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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

It starts with her making a mistake, and me correcting it. So don't correct her. Especially her schoolwork should be hers and hers alone. A teacher does not expect 100% correct work, they want to see ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

Most of the answers (as well as your question) here make it sound as if your daugther was unable or unwilling to accept her own mistakes. But when I read these sentences It starts with her making ...
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Is it possible to spoil a child, but still teach them not to behave spoiled?

I don't believe you can spoil a child without having them act spoiled. You can't jump in a pool without getting wet, just like you can't spoil a child without having it affect them. Spoiling a child ...
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How to help a child accept when an activity is over

Give the child an advance warning about the upcoming transition (as mentioned in the answer by Roger Vadim), perhaps even several advance warnings. For example: "We will need to go home in 10 ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

I agree with @Stephie's excellent answer. I would like to expand on one point (failure). Anyone got any more tactics I could try? Yes. Try to instill in her the idea that success is not the most ...
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Does good cop/bad cop work with children?

Research indicates (see below for some links) that kids actually thrive when the parents present a united front on discipline. She'll try to test you, to see if she can play one against the other, ...
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Does good cop/bad cop work with children?

Classic good-cop-bad-cop is definitely wrong with a toddler because it involves a lot of lying. The bad cop threatens to beat the suspect up or otherwise do something cops are not allowed to do. The ...
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Is it possible to spoil a child, but still teach them not to behave spoiled?

I see a lot of things that you can do just in the question, though I'm not sure there's a true answer to your question. First of all, one of the hardest things for children to deal with is ...
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Is it wrong for a parent to partake in screaming/dominating competitions with their kids?

I know a lot of parents who sort of "out-ridiculous" their kid to remind them what a tantrum looks like to others and how unlikely it is to result in getting what they want. In those cases, the ...
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How can I help my 14-year-old daughter be less angry?

Okay, I'm just gonna tell you what I did...after failing miserably with my teenage boys (who btw. behaved the same way at the same age). So when my 14-year-old baby girl started to show signs of ...
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How can I stop my 5-year-old's violent tantrums?

I volunteer at ADHD and Aspergers syndrome vacation camps for kids. We hold raging kids and keep a rigid consequence structure that everyone follows (organizers included). Usually after 2-3 ...
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How to keep a 21-month-old safe, who has learned how to climb out of his crib when angry?

I personally think 21 months is time for a bed he can get in and out of himself - my parenting style leans towards independent kids. That doesn't help with the tantrums though. I have 2 suggestions ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

Stephie's point is valid - and it makes me wonder if she reacts the same way at school when she is not perfect. If it is only an at home problem, then I think her advice is bang on. That doesn't mean ...
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How do we help 2 yo play independently when we’re busy?

I think it's unrealistic to expect a 2 year old to be able to play by themselves for a long time. Some might, but not all. We tried the "cry it out" technique tonight but we know it'll take more ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

I'll answer this by asking "How long is a piece of string?". And it really comes down to individual approaches and techniques that work for some and not for others. I am going to answer this as a ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son stop crying over the most simple things?

I am not an expert on ADHD and can not emphasize enough that what I am about to say is not easy to do in practice without addressing ADHD or any other emotional/cognitive condition. As with ...
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5-year-old tantrums and misbehavior - what am I doing wrong?

Kids mess up. A lot. If it were possible to do something for a month that would make them stop messing up, they wouldn't need to live with you anymore. Kids messing up isn't a sign that you're ...
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3-year-old acts out for parents, but not for nanny

Acting out for parents and not for others is very common. Your children feel safe around you; they know that you will love them unconditionally, and they know how you'll respond to their actions and ...
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How to stop 3 year old screaming when something is wrong?

I agree wtih @albrecht-hugli, you cannot reward bad behavior with attention and expect the behavior to change. My son had a temper tantrum - once. We were in a Kmart and he was suddenly down on the ...
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What are some good ways a father can engage a toddler boy who is 1 year and 8 months old?

At 20 months, my oldest was like yours - very physical. So, the main thing I did with him was to take him outside to play. Running around, climbing on the playground, climbing stairs; all of this ...
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How to help a child accept when an activity is over

One approach is to tell that you are going to change the activity a bit in advance, letting the child to digest the idea. E.g., you say that you finish in five minutes, or that you read just the one ...
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Is it normal for a 4 year old to scream when told no or something she doesn't like?

No young child likes to hear no. Every child out there will fight a no if they think there is a chance they could win the fight. This is all quite common and normal. Similarly no kid will listen to ...
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Does good cop/bad cop work with children?

The good cop and bad cop don't necessarily have to be simultaneous. My church teaches parents that after they reprove their children they should show an increase of love, and I've found that to work ...
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Where can I get help for my 13-year-old daughter whose tantrums get physical?

THIS GIRL NEEDS IMMEDIATE PROFESSIONAL HELP. Picking up the knife, presumably in a threatening manner, indicates serious instability. This is not a run-of-the-mill teenage emotional outburst. She is ...
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My almost 12-year-old daughters threw tantrums and screamed outside the house

It can be normal, but it's worth keeping an eye on. 12-year-olds might be "big," but that's not the same as "grown" or "mature." My daughter, now almost 14, has had a rough time in middle school. ...
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How to get my 2.5- and 5.5-year-old daughters under control?

Hello and welcome to the parenting stackexchange. I understand it must be some very difficult times for you, and I may not be able to offer as much support as I want, as I do not have the online ...
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How to stop 3 year old screaming when something is wrong?

You know the cartoon of a psychologist’s experiment conditioning rats? Each time when a rat is pressing the right lever it gets some food. The psychologist says: You see how I’m conditioning the rats?...
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How to keep a 21-month-old safe, who has learned how to climb out of his crib when angry?

You might have to abandon the crib/Pack&Play as a time-out spot for now, and pick a corner of the house or a room with, perhaps, a few cushions or other soft things he can sit on/amongst. There he ...
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How to deal with extreme misbehavior of younger siblings?

I empathize with you; this is a terrible place to be. Naturally you feel like a bad mother; your husband just left you citing he can't take the kids' misbehavior. Also, in my experience, there is ...
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My son cries for 30-45 minutes when told "No"

I have 2 girls and a boy ranging from 25-16. I've found offering a choice rather than a No makes them think. As aparente001 suggested, it is all in the wording. If he asks for candy you could say, "...
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