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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

I wonder if everyone goes through this and I'm just weak and bad at coping. No, you're not weak, and you're not bad at coping. For most parents who have had a traumatic first child, what you're going ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

Our eldest child has severe cerebral palsy. We adopted our middle child, who turned out to have extreme behavioral issues. We had a lot of fear about having another child, but she happened "by ...
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How to help a 9-year-old boy learn to handle losing at games/sports?

"Winner Cleans Up" has been a surprisingly effective rule for us. Whoever wins needs to put away the cards/board/ball etc. That takes some of the sting out for the loser and really cuts down on ...
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How to cope with going back to work as a stay at home dad with two working parents

It's hard for them to understand why someone they love goes away. And at that age when you tell them "Mommy is going to be back in a week" or "Daddy will be back in three days", they can't understand....
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What to do with an adult child with a mental illness and drug taking

There is very little you can do. Until someone accepts they have mental health challenges that need to be addressed you can't force them into treatment. As a parent this can be devastating to watch. ...
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What strategies can I teach my (autistic) child to deal with another child who winds him up?

Perhaps for a time you should supervise their play. Don't let them be alone together. This way you can see the way they interact with each other. It might be that both are doing whatever is annoying ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

First off, know that you are not alone. We'll come back to that. My wife became pregnant with twins (our first). Unfortunately they had twin-to-twin transfusion syndrome and we ended up losing one of ...
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How to help an early teen stop catastrophizing?

While this is the first time this new school year that this sort of catastrophizing has occurred, it is far from the first time it has happened. People often think in a yes/no manner (called ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

How do other people do it? We had a very difficult first child, too. He did 7 months of non-stop crying for pretty much all his waking hours and never slept for more than 2 hours. We were exhausted ...
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How do I convince my strict parents to allow me to do things as a 17 year old?

First, I want to confirm that how your parents are treating you is not ok. The answer by dxh is excellent at making clear why. I don't think you can convince your parents. The actual answer to how do ...
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How to remain unaffected by my 10-year-old son's angry outbursts?

I would look into either counseling or getting yourself into something like guided meditation to learn how to manage your reactions. You have to be able to not take is so personally & let it ...
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How to help a 9-year-old boy learn to handle losing at games/sports?

Try to find cooperative games (Red October, Forbidden Island for examples) or purely random games. In the first case, everyone lose or win together. In the second case, win or loss are purely ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

Every parent goes through this in some fashion. My oldest was exceptionally colicky and I will never forget one night where she screamed for some 4 hours straight. It's enough to drive you mad. Our ...
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How do you help a primary schooler who is struggling after a death in the family?

You and your family have my sincere sympathies. LINK When it happened to us -- to our now daughter's parents it was really hard. Thirteen years later she still talks about her parents frequently. We ...
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How to teach my 7-year-old daughter to not be so melodramatic when dealing with bullying and any stressful situation?

She must reflect on her behavior and how it affects others. This is a journey, not a single trick. You are also a factor! Men are prone to jump to solutions: If you do this or don't do that, ...
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My 8-year-old son is still soiling and wetting himself. Please help!

Have you considered looking into seeing a gastroenterologist? Back before I was diagnosed with Chron's/UC there would be times that I would just be unable to control my bladder. I was able to tell ...
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How to help an early teen stop catastrophizing?

I'm of a somewhat divided mind about this. As a teacher, I'd appreciate a kid who is willing to take school work seriously listen to the teacher when he asks for more effort actually put in said ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

I can remember cuddling our second kid so many times between 2 & 4 in the morning while pacing the kitchen getting him to settle when he was ill. It's always tough, but kids are not the same... ...
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How to make my oversensitive 4-year-old stop crying so he won't be targeted by bullies later?

In my opinion, the pressure to change should not be placed solely upon your son. His personality is more sensitive than others and it will make some things more difficult but that doesn't mean he ...
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How to help a 9-year-old boy learn to handle losing at games/sports?

We had a similar situation where one of our kids reacted very badly when they couldn't win at a new sport or game. It was additionally complicated because she has always been very good at ...
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An absent father not being absent anymore

Take her to a counselor or therapist trained in parental custody disputes. She needs a safe person to speak with about the situation, someone outside you, your husband, or her biological dad. This ...
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How to remain unaffected by my 10-year-old son's angry outbursts?

I understand that it will take time to teach my son to deal with his emotions, and I sort of know how to go about it, but I don't know how to deal with my own emotions. I can't easily imagine ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

I wonder if everyone goes through this and I'm just weak and bad at coping. No, not everyone goes through what you've been through. Of all the people saying how much they love having a big family, ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

Joined this community specifically to throw in my anecdotical two bits. So much in your question reflects how our fristborn was: Restless nights, tummy aches, discovering after a year that this is ...
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How do I convince my strict parents to allow me to do things as a 17 year old?

The existing answers covered a lot and I agree with all of them. To complement, a few other points: Is any of this COVID related? 1 year ago, did your parents let you have sleepovers and go ...
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toddler - organized vs unorganized activity strategies

It is exhausting when you first must get used to having a child around all the time. For someone who is used to having a substantial amount of "down-time", it can be devastating. There are some ...
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My 8-year-old son is still soiling and wetting himself. Please help!

There are a lot of resources I am finding that list bedwetting and daytime urinary incontinence as a symptom of constipation. I would request an x-ray from your urologist to see if his constipation is ...
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