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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

I wonder if everyone goes through this and I'm just weak and bad at coping. No, you're not weak, and you're not bad at coping. For most parents who have had a traumatic first child, what you're going ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

I upvoted @anongoodnurse's response, I think it covers this question brilliantly, so I won't comment on the parts of your question that would just be a repeat of their words. I just want to expand on ...
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How can I help my 14-year-old daughter be less angry?

Okay, I'm just gonna tell you what I did...after failing miserably with my teenage boys (who btw. behaved the same way at the same age). So when my 14-year-old baby girl started to show signs of ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

Our eldest child has severe cerebral palsy. We adopted our middle child, who turned out to have extreme behavioral issues. We had a lot of fear about having another child, but she happened "by ...
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How to deal with my son calling me on the telephone when he is in a fight with his mother?

I'm not going to suggest a quick fix; this takes time. But it involves and imparts life skills. Things that are helpful in situations like these: Realize that it's not your job to fix other people'...
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How to help a 9-year-old boy learn to handle losing at games/sports?

"Winner Cleans Up" has been a surprisingly effective rule for us. Whoever wins needs to put away the cards/board/ball etc. That takes some of the sting out for the loser and really cuts down on ...
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How to toughen my too sensitive 7-year-old boy a bit?

In my case, I have 2 daughters and one is very sensitive. I've found that any attempt to toughen her up only made her more sensitive. I now use a different approach altogether and found it far more ...
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Parenting with a formerly abused partner?

As a parent who grew up in an abusive home-life situation, I can connect with your wife's perspective. Growing up, I never knew when the next blow was coming. I could say something "wrong", have an ...
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What to do with an adult child with a mental illness and drug taking

There is very little you can do. Until someone accepts they have mental health challenges that need to be addressed you can't force them into treatment. As a parent this can be devastating to watch. ...
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How to cope with going back to work as a stay at home dad with two working parents

It's hard for them to understand why someone they love goes away. And at that age when you tell them "Mommy is going to be back in a week" or "Daddy will be back in three days", they can't understand....
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What strategies can I teach my (autistic) child to deal with another child who winds him up?

Perhaps for a time you should supervise their play. Don't let them be alone together. This way you can see the way they interact with each other. It might be that both are doing whatever is annoying ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

First off, know that you are not alone. We'll come back to that. My wife became pregnant with twins (our first). Unfortunately they had twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome and we ended up losing one of ...
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How to help an early teen stop catastrophizing?

While this is the first time this new school year that this sort of catastrophizing has occurred, it is far from the first time it has happened. People often think in a yes/no manner (called ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

How do other people do it? We had a very difficult first child, too. He did 7 months of non-stop crying for pretty much all his waking hours and never slept for more than 2 hours. We were exhausted ...
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How do I convince my strict parents to allow me to do things as a 17 year old?

First, I want to confirm that how your parents are treating you is not ok. The answer by dxh is excellent at making clear why. I don't think you can convince your parents. The actual answer to how do ...
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How to remain unaffected by my 10-year-old son's angry outbursts?

I would look into either counseling or getting yourself into something like guided meditation to learn how to manage your reactions. You have to be able to not take is so personally & let it ...
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How to toughen my too sensitive 7-year-old boy a bit?

My 8 year-old is like that, although not quite as severe. We are still working on it. I don't think anything can be done to suppress the initial inclination to cry, but he can control it somewhat ...
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How do I explain to a 4 year old that our family pet is sick and needs to be put down?

When our cat became sick, we simply explained everything to our kids as it happened. We explained that while some treatments could extend the cat's life, nothing would ultimately work and meanwhile ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

Every parent goes through this in some fashion. My oldest was exceptionally colicky and I will never forget one night where she screamed for some 4 hours straight. It's enough to drive you mad. Our ...
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How to help 2nd grade daughter who is afraid of many things?

For us, familiarity and gentle persistence was the key. My son was 4-1/2 when we adopted him from China. He had never slept alone in his life. He couldn't tolerate being in a room alone. He was ...
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How to help a child with a long-term weather phobia?

I think this is fairly common to some degree; weather is about as unpredictable as you can get, and also has incredible destructive potential. Both my sons have a strong dislike of thunderstorms; ...
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How do I teach my son to manage his anger when he is unwilling?

I am sorry you are going through this. It sounds stressful for you all. First of all, don't expect immediate change. Your son sounds like he is experiencing emotional pain and this is his way of ...
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How to help a 9-year-old boy learn to handle losing at games/sports?

Try to find cooperative games (Red October, Forbidden Island for examples) or purely random games. In the first case, everyone lose or win together. In the second case, win or loss are purely ...
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How do you help a primary schooler who is struggling after a death in the family?

You and your family have my sincere sympathies. LINK When it happened to us -- to our now daughter's parents it was really hard. Thirteen years later she still talks about her parents frequently. We ...
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How to teach my 7-year-old daughter to not be so melodramatic when dealing with bullying and any stressful situation?

She must reflect on her behavior and how it affects others. This is a journey, not a single trick. You are also a factor! Men are prone to jump to solutions: If you do this or don't do that, ...
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My 8-year-old son is still soiling and wetting himself. Please help!

Have you considered looking into seeing a gastroenterologist? Back before I was diagnosed with Chron's/UC there would be times that I would just be unable to control my bladder. I was able to tell ...
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How to help an early teen stop catastrophizing?

I'm of a somewhat divided mind about this. As a teacher, I'd appreciate a kid who is willing to take school work seriously listen to the teacher when he asks for more effort actually put in said ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

I can remember cuddling our second kid so many times between 2 & 4 in the morning while pacing the kitchen getting him to settle when he was ill. It's always tough, but kids are not the same... ...
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How do I convince my strict parents to allow me to do things as a 17 year old?

I like to use the UN Conventions on the Rights of the Child as a baseline. I know there are mixed feelings about that. It's not ratified into law in the US, if that's where you're from, and its ...
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