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It sounds like she is a girl with a great deal of imagination. She loves making up stories. This is a good thing. Encourage it! I have an extremely active imagination. It made me afraid of so many things. I imagined monsters under the bed and in the closet. Things lurked in every shadow. Every movement of the trees, ever sound that I couldn't identify ...


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The line between reality and imagination is blurry for young children. You're coming to the conclusion that your child is lying to avoid punishment, but I think an equally valid incentive is that the child is simply not comfortable with the reality in which they did the bad thing, so they simply go for another one. Seeing as we can't easily distinguish ...


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What about cooking? There are many things from cornflake cakes to victoria spnge that can get kids attention - eating something they helped or mostly cooked can be a real motivator.


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In general, it's not unexpected for a four year old to have difficulty with boundaries in a new environment. What you can do to help your child is to define those boundaries for them. First, when you are going to take them to a new house, prior to entering you should talk to the child about the experience to prepare their mindset. Tell them that this new ...


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I see two things happening in your story 1) you can't reason with kids. There is no next time. So if you say behave or next time no friends that doesn't work. The only thing you can do is respond to what you are seeing now (punch a kid, get a timeout) 2) kids do anything for attention, even negative attention. So if daughter shouts I'll ignore her. I might ...


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4 year-old-child only accepts appreciation he cannot accept "No,Don't.." Okay, then change how you phrase things. Don't tell kids what you don't want them to do, tell them what you want them to do. Don't say "Don't hit". Say "Play nice" or "play gentle". On hearing this my son got angry went alone to open terrace. Leaving a stressful situation ...


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My daughter has gone through the same thing. We started reading books about the animals doing good things and the fear started going so I would try that.


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My 4.5 year old has had a few epic tantrums this past year, and they are often around being told 'no', I think that the loss of control over a situation really sets her off. We've been talking to her about constructive ways to deal when she feels overwhelmed and now when she feels a meltdown coming on - she takes 5 deeps breaths while thinking about her ...


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There is more than one way to do it. The two approaches below work for both children and adults. It takes about a hundred or so tries to fully master each approach, depending on the age and dexterity of the child. It is easier to practice with the shoe off and in front of you, as shown in the videos. Terry Moore: How to tie your shoes | TED Talk: https://...


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The problem with stereotypes is often not apparent in isolation. There's nothing inherently problematic about doing housework, caring about your appearance, or even being rescued. The problem lies in being reduced to this. Without the bigger picture, it may be difficult to walk through that exact story line and pin down the problems. If she's open for the ...


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Crafts and creative projects are a way to engage kids of all ages. They can both make creations to their own level of ability and interest. Here are some options that are open ended enough for varied skill levels: Clay or play-doh Watercolor paints Jewelry or keychain making (provide plastic lacing and big chunky beads for the little one) Cookie or ...


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Board games are a pretty safe entertainment piece for varying age ranges. There are cooperative games or competitive games that would be suitable and entertaining for both. Some examples: Cooperative Dragon Dash Happy Bunny Competitive Cheeky Monkeys War


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Have you considered speaking plainly and straight-forwardly to her about how these animals are only a part of her imagination, what her imagination is, and why she might be having these thoughts? A child having thoughts about potential danger is normal - it would cause her to make active attempts to avoid the danger. Maybe she doesn't need fantasies about ...


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Well, from your description it is clear you care a great dealand while you state your style is based on being firm, consistent and fair around enjoying interactions with the child, it is understandable you are uncomfortable when the Mom returns and you then witness the child transition into negative behaviors much different from how she behaved all day while ...


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You know the child better than any of us, of course, but it's not obvious to me that the behavior you're describing should be caused by these differences. In general, I find that children are quite capable of understanding that different rules apply with different people. I'm guessing most parents can describe their child as more temperamental with them ...


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I had the same problem a few weeks ago, I found that if you get your child to suck an ice cube or ice lolly for about 5 minutes it will numb the mouth and will be almost tasteless.


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