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L is now so habituated to weeing at this time of night that she basically doesn't wake up at all during the process. When we talk to her about it, she denies any knowledge of it happening at all... So first step, stop carrying her. Wake her, as gently as you can, and make her walk herself to the bathroom. I would pick a weekend to start this process, as ...


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Not to take the fun out of devising your own experiment, but the fine fluid dynamics physicists at the Splash Lab (at Brigham Young University) are trying to figure out how to prevent urinal splash-back right now! Fluid dynamics scientists (calling themselves the "wizz kids") set up a water tank and nozzles (emitting colored water) to mimic the natural ...


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First, any fast moving stream of anything with mass is going to splatter when it hits something else -- it's really all about the angles (source & target) and velocity as to where it goes during the impact. Toilets are shaped differently, too, with some longer, shorter, taller, etc. You're potty training though -- not refining bathroom skills. Most ...


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We didn't have the exact same issue, but for what it's worth, before our 3 year old could make it through the night on her own, there were several months where we carried her to the toilet when we went to bed, a couple of hours into her sleep. We would put her on the toilet, and she would go, and we could carry her back to bed without waking her up. From ...


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A few people have touched upon this (he says sarcastically) but the best way to reduce it is by sitting down. An increasing number of men are sitting when they use the toilet as it's supposed to be more hygienic (as there isn't urine all over the place). I beleive Sweden and Japan are a couple examples of this. Failing that, don't tell him where to aim, but ...


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We recently crossed this bridge with our 5 year old. My wife and I miscommunicated who was taking her for a pee, neither of us did and there was no accident. After figuring out what happened the next day, we just rolled with it. After a few months with zero accidents, last week we took the pee pad off of her bed. So "stop doing it and suck up the handful ...


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kids are very different so there is no single answer that would be the right one. A few suggestions are: make sure he drinks enough early in the evening, not directly before going to bed. make sure he uses the bathroom before going to bed (even if he says he does not need to, make it a routine, it is fine if only little comes out). If he does not want to ...


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I hate to say this (and I SWEAR it's not a pun) but it depends. For our daughter, pull-ups were more of a hassle than they were worth. She treated them like a diaper and was not interested in going into big-kid undies until we took them away and replaced them with training panties (the thick kind that can be soiled without causing a level 4 hazmat incident)...


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Three ideas (one you might not like, but if it works...): Make sure he goes to the bathroom just before bed. Did wonders for our daughter. Try some higher-absorbency pullups. Since he's almost 6, maybe move to GoodNights or something similar for older kids with bladder control issues. You might just be overloading the capacity of the diaper. If you can ...


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I'd like to begin by welcoming you to the community and reassuring you that, yes, this is normal. Many people are under the assumption that potty-training is something you do once and then it is done, but with most kids it doesn't really work that way. They have to learn the basics about how to use the potty. Then they have to learn their body signals, ...


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You have my sympathy. Having one child with encopresis is awful. I can't really imagine accurately what it's like to have two children with this problem. Parents of children with idiopathic constipation often blame themselves and their toilet training problems (which were often present). First a quick reassurance: a rectal examination finding stool in the ...


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He himself is very concerned and tries to avoid it by holding his 'thing' and pointing it down. This way he is successful but i am concerned is there any side effects of this practice. There are no problematic side effects to this practice. Don't be overly concerned just because genitals are involved. Be happy, he's found a perfectly good solution to his ...


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By age 7, the social ramifications of wearing a diaper are huge. This isn't the sort of thing the other kids at his school haven't noticed. If he hasn't started using the toilet after a couple of months around other kids, this isn't just stubbornness or your failure to win out, something is wrong. I've only run across a few cases of children this age who ...


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Since toddlers (and babies) have been (and still are in various other cultures) potty trained this young and younger, apparently without a problem, The missing word here is some - some toddlers have been potty trained this young. Every child is different. Potty training combines two completely different developmental aspects: Physiological - Holding ...


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My son had this same problem. In fact, just tonight, he had a "skid mark" in his undies because he held his poo and it leaked out. It was his last day of school, so, like your son, he was too busy to hear nature calling. Btw- my boy is going to be ten in the fall! Way too old for this, IMO, but, it is leaps and bounds better than it was when he was 4-6 years ...


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There are a couple of fun ways to do this that you could try: Draw a line on the wall or use a piece of decorative tape. Here's a funny example that's really nerdy: The text reads "you shall not pass!" Use it as counting practice. Show your kid where to look for the tear lines and tell them to only use n sheets at a time. Three or four is probably ...


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You are dream weeing at 10 pm. Every day, move it 1 minute earlier. 9:59 pm tomorrow, 9:58 pm the next day, etc. If it takes longer for her to dream wee, pause at that time until it happens reliably. Then start moving again. As the dream wee moves closer to her bed time (a month or two away), start restricting liquids close to bed time. Move it back at ...


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I would suggest you make a routine with your child to go to toilet more often, even if he/she says it's not needed. Often just sitting there makes it happen and creates a nice feeling of relief. This way the whole subject will receive less importance which is often the source of the problem taking so long time to disappear.


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That sounds perfectly normal! You might wait a few months before trying again, giving your daughter time to adjust to all the change she is experiencing. Give her time to grow into her role as big sister before you start toilet training again. When you start again, don't try to do toilet training and binky separation at the same time. A binky, like thumb-...


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Bed wetting, even at 7 years old, is common. About 1 in 40 children at that age wet the bed. Children usually grow out of it. Stop waking her in the night. That doesn't help. Make sure she is drinking plenty in the day time. This will help her train her bladder. She should reduce the amount she drinks in the evenings. Make going to the loo last thing ...


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I wish I could claim this is my idea, but it was just one of the many things I was given as ideas along the way. This one was a little more unique though and actually worked for a child with a similar reaction to pooping. Firstly, I was super cheerful in my response to any issues. I would just just say something like "Uh oh, looks like we have to change ...


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With my son we spent some time with no pants or underwear, to increase body awareness. I took him out to the back yard with no pants or underwear on him and we played out there for long enough that he peed a few times (we did this for several days, I don't remember how many exactly). Pretty soon it got to be fun for him to "water the plants," and he was ...


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Recently the same thing was happening with my nephew and I tried the same things. Until I happened upon an answer on this site someone had posted. I'm kicking myself for not saving it but they suggested after every meal spending a small amount of time in the bathroom 10-15 minutes at a time and I combined that with another suggestion to add a stool (squatty ...


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According to a recent study, the optimal way to reduce toilet splash (besides sitting down) is to: drop a few pieces of tissue into a toilet bowl to soften the blow. For a urinal: stand slightly to one side, and aim downwards at a low angle of impact


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How can you or I tell if our bottom is clean enough? Clean enough implies primarily that: The bottom will not be uncomfortable, as it sometimes is when there is some fecal matter remaining The bottom will not smell or leave (many) marks on the underwear So, for the one, he has wiped enough if his bottom feels comfortable, and in general if it continues to ...


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Okay, this is fairly typical. That doesn't mean it is fun or easy and that it isn't a problem. In my opinion, it could be time for a restart. Put him back into diapers. Do not complain or say anything negative. My assumption is that he no longer wants to be a baby (even if he thought he did) and that the no anger, back to the start approach -- may have him ...


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I don't have any real 'evidence' for this, but my nephew used to do the same thing. When he was being potty trained, he would go hide in a corner and poop his pants instead of in the toilet, which baffled us completely. He used to hide when wearing a diaper too. One day though, he walked in on his grandma in the bathroom and asked what she was doing, so she ...


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Here's my attempt: You messed up your relationship (I'm not criticizing it, BTW, I'm just stating a fact) and that obviously troubles your daughter. If you feel like you cannot fix your relationship, all you can do is to try to minimize the negative effects this has on your daughter. If I was in your place, I'd start out by asking myself why she behaves ...


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Step one should certainly be talk to the daycare. A three year old is not a reliable witness in this sort of matter; he's going to only tell you his impression of details, and those will often be colored by his feelings. I wouldn't assume that the daycare literally forbade him from pooping in his diaper; they may well simply be trying to convince him to ...


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