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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

It starts with her making a mistake, and me correcting it. So don't correct her. Especially her schoolwork should be hers and hers alone. A teacher does not expect 100% correct work, they want to see ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

Most of the answers (as well as your question) here make it sound as if your daugther was unable or unwilling to accept her own mistakes. But when I read these sentences It starts with her making ...
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Is it possible to spoil a child, but still teach them not to behave spoiled?

I don't believe you can spoil a child without having them act spoiled. You can't jump in a pool without getting wet, just like you can't spoil a child without having it affect them. Spoiling a child ...
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How to help a child accept when an activity is over

Give the child an advance warning about the upcoming transition (as mentioned in the answer by Roger Vadim), perhaps even several advance warnings. For example: "We will need to go home in 10 ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

I agree with @Stephie's excellent answer. I would like to expand on one point (failure). Anyone got any more tactics I could try? Yes. Try to instill in her the idea that success is not the most ...
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Is it possible to spoil a child, but still teach them not to behave spoiled?

I see a lot of things that you can do just in the question, though I'm not sure there's a true answer to your question. First of all, one of the hardest things for children to deal with is ...
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How can I help my 14-year-old daughter be less angry?

Okay, I'm just gonna tell you what I did...after failing miserably with my teenage boys (who btw. behaved the same way at the same age). So when my 14-year-old baby girl started to show signs of ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

Stephie's point is valid - and it makes me wonder if she reacts the same way at school when she is not perfect. If it is only an at home problem, then I think her advice is bang on. That doesn't mean ...
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How do we help 2 yo play independently when we’re busy?

I think it's unrealistic to expect a 2 year old to be able to play by themselves for a long time. Some might, but not all. We tried the "cry it out" technique tonight but we know it'll take more ...
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Is it normal for a 4 year old to scream when told no or something she doesn't like?

No young child likes to hear no. Every child out there will fight a no if they think there is a chance they could win the fight. This is all quite common and normal. Similarly no kid will listen to ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

I'll answer this by asking "How long is a piece of string?". And it really comes down to individual approaches and techniques that work for some and not for others. I am going to answer this as a ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son stop crying over the most simple things?

I am not an expert on ADHD and can not emphasize enough that what I am about to say is not easy to do in practice without addressing ADHD or any other emotional/cognitive condition. As with ...
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How to stop 3 year old screaming when something is wrong?

I agree wtih @albrecht-hugli, you cannot reward bad behavior with attention and expect the behavior to change. My son had a temper tantrum - once. We were in a Kmart and he was suddenly down on the ...
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What are some good ways a father can engage a toddler boy who is 1 year and 8 months old?

At 20 months, my oldest was like yours - very physical. So, the main thing I did with him was to take him outside to play. Running around, climbing on the playground, climbing stairs; all of this ...
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How to help a child accept when an activity is over

One approach is to tell that you are going to change the activity a bit in advance, letting the child to digest the idea. E.g., you say that you finish in five minutes, or that you read just the one ...
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Where can I get help for my 13-year-old daughter whose tantrums get physical?

THIS GIRL NEEDS IMMEDIATE PROFESSIONAL HELP. Picking up the knife, presumably in a threatening manner, indicates serious instability. This is not a run-of-the-mill teenage emotional outburst. She is ...
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My almost 12-year-old daughters threw tantrums and screamed outside the house

It can be normal, but it's worth keeping an eye on. 12-year-olds might be "big," but that's not the same as "grown" or "mature." My daughter, now almost 14, has had a rough time in middle school. ...
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How to get my 2.5- and 5.5-year-old daughters under control?

Hello and welcome to the parenting stackexchange. I understand it must be some very difficult times for you, and I may not be able to offer as much support as I want, as I do not have the online ...
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How to stop 3 year old screaming when something is wrong?

You know the cartoon of a psychologist’s experiment conditioning rats? Each time when a rat is pressing the right lever it gets some food. The psychologist says: You see how I’m conditioning the rats?...
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Is it normal for a 2-year-old girl to throw 30 min tantrums several times per day?

Tantrums are never nice, but this sounds fairly normal. What I have found sometimes* works, is 'active listening'. This involves acknowledging her feelings, and letting her know that you understand ...
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Allowing freedom of choice to toddler/preschooler isn't working, what next?

Maybe he just knows what he wants? "Stubborn" is another word for that, right? If he doesn't want to inhale with the mask, and he's given three options about who gets to hold the mask, then of ...
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How to help 3-year-old son not immediately start whining/throwing fit

Different situations are different. Sometimes kids throw a tantrum because they have a disappointed desire (aka, the movie is over, time to turn off the tv; or, that's enough dessert, time to be done; ...
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4-year-old screaming at every occasion

This feels so similar to my recent question about my own son (2 and a half). I got good advice there, and through a combination of the techniques presented, a conscious attempt to change my own ...
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Is it possible to spoil a child, but still teach them not to behave spoiled?

Yes, it is possible. Both I and one of my good friends were raised with everything we could want but we did not turn out particularly spoiled. (We have our flaws, but so does everyone.) I think the ...
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How to stop my 4-year-old from having tantrums at preschool?

I am surprised that no one suggested you sit in on the "class" several times to observe your daughter's behavior. To communicate effectively, you need to know (and if to believe, you need to see ...
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12 year old with major tantrums that I have no idea how to control help needed

First thing I'd do about door slamming. You have a screw driver take off that door it's your door you pay for it. She can have it back when she learns to close it properly. I'd say start with 24 hrs ...
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How to change a 4-year-old's violent and defiant behavior when his parents made him our responsibility?

Spanking doesn't stop (or even seem to influence) the behavior, so you might as well stop. Besides, it sends a pretty bad message to the child, and using the strap can get you involved with Child ...
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What to do about a 5-year-old girl being violent and insulting?

There's something going on here, and it's your job to figure it out. :-/ That's usually best done by talking once the child is calm. But there are a lot of things you can try to improve the immediate ...
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I am having a hard time dealing with my 11 year old niece

There are numerous reasons why this child may be acting out. I'll list out some of them with links you can click to discover a little bit about what may be going on. To provide perspective, I have ...
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