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During and after a separation - explaining to children who their “family” is

My wife and I are in a kind of quasi-separation that is likely to lead to divorce. She has been and is emotionally abusive (the silent treatment, projection and gaslighting being what she does most), ...
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Daughter's reluctance to come to my place during a quasi-separation - impact on social life

My wife and I are in a kind of quasi-separation situation. My wife is emotionally abusive, resorting to the silent treatment, gaslighting and projection regularly. She moved to a different city with ...
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Baby arching back but happy

Our ~4 week old baby often arches his back. He mostly does this when calm. Most of the online information I can see regarding back arching assume the baby only does this when upset - but the ...
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Kids do not want to play with my daughter

My daughter is 8 years old and in grade 3 now. She is such a cute and quiet kid, but she is not sporty. The problem is that at school, no kids want to play with her. This has been happening since ...
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What can I do about my excessively strict parents

Before I start this, I wanted to make it clear that I am NOT "ungrateful" of my parents in any way. I love them more than anything on the Earth, but I feel that they are way more strict than they have ...
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How can I help my child with the issues the teacher describes here? [on hold]

An email update from an 8 yo's second grade teacher says: Name continues to be an interested and eager learner. He loves to read, he is an enthusiastic mathematician, and he has many stories to tell ...
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Hourly rate for babysitter thats a relative? [on hold]

Im wondering what people think is a fair wage to pay a relative to watch a 7 year old kid on an hourly rate in New Jersey? The baby sitter is 15 years old and a cousin.
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Help please, my 12 year old son is out of control, hitting me, running away, and I DON'T know what to do ANYMORE😭💔 [on hold]

My son is LITERALLY out of control! He NEVER does ANYTHING. If i ask him what homework he has( although I ALREADY know, the teachers message me EXACTLY what he has to get done) he LIES STRAIGHT TO MY ...
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Bonds with biological versus adopted children

I would like to know whether there is any kind of difference between the bonds developed between a parent and a child of the child is biological rather than adopted. Is the relationship, on either of ...
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What research is being done about a possible link between acetaminophen and ASD (Autism)? [on hold]

I apologize in advance if this is off topic, and/or sounds like conspiracy theory. I personally used acetaminophen before but recently switched to ibuprofen due to doctor's recommendation, which is ...
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Is it normal for some toddlers to be scared of strangers?

Neither me nor most of my friends have children, so I do not really have anyone I can ask about this. I am new to the childcare industry and some of the toddlers seem scared of me. I am not used to ...
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How to stop a kid from beating head against things when he's upset?

I'm concerned about damage to his frontal lobes. He just 1.5 years old, he's not (please reword this) "special" in anyway that I am aware of, just very emotional.
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Father now, earlier nursery versus grandparents now, later nursery?

Our son is 14 months old. Both the mother and I have in the last month entered full time education (I was in full time employment, she was on maternity leave). We are lucky to have my wife's parents ...
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Toilet/Potty Training (4 Year Old Daughter)

I've read a few of the other posts here regarding the same topic and I've tried the answers that were given. My daughter is four years old and still in pull-ups, using them like diapers. She is ...
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How to healthily educate about STDs/STIs?

There is plenty of help available via books for how to sex ed. However, how could a parent include educating on STDs in such a way that the child is educated about it but at the same time the parent ...
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6 year old doesn't know my husband is not her father

I have a 6 years old daughter that is not the daughter of my husband. My daughter doesn't know. Nobody else knows except my husband. I want to tell my daughter some day that my husband is not her ...
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Need some advice about twin baby carrier [on hold]

3 months ago I got twin babies. Now I have some difficulty with doing my regular work while carrying my babies.One of my friend told to use a baby carrier, but O saw it is not good to carry both kids ...
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How to help a 3 year old to sleep better?

My 3 year old doesn't go to sleep until late after 11pm and wakes up by 7.30am. Is this ok? She sleeps for 2 to 3 hours in the afternoon until 5pm. Since birth she hasn't slept properly.
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How to help a 3 year old to speak?

My child is 2 year 10 months. He is not speaking by his own. If I ask him "What do you want apple or banana?" he answers me: "apple banana". He is not able to understand me. Some kids call him: "come ...
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Intentionally losing a game to make my daughter happy

My daughter is very clever at playing chess. At 5 years of age, she could win against her mother and grandparents, but still couldn't beat me. She kept playing me and tried to win, but always failed. ...
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Punish, or ignore? [closed]

As father of a wonderful, clever 4 years old boy, I am wondering this almost metaphysical question (at least for me) : In front of a given behaviour of my son, that I deem "bad" or "inappropriate". ...
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What is the youngest age a child can learn the violin?

What is the youngest age a child can learn the violin? I want to teach my son and daughter the violin and saxophone. As a person who played the sax and piano I know they can’t blow hard enough for the ...
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Do kids outgrow distractability? If not, what to do?

I write about a happy, bright 8 yo boy who enjoys reading and learning but sometimes has difficulty focusing on the task at hand. In school, it can take him a long time to complete his work because ...
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5 Year Old - Separation Anxiety and Preparing for a Death in the Family

My 5 year old son recently started school and, his separation anxiety pre-dates school, but it has really highlighted to me just how bad it is. He gets upset when he gets dropped off at school, when ...
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I have a 10 yr old daughter who purposely soils herself and refuses to wash. [closed]

Me and her dad and step mom have been fighting this since she was 3 yrs old. She has no physical problems with her organs, we have taken her to many doctors. She has had counseling. She lives in 2 ...
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Volunteering opportunities for kids

Does anyone have recommendations for volunteer opportunities for a 7 year old kid in the NYC / NJ area? He wants to help other kids or maybe animals. What im not sure about is a safe place to start ...
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How important is passing on our “heritage” to our child who is born and raised in a different country?

To avoid offending any country and going off topic, I'll call my native country "N"(for native) and the current country "C"(for current). My husband and I were born and raised in N, but we've ...
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Does sleep-talk with toddlers work?

Is there any scientific research that proves sleep-talk (reading affirmations to a child when the child sleeps) works? The promoters such as these https://gouldingprocess.com/ already say it does, ...
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My 8 months old son not sleeping

I hope someone can help us with our sleeping problems. My son was always sleeping on his back, but at around 6 months, he discovered that he can turn around to his belly, and he likes it so much that ...
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How to handle my 8-year-old sister's nightmares?

I am not a parent myself, but I have been responsible for a big part in the rising of my sister. We have an age gap of 13 years, which creates a fun but complicated relationship between us. She knows ...
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My 3 year old daughter thinks she is white. Should I tell her she's not?

My daughter is Asian [East Asian]. She goes to a daycare center that has a diverse population. She started to notice that kids have different skin colors, and she is convinced that she is white. ...
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my 3rd grade daughter cries in school

my daughter studies in 3rd grade and I am a teacher in the same school but teaching higher grades. From past 1 week she has started crying in school. She wants to be with me all the time. She is ...
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How to improve my 3-year-old child's ability to concentrate?

My 3-year-old child does not look at the book while colouring, he just goes on looking at others by just keeping his crayon in the book. Also while riding his bicycle he is not watching front. He ...
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What to do about my 2-year-old crying and screaming at daycare?

My daughter is 2 years old and in daycare where I work. She started there when she was 13 months old. It took her about a week to adjust to that room which was to be expected. I have worked in daycare ...
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Should we indulge this unusual request from our daughter? [closed]

I recently watched a movie with my husband and daughter entitled Cherish. It's about a woman who's been sentenced to house arrest for a crime she didn't commit. She has to wear an ankle monitor as a ...
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My daughter tells me her teacher slapped her. How should I proceed?

I have a 4-year-old daughter. She goes to a small, private preschool. It is one class, all my daughter's age. There is no director; it consists of four women, who are partners, who take turns ...
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Young kids and other people's dogs

I have a five-year-old son. Quite often when we're walking in the countryside a puppy of a big breed will come running up to him and try to jump up and often end up knocking him over and/or scratching ...
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How to help my 7-year-old son socialize in school and learn to fight for his rights?

My son is 7 years old. He's very polite, shy, sensitive and honest. Unlike other kids in his class who tend to be more selfish and mean. I wonder why don't they like to play with him. Although he's ...
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13 y/o step-son wants to be a “furry”

My 13 year old step-son told his mother yesterday that he wants to be a "furry." A couple days ago he decided he wanted to make a cat costume. I just shake my head most of the time when he comes up ...
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A fifth child on the way, but I'm happy with the family we already have [duplicate]

My partner and I have just found out we are expecting a baby. However, we are both divorced and have two children each from previous marriages. Their ages are 11, 10, 6 and 5. We both have 50/50 ...
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How to help a pre-schooler overcome sensitivity to social setbacks?

My son (3yrs 9 months) is bright and generally happy, but sensitive and sometimes acutely anxious. The sensitivity worries me a little for the future. If something in a social context doesn't go his ...
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My son's girlfriend has been cheating with my best friend's son. Should I get involved?

Fake names, so it's easier to understand: My son: Bob My son's girlfriend: Alice My best friend's son: Chester They're all 18 and 19. Bob and Chester aren't friends. My best friend told me about the ...
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21 month old v/s a floor-to-ceiling window

I know, we should have thought about this when moving in, but we were dumb(er) then. We have 3 floor-to-ceiling windows in our living room - only one of them is easily accessible to our 21 month ...
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What does psychology say about young children naturally doing exercices? [closed]

I have heard that young children naturally exercise. May it be speaking a language, singing, walking or physical exercise. It has been said that when we get older these exercices have to be time ...
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How can I stop my two year old toddler from throwing/breaking stuff when frustrated?

My two year old son (only child) lately has developed a habit of attempting to throw/break things when frustrated. In most cases, it's something that belongs to us (the parents) -- like a candle ...
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My 2 year 8 month old son is not interested in hearing stories [closed]

How to make child get interested in stories? He colors the book but by seeing somewhere. He just shows interest in only very limited food. He is suffering from constipation. He is able to say rhymes, ...
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My child witnessed a toddler being taught to cuss by older kids. How to deal with rude language at social gatherings?

I took my 9 year old son to a little social gathering with some kids from different sporting activities. Some of the families attending this gathering come from a very "rough" background. One of the ...
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How to stop kids not to reveal inside matters outside?

I observed a couple and their 6 years old daughter who reveals their family matters outside. As it can happen with anyone including me, I was looking for your opinion to handle it better. The family ...
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My 14-year-old is refusing to attend any schooling, even online

I have a 14-year-old daughter who has suffered from mental health issues since puberty. She has been through 4 middle schools and several residential behavior programs. I got her enrolled in an online ...
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OPOL method vs. teaching a child the language of the land?

Our child is 1.5 years old and the kindergarden teachers are complaining, that he doesn't understand them and ask us every day to speak to him in German (the language of the country). My wife speaks ...

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