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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl
I think it's time to let go of those reins and I honestly think you'll get a very good reaction. I'd even go as far as to say don't restrict her bedtime at all. Granted, rules should be in place like:
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What to do about my toddler's fixation on the smell of her mother’s hair?
Your daughter is exhibiting self-soothing behavior, usually more pronounced when the child is tired or falling asleep. From the AAP's healthychildren.org page on common childhood habits:
Their ...
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Precautions against sleepwalking danger
I'm not going to address the "should you have a gate" or not, because it's not relevant here.
When you're a grandparent, one of the hardest things you will do is to recognize that your ...
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How can we 'gracefully' stop taking our 5yo for a late-night toilet visit every night?
L is now so habituated to weeing at this time of night that she
basically doesn't wake up at all during the process. When we talk to
her about it, she denies any knowledge of it happening at all......
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Can an infant choke on spit-up?
According to NICHD: No.
Myth: Babies who sleep on their backs will choke if they spit up or
vomit during sleep.
Fact: Babies automatically cough up or swallow fluid that they spit up
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?
Children have all kinds of reasons for feeling more comfortable in the presence of their parents at night. I can respect that. But you need your sleep and your time with your wife.
One option people ...
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Feeding a newborn throughout the night without letting him cry
It's not generally ideal to schedule night feedings (unless under a doctor's recommendation). You may want to wake your baby if they go lo longer than 5 hours asleep between feedings during the ...
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What are reasons for setting a teen bedtime
It sounds like there are a couple things going on here, from your answers to the comments.
You think that due to social norms, she should fit in and go to bed when society deems acceptable.
You'd ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl
The main thing is that your daughter is getting sufficient total sleep (not time in bed, but time asleep, and restorative deep sleep, not fitful sleep). Not getting enough sleep has been considered an ...
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What are reasons for setting a teen bedtime
Maintaining a consistent sleep schedule is important for your health. It's important for your overall health and for the health and quality of your sleep in the long-term.
Outside of the "my house, ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl
Your brain tells you when to go to sleep by producing melatonin. Melatonin is what makes you feel tired, and prepares you for sleep.
The brain hormone melatonin is produced later at night for teens ...
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Can an infant choke on spit-up?
I think CF13's answer is spot on. I just want to add a little bit of information to support/expand on it.
I assume by "choke", you mean a significant event, like death or aspiration pneumonia, not ...
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My 9-month old baby only sleeps in our arms
I don't really agree with Ferber, but I think there are parts of the approach that can be adapted without as much of the "make your baby cry, and usually the parent also" portion. It's ...
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Should I let a 1 month old to sleep on her belly under surveillance?
I'm not going to address the wider question, but you are not going to notice if your baby stops breathing unless you are actively watching their chest move, and possibly not even then. Here is one ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl
I'm reading a book right now called "Why we Sleep". (I strongly advise everyone to read it too.)
It has a whole section on the sleep changes we go through from infancy to old-age.
One thing it very ...
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Precautions against sleepwalking danger
As a former sleepwalker, I will also help assuage your fears of safety. The most common form of sleepwalking in children almost always involves following routine actions in a familiar place. This is ...
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3-year-old boy co-sleeps: kicks and hits us in sleep
I'd say that's entirely normal at that age, and not a lot you can do about it (short of getting him his own space). Any time our 3 year old comes into our bed (after a nightmare or just having ...
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How can we 'gracefully' stop taking our 5yo for a late-night toilet visit every night?
We recently crossed this bridge with our 5 year old. My wife and I miscommunicated who was taking her for a pee, neither of us did and there was no accident. After figuring out what happened the ...
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Feeding a newborn throughout the night without letting him cry
As a rule, plans made for parenting strategy last until about 5 minutes after birth.
Don't worry. Your little tyke will let you know when it needs feeding, and your parental instincts will kick in. ...
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What are reasons for setting a teen bedtime
In my experience, teens have short-sighted priorities and acts mostly from what they desire now. So let's look at it from the teen's perspective: Why should your teen get up early?
It keeps her sleep ...
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My 9-month old baby only sleeps in our arms
Your baby is used to being soothed to sleep by you. This is normal (and I believe healthy) in infants and young babies. At some point, however, it's important for babies to learn to self-soothe at ...
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Is it common practice to keep a 13-day-old awake for longer during the day, so she will sleep longer at night?
Is it too early to sleep train and keep her up more during the day?
In brief: Yes, it is far too early.
Parents and children have a circadian rhythm that is governed by hormones like cortisol, ...
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Why does my 12-month-old baby gravitate towards my side at night, even though he prefers his mother overall?
You're probably heavier, make a bigger dent in the mattress and he follows gravity towards you. That's my hypothesis.
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How can I help my 9 year old son fall asleep and stop stuttering?
You need to have your son assessed by a licensed Speech-Language Pathologist. It is important that your son gets treatment for his stuttering before the age of 11, regardless of the cause. Studies ...
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Should I allow my 19 year old son to sleep during the day?
Your son is 19, and about to leave for University. It's time to stop "enforcing" things for the most part, and start letting him figure out things for himself. You're not going to have any ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?
Our daughter is three years old now and has slept in our bed for about two and a half years. Even now, when she wakes up in the middle of the night, she continues her night at our bed. And like yours, ...
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What to do about my toddler's fixation on the smell of her mother’s hair?
"If my wife will not allow her to do so, she will keep crying and crying without stop."
Sadly, I fear that this may be indicative that she has learnt that by crying, she can have her way; and I ...
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3yr old refuses to sleep without me
My 3 year old developed this habit (needing us to sit in the room with him while he fell asleep). Having us in there was a double-edged sword, in that it would keep him from screaming (and waking his ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?
Many people around the world sleep with their children. I am not saying you should, but that children are not as disturbed as you are by sex. They seem to ignore it or sleep through it. The point is ...
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Three-year-old back from 3-night hospital stay
One of the most valuable pieces of information I've picked up from parenting books comes during the introductory chapters of "The Whole-Brain Child" by Dan Siegel and Tina Bryson. In it, they tell the ...
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