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Neighbor's child is trying to spend all her time with us

You can't make anything clear to someone who doesn't respect your opinion. Explanations only matter if the person you're explaining to has kind of the same world view as you do. This is where ...
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Neighbor's child is trying to spend all her time with us

This is actually pretty common. First, lets get some things out on the table. Your talking to her. That makes you her friend, at least a little. Don't think that because you're older you can't "be ...
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What to do about our 2-year-old attaching to another parent?

The term is "disorganized attachment". It's not a good sign. Your child is trying to build a secure spot to make sense of the world. What typically triggers this sort of avoidance of one's own ...
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Neighbor's child is trying to spend all her time with us

As you describe the situation, I would consider Angela as possibly a traumatized child in a troubled home situation, until you learn otherwise. This is not to say that her guardians have intent to ...
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Neighbor's child is trying to spend all her time with us

I want to offer a quick couple of points for you. Step 1 - tell her everything you wrote in your last paragraph to us. Kids are not dumb and she will most likely understand. Step 2 - don't feel bad ...
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Toddler not liking me?

Children that age often suffer from separation anxiety, which is totally normal. They need to learn that their parent will come back for them, that they can trust other caregivers. However, the NHS ...
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7 year old daughter sat for 15 minutes before playing with friends

Based on what you have written, you handled the situation well enough. You treated her with enough love and kindness that she could accept that she couldn't keep on hanging on to you or hiding behind ...
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7 year old daughter sat for 15 minutes before playing with friends

I think this is normal. Karate instructor here, 5 years, classes with young kids up to 8 years old. Its very common in my karate class to have kids stand on the side and not participate for a while, ...
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What is the most gentle way to break an association in a 15 months old?

Well at this age separation anxiety is rather high & nothing to be unduly concerned about , regardless of how hard it is to get through. If the care provider allows it, perhaps just videotape ...
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How can I, as a father, help develop my 5-year-old daughter's self-esteem?

There are many ways and I'd say that whatever you do has to feel natural and easy for you. It cannot be faked and must be real. This is one idea I used. I'd look for little things to make an honest ...
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What to do about my extremely possessive 3-year-old who doesn't mingle with other kids?

Make it clear that his things are his, and he gets final say on whether or not to share them. Making him feel that he has control of the situation, at least with respect to his own toys, will make ...
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How can I ensure that my daughter is not excessively attached to me?

First, I have to say how impressed I am 1) that your daughter is able to know how she feels about the attention she gets from boys and is able to say that she doesn't want or appreciate it (even if ...
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What is the most gentle way to break an association in a 15 months old?

I don't think you need to worry about negative associations. Children this young tend to live in the moment, Their quick to be upset but just as quick to forgive and forget. Your daughter has likely ...
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7 year old daughter sat for 15 minutes before playing with friends

IMO, it's easy to overthink a situation like this. To me the more important factor is whether you let your daughter have the autonomy to deal with the situation however she likes (which you did). The ...
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What to do about my extremely possessive 3-year-old who doesn't mingle with other kids?

* Editing to mention that the previous answer didn't show up for some reason when I came to read the question, but I think we end up saying the same thing essentially. * I have a pretty non ...
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18 month keeps her eyes closed when she meets new people

I may be wrong, but I’m thinking your little one was born during the pandemic when even her birth was very isolated. Unlike those before her who had dad in the delivery room and all the grandparents, ...
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18 month keeps her eyes closed when she meets new people

She is probably very shy or sensitive. Most young kids when shy, go to the person they are most comfortable with, in this case your wife. Keeping her eyes closed is a way of not being able to see ...
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Father now, earlier nursery versus grandparents now, later nursery?

Keeping in mind that every child is different, and that my child might not reflect your child, and you asked for real life examples, here's what we did. Background My husband and I both work full-...
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Research on postpartum depression, child behavior and effective treatment?

If possible, take the child to a psychiatrist. Nobody but a psychiatrist can make an adequate diagnosis or give the latest information regarding statistics. Google searches will not give adequate and ...
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Neighbor's child is trying to spend all her time with us

That is a hard situation since you also have your own personal priorities. The child needs psychiatric help, perhaps you can extend a bit more to look for someone who can offer such help? It would ...
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Neighbor's child is trying to spend all her time with us

Boundaries, Expectations and Communication Your first step is to communicate with the grand parents. If they are unaware of your relationship with their grand daughter and discover she is entering ...
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Is it unusual to have protective feelings over one's child?

I will disagree with the above answers is one respect. Feeling overprotective of your first baby is normal, but not if it is disrupting your life or if it causes you significant stress. There is ...
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Toddler not liking me?

It's common for toddlers to go through phases of attachment and separation anxiety. The child might be missing their mom during those moments. Try creating a comforting routine and gradually introduce ...
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boy (4 years) generally well-behaved but misbehaves when mom is around

In my opinion this "behaviour" is totally natural. If you think about it he needs to behave at kindergarten and needs to behave with his grandma. When is the only time that he can "blow ...
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boy (4 years) generally well-behaved but misbehaves when mom is around

It sounds like you're pooping on his party whenever you come around and he's made that association. He sees you and that means he has to stop having fun, and by your description, he probably already ...
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18 month keeps her eyes closed when she meets new people

Separation anxiety or nervousness around new people is very normal at her age, and indicates that she has a healthy attachment with her primary caregivers! Meeting new people can be overwhelming for ...
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How to handle the situation with a 1-year-old preferring dad over mom with her suffering emotionally?

Your child will repeatedly hurt both of your hearts as he grow older. If you think it stings at age 1, just wait until he's 15! I would suggest three strategies that might help: As long as you are ...
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