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Helping your child deal with being bullied or dealing with your child who is exhibiting bullying behavior.

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My son asks his mother not to write to teacher, should you keep his wishes?

I live in Japan and discipline is all controlled by the school teacher. My son goes to the local normal state elementary school. One boy's bad behavior is to block him from entering the classroom. We ...
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How do we help our 6 year old son with dangerous behaviors?

Our son has been making some really bad choices lately and we don't know how to help him anymore. A few weeks ago he was playing with his new multitool from scouts but was running in the yard with it ...
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Handling bullying in neigbourhood playgroup

Our street is home to a group of kids varying in age from 7 to 11 who play together in varying composition on a regular basis. The play is usually healthy and fun. They play catch, build huts, play ...
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Raising a bully proof child

My son is not nearly school-age, but my husband and I have been doing some thinking about problems modern schools face. Bullying is unfortunately one of them. How do you raise your child making sure ...
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Teen displays bullying behavior towards his siblings, and also towards my kids, how to handle?

We have a family friend stay with us. She has 4 kids. Two teenage boys (17 and 14) and two younger kids (8 yo boy and 6 yo girls). All kids except the 17 year old has been diagnosed with ADHD. The 14 ...
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Why should/not a child or teenager report an incident in school to attempt to stop the adverse behavior of another?

Say a student grabs another in an inappropriate way (i.e., lewd or malicious). Should the victim report the incident to a trusted adult? Apparently, many are against reporting lewd deviant behavior ...
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How do I deal with my son being a bully to his brother?

So, first things first; I am a step-dad. I have known the boys (ages 6 and 8 - lets call them Tim and Robert, respectively) for about 18 months now, and they do look up to me as a father figure (...
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How to enable child to deal with name calling?

My 5 year old wears prescription glasses for astigmatism and they are helping him immensely and he keeps them on 90% of his waking hours. From time to time I appreciate he 'helping his eyes to see ...
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acting instead of the teacher against bullying

I live in Israel. Here bullying is not as much on the radar as it is in the United States. For example, there don't seem to be special "bullying policies" in the schools. In fact, when I ...
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Earning your kid's trust and getting them to confide in you and "complain" about getting bullied

How can one get their kid to trust them and confide that they are getting bullied when the kid knows the parent is dead serious, earnest, direct and will vigorously seek to resolve the matter with the ...
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How can I deal with stealing at school (by other kids)?

My 5-year-old has just started kindergarten (Australia). Today he came back home and said another bigger child stole a toy he was playing with (a beyblade). "He is such a bully, dad - he just ...
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Grandson is 7 he uses his Karate on his 3 yr old sister. Is 3 yr old too young for self-defense?

7 yr old grandson has been In karate about 4 classes now. He used what he learned on my 3 yr granddaughter.I think he needs to learn when to use what he learns. His mother lets him get away with ...
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My 3 and half year old boy is constantly being bullied. How worried should I be?

My 3 and half year old boy is constantly being bullied at daycare. They hit him, call him names, climb on him and harass him. I am doing everything I can to stop this, and I will continue to do so ...
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Kind of punishment appropriate [closed]

Today while at work I received a call from school.My stepson had put a chemical in another kids food. That kid was bullying my stepson really bad from day 1 of school. Fortunately the chemical wasnt ...
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How to help our 3-year-old deal with continuously missing clothes and bad behavior from another kid in the nursery?

My 3-year-old daughter has been going to nursery for a year now. We live in Denmark. Her clothes began disappearing in the day care (first a dress, then a jacket). And she was saying the name of one ...
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How to help our 2.5-year-old daughter deal with an abusive 5-year-old boy?

In the Kindergaden, our 2.5-year-old daughter has periodic confrontations with a 5-year-old boy, who used to hit her on the head with a toy. She is totally scared of him up to not willing to go to the ...
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My 8-year-old daughter was bullied at school. What should I do and advise her to do?

My 8-year-old daughter is a soft and gentle girl. She hardly has any friends at school and most of the time plays with no one at break time. Yesterday a guy in her class hit her, punched her and ...
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How can a long distance parent boost an eight year old's confidence (custodial partner uncooperative/negative?)

I'm a long distance father to an eight year old daughter and a four year old son, whom I see on average most weekends. My daughter has periodically lost her sense of confidence, and recently has ...
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How do I handle my Roommates child bullying my child?

I have been living with roommates since March due to financial situations, my roommate has two children 8 and 9 and my child is 5. At first everything was great but suddenly I find myself stuck in a ...
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Balance between sharing and being taken advantage of [closed]

tl;dr? see bold items... We take my kid to a library reading every week and afterwards all the kids play with toys. He doesn't get a lot of social interaction with kids his age and can be a little ...
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4 year old being hit in school

For the last few days my four year old daughter has been coming home and telling me that she has been hit, and hurt, at school by a couple of boys. We don't hit in our house and she has no siblings ...
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How do you respond to unfriendly parent volunteers at your kid's school?

I'm starting to believe it's due to the past year's issue that we had in my child's class. A kid bullied him, but it was never caught, so the teachers and this parent volunteer (that helped out in the ...
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How can I help my 6 year old boy who has being bullied by one of his classmates?

My son is a very emotional kid. He falls in love/hate with absolutely everyone with ease. Recently one of his classmates started calling him "sh*t head" and he immediately started to believe that. ...
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Boy defending himself from sister, or fight back?

I've read this question, but I don't think that is the solution for my situation. My son is 6 years old, and has a 5 year old step sister. The sister is able to get under his skin very quickly - ...
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Proper approach about teaching to not bully others

This has been in my head for a long time now. As a parent, you want your kids to have self-confidence and to stand up for themselves, because that's the general good. A shy child will have issues ...
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How to help my 6-year-old son, who is being bullied by my roomate's 20-year-old son?

I have 6-year-old twins, a boy and a girl. My son is being tormented by my roomate's 20-year-old son, with very vulgar name calling. This 20-year-old is over 300 lbs and acts out as a very ...
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How to teach my 7-year-old daughter to not be so melodramatic when dealing with bullying and any stressful situation?

I am a single dad with a 7-year-old daughter. Her mum disappeared when she was 2. She had borderline personality disorder. My daughter has some behaviour in common with BPD such as 'black and white' ...
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How to help my 18-year-old who may be the victim of bullying?

My 18-year-old son is in high school and near graduating; like 40 days from now he will graduate. He is so smart and into business and science and gets top grades so I am thankful. He is so respectful ...
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How to help a bullied child (without involving parents or teachers)

A nine year old boy is often the brunt of the jokes of his "friends". The boy is cooperative, kind, and unaggressive and unable to counter the other kids teaming up to play their jokes on him. The ...
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Bully broke my sons bone, what next? [closed]

While at school my son has been getting bullied by a boy. They are both in 6th grade and used to be friends until recently, not the boy bullies him. Today I got a call to come get my son because he ...
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How to deal with kids that bully my kids?

It was made known to me that my daughter's classmate is being racist and is bullying her at school. I've asked the principal to meet with the parent. We've met but the parent is also racist. The ...
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My child spit water in another kid's face - now what?

At a Cub Scout event, my 7-year-old slurped water from a fountain and then squirted at another kid, thinking it was funny. The other child told me about it. My son's reaction has been stoical, he ...
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How to help my son to be himself?

My 8 year old son loves to play with dolls. Anything pink and sparkly lights up his heart, and he will even play dress up from time to time. He gets picked on at school for being friends with mostly ...
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What to do about my son constantly hurting and using demeaning words to my daughter?

I have a 6-year-old son and an 8-year-old daughter. She is constantly being pinched, pushed, shoved, kicked and her hair is pulled by him. This is amongst a consistent flow of put downs and always ...
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The right way to address someone else's child?

The other day I was in line with my twin 3/yo boys and another boy, who was probably 4 or 5, leaped forward and roared in one of their faces. On the way out, they also said he touched their hair. (I ...
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How can I help the Bitten?

In her creche, my 2-year-old daughtergot severely bitten by three different children now with a couple of months between each incident-cluster. The first biter moved to a different creche soon after, ...
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How do I find out who the bully is?

So my kindergartner came home with some scratches that I'm 99% sure could not have been self inflicted. They are at the wrong angle and too deep - I tried to do it to myself and I couldn't and I'd ...
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My 3-year-old-son and his 4-year-old and 8-year-old cousins: He hits the younger and gets picked on by the older one. How to deal with that?

My 3-year-old son is hitting his 4-year-old female cousin. He is bigger than her. I am constantly on him, I have tried time outs, I always make him apologize and give her a hug, which he loves doing ...
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How do I help my son deal with a sexually abusive bully in preschool?

My son (4 1/2) attends a pre-school that we all like very much. He's in a class of kids ranging from 3 to 5. He generally prefers to socialize with the older children. In this particular class, ...
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How to punish my 5 year old bully?

My five year old daughter has been in kindergarten for a whole year. Now she is going into grade 1, but she has become a bully. This past Friday she pushed a kid off the play structure at the school. ...
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How to nurture my child to be fearless

I feel that my two-year-old kid is fearful since birth, or it is my own fear. This question arose when I compared him with other numerous children. As a father, I don't want him to fear anything. I ...
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Pacifism vs. Standing up for yourself

My girlfriend has a 7-year-old who, when angered, sometimes expresses his anger in a physical manner such as hitting. We are explaining its not okay to hit; that he needs to use his words to express ...
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nearly 2 years old son fears characters, dolls and someone knocking on door (bully niece)

Whenever I take my kid to the mall, he fears going to the soft toys section and fears all the dolls, characters, stuffed animals. Another thing I observed is that if we are in our room and somebody ...
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How to get 4 year old to stick up for himself but not turn into a bully?

My 4 year old son is big(tall) for his age but he is very sensitive and can be a bit timid sometimes. Recently I took him to a soft play area and he was just playing and minding his own business when ...
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How to help my son to resolve the problem with school bullies?

My son is 8 and has problems with bullies in school. He is one of youngest and smallest in his class and doesn't react appropriately* when someone bullies him, and I guess that made him the target for ...
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How much should you buy for your child to keep up with their peers?

How should you go about balancing the possessions you buy for your child against peer pressure from other children (particularly at school) and parents? Many parents feel the need for their children ...
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How to protect my children from cyber-bullying

Cyber bullying has been a talking point in the news for the last few years, where stories of children being 'attacked' online in social media causing them to go into depression, sometimes forcing the ...
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How to prevent my 2-year-old from being bullied by our roommate's child?

I have a 2-year-old daughter and I am currently living with a roommate who also has a 2-year-old daughter. My roommate's daughter is constantly bullying my daughter by pulling her hair, biting, ...
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Son bites to defend himself. What can I do?

My 3-year-old son is biting to defend himself. I received a call from the daycare today asking what they should do. My son doesn't bite at home at all, he is only biting at school. For some reason the ...
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How do you address the bullying at the daycare your child tells you about?

My wife and I put our child through daycare. There's a child with issues, who has only been there for a few months. Lately, our daughter has been telling us what that other child has been doing. We ...
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