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How to work-at-home given no daycare

We're fortunate to have somewhat older children, who need only short attention bursts followed by longer periods of working independently. However, with a 14 month old, you're not going to get that! ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane

This is actually a pretty common problem. Basically, it boils down to you starting to stand on your own but your parents not liking some of the decisions you've made. They feel that you still need ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane

Going from your answers and with my gut-feeling: Try to get your counsellor to REALLY push for some family-sessions. These are NOT for "you did this, so I did that" blaming, but hopefully for ...
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What is the day to day life like as a father?

It depends on the child - some babies sleep through the night when young, some insist on feeding every couple of hours. Some need constant entertainment, some like wriggling in a basket. You'll ...
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How to work-at-home given no daycare

To add to Joe's excellent answer: One option I occasionally found helpful is what I'd call babysitting by video chat (or video conference). In our case, there are many people who have free time to ...
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What is the day to day life like as a father?

No one seems to have put it the way I would. Many years ago I was browsing in a bookstore with my daughter on my shoulder. An older gentleman asked her age. I told him; she was about 1 at the time. ...
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How to work-at-home given no daycare

My husband and I work at home and have a two year old. We Have found the following to work really well for us. Setup a safe play area. We have a play area right by our office that is completely ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane

First of great you took the step to counseling, you should continue your visits. But do not expect immediate results, this will likely be a slow process. If I understand your situation somewhat you ...
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Hobby vs. baby balance

First, congratulations on becoming a parent! As you have (or will soon) discovered, babies are work. A lot of work. And usually when you'd rather be sleeping or cleaning the baby puke out of your ...
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How do I convince my daughter to agree that I want to quit my job and not strain our mother-daughter relationship?

Be honest about why you are leaving. It sounds like a really terrible job that is giving you nothing but a paycheck, and you don't necessarily need the paycheck. That's a wonderful reason to leave. "...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane

This answer is somewhat in vein of @user1450877, but more specific. As others noted, the main problem is that your parents don't trust your judgement. In a superficial way, it's a situation similar ...
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Working mother but unemployed father

By your own words, your father's belief and your's disagree. Now most parents don't go around proferring the exact nature of their finances to their children, so on that basis I presume you are ...
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What is the day to day life like as a father?

I hope that if you and your wife are ready and truly want children that you will go ahead. However you have to be prepared to parent which is another full-time career and one that should have priority ...
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Returning to work quickly - how does feeding work?

It is very likely that daycare will allow you to bring refrigerated or frozen breast milk and that your partner will be able to pump at work, but it takes dedication and logistics. I will share my ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane

It is hard to say what is best to do without knowing more information, but I'll share my thoughts based on what you said. I can't know what caused your parents to act the way they do, but it does not ...
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How to work-at-home given no daycare

Not sure if it will work for a 14-month-old, but a 2.5-year-old can already learn to play themselves for 1-2 hours at a time without disturbing the parent. I've used this for extending the time I have ...
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Returning to work quickly - how does feeding work?

You will probably be able to provide your own milk. Talk to daycare facilities you're considering and find out their policy. Some include formula and diapers as part of their services, some do not. ...
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How do I convince my daughter to agree that I want to quit my job and not strain our mother-daughter relationship?

I am was born and raised in Asia and spent some time in the US for school and work. I can say that I have seen both Western and Eastern ideologies from both family and friends. In the Western world, ...
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Help! My 7 year old won't go to bed early, or get up early

You are far too nice, and your 7-YO has learned, subconsciously, to manipulate you to get what she wants. Be clear that after 9pm is your time, she will get nothing other than directions back to bed....
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To have or not to have a second child?

Having a second child is very much an individual decision, and it seems like you have thought about some of the things related to it. Here's my take on some of the possible concerns. My opinion ...
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2 yo sad when I leave for work in the mornings

Every parent tries to figure out how to keep their first child from being sad when they leave, and I don't know a single one who succeeded. It's just something kids have to go through, and they will ...
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How to cope with going back to work as a stay at home dad with two working parents

It's hard for them to understand why someone they love goes away. And at that age when you tell them "Mommy is going to be back in a week" or "Daddy will be back in three days", they can't understand....
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Hobby vs. baby balance

I wouldn't necessarily think of it that way. Try to consider that everyone in the family has to make sure nobody in the family loses their minds. Putting 100% of your time into baby after work might ...
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Are kids with daycare background antisocial?

Are kids with daycare background antisocial? I'll assume you mean Are kids with daycare background measurably more antisocial than their non-daycare peers? There are several studies which point ...
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Are kids with daycare background antisocial?

The other answer gave really good research background into this, but please keep in mind something when reading this research: The sample set is often small (a few daycare/children surveyed)... For ...
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How to work-at-home given no daycare

In addition to the great answers already given and from the perspective of a single parent of a very energetic and active 23 month old. I think its really important to talk to your employer/boss (...
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How do I convince my daughter to agree that I want to quit my job and not strain our mother-daughter relationship?

A young teenager in any society is likely ill-equipped to make wise decisions for adults. I understand that you love her and you want her to be happy. To that end, as a parent you owe her love, ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane

The problem is they don't trust your judgement. Maybe they have a reason to, as in trying to protect you from older men, or maybe they are just over protective but it comes from a place of love. They ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane

When I was a teenager, my parents had one unbreakable rule. At any given time they had to know where I was, who I was with, and when I would be home. If any of those things changed, I had to call. ...

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