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How to tell my 4-year-old son not to get hyper with his uncle or anyone except parents?

Kids are going to be kids. There is a lot of social etiquette and nuance that they will learn as they gain experience. Four years old is not the time. You should not place this burden on your child at ...
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My 2-year-old son supervises me after asking me to do something for him, does this suggest lack of trust?

Children learn how to do things by imitating, so much of this is simple curiosity. ("How does the milk go in the bottle? Does it happen the same way every time? WOW.") But toddlers also start to ...
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How to communicate with tiger parents?

To rephrase the question you're saying you have a conflicting view with other parents on how their children should be raised and feel it's your place to pass judgement upon them or to change their ...
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Too many presents from Grandma - is this bad for my child?

I think that having a lot of things for your baby or kid is not a good thing, like toys or any other distraction (ipad, presents, bad food with sugar). This could create a behavior of only doing ...
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Should I let my child play with gun toys?

I take what I consider to be a pragmatic approach: if there is no toy which is obviously a gun, kids just make their own (60-80% of boys, 30% of girls, play with "aggressive toys" of some variety). ...
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At what age should I tell my daughter that her real mother is dead?

I cannot really give first-hand advice, never having been in a similar situation. However, I would think the basic approach should be the same as for an adopted child. Basically: don't push ...
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Is it potentially harmful to a 2-year-old to still sleep in a room with her parents?

Hamad, I think that many children around the world sleep in the same room as their parents -- some for most of their lives. Most of these will/have become perfectly normal, healthy adults. I'd say it ...
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Which is more important for a baby: keep the baby happy or keep the baby healthy

There isn't a cut and dry answer to this. Both are important. And part of parenting is striking the right balance there. Given your situations above: Baby wants to be held to sleep: well, keeping ...
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How and when should I tell my son that his amazing father isn't his biological father?

My approach is not much different than what I'd suggest for plain vanilla everyday families: Why not supplement the biology part with a discussion of what makes a father a father or the fundamental ...
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Is it normal for a child just turned 3 to be able to read and how do I develop and nurture his intelligence?

Speaking from experience1, your child is advanced, very likely gifted - but it happens. Remember that “normal” is just a statistical distribution and doesn’t imply any value or sense of wrong or right....
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7 month old can sit, but doesn't want to

Is sitting a mandatory part of development? Yes, it is. And your child has passed it. You put it quite well: Sitting apparently does nothing for him. It's not that he can't do it, it's that he ...
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14 year old stepson wants to wear boxer shorts

Almost all of the arguments that you give for forcing your stepchild to wear briefs sound like reasons to let your kid wear the underwear he wants. You (a woman) have no personal experience with ...
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How to help my son improve without being discouraging?

The root cause of your child's frustration is expecting to make complex things perfectly without a long process of trial and error. I suggest that the best long-term solution is to offer the child a ...
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What are the advantages and disadvantages of letting the child experience the effects of his decisions?

Most parents try to do it that way when they can. The main thing you're missing is that children live in the moment, to a much larger degree than most adults realize until they have kids of their own....
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At what age should I tell my daughter that her real mother is dead?

Your second wife is your daughter's mom. She's all that your daughter has ever known. She's just 3 years old, and this stability (mom & you) is important to her. You don't have to be the ...
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Worried sick about 3YO and aspergers

I am not so sure this is an answer, and I am not a medical practitioner, but you are drawing conclusions based on tiny bits of information, much of which is conflicting. Sometimes your daughter ...
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How to tell my 4-year-old son not to get hyper with his uncle or anyone except parents?

This definitely seems like an issue for your brother in law, not for your son. Kids just don't adapt to changing circumstances that quickly; even much older children would have a problem handling ...
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At what age should I tell my daughter that her real mother is dead?

My biological father died when i was an infant, and my mom remarried before I knew any difference. They told me about this when I was somewhere between 6 and 8 years old. I might even have started to ...
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How should parents handle dominant behaviour of toddler towards other children?

When a child does something that makes another child feel bad, whether violence or just selfish behavior (which is basically what you're describing), my go-to at any age is to show the child how the ...
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Should I keep giving toys back to my infant when he's deliberately dropping them?

Dropping things over and over again is a known phase. It's a great learning opportunity. You can choose what message to send your toddler and what you want to teach. For example, you might take them ...
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Healthy 10 month old baby bouncing himself while standing - will this injure his hips?

I can't think of any risk in this normal behavior (yes, this qualifies as normal) in a normal baby (contrast this to children who engage in abnormal activity, e.g. head-banging, who are putting ...
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Is it potentially harmful to a 2-year-old to still sleep in a room with her parents?

No, on the contrary there is even an indication that this reduces stress for your child. This study on co-sleeping in 101 infants concludes: At 5 weeks and 6 months, the long-term co-sleeping infants ...
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My 7-year-old is "in love" with a girl in his class. How should I deal with this?

I think you're being wise here. Acknowledge your son's true feelings of love and admiration for his playmate. But to have him express these feelings might cause some discomfort in someone in whom the ...
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Too many presents from Grandma - is this bad for my child?

At that age, there are pros and cons to having lots of toys, generally they're very superficial. For example: Pro: Very easily bored baby has lots of variety Con: Parents have lots of picking up to ...
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What do I tell my child about her Learning Disability?

Honesty about a learning disability is important for helping the child cope with it. They know if their grades aren't as good, or they can't remember the words, or it's harder for them to read — ...
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At what age should I tell my daughter that her real mother is dead?

A little about myself... My Mom married my Dad when I was 5. At 12, she revealed to me that he wasn't my biological father. It was absolutely traumatic and devastating. It felt like my life was a lie....
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How can we reduce the likelihood of repeating our parents' mistakes?

If you're aware of the mistakes, and conscious of when you make them, that's a big step already. The next step is to develop alternatives, and have them ready, so that as soon as you recognize a ...
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Separated parents. As a dad, how do I exercise tough love without being the bad guy?

I am going to comment and answer each paragraph. (Keeping it civil and not fighting in front of your son is absolutely the way to handle it. You aren't 'fooling' your son, but you are modelling how ...
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