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Am I interrupting my husband's parenting?

I was the oldest of six kids. My youngest brother was born when I was 18. By the time I escaped to college, I knew all about babies. I could change a diaper in fifteen seconds flat (well, okay, the ...
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Parents disagree on type of music for toddler's listening

Play all the music. See what he enjoys. Play that. I have some bad news. Your son is quite likely to love dumb bouncy pop stuff like "Let's Get Ready to Rumble" because he's two and it's all bouncy. ...
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Am I interrupting my husband's parenting?

If by interrupting, you mean undermining your husband's parenting, yes, you are doing that. It doesn't mean that your husband is always right or that your approach is wrong; it only means that you ...
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12 year old boy is totally out of control

You have my sympathy, and a lot of it. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Part of this is the age.* TL;DR: You're not alone. Many have walked this path and come through on the other side with a ...
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Wife agrees with parenting, but is intentionally less strict

I agree that this couple could probably benefit from some couples counseling. Mom is putting an unfair burden on dad and it may take some support from an outside party to help both parents understand ...
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How to talk to parents about my mental health

There are some problems common to many parents: parents might think they have a responsibility to fix things, not to feel things with you. Parenting styles differ. Parents with Authoritarian ...
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Parents disagree on type of music for toddler's listening

Let him listen to whatever he wants and let him BE whoever he wants to be. Just because you would like your son to listen to certain type of music or you would like him to be a musician doesn't mean ...
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Wife agrees with parenting, but is intentionally less strict

You and your wife have a fundamental disagreement here. Not necessarily about parenting. If you have expressed that this makes you unhappy and your wife is on board with the necessity of disciplining ...
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How to deal with parents that enforce a curfew on an adult

I also had parents that enforced curfew and rules on me past the time that it would normally be expected (until I completed college), and the thing that helped most was proving that I had moved past ...
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12 year old boy is totally out of control

I'm writing this as a guest because I don't want this associated with my professional account, but I feel I can help you understand your son because he sounds just like how I was at that age. I used ...
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Am I interrupting my husband's parenting?

In addition to the other excellent answers about your son playing you off each other, I wanted to add one thing. If you're like a lot of families, one parent spends a lot more time taking care of the ...
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Parents disagree on type of music for toddler's listening

From my personal experience, if you want your child to enjoy the things you do, make it fun and expose them to it regularly. My son is 4 now, but when he was younger I would sing to him every night ...
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Wife agrees with parenting, but is intentionally less strict

It sounds like, to me, that you do not both agree on discipline. Your wife may well say she does, but I'd guess she doesn't, and simply doesn't want to argue with you about it (perhaps, argue again). ...
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My husband and I have different opinions on parenting

Here's my personal take on this...like you, my husband and I often disagree on parenting issues, and we have managed to work out some practices that help deal with these differences. I'd say your ...
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Parents disagree on type of music for toddler's listening

Your kids will get their own tastes in music no matter what you do, so it's an unproductive argument to have with a spouse. Do you listen to exactly what your parents played you? I highly doubt it. I ...
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My son calls my father in law Grandpa "nonno" (in italian) and his wife (step grandma) is telling my son to call him just Grandpa now not nonno

I think you should tell your son to call his grandpa whatever he is comfortable calling his grandpa unless his grandpa asks him to call him something else. You're not overreacting and I think you are ...
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Is my mom overly controlling?

On items 1 and 2: corporal punishment is a controversial issue that I won't get into here, but punching, choking and throwing things are definitely over the line. This is not discipline, it is child ...
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How to deal with parents that enforce a curfew on an adult

I suggest that you critically examine your own question. Because if you think about it logically, it doesn't make a lot of sense. You start with the statement(s) that you a 23 year old adult... Well ...
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What to do when there's a conflict between my husband and my 14-year-old daughter?

So there is a lot going on here. I'm going to set aside the fact that he's not her biological father - this is something that teenagers do to any authority figure, biological or not. (They actually ...
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Should a 6 year old's grandmother be kept away if she is abusive to her father?

TL:DR: Set boundaries. This is not at all uncommon, and because of that, it takes a fair amount of insight to label yelling as abuse, but abuse it is. You're asking if witnessing abuse is bad for ...
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Parents disagree on type of music for toddler's listening

I agree with the rest of the answers here, largely, in that you should remember your son is a separate person, and should not go into this thinking he's going to do what you want him to do with his ...
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How to talk to parents about my mental health

Maybe your parents aren't the right people to talk with about it. Not that they don't care, but there might be better chance to get what you need from other people - friends, or a support group. I ...
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Parents disagree on type of music for toddler's listening

Warning: Some of this post is going to come across as a little harsh, but everything I say, I say because I want to help. Anything that I say bluntly, I say it that way because I think that hearing it ...
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How can I stop my parents from fighting?

Brianna, if you have a religious mentor, or an aunt or uncle, or even a trusted teacher, you could speak directly with them and express your fears and concerns. In the meanwhile you could try to ...
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How to handle value mis-alignment between parents and kids?

I like Paul's suggestion to just do some research and figure out the pertinent facts. I could imagine, however, that the argument is not so much about the financial cost but the ecological impact. ...
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How to bring my 23-year-old daughter to an adult discussion with me and her mother about issues?

It's not going to be an easy thing to do, but you might want to consider taking the therapist's advice. For some kids, leaving home is a difficult, even impossible process, and that means you are ...
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I'm worried that my 2-year-old granddaughter is extremely aggressive

Terrible two At the age of 2-4 a child goes through a phase where they learn the notion of authority. Essentially, by now the child is sufficiently intelligent and autonomous to know what they want ...
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How to talk to parents about my mental health

I am answering only because I am not allowed to comment and didn't want to let @Andrew Savinykh's comment stand undisputed under @anongoodnurse's excellent answer. It is common in patients with ...
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How can a much older brother gain recognition for being a de-facto father?

I sometimes feel conflicted and depressed about not being their father. [...] I feel like I can't get any recognition for fulfilling that role because I am "just a brother". Question your mindset: ...
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