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How to comfort my dad after telling him that I don't like to do anything with him?

It's so hard for parents when their children start to pull away. We may be parents, but we are also human beings. It hurts, even when we try not to show it. We question ourselves and if we are doing ...
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I think my 11 month old is afraid of his dad

You are in a tough situation. Having to share parenting with someone you hate is very difficult. And whenever anyone upsets your child, it's natural to want to prevent that. Let me make some ...
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How to comfort my dad after telling him that I don't like to do anything with him?

UPDATE: This is apparently affecting my dad so much that he's thinking about quitting work, and he's the only source of income. I need some step-by-step instructions on how to do this before it's too ...
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How to comfort my dad after telling him that I don't like to do anything with him?

You've done a very good thing by asking for help. There may be tough times ahead, but you are trying hard to do something about it, so whatever happens, remember that you did the best you could. ...
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How can a parent get help with the expense of a child?

It can seem very overwhelming, but with help from public services and by adjusting your expectations about having the new fancy gadgets that are on the "must have" lists, you can definitely budget for ...
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Should I continue to allow my ex extra visits with his daughter when he is so unhelpful to me?

One rule of thumb (and it's a good one) is don't put your child in the middle of a dispute between your ex and yourself. You are contemplating using an innocent child, someone who asked for none of ...
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My 16-year-old daughter has new personal items she hides - how can I make her to be more open?

Your daughter is sixteen, and only a few years away from adulthood and going off on her own (if she chooses). I think the question you need to ask yourself is, have you raised her so that she is able ...
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Advice on dating when I have children

But, I also don't want to sneak around behind their backs like I'm doing something wrong. Assuming you're not bringing home a new guy every night, you're definitely not doing something wrong, but ...
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How can a parent get help with the expense of a child?

Here's a summary of social welfare payments available to support families and specifically children, in Ireland. The ones which sound as though they might be relevant to you are: Child Benefit: €135 ...
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How to comfort my dad after telling him that I don't like to do anything with him?

You're a gamer with relationship problems? Hey, I was a gamer with relationship problems too. I get it. (I even met my wife on an online game. Right after I killed her. What a noob... Sorry, what was ...
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Is 5 hours too long of a drive for single parent with 2 year-old?

5 hours doesn't seem that long - double that is definitely doable. The important thing is how you plan it- regular stops, whether for fuel, feed, snacks for you, nappy change, or just a walk around ...
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How can I become part of my daughter's life again?

Disclaimer I have seen some rough stuff. That means that part of this letter is written essentially speaking to those other people that I knew. The things that I'm going to say are good for them. I ...
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How to help my 9-year-old daughter with an eating disorder (comfort eating)?

I admire you for both recognizing the problem and seeking help. Single parenting is difficult; changing your daufghter's eating patterns will demand even more from you. :( First, though, comfort ...
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My 5 year old princess makes me feel unwanted

It breaks my heart to hear how badly things have gone between you and your ex-wife--this has no doubt been a VERY difficult time for your daughter (and you). Even an amicable separation is hard on ...
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How to deal with a 3-year-old very high energy child as a single mom?

Oh @Kate do I feel your pain! I have that kid too; he's 4, and the other morning he was up at 4:30 playing with his trucks in his room. First thing I will suggest is that you take care of YOU. I ...
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Do I move my son to a new school?

Both are valid options, but reading your post carefully I'd suggest finishing the school year at the old school. A list of pro's (in somewhat random order): Finishing at his old school should give ...
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My 11-year-old hates writing as do I. How to provide help to him writing a school essay without forcing him to do what he doesn't want to?

Two things first: There are things one needs to do, even if one hates it. I do not like documentation, but I need to write documentation for my code, so that others can use it/maintain it. This is a ...
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Separation between me and my stepson

First of all, I absolutely cannot imagine having to go through what you must be going through, my heart goes out to you for that. I don't know where you're from, but assuming the adption is legal and ...
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I think my 11 month old is afraid of his dad

This is a tricky situation. In general the child has a human right to a family life with both parents; and each parent has a right to a family life with the child. But the best interests of the child ...
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Parenting with a formerly abused partner?

As a parent who grew up in an abusive home-life situation, I can connect with your wife's perspective. Growing up, I never knew when the next blow was coming. I could say something "wrong", have an ...
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How to comfort my dad after telling him that I don't like to do anything with him?

A suggestion that I keep hearing more and more is that communication and interaction are the key to successful relationships. Me and my Dad often don't see eye-to-eye on a lot of issues, and this has ...
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Dating as a single parent - When do you introduce your kid?

As a non parent with no experience in this, I will give my two cents. As a disclaimer, there is no objective answer, the entire situation is subjective to how you feel. With that said, my answer is ...
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How do I get my 17-year-old under control when I raise him alone and his behavior is unacceptable?

Maybe you should encourage him to go to music school. I didn't exactly fail classes, but I did just enough to pass and didn't care for schooling at all. Maybe your son, like me, is just bored of it ...
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5yr old son becomes much more disobedient in public vs. in private

From your initial question and later comment I'm concerned that you're not showing proper respect to your son. Being a parent is a matter of mutual respect. We expect our children to listen to us and ...
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My daughter asked if I will remarry

Please don't ask your daughter if she wants you to remarry. At that age, she probably can't prioritize her desires wisely or vocalize them well, and you are putting too much responsibility on her ...
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Kid genius help

Just to add to Timur Shtatlands great advice; Try to get gifted children to explore things which they normally would not try, for example, if the child really likes science, it is beneficial to ...
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I think my 11 month old is afraid of his dad

A child's relationship with its daddy is important, but that only going to work if daddy steps up and acts decently. Hitting a 10 month old is not right. It's not going to teach the baby anything but ...

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