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18-month-old kicked out of church nursery

Since you're talking about church, I take it religious beliefs should be on topic here. There are two commandments that supersede (and contain) all the others. One of them is You shall love your ...
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My child witnessed a toddler being taught to cuss by older kids. How to deal with rude language at social gatherings?

All you can do is teach your own child. It is never too early to learn that not everyone believes the same stuff, or even agrees on good behaviour. Your son will already have learnt those words at ...
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How can I undo the bad behavior my 2.5 year old daughter learned from 5 year old children?

For your first question: no, and no. Don't cut off other parents, and don't micromanage things. For your second question: yes, and yes. You can educate her; that's what her life is at this point ...
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My child witnessed a toddler being taught to cuss by older kids. How to deal with rude language at social gatherings?

To forewarn you, some of this is going to be my own views, and they seem to differ from yours. Swearing isn't a problem by itself If I stand in an empty room and shout obscenities and no one can ...
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18-month-old kicked out of church nursery

Those providing child minding services have a duty of care to all the children in their charge. It is entirely reasonable that any child pushing or pulling the hair of another child be removed from ...
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How can I undo the bad behavior my 2.5 year old daughter learned from 5 year old children?

Joe's analysis is spot on. I went through precisely the same thing with (now 4 year old), and continue to do so. The undesirable behavior changes, but the handling remains the same. I don't think ...
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How to help my 5-year-old when other children don't want to play with him?

My nine year old has had similar difficulties, although he does not yet have an official diagnosis. These are some things we found to help: First of all, consider that he doesn't need a lot of ...
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My child witnessed a toddler being taught to cuss by older kids. How to deal with rude language at social gatherings?

My oldest sister used to be a primary school teacher for very disadvantaged children in a very rough area. She saw it as part of her job to teach them to be - umm - less rough. So often these ...
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What to dow when my 13-year-old son still wants to hold my hand?

The other answers are good. I'll offer another point of view: Cherish it Your son wants to hold your hand? Let him. One day he probably won't want to anymore and you'll long for the days when your ...
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My child witnessed a toddler being taught to cuss by older kids. How to deal with rude language at social gatherings?

At 9 years old, (assuming no developmental disabilities) is perfectly capable of understanding the concept of "cuss" words as well as the idea that not all people will believe the same or make the ...
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18-month-old kicked out of church nursery

There is a great answer here but I would just add my thought. I would go to the church nursery and probably other places like playgroups. Keep an eye on your child, play and stop him every time while ...
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How to make a 2.5-year-old stop beating, biting and hurting others if he thinks it is a game?

A 2.5 year old doesn't have a lot of empathy, understanding of causing pain to others, or a well developed sense of values, but they do know what gets a reaction out of people and, well, it's kind of ...
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How to help my 8-year-old who has selective mutism and doesn't say a word at school?

I disagree that switching schools won't help. One of the problems with selective mutism is that peers begin to expect the child not to talk. When the child does speak, it may elicit reactions of ...
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How can I undo the bad behavior my 2.5 year old daughter learned from 5 year old children?

First, you can most certainly help your child unlearn this behavior. Kids learn behaviors from other people. School mates, cousins, friends, other adults, TV characters, etc. will all be places your ...
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Are kids with daycare background antisocial?

Are kids with daycare background antisocial? I'll assume you mean Are kids with daycare background measurably more antisocial than their non-daycare peers? There are several studies which point ...
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Are kids with daycare background antisocial?

The other answer gave really good research background into this, but please keep in mind something when reading this research: The sample set is often small (a few daycare/children surveyed)... For ...
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My child witnessed a toddler being taught to cuss by older kids. How to deal with rude language at social gatherings?

The parents of the kids seem to not care about that situation, but I don't think it is a good example for my son. Prepare your children so they learn from you rather than other people. Explain to ...
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18-month-old kicked out of church nursery

Does the child go to daycare/school during the week? If so, see if they give him free reign and allow the behavior you are trying to correct. I don't think the church is out to get you or anything, ...
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18-month-old kicked out of church nursery

I'm sort-of sorry for the answer I'm going to give, but mostly I think it's justified. Discipline your child. He's not behaving like an unruly little monster ONLY in church daycare, I guarantee it; he'...
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How to teach toddlers that rude words are inappropriate?

Our daughter learnt such a word in pre-school and we decided to handle the issue by: 1) Not making usage of such words "taboo", as we believe that anything that gets strongly forbidden will be more ...
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What to do about my extremely possessive 3-year-old who doesn't mingle with other kids?

Make it clear that his things are his, and he gets final say on whether or not to share them. Making him feel that he has control of the situation, at least with respect to his own toys, will make ...
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My son plays alone and is not interested in making friends. How can I help him?

I just want to see him play with other children. How can I? Give him more time. I know this is difficult. It hurts to watch your child and think he's socially inept, or a social outcast, or whatever ...
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18-month-old kicked out of church nursery

I'm sorry you're dealing with this, both your child acting overly rough and with the church kicking out your child. But you sound like you're handling this really well, so kudos! If I were in your ...
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What to do about my extremely possessive 3-year-old who doesn't mingle with other kids?

* Editing to mention that the previous answer didn't show up for some reason when I came to read the question, but I think we end up saying the same thing essentially. * I have a pretty non ...
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How to help my 5-year-old when other children don't want to play with him?

First of all, I'm glad you've had him seen by a medical professional, because usually that is my first piece of advice. If your gut doesn't tell you that what the doctor diagnosed him with is true, ...
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18-month-old kicked out of church nursery

I would find another church with a better staff ratio in the nursery. There isn't much you can do to change your child's behavior in the church nursery - 18 month olds who bite, etc mostly need to be ...
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18-month-old kicked out of church nursery

Much of the behavior you describe has a very familiar ring to that of my daughter when she was around that age, and I empathize with how tough it can be. Despite trying many of the techniques that ...
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