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How to work-at-home given no daycare
We're fortunate to have somewhat older children, who need only short attention bursts followed by longer periods of working independently. However, with a 14 month old, you're not going to get that!
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane
This is actually a pretty common problem. Basically, it boils down to you starting to stand on your own but your parents not liking some of the decisions you've made. They feel that you still need ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane
Going from your answers and with my gut-feeling:
Try to get your counsellor to REALLY push for some family-sessions. These are NOT for "you did this, so I did that" blaming, but hopefully for ...
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What is the day to day life like as a father?
It depends on the child - some babies sleep through the night when young, some insist on feeding every couple of hours. Some need constant entertainment, some like wriggling in a basket. You'll ...
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How to work-at-home given no daycare
To add to Joe's excellent answer:
One option I occasionally found helpful is what I'd call babysitting by video chat (or video conference).
In our case, there are many people who have free time to ...
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What is the day to day life like as a father?
No one seems to have put it the way I would. Many years ago I was browsing in a bookstore with my daughter on my shoulder. An older gentleman asked her age. I told him; she was about 1 at the time. ...
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How to work-at-home given no daycare
My husband and I work at home and have a two year old. We Have found the following to work really well for us.
Setup a safe play area. We have a play area right by our office that is completely ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane
First of great you took the step to counseling, you should continue your visits. But do not expect immediate results, this will likely be a slow process.
If I understand your situation somewhat you ...
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Hobby vs. baby balance
First, congratulations on becoming a parent! As you have (or will soon) discovered, babies are work. A lot of work. And usually when you'd rather be sleeping or cleaning the baby puke out of your ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane
This answer is somewhat in vein of @user1450877, but more specific.
As others noted, the main problem is that your parents don't trust your judgement. In a superficial way, it's a situation similar ...
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What is the day to day life like as a father?
I hope that if you and your wife are ready and truly want children that you will go ahead. However you have to be prepared to parent which is another full-time career and one that should have priority ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane
It is hard to say what is best to do without knowing more information, but I'll share my thoughts based on what you said.
I can't know what caused your parents to act the way they do, but it does not ...
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How to work-at-home given no daycare
Not sure if it will work for a 14-month-old, but a 2.5-year-old can already learn to play themselves for 1-2 hours at a time without disturbing the parent. I've used this for extending the time I have ...
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To have or not to have a second child?
Having a second child is very much an individual decision, and it seems like you have thought about some of the things related to it. Here's my take on some of the possible concerns. My opinion ...
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How to cope with going back to work as a stay at home dad with two working parents
It's hard for them to understand why someone they love goes away. And at that age when you tell them "Mommy is going to be back in a week" or "Daddy will be back in three days", they can't understand....
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Hobby vs. baby balance
I wouldn't necessarily think of it that way. Try to consider that everyone in the family has to make sure nobody in the family loses their minds. Putting 100% of your time into baby after work might ...
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Are kids with daycare background antisocial?
Are kids with daycare background antisocial?
I'll assume you mean
Are kids with daycare background measurably more antisocial than their non-daycare peers?
There are several studies which point ...
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Are kids with daycare background antisocial?
The other answer gave really good research background into this, but please keep in mind something when reading this research:
The sample set is often small (a few daycare/children surveyed)... For ...
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How to work-at-home given no daycare
In addition to the great answers already given and from the perspective of a single parent of a very energetic and active 23 month old.
I think its really important to talk to your employer/boss (...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane
The problem is they don't trust your judgement. Maybe they have a reason to, as in trying to protect you from older men, or maybe they are just over protective but it comes from a place of love. They ...
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My parents are taking over my life, I think I'm going insane
When I was a teenager, my parents had one unbreakable rule. At any given time they had to know where I was, who I was with, and when I would be home. If any of those things changed, I had to call.
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What is the day to day life like as a father?
For me, it has been absolutely fantastic. Really fun.
I have worked in exciting careers, and had the opportunity to travel extensively to many parts of the world. I have partied all night in many ...
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As the father, when is it better for me to be home?
First off, congratulations!
Here's my recommendation: plan on taking the first month, period, no ifs ands or buts. That period is going to be the hardest on your wife, as she is going to be going ...
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Can a breastfed 3-month-old go 12-14 hours without eating, when she refuses the bottle and I have to go to work?
Sorry, but twelve hours without feeding is way too long for a baby.
You also can’t (and probably shouldn’t, if you want to save your own sanity and ability to function) reverse the day/night cycle, ...
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Toddler tells everyone to "go away"
My feeling is that this is pretty normal, at least it happened with my children starting around that age (2.5) too. I saw it as one of the signs of them starting to want control of their environment. ...
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To have or not to have a second child?
You have probably heard already that no one can decide for you, and that the decision to have a child is the most life changing decision you will probably ever make. I believe this is true. I don't, ...
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To have or not to have a second child?
As a parent of two, I think you are overthinking this.
Listen into yourself. Do you really really have a burning desire to get a second child? If yes, then by all means get another child. I this case,...
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Hobby vs. baby balance
When my husband and I were doing some pre-marriage counseling which our church required from all couples getting married in the church, I got a piece of advice that has been extremely useful for all ...
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Hobby vs. baby balance
There are a lot of interesting answers, but I would like to maybe add a little more perspective from the "wife" point of view.
Maybe your wife is 100% convinced that hobbies should be put aside for ...
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As the father, when is it better for me to be home?
Please know that people will have different opinions on this. My opinion is based on my own experience of parenthood and on taking care of new parents (moms mostly.)
Sleep deprivation is the most ...
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