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Can "The Giving Tree" be explained in a way that isn't an unhealthy lesson?

This book works differently for people at different stages of their lives. The lesson for young children reading this book, I believe, is about unconditional love. Children need to know and trust ...
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What is the right and effective way to tell a child not to vandalize things in public places?

Of all your suggestions, only one really says “it’s not ok to kick the dinosaurs”. The other are sending a different message, which can be summed up as Don’t do it when [some else with more power] ...
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Teaching my 10 year old son appropriate bathroom manners

Am I the only person who thinks that it's entirely trivial for the next person to use the toilet to correct the seat position for their needs? I don't see why this is worth complaining about. Just ...
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How can I make my kids passionate in science while being religious?

Rest assured that science and religion are not neccessarily a contradiction. Some of the best scientists of past and present time were deeply religious - and came from different religious backgrounds. ...
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How can I begin exposing my children to world news?

My personal opinion is that there are no sites I would consider appropriately curated. This is something you should watch with them, discuss with them, and if needed, change channel. I don't know ...
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Is it normal for a child just turned 3 to be able to read and how do I develop and nurture his intelligence?

Speaking from experience1, your child is advanced, very likely gifted - but it happens. Remember that “normal” is just a statistical distribution and doesn’t imply any value or sense of wrong or right....
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How should I teach my child to help but also do things on her own?

I would try modeling the behavior you would like to see in her. I suspect you are correct in your assumption that she learned her current behavior from observing you. Which means you will probably ...
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What are the advantages and disadvantages of letting the child experience the effects of his decisions?

Most parents try to do it that way when they can. The main thing you're missing is that children live in the moment, to a much larger degree than most adults realize until they have kids of their own....
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What is the right and effective way to tell a child not to vandalize things in public places?

Something that hasn't been addressed is why the child is kicking the dinosaur. They are bored with the park or this exhibit ("Hey, don't damage the exhibits. If you're bored let's go and see the ...
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when to start reading books to a child and attempt teaching reading?

In our experience, the main reading-promoting activities at this early age were limited to reading aloud to children. We used good quality books with lots of pictures, often board books. Having the ...
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How to make my 3-year-old stop skipping one of the numbers when counting?

It's a common issue at around that age, both ours had issues with '6' for some reason and skipped from 5 to 7 and the younger one later got stuck with '13' for a short while. The best thing to do is ...
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How early should you teach children how to code?

This is very dependent on the child, as are all questions of this sort, but 5-6 is certainly possible. My children, now eight and nine, were first exposed to programming in a meaningful way at around ...
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How can I make my kids passionate in science while being religious?

I personally don't think that science is inimical to faith and faith-based values. It can be a magnificent way to explore the intricacies of creation. You're probably versed in Ancient Near Eastern ...
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How early should you teach children how to code?

I'm a fan of building up a programming mindset without even needing to use a computer. One good example is the peanut-butter sandwich game. You pretend to be a robot, while the child gives you ...
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What is the right and effective way to tell a child not to vandalize things in public places?

Just to add to what other posters have said, this can be a good time to give a child a lesson in empathy as well. Something like "Well, that dinosaur belongs to someone. Would you like it if ...
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Teaching my 10 year old son appropriate bathroom manners

As a person with ADD, I can tell you what helps with me. Post-it notes! Put a post-it note or a bright colored sheet on the wall reminding everyone (don't single him out) to "Please close the toilet ...
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Teaching my 10 year old son appropriate bathroom manners

To agree with several of the above non-answers, and actually answer the question, as posted: the healthiest, smartest, most sensical means of teaching him to either not raise the toilet seat or to at ...
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How early should you teach children how to code?

The more people know about computers the later they appear to let their kids near them. This Business Insider article has a few observations and quotes: Gates, for example, didn't let his kids use ...
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When to teach children to use search engines?

One of our jobs as parents is teaching; using the internet to help with this task is fine, but before you do, teach them how to be safe when they're online. Teach your kids about online safety (...
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When to teach children to use search engines?

Before the days of the internet, parents tended to have a kind of God-like image in their child's mind and would be trusted to provide the right answers on a range of random topics that the child ...
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How can we reduce the likelihood of repeating our parents' mistakes?

If you're aware of the mistakes, and conscious of when you make them, that's a big step already. The next step is to develop alternatives, and have them ready, so that as soon as you recognize a ...
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How can I convince my son to try to ride without training wheels?

3.5 is on the young end to learn to ride a bike, but not impossible certainly. The challenge a 3.5 year old will have is pedaling strength; you can help a lot here by having a lighter bike (most of ...
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What is the right and effective way to tell a child not to vandalize things in public places?

Quietly and politely, tell the child to please not kick the dino and give the best possible (age-appropriate) reason. Something like "Please don't kick the dino. The dinos in the park are not for ...
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Is non-professional homeschooling detrimental to children?

Do children homeschooled by those without professional teacher training or specific teaching qualifications have worse outcomes in life than those schooled by professional, trained, and qualified ...
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Can "The Giving Tree" be explained in a way that isn't an unhealthy lesson?

The lesson in The Giving Tree is not from the tree's point of view. It is from the boy's. The reader will more immediately identify with the boy, after all (if a child, in particular) - and so the ...
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When to teach children to use search engines?

My son is 8, and I haven't taught him to use google yet, despite him having his own computer, but I have shown him many times. My main reason is that getting a good result on a general search engine ...
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Is my son's school ignoring his intelligence?

I'm a parent governor in a UK primary school, with a daughter just started reception and another daughter higher up the school, who was reading before she started reception (so I've been in a similar ...
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How can I begin exposing my children to world news?

If you don't start teaching them yourself, they will learn it from their friends. If you wait until you think they're"ready", you'll wait until it's too late. The news media has always been subject ...
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Teaching my 10 year old son appropriate bathroom manners

Be consistent. Rather than making the toilet a "special case", focus on teaching your child to close things he's opened when he's done with them. If you open the fridge, you close the door when you'...
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