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How do I help my 3 year old daughter who is terrified of what I believe is a ghost?

I heard that when you insist that there is no scary things out there, she feels alone. Because she is sure of what she sees, and she needs your help, and when you keep saying that there is no scary ...
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How do I help my 3 year old daughter who is terrified of what I believe is a ghost?

This answer might just save your life... Get a carbon monoxide detector, make sure yours works. "ghosts" and spirits have never been real, but they were much more common before the age of ...
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6 year old won't go to the bathroom by herself anymore, because of being scared. What to do?

I don't think this has anything to do with her toilet training difficulties. That's normal in a great number of children. I don't know your daughter (obviously) and I don't know Dr. Becky, but I do ...
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What can I do to encourage my 10-year-old boy to try things he is reluctant about?

If you want to build a ship, don't drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea. - Antoine de Saint-Exupéry I'm aware ...
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Using scare tactics to get children to obey

Scare tactics work but for the wrong reason. This is why they are a bad approach for getting your children to behave correctly in the moment or continue to behave correctly. I grew up in a religious ...
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Overcoming an irrational fear of long guns

I like Chris' answer, but consider that there is a difference between spiders and guns. Guns are actually dangerous, while many spiders we encounter daily aren't. So while your daughter's anxiety ...
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What can I do to encourage my 10-year-old boy to try things he is reluctant about?

When I was a child, my parents had a philosophy about doing certain things. If you try it, and you don't like it, then you don't have to keep doing it. This was mostly for signing up for various ...
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6 year old won't go to the bathroom by herself anymore, because of being scared. What to do?

I went through this pretty exactly, with my son at the same age. He's also a more intense, emotional sort, and perhaps coincidentally was also very slow to potty train. He suddenly, for no apparent ...
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How to deal with toddler's fear of dogs?

Don't give up on having a dog; your son's fear is likely transitory, and there are ways you can help him overcome them. But it will take time and patience. I'm sure there are a number of ways to do ...
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6 year old won't go to the bathroom by herself anymore, because of being scared. What to do?

First of all, try to keep the situation calm as far as you can. The fear will pass sooner if there is no extra anxiety from failing your expectations. If you have any method that has been successful ...
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How do I help my 3 year old daughter who is terrified of what I believe is a ghost?

On a whim of the moment I helped my 3-yearold out of fear of ghosts by quickly ad lib-”befriending” the percieved ghost from my childs imagination. Like: Oh, but that is just my friend... (surprised ...
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6 year old won't go to the bathroom by herself anymore, because of being scared. What to do?

While instructive, I think many of the answers here don’t properly address what to do, which is: ⟶ Accompany your child in the bathroom. ⟵ That’s it. Be boring about it. Don’t dismiss her. Don’t ...
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Overcoming an irrational fear of long guns

Whether it's long guns, or spiders or heights or something else I think you need to deal with this the same way you would any other fear or anxiety. Talk with them about it. Try to understand why they ...
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How can I help my son overcome his fear of dogs so we can enjoy our time together with my puppy?

We adopted my son when he was four and a half years old, from China. He was terrified of animals. He reportedly ran, screaming, from the room at a birthday party, when a kitten entered the room. We ...
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What can I do to encourage my 10-year-old boy to try things he is reluctant about?

I'm somewhat a fan of Maria Montessori, and the one sentence any Montessori parent could tell you is this: Follow the child. It took me years to figure out what this means, but ultimately what I ...
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How to handle a 10 year-old's scary imaginings?

This could be the early stages of schizophrenia. I have catatonic schizophrenia myself and I remember well what it felt like as a child before I came to understand the illness. You've pretty much ...
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Why is my toddler afraid of talking puppets?

It's pretty common, and trying to identify a root cause is unlikely to give you anything useful. This is one of the less surprising things that scare kids, to be honest. Puppets are freaky - the ...
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How can I help my daugther with her fears of imaginary animals

It sounds like she is a girl with a great deal of imagination. She loves making up stories. This is a good thing. Encourage it! I have an extremely active imagination. It made me afraid of so many ...
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2 year old son refuses to go down onto the floor after seeing a bug

Intense, short-lived random fears seem to be a pretty normal thing among toddlers. My son is almost 3, and already developed and then mostly overcome fears of bathing, thunder, the vacuum cleaner, ...
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My child is afraid of death

I had this problem when I was 8 and still kind of do. I'm not religious like her, and my mom is religious (buddism) like you. (sorta) The scariest part of death for me when I was that young was, I'll ...
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Overcoming an irrational fear of long guns

I think there are a few things here that need to be addressed to help your daughter out. First is the way you seem to be thinking about this. You have labeled her fear of long guns as "irrational". ...
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How do I help my 3 year old daughter who is terrified of what I believe is a ghost?

Hallucinations can have a medical cause Your description of a "black doll with no face" sounds a lot like things I see when I have an episode of sleep paralysis. People tend to hallucinate ...
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What can I do to encourage my 10-year-old boy to try things he is reluctant about?

I'm not a parent, but I am a former 10-year-old child who liked math and (would have, if it were around) liked Minecraft! (And I liked math so much from that age that I got my degree in it!) I don't ...
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Fear of climbing certain staircase by a 6 year old kid

In my experience, kids tend to lack the ability to judge risks effectively. They don't have the experience in judging risks, and their brain isn't fully developed. In many kids this leads to "...
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My child is afraid of death

“The cradle rocks above an abyss, and common sense tells us that our existence is but a brief crack of light between two eternities of darkness. Although the two are identical twins, man, as a rule, ...
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11 year old fear of wetting pants

Irrational fears are hard to deal with. However, this sounds more like she has already experienced this embarrassing event, and now this fear of a recurrance has become overblown in her mind. This is ...
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How can I help my son overcome his fear of dogs so we can enjoy our time together with my puppy?

Bob and Tom should both take the dog to training classes (if Tom wouldn't be too scared of other dogs there and barking). Tom may be a bit young, but in theory it would help him learn about "...
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What can help my son overcome his fear of ghosts and demons?

A few suggestions: Monster's Inc (absolutely great) Casper Some episodes of Dreamwork's trollhunters animated series (but they might be too scary depending on the age of your boy. Also, not about ...
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