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How to help a bullied child (without involving parents or teachers)
I have been the bullied child.
What my parents tried to teach me was being able to stand up for myself. Trusting in my self-worth and independence. A parent can help with the first steps on this way, ...
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How to help my son to be himself?
This really resonated with me.
From my own experience, and speaking as someone who danced ballet for a number of years (in point shoes), wore girlish clothes and make up, etc... –– it's impossible to ...
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How can I deal with stealing at school (by other kids)?
If he doesn't listen break his nose and forget about the toy
Yes, this would be a wrong thing for several reasons, not least the cost/benefit of "playing with a toy" at the age of five vs "eventual ...
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Grandson is 7 he uses his Karate on his 3 yr old sister. Is 3 yr old too young for self-defense?
As Ian MacDonald said in the comments, your grandson should be disciplined. He needs to understand that hitting people is wrong (except in self defence).
Having your granddaughter learn some karate ...
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Boy defending himself from sister, or fight back?
Of course he should defend himself. some boys are stronger than girls, some boys are stronger than other boys, none of that negates your right to defend yourself.
He is being bullied and instead of ...
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How to deal with kids that bully my kids?
If you have talked with the principal, then:
Write a letter to the principal mentioning that you talked to him or her but you were not satisfied, and copy the teacher, the School Board and the ...
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Boy defending himself from sister, or fight back?
The girl needs more firm supervision and training, because other kids will not be so tolerant and will deal with it in a "natural" manner when adults aren't looking. If she can't behave around other ...
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How can I deal with stealing at school (by other kids)?
I have no kids, however I can tell you what worked for me as a bullied teenager, and may be useful for others. I live in Mexico, where bullying is present from kinder garden to, sometimes, high school:...
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How to help my 6-year-old son, who is being bullied by my roomate's 20-year-old son?
This is child abuse by an adult, plain and simple. Assuming you can't get out immediately, you should make your point of view clear to your room mate and/or his son. Tell them that if the abuse ...
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My child spit water in another kid's face - now what?
Ah, the heartbreak of parenthood (I'm serious.) You have asked what you can do. You say your son offered a half-hearted apology. If you want him to learn why his behavior hurts others as well as ...
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How to help our 2.5-year-old daughter deal with an abusive 5-year-old boy?
No 2.5 year old should have to deal with a bully, even to the extent of calling for help. If this is happening regularly then the kindergarten is failing to supervise the children properly. If at all ...
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How to help my son to be himself?
I would teach my son "mean people are mean and that isn't because of anything about you". My son has long hair. He was about 2 when he asked me why he has to cut his hair and I don't. I had no good ...
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4 year old being hit in school
I want to give you as full an answer as I can. My background is that I used to be a school teacher, I have 3 young children who have 5 cousins, and I teach a 5 to 8 year old room at church. My wife ...
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Boy defending himself from sister, or fight back?
Oh boy. There are a number of things you need to deal with here.
First is the idea of "Boys are stronger, girls are smarter. You can't hit girls back". That is a broad, sweeping statement. It ...
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How to help a bullied child (without involving parents or teachers)
This situation sounds like fairly normal social behavior for boys. Getting defensive about normal interactions would likely alienate the others and destroy any chance for long-term friendship. The ...
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Proper approach about teaching to not bully others
You're confusing arrogance for confidence.
Confidence -- true confidence -- doesn't result in bullying. That's like the idea that learning martial arts makes a person violent. Not only is that untrue,...
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How do you respond to unfriendly parent volunteers at your kid's school?
There are two approaches I believe you can take in this situation.
Approach 1
Kill them with kindness. Continue being kind just as you have mentioned. Give your morning greetings. Respond if they ...
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How do I handle my Roommates child bullying my child?
This is a big problem. Your options are:
Get your roommate on side. Ask her how she would feel if her daughter were being picked on. Try to agree an acceptable code of behaviour for all the children, ...
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How do I handle my Roommates child bullying my child?
You need to talk to the girl's mother / your roommate again.
If things went down the way you describe them (make very sure you have all the facts in this down correctly before you talk to her - to me ...
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6-year-old loves making her little sister cry by dialogue
It's not Y's responsibility to learn to toughen up. She is being emotionally abused by her sister, and for some reason, you have not put a stop to it. Every time her sister hurts her, it will hurt her,...
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How to help a bullied child (without involving parents or teachers)
In my opinion (as a person who was very heavily bullied as a child and who has done a huge amount of work around this) the damage of abuse doesn't come from the external facts of the experience--what ...
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My 8-year-old daughter was bullied at school. What should I do and advise her to do?
I'm sorry to hear that, and would advise several things. Obviously these are very highly contextual and there is very little information in the question, so they may be wildly off base. Feel free to ...
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How to help our 3-year-old deal with continuously missing clothes and bad behavior from another kid in the nursery?
Any suggestion I should ask for other missing cloths? Should I speak with teacher specifically this particular child and their relation with my daughter?
You've discovered that another child from ...
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How can I deal with stealing at school (by other kids)?
In addition to the excellent answers suggesting how to work with the school, this is a good lesson for your son in relation to the toy. We've had conversations with both of our children about the ...
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What to do about my son constantly hurting and using demeaning words to my daughter?
Firstly, start with your daughter. She's the victim, focus on ensuring that she's okay, and that she knows that you're dealing with it. But also check that she's not winding him up. If you're only ...
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How to teach my 7-year-old daughter to not be so melodramatic when dealing with bullying and any stressful situation?
She must reflect on her behavior and how it affects others. This is a journey, not a single trick.
You are also a factor! Men are prone to jump to solutions: If you do this or don't do that, ...
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How to help my 18-year-old who may be the victim of bullying?
I'll assume you read the other answers about bullying.
Forty days is not long if everything is okay -- however, it's a very long time to be abused.
Have you or your son discussed this with a teacher ...
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