control herself, but she doesn't know how. My son had anger issues and it helped ...
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Can a punishment be devoid of any "violence"?

The time-out system is designed to be non-punishment. It is about teaching a child who is out of control to settle himself. When the child misbehaves, he is put in his room for a few minutes (longer ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?

Why is kids picking up on 'inappropriate behavior' appropriate? "The social group basically polices itself and enforces the rules of social dominance, the social mores of the troupe, and monkeys who ...
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How to make a 2.5-year-old stop beating, biting and hurting others if he thinks it is a game?

A 2.5 year old doesn't have a lot of empathy, understanding of causing pain to others, or a well developed sense of values, but they do know what gets a reaction out of people and, well, it's kind of ...
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