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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
When I was around your son's age, my mother was worried I was playing too many video games. Her strategy was to get me involved in other after-school activities, like theater, which I ended up loving....
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
He's a 10 year old boy. He's going to display addicting behavior. I and my friends at that age had a shoebox full of baseball cards, and all we talked about was the big league baseball team for our ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
Jeez...
Well, 10 years old may be old enough to explain the monster of capitalism and the design of everything around as a scam to nickel and dime you into a life of scraping by just to make someone ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
Although my previous answer is highly rated, the recent edits to the question have changed it dramatically, so this new answer is targeted to the edited question.
Given the smallness of your ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
Up front, I'm not a parent, so take my parenting advice with a good handful of salt.
I'm a software developer, I've worked on games very much like Clash of Clans for a number of years and can safely ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
There's so much going on here, I don't know where to start.
How is an 10 year old able to spend money online at all? This is one problem. There's no way he should be able to do this without you ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
I think the key here is to understand what you're trying to accomplish, in the short term and in the long term.
In the short term, you're trying to avoid harm to your son. You'd like to ensure his ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
Video games have become increasingly addictive as developers seek to maintain revenue streams. There are companies dedicated to optimizing in-game purchase prices to maximize in-game revenue. What ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
I had the same problem with my two kids, one of them is 11 years old. So what I did was to install a parental control software on his cell phone, and he now has only 3 hours a day (between 9 am and ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
Remove the temptation, which it seems like you've already done.
Then give him an alternative.
Get him involved in band, or drama, or sports, or student government. Join the Boy Scouts, learn about ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
I don't want my son to play these games because they change him in a way I find alarming.
I have sons around the age of your boy as well. They all play clash of clans, too, and I've noticed the same ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
Honestly, I think limiting him in any way will only make him increasingly more irritable, antisocial, and resentful of the decisions you're making for him. As an avid gamer myself, my parents severely ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
Your question is one that more parents should be asking. However, the focus oughtn't be on that your son is "missing out", or that you have wing-clipped him, but rather that you have helped him so he ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
block his ability to install apps on the phone, uninstall all games, lock it down
he's 10. Why does he need the ability to do more than communicate (with you) on his phone? He will survive not ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
You already did the right thing - blocked him from getting more of the drug. The other answers are correct, this is an addiction and the people making these games are intentionally making it addictive,...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
This should be a refreshing answer from a "child" 's perspective instead of a parent's.
Everyone, especially young people, needs peer. If with certain games is the only way your son could get ...
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How to deal with excluding my son from the favourite activity of his peers?
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Learn from the game how your son's brain works, use that knowledge for outstanding goals and convince his friend's parents when it works.
Learn from that game. These games understand ...
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