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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

Well, I would first try not to indoctrinate him myself. If you want him to make a conscious choice, you probably should be very careful with your reactions. I'm myself agnostic but coming from a ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

I'm an atheist living in Germany, and had to face similar problems with the surroundings of my daughter (7). One very important lesson that I try to teach her every day is to never blindly believe ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

You (the parent) are responsible for 'indoctrinating' your children Let me tell you what I think, from the complete opposite side. I am a fundamentalist Christian, who has the misfortune of living in ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

As a 54 year old German I just had "Religion" as a normal subject in our public elementary school. I guess my parents could technically have let me skip these one or two hours per week, but nobody did ...
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Get around peer's mind games gracefully

I think the first thing is to take a step back and consider that they are both acting normally for their age. It's normal at age 2 and 3 to have limited social skills, limited empathy for others, and ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

About 25 years ago I was in the same place as you. So here are my observations: At 3 years old it's already too late for kindergarten to persuade your kid that their deity is more real than Santa. ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

This is something I also struggled with. I have two children: a son, now 14, and a daughter, who'll be 8 at the end of the month. I had custody of my son for the first four years of his life, after ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

This is the strategy I took when my daughter had been introduced to Christianity by a kindergarten teacher and begun professing a belief in God. Teach her about many other religions, myths and origin ...
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What to do when we are concerned about the sexualisation of our 20-month-old son?

About 1 in 10 children discover masturbation before puberty. And the majority of those discover it in infancy or as toddlers. It is almost never a sign of abuse or sexual misconduct, and there is no ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

It is inevitable your child assumes the norms and values from the society he grows up in. If you don't like your environment, your only choice is to put your child in another environment. But norms ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

I fear you are worrying too much. I would encourage you to read bedtime stories from Norse mythology, Greek mythology, Aesop's fables, and maybe even Hindu mythology. The notion of powerful figures ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

I can't speak to the schooling system in Germany since I live in the US, but I do understand your desires, albeit from the opposite perspective. I am a believer in Jesus Christ and as a father I fear ...
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Returning to work quickly - how does feeding work?

It is very likely that daycare will allow you to bring refrigerated or frozen breast milk and that your partner will be able to pump at work, but it takes dedication and logistics. I will share my ...
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Is it normal for a 3.5-year-old child to get sick every month?

Oh, yes, that's normal for kids who have just started going to school/preschool etc. Quite simply, there are hundreds, if not thousands of cold and flu viruses circulating in society. As adults, we'...
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I feel like a failure for sending my child to nursery - is it too early to send them?

I don't know if you have this option but an alternative to nursery is to find a child minder. In the UK we have Ofsted registered childminders who are childcare professionals. Being registered with ...
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I feel like a failure for sending my child to nursery - is it too early to send them?

As the man of the house you sometimes have to make unpopular decisions that are best for the family. If it's the best decision for your family, then that's what it is. Don't feel like a failure, feel ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

I was raised religious and I am now a proud atheist. I would encourage my children to learn all about the christian mindset. There are in fact valuable parables to learn, and I would consider their ...
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I feel like a failure for sending my child to nursery - is it too early to send them?

18 months later It's been 18 months since I posted this question. In addition to the lovely answers posted above, I wanted to add some extra reading for those parents who find themselves in the same ...
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Returning to work quickly - how does feeding work?

You will probably be able to provide your own milk. Talk to daycare facilities you're considering and find out their policy. Some include formula and diapers as part of their services, some do not. ...
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How to help a 2-year-old settle in day care where a foreign language is spoken?

I wouldn't worry too much: At 2 years old, children are basically professional, full time language learners. Your son will pick up any language as easily as he picked up Hungarian. At that age, many ...
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How to help our 2.5-year-old daughter deal with an abusive 5-year-old boy?

No 2.5 year old should have to deal with a bully, even to the extent of calling for help. If this is happening regularly then the kindergarten is failing to supervise the children properly. If at all ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

I grew up in a Hindu household planted in the middle of a Catholic/Protestant environment. It was fairly easy for my parents to supplant the baseline level of Christian chatter with Sanskrit shlokas, ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

I can sympathise with your viewpoint, but now that I am a grandfather and have a longer perspective, I think I can perhaps reassure you a little. One of the best antidotes to religion is critical ...
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Get around peer's mind games gracefully

Get your child other playmates in addition to this friend. I am not suggesting to avoid this friend, but instead dilute their interactions with hopefully more positive ones. Talk to your child, ask ...
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How to study with a small child?

Two years old is a challenging time to try to work or study at home with the child, but many people do manage it. One big issue is how much time you need to spend studying while the child is awake; ...
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What to do about an overly confident 4.5-year-old who retaliates at nursery?

I've got a child about the same age and about the same size, and I definitely understand the difficulty you're having. First off, don't expect to have a 100% perfect solution. All children ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

My children both go to a Church of England school and, like you, I'm an atheist. I deal with it by letting them make their own mind up. I have made it very clear that I don't believe in God but if ...
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How to prevent my child from being indoctrinated with Christianity?

I grew up and lived most of my life in Germany. Your description makes it sound like you are in the south (catholic) and in a more rural area (all kindergardens are religious). You will not escape ...
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Are kids with daycare background antisocial?

Are kids with daycare background antisocial? I'll assume you mean Are kids with daycare background measurably more antisocial than their non-daycare peers? There are several studies which point ...
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Are kids with daycare background antisocial?

The other answer gave really good research background into this, but please keep in mind something when reading this research: The sample set is often small (a few daycare/children surveyed)... For ...
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