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What age limit is appropriate for using tools (such as screwdrivers, hacksaw, drill, etc.)?

Using tools is not based on age, but instead on maturity and training. My 9-year-old has his own toolkit. There is a screwdriver, hammer, saw, and a couple other things that are his. He needs to ask ...
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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

You say that you don't want him to play it -- that's your answer, you should not buy it for him. Parents set the rules. Explaining why you aren't buying it can help him accept this decision more ...
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How to respond to 17 year old daughter going out with a 25 year old man?

I was 19 and ran off with a 27 year old woman from America. (I'm British and she is American). My mother disowned me and we didn't speak for a year. My relationship with my wife lasted 16 years and ...
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When should parents stop changing clothes in front of children?

Seeing parents or other adults naked is entirely unconnected to abuse. See any reports on familial abuse (by far the most common type), and more anecdotally, see the lack of systemic abuse in naturist ...
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What's an appropriate age to involve kids in life changing decisions?

I have to challenge your entire premise, which may get this post deleted, but I hope you get a chance to read this before it is deleted. In simple terms this is a case of, Majoring in the minors and ...
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Is a Rubik's cube an appropriate gift for a 15-month-old child?

At 15 months old, a rubik's cube would not be appropriate. First, it's kind of a complex puzzle. Most adults can't solve it. A 15 month old is going to see it as a brightly colored cube and nothing ...
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Why is trying to talk children out of how they feel a bad idea?

The definition you've likely found was the definition of talking something out. "to settle something by discussion: Let's not get mad. Let's just talk it out. Please, let's talk out this matter calmly....
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What age limit is appropriate for using tools (such as screwdrivers, hacksaw, drill, etc.)?

I would say that 15 is plenty old enough to use a screwdriver or drill or hacksaw. For reference, in my boy scout troop, nearly every boy earned a Whittling Chip (even if they had already earned in ...
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How to respond to 17 year old daughter going out with a 25 year old man?

I don't know what to do, do I let them get on with it or should I try to explain my above concerns at the risk of pushing them together? Why not do both? It's natural to be concerned. You might also ...
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What's an appropriate age for a Swiss Army Knife?

This one may be a challenge - UK laws on knife carrying are not age-related (although there is an age limit on purchasing knives) but they are related to size of knife and to some extent what you are ...
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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

In addition to the pretty good answers already provided, I'd like to point out that GTA 5 is not in any way suitable for a 10 year old. There is one specific mission that gives a very good example why ...
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Is a Rubik's cube an appropriate gift for a 15-month-old child?

I would not recommend this as a toy, but for a different reason. As a brightly colored geometric shape a Rubik's cube would probably be appealing to small children, and at that age they will likely ...
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What's an appropriate age to involve kids in life changing decisions?

Whatever you and your spouse decide to do, please please do not ask your kids to decide who their primary guardian will be or what their living arrangements will be. I found this approach terrible ...
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How do I handle a 10 year old girl "in love"?

How do I deal with the situation? How do I discipline her? I think a lot of people are equating "discipline" to "punishment", when that isn't necessarily the case. Unfortunately ...
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What's an appropriate age for a Swiss Army Knife?

I am a scout leader from Germany. We allow children to carry pocket knives as young as 8, but only under these conditions: Children with "behavior problems" are exempt (at the discretion of their ...
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How to respond to 17 year old daughter going out with a 25 year old man?

Several answers already, but I want to address a couple of your concerns. You are worried about your daughter missing opportunities (travelling, studies). I started dating my wife when she was ...
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Is this normal that my 5 years old kid keep thinking about the bad things

If you have OCD, then this might be the intrusive thoughts of OCD, as there is a genetic component to it. However, diagnosing kids this young is difficult, and it's not at all uncommon that kids with ...
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Why do Heinz's Honey packets say not to give them to children under 12 months?

Honey is not recommended at all for babies under one year of age because of the risk of infant botulism. The risk isn't big, but if it happens, it can be life-threatening. Avoiding honey until the ...
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How can I begin exposing my children to world news?

My personal opinion is that there are no sites I would consider appropriately curated. This is something you should watch with them, discuss with them, and if needed, change channel. I don't know ...
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How to respond to 17 year old daughter going out with a 25 year old man?

The general rule of thumb for age appropriateness is half plus 7. The obligatory XKCD cartoon: 25 and 17 is slightly over. However, generally speaking women mature earlier than men. Assuming your ...
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What's an appropriate age to involve kids in life changing decisions?

I will address only one issue: At roughly what age levels is it appropriate for the kids to have what levels of say in their upbringing? At every age, a child should have a voice about their ...
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How and when should I tell my son that his amazing father isn't his biological father?

My approach is not much different than what I'd suggest for plain vanilla everyday families: Why not supplement the biology part with a discussion of what makes a father a father or the fundamental ...
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How do I handle a 10 year old girl "in love"?

I just found out that my daughter wrote in her diary... How did you find that out? Did she tell you it was written in there? Did you read it when she expects it to not be read? If you allow your ...
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What's an appropriate age to involve kids in life changing decisions?

Children should be involved in, and have input on, life changing things - but while they get an opinion that should be considered they do not get a vote; that is why they are children not adults. You ...
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Why do Heinz's Honey packets say not to give them to children under 12 months?

Botulism spores are one of the very few things that can survive in honey, and even then, they can only do it by becoming totally inactive. In an adult, stomach acid will destroy those spores, and ...
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Is a Rubik's cube an appropriate gift for a 15-month-old child?

There are huge soft 2x2 rubik's cubes for toddlers. Like this one: Jumbo 12157 - Rubik's Baby - My first Cube, Kleinkindspielzeug They are soft and not easily breakable. There is a youtuber called "...
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Why is trying to talk children out of how they feel a bad idea?

The definition of "talking them out of it" you found is slightly off, just enough to lead to the confusion. In this case, the meaning is "convince the child that they are not angry/sad/happy at all!" ...
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Why is trying to talk children out of how they feel a bad idea?

Adding to the other good answers and elaborating a bit on the "why" from the child's perspective: Mirroring The advice is based on the concept of Mirroring in psychology. It means that a ...
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How do I handle a 10 year old girl "in love"?

There is not very much detail here and so it makes it difficult to know exactly why you're worried about this situation. In general, I would not worry. [If it turns out that the boy in question is (a)...
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