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If my 5yr old is an exceptional liar, should I expect that she will continue lying as she gets older?

DCook's answer is heading in the right direction, but it's at it from the wrong end. Don't ask your daughter if she did something wrong, not because she might lie to you, or she might not lie to you, ...
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The teacher erased 3 pages of my 5 year old's completed homework

I am a retired teacher and I am shocked that this teacher felt that was appropriate. I'd start by talking to the teacher -- but you hang on to the papers. IMO, and probably the vast majority of ...
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

So... I've raced bikes and from my experience, they are probably littering. As much as a race organizer may try to clean up after a race the distance covered and volume of waste generated during a ...
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The teacher erased 3 pages of my 5 year old's completed homework

This teacher is carefully producing a future math-hater. I've worked with enough high school students to know. I've also worked with enough people in personal counseling to know that whether you ...
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How to answer my 5 year old why I can tell her what she has to do, and why she can't tell me what to do

Try to go along this line: There are rules that exist for everyone. I have to go to work. You have to go to school. I tell you about the rules because I know them; I don't just make them up to ...
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Should I try to long-distance parent or will I do more harm than good?

I don't think you can "parent" in the sense of applying discipline and strong guidance. But you can be in his life. My mother had a god-daughter on a different continent. From the time the god-...
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If my 5yr old is an exceptional liar, should I expect that she will continue lying as she gets older?

My daughter, a few years older than yours, is also a skillful liar when she chooses to be. My best advice is "trust but verify." Children are good at knowing what works, and if lying is a reliable, ...
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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me

Kids that age learn a lot by imaginative play. It's how they make sense of the world and experiment with different responses to events. Pretending to be an adult is very common. Playing along is a ...
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If my 4-year-old asks me "why", what kind of "why" does he mean?

In my experience, he often doesn't know himself what he means. I've heard a lot of four-year-olds ask "Why?" ad infinitum -- sometimes it's just a way of saying, "Tell me more." I would suspect that ...
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Should I encourage/persuade my 3 year old to watch kids TV shows that she finds scary or upsetting?

I find great importance in fostering a child's sense of personal control. Her nos are no and her yesses are yes - unless there is potential for physical or psychological harm. I'd suggest taking ...
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Is it ok for parents to kiss and romance with each other while their 2- to 8-year-old child watches?

From everything that I can find online, it is a positive thing to show affection in front of your kids. It models affection to your children, and it makes them feel more secure https://www....
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5yrs old being bossy... Is this too much or tolerable at this age?

By tolerating the behavior, you're validating the behavior. Her age doesn't matter - it only make the problem your responsibility. Let's call things as they are: your daughter bullied another girl to ...
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How can I be more sympathetic towards my children when they are injured?

I do not like my behavior. Parenting is difficult at every stage for somewhat different reasons. Children aren't miniature adults, especially at your child's age. They don't think or process like ...
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My 4 year-old says she doesn't love her mom

I think your instincts of jealousy are spot-on. My daughter did this starting when her little brother arrived home from the hospital, and every time she felt like he was getting more of Mama's ...
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Why my kids don't get excited to see me

This is pretty normal with parents everywhere - we're not interesting or different, we're just ... there. Go on a trip without your kids for a few weeks, and you'll see some very excited kids when ...
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How would you explain COVID-19 lockdown to a 4 year old?

First of all, recognize that your concerns may not be the same as your four year old's concerns. This has two implications: Your child may be worried about things you couldn't have thought of. Your ...
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Is 5 years old too old for a stroller?

Yes. Five years old is way too old for a stroller. I personally think a five-year-old should be completely stroller free, not just almost. Humans are animals, just like all other animals that roam ...
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The teacher erased 3 pages of my 5 year old's completed homework

I agree with the other answers. This was not an appropriate way to correct the child's homework. From just this example, I would guess that the teacher was more interested in obedience than initiative,...
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Does scaring children really traumatize them?

I can't find any research on this typical but stepped-up-a-level game of peek-a-boo. I think you have to go with your gut on this one. If any child seems to overly react, then likely you are ...
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How to answer my 5 year old why I can tell her what she has to do, and why she can't tell me what to do

Seems to me this is something where the truth is a good answer. You are responsible for her, because of her lack of experience and lack of maturity. The more she can show maturity, the less you need ...
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My son started kindergarten and doesn't like writing his name. How should I think about this?

First, I would ask him about why he doesn't like writing his name. Is it boring? Is it too hard? Is it too repetitive? Etc. Once you know why he doesn't like it, you can work on helping him, ...
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How can I convince my child to write?

First, please know that I agree 100% with @David Hedlund's answer in its entirety. I just want to address one particular point that needs to be stressed. His teacher says if this type of behavior ...
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How to teach children Santa is not real, while respecting other kids beliefs?

The approach we use, with our children, is to focus on understanding the reasons for belief, and the benefits of believing in something even if it's not real. Our oldest never really believed, and ...
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How best for a trans and/or non-binary person to respond to their 6-year-old cousin asking if I'm a girl or a boy?

Six years old is old enough to understand gender in a general sense, and it’s definitely old enough to have an intelligent conversation about the complexities of gender. So my answer is to be honest ...
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Our 3½ yo girl is frustrated by not being able to colour within the lines

At the risk of being unpopular, I would say: do nothing. She is doing everything right. Learning itself is a difficult skill to learn. In this case, we can apply the model of "zone of proximal ...
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Does toddler keep hands around private parts?

Although it is always wise to be cautious about the safety of your young child, in general it is developmentally normal and natural (and not at all sexual in the adult sense) for a three year old to ...
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Raising a bilingual kid. When should we introduce the majority language?

You probably need to get started on English exposure soon. At some point he wants to play with other kids and unless you live in a French speaking enclave, that will happen in English. I suggest ...
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Foreign student required to learn and recite the pledge of allegiance in Kindergarten (U.S)

Assuming a public school setting, legally, your daughter's teacher is clearly in the wrong here. The famous 1943 Supreme Court case West Virginia State Board of Education v. Barnette ruled that ...
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I want to teach my children the power of compound growth, what are some demonstrations that they can be a part of?

Here's a great way that has nothing to do with money but instead something tangible that's easier for young minds to grasp. Plants! What you want to do is get your hands on some heritage-grade seeds ...
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5 year old is completely uncurious

In my experience, kids are curious when they have interest in something. She may just not yet have found anything she has particular interest in. Often you'll be surprised at what they do eventually ...
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