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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

It starts with her making a mistake, and me correcting it. So don't correct her. Especially her schoolwork should be hers and hers alone. A teacher does not expect 100% correct work, they want to see ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

Most of the answers (as well as your question) here make it sound as if your daugther was unable or unwilling to accept her own mistakes. But when I read these sentences It starts with her making ...
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How to help a child accept when an activity is over

Give the child an advance warning about the upcoming transition (as mentioned in the answer by Roger Vadim), perhaps even several advance warnings. For example: "We will need to go home in 10 ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

I agree with @Stephie's excellent answer. I would like to expand on one point (failure). Anyone got any more tactics I could try? Yes. Try to instill in her the idea that success is not the most ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

Stephie's point is valid - and it makes me wonder if she reacts the same way at school when she is not perfect. If it is only an at home problem, then I think her advice is bang on. That doesn't mean ...
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How do we help 2 yo play independently when we’re busy?

I think it's unrealistic to expect a 2 year old to be able to play by themselves for a long time. Some might, but not all. We tried the "cry it out" technique tonight but we know it'll take more ...
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Is it normal for a 4 year old to scream when told no or something she doesn't like?

No young child likes to hear no. Every child out there will fight a no if they think there is a chance they could win the fight. This is all quite common and normal. Similarly no kid will listen to ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

I'll answer this by asking "How long is a piece of string?". And it really comes down to individual approaches and techniques that work for some and not for others. I am going to answer this as a ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son stop crying over the most simple things?

I am not an expert on ADHD and can not emphasize enough that what I am about to say is not easy to do in practice without addressing ADHD or any other emotional/cognitive condition. As with ...
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How to stop 3 year old screaming when something is wrong?

I agree wtih @albrecht-hugli, you cannot reward bad behavior with attention and expect the behavior to change. My son had a temper tantrum - once. We were in a Kmart and he was suddenly down on the ...
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What are some good ways a father can engage a toddler boy who is 1 year and 8 months old?

At 20 months, my oldest was like yours - very physical. So, the main thing I did with him was to take him outside to play. Running around, climbing on the playground, climbing stairs; all of this ...
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How to help a child accept when an activity is over

One approach is to tell that you are going to change the activity a bit in advance, letting the child to digest the idea. E.g., you say that you finish in five minutes, or that you read just the one ...
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Where can I get help for my 13-year-old daughter whose tantrums get physical?

THIS GIRL NEEDS IMMEDIATE PROFESSIONAL HELP. Picking up the knife, presumably in a threatening manner, indicates serious instability. This is not a run-of-the-mill teenage emotional outburst. She is ...
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Allowing freedom of choice to toddler/preschooler isn't working, what next?

Maybe he just knows what he wants? "Stubborn" is another word for that, right? If he doesn't want to inhale with the mask, and he's given three options about who gets to hold the mask, then of ...
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My almost 12-year-old daughters threw tantrums and screamed outside the house

It can be normal, but it's worth keeping an eye on. 12-year-olds might be "big," but that's not the same as "grown" or "mature." My daughter, now almost 14, has had a rough time in middle school. ...
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How to get my 2.5- and 5.5-year-old daughters under control?

Hello and welcome to the parenting stackexchange. I understand it must be some very difficult times for you, and I may not be able to offer as much support as I want, as I do not have the online ...
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How to stop 3 year old screaming when something is wrong?

You know the cartoon of a psychologist’s experiment conditioning rats? Each time when a rat is pressing the right lever it gets some food. The psychologist says: You see how I’m conditioning the rats?...
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How to help 3-year-old son not immediately start whining/throwing fit

Different situations are different. Sometimes kids throw a tantrum because they have a disappointed desire (aka, the movie is over, time to turn off the tv; or, that's enough dessert, time to be done; ...
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4-year-old screaming at every occasion

This feels so similar to my recent question about my own son (2 and a half). I got good advice there, and through a combination of the techniques presented, a conscious attempt to change my own ...
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12 year old with major tantrums that I have no idea how to control help needed

First thing I'd do about door slamming. You have a screw driver take off that door it's your door you pay for it. She can have it back when she learns to close it properly. I'd say start with 24 hrs ...
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How to change a 4-year-old's violent and defiant behavior when his parents made him our responsibility?

Spanking doesn't stop (or even seem to influence) the behavior, so you might as well stop. Besides, it sends a pretty bad message to the child, and using the strap can get you involved with Child ...
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What to do about a 5-year-old girl being violent and insulting?

There's something going on here, and it's your job to figure it out. :-/ That's usually best done by talking once the child is calm. But there are a lot of things you can try to improve the immediate ...
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I am having a hard time dealing with my 11 year old niece

There are numerous reasons why this child may be acting out. I'll list out some of them with links you can click to discover a little bit about what may be going on. To provide perspective, I have ...
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Forcing my sister/child to do any activities outside from school. How to approach a child differently in order to get their interest?

This sounds like it could be some sort of social anxiety. The first thing I would recommend is not trying to force anything on her. Trying to get someone to overcome anxiety by force is trying to ...
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When my 5-year-old is throwing a tantrum, should I leave her alone or stay?

Tantrums are tricky, and there's no one-size-fits-all answer. Partly it depends on how often she throws tantrums, why she does it, how she treats people when she is doing so, etc. The best way to ...
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What to do about 13-month-old who cries and whines all the time?

Unfortunately this is most likely just a phase. If it is, how long it lasts all depends on your reaction to it. I've experienced new baby jitters in two very different situations. In my first ...
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Toddler misbehaves a lot less with dad, than with mom

You have a number of (maybe conflicting?) thoughts/theories about love and its relation to acting out. I think one of the reasons you didn't get any good answers (there were two which have been ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son stop crying over the most simple things?

While not an official DSM symptom of ADHD, Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria is a common issue with ADHD. I'm just learning what to do with an ADHD child, so take this advice lightly: I've started ...
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how and when to establish limits with fussing in a near year old child?

For the most part, at any age, telling a child to "not fuss" or "stop crying" is both ineffective and (in my opinion) inappropriate. Children cry, fuss, throw a tantrum, or do any ...
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