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My wife wants a homosexual child

I would strongly suggest some couple therapy before you bring a child into this situation. I worked in a therapy clinic and saw the outcome of overbearing/unreasonable mothering (and fathering). ...
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My wife wants a homosexual child

Perhaps I have some expertise on this, as someone who has raised one straight and two queer children... You don't get to decide that. She doesn't either. Yes, you can indeed try not to overly gender ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

Sit them down for a big, honest conversation. Don't make it about what you want, though. Make it about what they want, and especially ask them, honestly, how they think what they are doing right now ...
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Am I interrupting my husband's parenting?

I was the oldest of six kids. My youngest brother was born when I was 18. By the time I escaped to college, I knew all about babies. I could change a diaper in fifteen seconds flat (well, okay, the ...
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Is it ok for parents to kiss and romance with each other while their 2- to 8-year-old child watches?

From everything that I can find online, it is a positive thing to show affection in front of your kids. It models affection to your children, and it makes them feel more secure https://www....
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How to tell my parents I want to marry my girlfriend

First up; your parents can protest and disallow it all they want, you're an adult and there is nothing they can really do to stop you from marrying whomever you want and living wherever you want. So ...
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What would you do if you are pretty sure your son is heading towards a disastrous marriage?

If my daughter came home with a nice person or clearly the wrong guy: I'd ask her conversationally what she sees in him and I'd listen. I'd have him over to our home as often as possible -- dinner, a ...
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Why is trying to talk children out of how they feel a bad idea?

The definition you've likely found was the definition of talking something out. "to settle something by discussion: Let's not get mad. Let's just talk it out. Please, let's talk out this matter calmly....
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What do I do about my mom setting her expectations too high?

You have lots of options. Here's one: At dinner one evening, you can say you have a serious announcement. Then tell your mom and dad that you're pregnant. You're really sorry you slipped up, but it ...
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My wife wants a homosexual child

Is my wife overreacting or am I wrong here? I don't think you're wrong. It seems reasonable - even admirable - to raise a child encouraging any beneficial interests they have regardless of gender-...
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How can I be more sympathetic towards my children when they are injured?

I do not like my behavior. Parenting is difficult at every stage for somewhat different reasons. Children aren't miniature adults, especially at your child's age. They don't think or process like ...
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My partner's pregnant with her second child (my first) and shows no emotions. How can I help bring that excitement out of her?

Pregnancy and how it affects the mother is an intense stew of physical and hormonal changes. Each child may come with a different "stew" recipe. Sounds like the father of her original child didn't ...
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Are my parents right to give me a severe punishment for being brought home by the police drunk? I am 16

Your parents are being lenient I'm not sure where you live, but in the State of NJ, the penalties for underage drinking are a fine between $500-$1,000 and imprisonment for up to 6 months. You've ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

OK, this may take some time but it could get you a bit of freedom. Tell your parents that you want to get a job when you turn 16. Use several excuses like, "I want to save up for college," "To get a ...
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Am I interrupting my husband's parenting?

If by interrupting, you mean undermining your husband's parenting, yes, you are doing that. It doesn't mean that your husband is always right or that your approach is wrong; it only means that you ...
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I'm doing work that should get me some money, but my parents don't pay me for the work I do and I don't like that. How should I deal with this?

TL:DR: Life isn't fair; someday soon, you will be the one supporting yourself and deciding how to spend your time. Until then, try to negotiate the best deal you can for yourself while meeting some of ...
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My husband, who is my teen daughter's step father feels bad that he can't have a closer relationship with my daughter

Kids love their parents. This is true the vast majority of the time, even when the parent is abusive and manipulative to an extraordinary degree. Therefore it is extremely difficult to form a close ...
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How to work-at-home given no daycare

We're fortunate to have somewhat older children, who need only short attention bursts followed by longer periods of working independently. However, with a 14 month old, you're not going to get that! ...
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How to tell my parents I want to marry my girlfriend

I really like everything about Erik's answer. The only things I would add is that you have time. If the relationship is right, time will not harm it. Take your time, finish your education and let ...
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How to protect my child from friend's over protective father?

Can you talk to your son's friend? Honestly, I think the belief that you can't judge another person's parenting is not true. Certainly there are things where it doesn't much matter - table manners, ...
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Convince my wife that the flu vaccine is good for our child

It's possible your wife is mixing the Hygiene Hypothesis with vaccinations. They're unrelated; the Hygiene Hypothesis is related specifically to children getting a particular virus (RSV) before they ...
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Why do I have negative feelings about my mother?

I don't think you hate your Mother as strongly as you think you do. We always get angry with those that are near us. It seems to be the easiest way to vent. I remember being 16 and the reason why is ...
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Daughters refusing to go home with my ex their mother

Your priority has to be the safety of your children. They are not safe living with their Mom. So if at all possible you need to get them moved in with you. You don't say what kind of a place you now ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

I really don't know what to do anymore, I just don't think that I can live like this any longer. First of all, I want to assure you that you most certainly can live like this, even though it might ...
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Is it ok to let my 3 month old drop her head a few inches during 'tummy time'?

This is the result of a normal developmental stage, perhaps made more noticeable in your case by having a baby who started rolling earlier than average, and your baby isn't likely to get severely hurt ...
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How do my husband and I get over our fear of having another difficult baby?

I wonder if everyone goes through this and I'm just weak and bad at coping. No, you're not weak, and you're not bad at coping. For most parents who have had a traumatic first child, what you're going ...
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How to tell my parents I want to marry my girlfriend

You're twenty and you're trying to cement rocky relations between your parents and your long-distance girlfriend. Admittedly it's not an easy task, even at my stage of life. First of all, there are ...
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My wife wants a homosexual child

Oh dear, this is going to end up in tears. First you need understanding, then you can argue. I would suggest to discuss with your wife the mass of documentation (articles, social media posts, ...
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At what age should I tell my daughter that her real mother is dead?

I cannot really give first-hand advice, never having been in a similar situation. However, I would think the basic approach should be the same as for an adopted child. Basically: don't push ...
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