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4 year old being hit in school
I want to give you as full an answer as I can. My background is that I used to be a school teacher, I have 3 young children who have 5 cousins, and I teach a 5 to 8 year old room at church. My wife ...
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How do I teach toddler hitting is wrong when she sees her parent hitting?
Ummm...let's accept that the parental 'hitting' is playful or in no way abusive (think about that one for a minute). The only way to really reinforce the message you want her to get is to stop the ...
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How to stop 2 year old hitting and kicking in car?
It sounds like your 2 year old doesn't understand that what they are doing is wrong. Or simply doesn't care that what they are doing is wrong. Most 2 year olds aren't interested in reasoning with ...
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Where to turn for help when my 12-year-old granddaughter keeps hitting her 10-year-old sister?
Her mother (my daughter) says she cannot cope with this anymore. We are all at our wits' end.
I can well imagine. I deeply sympathize.
Has anyone dealt with this and what worked? To whom can we ...
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How to stop 5-year-old hitting?
In children this age, I've found that hitting usually is a sign that they don't know how to handle a situation, and hitting is their attempt to solve it and/or express frustration.
Imagine this ...
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Where to turn for help when my 12-year-old granddaughter keeps hitting her 10-year-old sister?
Sibling rivalry tends to be pretty common, and the reason it manifests is that, like everyone else, children have a need for love and when they're competing for it, they can feel a lot of resentment ...
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How to make a 3-year-old stop hitting her 8-month-old brother?
Rather than focusing on how to stop the bad behaviour, try instead to work on the underlying cause.
The older child is clearly resentful and jealous of her new sibling. This is very common at that ...
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4 year old being hit in school
You need to pressure the school to take effective action. Bullying is child abuse. Your daughter has a right to be safe at school.
First, ask for a meeting with the head teacher (I'm assuming that ...
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18 month old hitting siblings
Hitting is done for attention, from frustration, or is an expression of some negative feelings (fatigue or even hunger.) You can keep track in your mind when it tends to happen and try to anticipate ...
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What can I do about a 10-year-old who can't seem to understand that hitting is wrong?
I think Becuzz had a good answer and wonder if you might tell him when he is bothering you. Mention that everyone loses their temper or feels angry but that it is a sign of growing up to learn other ...
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What can I do about a 10-year-old who can't seem to understand that hitting is wrong?
It sounds to me like he doesn't get it because, to him, it's justified. Constantly responding with "because they are annoying" or especially "because they deserve it" tells me that he thinks hitting ...
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4 year old being hit in school
Four year olds have difficulty controlling their emotions, and sometimes this escalates to physical hitting. Nonetheless, you should definitely bring this up with the school to make sure it stops - ...
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What to do about a 21-month-old girl who hits other little kids for no observable reason?
You cannot change this
You've already called out the simplest and most likely explanation for this behavior.
Her mom calls her a bully and says she does it to all little kids but she is too young ...
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My younger brother doesn't know when to stop doing something he finds fun even when it's hurting someone else
Has Gabe been evaluated for his language delay? That can certainly play a part in him not understanding to stop. I have a kid with a language delay who had similar issues. I would put on an ...
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4yr old hitting in daycare
First: this is entirely normal, and not something to be concerned about whatsoever. Children have to learn social behavior, and one of those behaviors is to work out their problems without hitting. ...
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Where to turn for help when my 12-year-old granddaughter keeps hitting her 10-year-old sister?
I'm a big believer in "natural" consequences, and in this case, that would mean separating the girls immediately and consistently if they become physical with each other. "If you cannot ...
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What to do about 3-year-old boy hitting kids at preschool when bored?
This is only one possibility. There isn't enough info to make this claim, but I like to post it just the same.
I might be the case that your son in gifted and this isn't being properly channeled.
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How can 7-year old defend himself when toddler is hitting?
I think your "friend" is well out of order here. I understand people can go over the top with "discipline" but to take the exact opposite approach and not even try to address and correct that kind of ...
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