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Do young children hold grudges?
First - I'm very surprised to see the parents asked you to break the news to the children. It seems to me like this is the sort of thing they should be doing!
Second - what you're describing is ...
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Should I have the same bedtime as my sister?
I'm going to interpret the question as asking how a parent can manage the bedtimes of siblings of different ages, as I think that's a great question, and answerable (as opposed to asking for an ...
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Son chooses what my daughter chose then gets upset he doesn't get it
People are not robbed of choices they were never given to begin with.
Asking two children open-ended "which would you like?"-style questions is a recipe for disaster if you don't have the resources ...
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Son chooses what my daughter chose then gets upset he doesn't get it
Have you considered that your son may be "deliberately" forcing the conflict? I put "deliberately" in quotes, because it probably isn't conscious or intentional, but doesn't seem like any coincidence ...
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Do young children hold grudges?
"Holding grudges" has a negative connotation, so I wouldn't quite phrase it that way. Can young children remember who, for example, they cannot trust any longer? Absolutely.
I agree with @...
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How to make my 15-year-old daughter want to meet her 39-year-old sister?
To be honest, I can see your fifteen-year-old daughter's point of view. Why should she want to meet this grown-up that hasn't mattered in her life up to now? What positive change in her life would ...
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Preparing a 3-year old for the death of a sibling
I'm truly sorry for your situation, that's a horrific & traumatic experience to go through.
I wouldn't worry too much about the direct impact on your 3 year old. She is still very young and quite ...
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Toddler Being Mean to Baby
We struggled with this too. I don't think we found a perfect solution, and eight years later still have some issues of this nature; but what did seem to help was focusing on the feelings.
By this I ...
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One of two children invited to a mutual friends birthday party
At a slumber party, the number of attendees is usually more restricted than otherwise — there is a bit less space, a longer time commitment for the hosts, and the amount of noise generated by guests ...
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Do my parents hate me?
We have no way to know the truth of this situation so my advice is: Set a time and a place for a meeting with your parents so you can talk it out. Your sibling should not be there and TV and so on ...
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How to explain to a toddler why she doesn't have siblings?
If it makes you feel any better to know this, kids with siblings ask this. In fact I recently had my nearly 8 year inform me that he is ready for another sibling in about a year, for what reason, I ...
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Evidence that kids from big families are happier and better-functioning
My perception is that a child's social adjustment is more complex than just how many siblings they have. For example: there are articles discussing how Only Children are More Successful while you can ...
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Is it OK for my 16 year old son to watch my 10 year old daughter at home alone while I'm at work?
If you trust them not to fight and to listen to each other, sure.
I've been a babysitter since as young as 13, and there's 6 years of difference which should give enough additional overweight for the ...
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How can I get my children to develop a half sibling relationship
Please put yourself in your daughter's position for a moment:
You are 11. You are starting to discuss "cool" things with your girlfriends and can't wait to be a bit older. And with a bit of ...
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Son chooses what my daughter chose then gets upset he doesn't get it
There are a number of good answers already but I didn't see anyone mention giving one sibling the chance to pick for the other and rotate.
Day 1: Son, which plate do you think your sister would like?
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How to help 3-year-old stop playing so hard with 1-year-old?
I've witnessed this behavior before between my oldest and my newest. In the beginning he would treat new baby kind of rough. It's hard for children to gauge their own strength sometimes. It's also ...
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Should we be concerned about preschool siblings playing "sexual" games?
This kind of "playing doctor" seems pretty common and nothing to be overly worried about, though I don't have any statistics (reliable ones would be difficult to collect, to put it mildly). ...
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How can I mediate intense sibling rivalry?
Kids aren't very good at listening or telling exactly what they need. This can get confusing/frustrating, especially with two kids try to talk to each other. Solving problems is something that needs ...
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Do my parents hate me?
It is difficult for us to guess:
What is the reality of the situation, because everyone is biased, and you must be, too. And maybe there are a lot of situations where they think about you first, but ...
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Should I have the same bedtime as my sister?
Teens should get between 8-10 hours of sleep a night. Since you are at the young end of that range, you should err on the side of needing closer to 10 hours
https://www.cdc.gov/healthyschools/...
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How do you pass hand-me-downs to a younger sibling without fostering resentment?
I am the youngest of four children. I found, especially when I was younger, that it was not an issue when I got hand me downs. The issues arise when I got older and started, not only being self-...
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How to read one book to two children on different levels at the same time
I might be approaching this as a programmer, but have you tried making the older sibling read to the younger one first? The best way to cement something is to teach it, after all.
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My sister is talking to a guy way older than she is - should I let her?
No, you generally shouldn't prevent an adult from speaking to another adult.
No, you can't "let" an adult relative date someone else. This is not a right of yours, and also not something you can ...
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Between parents and marijuana smoking sister
I would go to your sister and say, "I am uncomfortable with you smoking marijuana, because I know our parents don't want you to be doing it. I don't want to rat you out, but you're putting me in a bad ...
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How to make my 15-year-old daughter want to meet her 39-year-old sister?
My 15 year old daughter doesn't want to meet her 39 year old sister.
This is kind of a tricky scenario. It's hard enough on your younger daughter that her parents separated and dad is dating again ...
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When to introduce a half-sibling?
I think you son needs to know he exists, even if he's too young to play with. I think you should go with what the expert told you.
Also, at 10 months, your younger son is not a featureless blob like ...
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