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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me

Kids that age learn a lot by imaginative play. It's how they make sense of the world and experiment with different responses to events. Pretending to be an adult is very common. Playing along is a ...
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Should you pick a baby up everytime it cries?

Babies cry. Maybe it helps to know what an infant's 'normal" crying pattern is. Fuss/cry durations peak in the first 2 months (peaking average: 6 weeks), are highest in evenings, and decrease ...
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What to do about my toddler's fixation on the smell of her mother’s hair?

Your daughter is exhibiting self-soothing behavior, usually more pronounced when the child is tired or falling asleep. From the AAP's healthychildren.org page on common childhood habits: Their ...
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When a baby cries, should we speak to it?

If you want to do what is best for your baby, then you should be talking to her pretty much all the time, except when she's asleep. So yes, talk to her when she cries; your voices will let her know ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?

This is a difficult problem for parents because we hate making our children cry, but it seems to me that you use 'the naughty place' / timeout and that can be effective. I don't call it 'the naughty ...
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Baby fights to get out of arms, cries when I put him down

Babies are not good at figuring out what is bothering them -- simply that something is. Being tired, in particular, leads to a general crankiness that is difficult to alleviate. Since your son doesn't ...
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Should you pick a baby up everytime it cries?

You can not spoil a young baby. Being born is a very discomforting experience: the world is cold and full of harsh lights and loud noises. The only comfort you know as a baby is being fed or cuddled. ...
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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me

It tells just how much he sees you as role model. Instead of seeing this as abnormal you should be the role model he deserves. Other than that do understand that this behaviour will stop after some ...
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Is there any way to limit distress when diaper changing for newborns?

One of the main reasons a newborn (particularly such a new newborn!) dislikes diaper changes is the fact that they're cold. Really cold. Normally they have this nice warm layer on them that keeps ...
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Is it safe to blow on a baby's face?

Blowing on the face is a common trick. It triggers a reflex to hold the breath for a short moment. That stops the crying, and can also be used when washing the child's face etc. I am not aware of any ...
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Why aren't pacifiers used to stop infants from crying in airplanes?

Pacifiers aren't magic. If something else is bothering a baby, a pacifier only calms them for a short while. This is useful, for example, if you need a baby to calm down for a few minutes while you ...
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When a baby cries, should we speak to it?

I'd suggest you just try it. Whatever works, works. You'll notice soon enough what makes her calm down, and what doesn't. I don't think there are rules to this, and not all babies respond to exactly ...
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Why do babies fight sleep and how to calm them down?

This is an interesting article on the topic: http://www.secretsofbabybehavior.com/2010/05/why-do-some-babies-hate-being-drowsy.html The article has this to say on why some babies hate being drowsy: -...
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Baby fights to get out of arms, cries when I put him down

Yup, it's normal. Basically, he feels rubbish because he's tired. So he's struggling and crying because he doesn't know how to stop feeling rubbish, and is trying to find a non-rubbish position. But ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?

It sounds like what you have is a breakdown in communication. It's especially difficult around this age since she is trying to make use of her newly acquired language skills. Look at it from her ...
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What to do about my toddler's fixation on the smell of her mother’s hair?

"If my wife will not allow her to do so, she will keep crying and crying without stop." Sadly, I fear that this may be indicative that she has learnt that by crying, she can have her way; and I ...
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Should you pick a baby up everytime it cries?

We carry lots of evolutionary baggage with us. For millions of years, children have been sitting on their mothers' hips all day. Lying around somewhere on their own for a lengthy period of time would ...
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My 4-year-old refers to himself as me

I'm not a parent myself, but two points: 1) You could argue that no, it's not just 'cute'. Imagining yourself in someone else's position is the very basis of empathy and all that is worthwhile in ...
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How long did it take your baby to like daycare?

Crying at drop-off and pick-up is more of a separation anxiety issue, and it's totally normal. It has nothing to do with whether she likes daycare. What you really need to know is whether she cries ...
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Son cries intensively every morning when I bring him to day care, but he ostensibly likes it there

I'm at a loss as to why he's crying in the morning, when he apparently really likes it there. Because toddlers are highly compressed balls of contradictory emotions which change on a dime and all of ...
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Is it safe to blow on a baby's face?

If you are blowing softly, it could hardly harm the child. Anything under x knots should be fine, where x is a reasonable value determined by humourless scientists.
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How do I get my 7 month old niece to trust me?

Some kids are outgoing. Others, not so much. Some get scared by facial hair. Some get scared when it goes away. I can't say for sure why your niece is nervous around you, but I can take a guess. ...
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Does "Crying it Out" with a 9 month old make sense when in a hotel for a few days?

I think you're right in your concerns about confusing your baby. It's a good idea to wait until you get back from your trip to start sleep training unless you are going the "Extinction with parental ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son stop crying over the most simple things?

I am not an expert on ADHD and can not emphasize enough that what I am about to say is not easy to do in practice without addressing ADHD or any other emotional/cognitive condition. As with ...
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Is it bad practice for a parent to tell their children when they have a right/reason to cry?

There's a difference between an emotion and its expression. Crying in children is a social signal, "I need someone urgently to fix my problem." Parents who tell their children not to cry about ...
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When a baby cries, should we speak to it?

She is an infant. At this point she knows two things: I am content, I am not content. If the baby is crying soothe it. If that means talking, talk. If that means touching, touch. You will quickly ...
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My newborn does not want to sleep at night

That sounds relatively normal. Note that a newborn has no concept of day and night yet - at least in the sense of what is a time for activity or sleeping. Even older babies that have good "sleeping ...
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Sleeping Less with Merlín Magic suit?

First, sleep deprivation (a nightmare-while-awake) is a real problem for every parent with every new infant, so trying to get the baby to sleep more is a real priority for parents. So your desire is ...
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Should you pick a baby up everytime it cries?

Babies lack the necessary development to communicate by most other means, so to express that they have a problem they typically start crying. Luckily the checklist of, "What can it mean?" is pretty ...
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How to cope with a crying infant in the car during short trips?

Some ideas you may not have tried for the baby: Maybe he's getting too much air, or too little. Check to make sure sun isn't getting in his eyes. Try running your errands at different times of the ...
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