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Zero distance in someone’s lap. In an accident baby will become a missile and escape the grip... If the baby is in a properly installed, rated car seat then fine, otherwise how would many parents get babies out of hospital? Make the baby comfortable, have sufficient food, stop for breaks as necessary. Natural is easiest... otherwise you need warm water ...


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Welcome in the world of exhausted parents! The most important thing first: The great news is while right now you can't really see it, it will get better. What you're going through right now won't last. Can you suggest some ways to carv out some free time for ourselves during the day Take turns: You'll have to live with the change the baby brings to your ...


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There is absolutely no reason not to reuse the clothes if they are not stained or otherwise unusable. Check the smell. Wash them carefully with the soap you find best for babies as you would new clothes and check them again to be sure. My babies have been wearing clothes I used to wear as a baby - my mother kept everything in the attic for nearly 30 years! ...


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I'm not speaking from either personal experience (my children were all spaced farther apart) or from academic research in this answer. That being said: I think that "hiding" the breastfeeding will eventually end up making the toddler feel more isolated and excluded by her younger sibling. It will require specifically removing one sibling from another's ...


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If you want to do what is best for your baby, then you should be talking to her pretty much all the time, except when she's asleep. So yes, talk to her when she cries; your voices will let her know she's being heard. Please know that she heard you talking when she was in your uterus. Although the sound is a bit different now, the cadence, rhythm, etc., are ...


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The most common problem with baby boys “leaking” is based on male anatomy. During a diaper change, you’ll typically have the baby on his back. The baby’s little penis may flop every random direction. If it’s pointing upwards when you put the diaper on, there’s a good chance that you get some spillage at the top and a mostly dry diaper, especially if a little ...


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It's not generally ideal to schedule night feedings (unless under a doctor's recommendation). You may want to wake your baby if they go lo longer than 5 hours asleep between feedings during the immediate newborn period, but other than those cases, do wait until your baby signals to be fed overnight. Your nighttime feedings with most likely go one of two ...


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Most sources will state no sooner than 6 months, but it kind of depends on the baby's size. Infants are notoriously poor at regulating body temperature when it comes to environment. They can't dissipate heat as well as older babies, and worse yet, they can't generate heat when cold. Most public pools will be too cold for an infant; there is a very real ...


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As mentioned, a baby should never travel in the car by anything but a child seat that is properly installed (preferably rear-facing). Do not take them out of the seat for any reason while driving: Not to feed, not to console them, not for anything but extreme situations. Always pull over first or find a parking spot. Accidents only require a fraction of a ...


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This is very common. The main thing is not to worry. Most babies lose some of their hair, only to grow more later. And some babies lose all their hair. Your girlfriend could be correct - often it's rubbing on common parts of the head, especially if you always hold them against you the same way, but hormone changes also have a part to play.


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Working in the same room your son sleeps is more an issue of the sounds and light of your monitor you make while working rather than the electromagnetic radiation. If possible, it'd be good for nap times if you could work in a different location. If working in your bedroom is all you've got, try using a sound machine to mask the noises of you working. The ...


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Travelling with newborns is not the safest option, but it can be done: Carrying the baby in your wife's (or anybody else's) lap should be avoided at all costs. If you e.g. brake just a bit harder than usual, the baby could slip from the lap and get hit in the head etc. Get yourself a proper baby seat. It doesn't need to be expensive or new, but it needs to ...


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It's pretty common for infants to have a 'favorite side', and it may resolve on its own. You can encourage this development by placing nice things to look at on the disfavored side to entice the baby to spend more time looking in that direction. You may also have success in alternating which end of the bassinet or crib you place baby's head at, since some ...


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Your child will learn the language from you, so if you are only somewhat capable in a language, your child will also become only somewhat capable. Since your are living in an English speaking country, I would suggest you teach her English as a mother tongue as she will not be able to become fluent in your own mother tongue without an outside tutor. And such ...


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I'm not going to address the wider question, but you are not going to notice if your baby stops breathing unless you are actively watching their chest move, and possibly not even then. Here is one harrowing account from a father who's son died in his lap while he did email. Staring at your baby's chest for hours on end is unlikely to work either: studies ...


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My wife, almost two weeks after a C-section, is able to do practically all work related to baby care. Only baths are left to me, and even then she does assist me. I'd like to think we do 50% of the work, but actually she probably does more. I am currently on a leave and soon I will go to work - and during the day she will have to take care of our baby on her ...


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One of the main reasons a newborn (particularly such a new newborn!) dislikes diaper changes is the fact that they're cold. Really cold. Normally they have this nice warm layer on them that keeps them warm and cozy, and you're ripping that off of them with nary a care for their ... well, I'm sure that's what the newborn thinks, anyway. To avoid this, you ...


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a woman should biologically feel some form of affection towards these small humans No. That's a social rule, not a biological one. You're not alone. Some women adore all babies and children. My kid's teacher wholeheartedly enjoys spending her days surrounded by dozens of young children. Some women are pretty into their own kids, but find other (or too ...


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We did a 9 hour haul from Germany to Denmark with a 6 weeks old and a one year old. No issues or problems. A few things to consider Two adults makes this A LOT easier. You can take turns driving, have a conversation and there are always an available pair of hands for the kids. Pack properly: water, food, books, toys, books on tape, diaper, change of cloth, ...


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As a rule, plans made for parenting strategy last until about 5 minutes after birth. Don't worry. Your little tyke will let you know when it needs feeding, and your parental instincts will kick in. You will be awake within seconds of the smallest murmur. Feed and change, go back to sleep. You just get used to it. This phase doesn't last long, after all.


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As a parent of 3 kids, now ranging from 12 to nearly 18, I can tell you - you will not get time for your hobbies/passions for some years! Family, friends or babysitters are essential if you want to make time for each other/yourselves, but even those will really only help you relax in the first couple of years. Getting a good chunk of time requires your ...


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You should check for feces between the labia and wipe any globules away as needed. Infections can and will arise if stuff is allowed to sit there. You can gently spread the labia to get a good look and make sure there isn't anything "hiding" in a fold. Soaps and other kinds of cleansers can also create problems so use a moistened cotton ball or swab ...


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Blowing on the face is a common trick. It triggers a reflex to hold the breath for a short moment. That stops the crying, and can also be used when washing the child's face etc. I am not aware of any consequences of this, neither positive nor negative.


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Sleep deprivation comes with being a parent of a baby, however you will cope. It isn't fun but you will get through it. Although you cannot avoid it here are some general recommendations: Get your baby on a routine: Every parent I know that tried baby-led sleep patterns gave up and instituted a routine, because they really help get your child on a sleep ...


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No, nothing is too late. I sense some very important things in your favour: Your milk supply matches her needs. Two weeks is pretty early, even in "standard" cases BF is still not that established at that age. You seem determined to make this work and willing to ask for help -an excellent attitude. Without more details, it's hard to give precise advice, ...


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I'd suggest you just try it. Whatever works, works. You'll notice soon enough what makes her calm down, and what doesn't. I don't think there are rules to this, and not all babies respond to exactly the same things, even though some things generally work better than others. A lot depends on why the baby is crying. If she's hungry, most likely nothing except ...


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The current scientific consensus is: No. It is not necessary to sterilize bottles, not even for newborns. The only exception are bottle teats made of rubber - the rubber can become porous over time, so occasional sterilization is recommended. However, most bottle teats are made of silicone, which is not affected. The primary safety measure to take with ...


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Wow!! I feel for you. Being a new parent is exhausting, nerve-wracking and a little confusing = it really does take a village. To anwer the question about what your wife can or cannot do, I'll share my experience (though everyone's is different and I don't know which complications she had etc, etc) I had a c-section and was up and moving around doing ...


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Is it too early to sleep train and keep her up more during the day? In brief: Yes, it is far too early. Parents and children have a circadian rhythm that is governed by hormones like cortisol, melatonin (especially), and others. That means basically that you sleep at night and awake in the morning. It's a fine tuned cycle, and it varies with individuals. ...


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First, congratulations on becoming a parent! As you have (or will soon) discovered, babies are work. A lot of work. And usually when you'd rather be sleeping or cleaning the baby puke out of your hair. Babies are demanding, have no patience and are vocal about their needs. It can burn anyone out dealing with them constantly. And as you've argued, ...


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