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TL; DR: We've been through the same thing, and we tried to explain to my daughter what was going to happen ahead of time, without hiding anything. Overall, it was a painless process, and after a month in the new flat, she seems to have adapted to her new environment. We went through exactly the same situation a few months ago with my 2.5 year old daughter. ...


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Both are valid options, but reading your post carefully I'd suggest finishing the school year at the old school. A list of pro's (in somewhat random order): Finishing at his old school should give him some sense of closure - this phase ends for all the current kids next summer. So I can understand that he doesn't want to leave prematurely but (perhaps ...


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I was in the same situation as yourself. One daughter finishing grade 6 before moving to middle school, the other in grade four. The move was occasioned by a messy divorce and financial downsizing, so everyone was rattled. I kept the girls at the old school to finish the year, so there would be some continuity. The following year, the older went to middle ...


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Wanting to move for better living conditions isn't a bad thing in and of itself. It does show a concern for the well-being of your family. However, better living conditions alone may not be a sufficient reason to move. Moving sucks. Nobody likes it. If you are going to move, you need to make a compelling case as to why it is worth going through the pain ...


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Moving away would only help your son if the thing that is causing him to neglect school and smoke weed instead is related to your current location. But there's a good chance that his location is not why he is showing this behavior. Have you talked (and I mean really talked) about what is causing this behavior? Remember that people don't start with drugs to ...


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I would look at whatever reduces everyone's stress the most. Being around 3 year olds, my experience is, they don't seem to be bothered if they cannot verbally communicate much with other children. They play with nonverbal children just fine, they play with kids with other languages fine. I think they are still young enough that they still recall how to ...


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The way I see it, it's a band-aid problem regarding the amount of stress the child will be under. Do you rip the band-aid off, or take it off bit by bit? The concern I'd have with keeping the child at home then starting daycare is that it gives the child time to see home as their safe place after a strange and tumultuous move. While not a bad thing in and ...


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We did this some years ago. As far as our son was concerned it was all an excellent adventure. He was too young to be sad about losing friends, and the airplane and airport were exciting and interesting. If you are flying then read the fine print on luggage allowances carefully. We were able to bring a full size suitcase and hand baggage as "his" luggage, ...


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Both options seem equally good from your description. Have you considered other downsides of the move, such as trying to make friends there? At middle school there will be lots of other kids trying to make friends, but a year before the end of this school may be difficult to become part of established groups. There is no right answer, at the end of the day ...


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What steps can I take to help her make new friends once we move? Try to register her at a sports club and/or music school (something like that).This helps deflecting the old friends (as a 6 year) and then she should find new friends (mostly) at her age, very soon...


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General advice: At 18, I had life figured out. At 36, I realize I was just beginning to learn. You describe your parents as dissapointed in you, that may be true. But that doesn't mean that they don't love you. With time and communication, no difference is irreconcilable. if I stay at home, I will still be treated like a child That is true. You will ...


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Will you be 18 when you are planning to move out? As dumb as it sounds, this actually does matter. Most contracts are harder to sign as a minor (even one that is a high school graduate), and having a job that allows you to work enough hours to pay for a place to live, transportation, food, etc. are hard to come by if you're not 18 yet (I learned this all ...


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Babies have been doing this since the beginning of time. They are flexible little beings, and any discomfort will likely be minor and short-lived. But if you are concerned, keep a burp cloth (cloth diaper or nappy) over your shoulder whenever you hold him. It protects your clothes as well!!


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Another option is online communities. There are many parental/school-related local communities on FaceBook/G+ etc... (I know our locality - which is a small town - has a couple, some very specifically centered around specific shared-value communities). You can try searching community names for "locale+school" or "locale+parents" or "locale+families" Find ...


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If you are considering moving you may want to talk to a real estate agent. A good real estate agent should be able to tell you which town is best for what you want and which area of town and maybe even which school.


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I think you will find the month by month outline on American Pregnancy Helpful because it goes over the major developments you can expect in a very clear and precise way for the first year. The list includes motor skills as well as others (such as social) but since the most noticeable and "measured" developments that occur during the first year are ...


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I moved out on my 18th birthday because my parents would give me no room to make mistakes. So I had to work full time in order to go to university part time. It took me nearly 20 years to pay it all back, but I was happy and independent. That said, if I had simply waited one year, they would have paid for everything and might even have contributed to me ...


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My report is similar to user20744's answer. We moved from spanish-speaking Argentina to english-speaking Canada when our daughters were 3.9 and 1.7 years old. While in Canada, we moved three times in the first 5 months. Completely painless to them, even with the 24+ hour trip and the inability to communicate with other kids for the first few months until ...


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As @Becuzz states, you need to present a compelling argument to get your wife on board. The most common method to do this is to list the pros and cons of making a move. Are you unhappy in your current location or merely irritated? If you're genuinely unhappy, a move would be a pro. Does your wife have a job at present? Does she love it? Will you be moving ...


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A few things: 1) 8 is old enough to be able to think about and weigh-in on this decision. I think it would be a good idea to talk to your 8-year-old stepson to see what he thinks of the idea and how often he would want to fly back to the states. You don’t have to base your decision on anything he says, but that is probably the best way to assess how he will ...


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How can I narrow it down, other than simply choosing somewhere close to family & relatives? My wife and I selected our home for our son in a smallish bedroom community because of proximity to work, low crime, good hospitals, affordability and good schools for our day-to-day life. But we are close to hiking and parks to expose him to the great outdoors. ...


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This is very broad and opinion based. I'd like to address a meta-diagnosis of your question since it is so broad. Remember your kids will be subjected to all manner of topics ranging from moral, to political, to cultural that you don't approve of no matter where you live. First, irregardless of where you choose to live your ability to build a strong ...


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I have kids about the same age, and experience in both countries. I second MAA's suggestion of asking your 8 year old. But your approach must be thoughtful. In particular, when (and if) you ask him, I'd say it's important to make it clear from the very outset that, although you're interested in his thoughts, it's you and his mother who are going to make the ...


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Children are very adaptable but you need to consider that besides going to a new daycare, children in these situations have to adapt with living in a new house which can also cause anxiety in itself. Drawing from personal experience, due to my wife's job we move every 1-2 years to a new country. What really helps is putting our children in a school of our ...


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My son is three and a half and we have already moved 7 times since he was born. He has had many different caregivers and daycare/school situations, as well as many different "families," since we've lived with friends a few times. He is absolutely 100% fine, and is actually more flexible, adaptable and resilient than his peers. I will say that I have been ...


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I would say that if your child is not crying from it or expressing any kind of pain/discomfort, then she will likely be okay. We had a foam playmat over hard wood floors and even when ours would turn over on hard wood floors he would sometimes bump around. It can be very concerning! But if they are not upset by the slight bump then it is not likely something ...


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Taking the long view, I think the key is to get mementos. Photographs (group and individual), perhaps even a video. The teacher can provide a large piece of paper and let each student in her class write/draw something -- even if it's just the child's name. This can go on the wall in her new room. A year, two, or three from now, you want her to be able to ...


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