When a child has some close friends at school, but some of them come from relatively richer families, so they get maybe twice my child's pocket money, how should I answer when he complains and asks to be on par with such friends?
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How should I respond to a child asking to have as much spending money as her friends do?
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In addition to the answers already given, I would also point out those who are not as fortunate as you or the richer families.
Depending on the age of your child, it may be a good time to discuss community service. Take your child to a food bank or get involved in other activities where your child can experience both sides of the coin.
answered Apr 21 '11 at 18:04
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"That's great. I'm glad to see that you have ambitions. What do you think you can do to earn more money?"
answered Apr 22 '11 at 4:22
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How should I respond to a child asking to have as much spending money as her friends do?
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When a child has some close friends at school, but some of them come from relatively richer families, so they get maybe twice my child's pocket money, how should I answer when he complains and asks to be on par with such friends?
asked Apr 21 '11 at 16:23
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In addition to the answers already given, I would also point out those who are not as fortunate as you or the richer families.
Depending on the age of your child, it may be a good time to discuss community service. Take your child to a food bank or get involved in other activities where your child can experience both sides of the coin.
answered Apr 21 '11 at 18:04
Danny Miller
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