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Should I punish my teenage sister, whom I have full custody of, for lying to me in order to secretly see her boyfriend?

Your sister got herself into a situation that she felt she needed to lie about. She could have continued doing that in the hope that she never got caught out, or until some crisis point where she was ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

Sit them down for a big, honest conversation. Don't make it about what you want, though. Make it about what they want, and especially ask them, honestly, how they think what they are doing right now ...
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Teenage daughter refusing to go to school

(Background: I saw this question on SE and am answering from an anonymous account because of personal details). I'm not a parent but feel the need to post because this resonated strongly with me. ...
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My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?

Donate the left shoes in the same donation box. Whether or not they are able to get single shoes to those who need them, having a half-pair sit in your son's closet does nobody any good. Might as well ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

I'm late to the discussion here, but... I believe firmly in making the punishment fit the crime. If she wasn't on the phone while speeding, I don't understand what her phone has to do with it. ...
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My 13-year-old son made a foolish and wasteful donation. How can I teach him he was wrong?

Hehe, that is pretty funny. Eh, don't worry about it. Kids do silly things, this isn't one that's going to get him killed. Sometimes people just need to do something that goes against the normal ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

I drive fast...too fast...and am working on breaking that habit now. Both parents drove fast and aggressive and therefore I picked up those traits, still I am the one driving and choosing to drive in ...
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Teenagers Ogling my Daughter. What to do?

Should I ask them to stop or let them be? You should probably not involve yourself directly. It's your daughter who has to decide whether she feels uncomfortable, and whether to address that feeling ...
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Seventeen year old daughter wants to take an international trip to meet someone she met online

Either you go with her, or she doesn't go. I'm not really sure what the correct answer is, but I can tell you that letting her go alone is the wrong answer. She might not even make it to her "friend"...
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My girlfriend has mentioned disowning her 14 y/o transgender daughter

You are clearly very loving and supportive of your step-child. This is a great gift you are giving to her. However, it doesn't sound like you have that kind of a relationship with your girlfriend. ...
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Should a parent delete a teen's social media account if it was handled badly?

Ok, deleting wouldn't do anything. Keeping her activities in secret, is a clear sign to me, that she thinks that you will just be unreasonably forbidding her to do anything in that direction. If you ...
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Skater teen wears shoes with holes, and doesn't care

"I always taught him not to care what other people think..." Then congratulations! You have achieved one of your parenting goals. It's a pretty good goal, and will often stand him in good stead in ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

I think it's time to let go of those reins and I honestly think you'll get a very good reaction. I'd even go as far as to say don't restrict her bedtime at all. Granted, rules should be in place like: ...
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Seventeen year old daughter wants to take an international trip to meet someone she met online

The previous replies do not address the worry about the identity of the girl in CA. One suggestion is to tell your daughter that you and your wife need to talk to the girl in CA via Skype. You can ...
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How can I reach out to my 16-year-old son who has voiced he's depressed every day and doesn't love himself?

Five years ago I was practically in your son's shoes. I am not a parent, nor do I intend to be, largely because of this style of parenting. That said, I feel I might be able to give you a view from ...
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How can I prevent my parents' divorce?

I'm sorry to hear about your parents. Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do. And, whether it helps or not, there was nothing you could have done. This is not your fault. Also, don't be angry ...
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My 16 year old daughter got a speeding ticket

I'm going to go a different route than many of the other answers, in that you could do what my parents did for me. It not only forced me to take responsibility for my actions, but also to cover the ...
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Just found out my 13 year old girl is Bi and dating a 17 year old girl in an "open" relationship. Huh? Now what?

The way these events unfolded is an unfortunate one, and I feel rather sorry for your current predicament as a family. By forbidding your daughter from seeing her 17-year-old friend, it seems to me ...
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Teenage daughter refusing to go to school

First, please let me express my sympathy with what seems to be an extremely difficult situation. What follows does not mean I am not sympathetic with your struggles. You seem to have a few ideas of ...
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Seventeen year old daughter wants to take an international trip to meet someone she met online

The way I see it there are two possibilities, either the story is true or it is not true. And in both cases your daughter needs your help. If you manage to prevent your daughter from going to see ...
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Have I lost my daughter?

When I was in 4th grade I switched schools. Immediately life became harder for me, because I was bullied in school, but my parents didn't know, and I was still good with them. Then, when I was in ...
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Why does my daughter smile and start to laugh at me when I am noticeably really angry at her?

I'm an autistic adult, the parent of an autistic adult, and a teacher of autistic children. The reason your daughter laughs when you're really angry with her is because your anger is frightening her. ...
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How to talk to a teen daughter about her weight

Disclaimer: I'm not a parent so I can't speak from personal experience. Also, there seem to be several issues, but the main one is how to talk to her about her weight, so I will cover only that with ...
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How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?

If you want them to accept your approach, you're going to have to show them you've truly mitigated that risk. The only way I can see to do that is landing some good-paying ($25/hour+) programming ...
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What do I do about my mom setting her expectations too high?

You have lots of options. Here's one: At dinner one evening, you can say you have a serious announcement. Then tell your mom and dad that you're pregnant. You're really sorry you slipped up, but it ...
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How to deal with a teenage daughter who refuses to dress modestly

There are at least 2 sides to every issue. There are also at least 2 sides in every war. By destroying what she considers hers b/c she did not comply with your orders, in her eyes, the "issue" has ...
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Skater teen wears shoes with holes, and doesn't care

This sounds like a 'perfect rebellion' to me. Your teen is very nearly an adult and could be making other choices that really could be much worse than holey shoes. Part of the growing up process is ...
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