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Is placing my child in the same class as a close cousin a bad idea?

Outside of competition, do you have any other concerns? I know many parents may prefer splitting up siblings like twins in school so that they can each open up with other students and not isolate ...
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Is placing my child in the same class as a close cousin a bad idea?

Father of 11 year old twins here. Our kids were in the same group in pre-school (ages 0.5 to 6), then in different elementary schools (ages 6-9; there was a girls' school nearby that the girl liked ...
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Teaching children how to fight back

What we have always taught our kids is the following: avoid fights where possible if can't avoid it, try to ensure it happens in view of an adult/teacher and make sure it is obvious you were only ...
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I hate my child, what should I do?

I'll answer by extrapolating, no doubt somewhat naïvely, from my experience as a teacher in my second year. When I began, I found that I loved teaching one or two kids, liked a few, shrugged my ...
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Teaching children how to fight back

This is not an easy topic in the recent political climate. You have three concerns to balance: legal concerns, school rules, and practical considerations. Legally, in the United States, you are ...
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How can I mediate intense sibling rivalry?

Kids aren't very good at listening or telling exactly what they need. This can get confusing/frustrating, especially with two kids try to talk to each other. Solving problems is something that needs ...
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I hate my child, what should I do?

Problematic as it is, I'm glad you're able to put words on this, because you've pinpointed the problem. The child doesn't need to change, but you need to start liking the child. To address your ...
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Hi I am under 14 and i wonder why my parents are fighting so much

We can't tell why your parents are arguing so much; maybe they are worried about money, or work, or something else. These are stressful times for many people. Often when people are stressed they ...
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Is placing my child in the same class as a close cousin a bad idea?

Family or close friends can be a boon or a barrier in school. They can help provide needed confidence, social inclusion and make going to school fun. They can also be a source of stress, keep the ...
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How do I ease the tension after children's fight?

It's pretty natural not to talk after a big fight; if not bound to one house, they would probably go their separate ways. How I would react depends to some degree on what the fight was about, whether ...
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Older sister grabs whatever her younger sister holds

Sounds pretty normal to me, at least up to a point. 3 and 17 months here, and not that different; except the 17 month old stands up to himself a bit better. We handle it in a very straightforward ...
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I want more time with my wife in our blended family, but she says no.

I am not sure what the issue is, whether it's that her kids are sleeping where you two sleep, or that she just goes to bed right away once they're asleep, or something else. Editing your question to ...
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Is placing my child in the same class as a close cousin a bad idea?

Me and my cousin were same class from 3rd Grade to 8th Grade. His home was just walkable for me. We were't not very close in school even though we were in same class. It was a bit awkward when we see ...
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How Do I Stop My Two Kids from Fighting?

I recommend starting with acknowledging and accepting the feelings your siblings have toward each other (or in general). Specific acts do not have to be necessarily accepted. In particular, real ...
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How can I mediate intense sibling rivalry?

Facilitate communication between them. A preschooler especially is still figuring out how to articulate feelings, wants, and needs, but a six year old isn't perfect either. (The hardest part of this ...
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I hate my child, what should I do?

First off, I want to really acknowledge you. This was hard to say I’m guessing. Culture tells us that we are supposed to feel this unwavering no strings attached love for our kids from the moment we ...
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Don't touch my hair!

I would suggest that one other possibility is the shampoo-in-eyes issue. For my oldest, that's a big issue; he is not a 'texture' child to begin with (so the soaping isn't interesting) and getting ...
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How do you feed a picky eater?

Our approach has been to put on our daughter's plate what we expect to count as supper. Then it's up to her whether or not she wants to eat it, but if she does not she cannot move on to any snacking/...
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How do you feed a picky eater?

If what you're making is nutritionally on-target and there are no allergy issues, continue serving only what everyone else is eating. You'd be surprised how un-picky kids become when they realize they'...
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Teaching children how to fight back

I have a 8 year old boy and a 5 year old girl. I teach them that we don't start fights, we finish them. As long as they aren't the first to get physical I will defend them completely. I also explained ...
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I want more time with my wife in our blended family, but she says no.

// , The first thing you can do is decide your boundaries, that is, what you do and do not see as a violation of trust. Right or wrong, she is her own person. So are you, Jon. People who take ...
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I hate my child, what should I do?

That's a tough one, especially since you are at this point and this child is 3.5 years old. Personally, I don't believe you "hate" this child. But probably more over you are mentally done ...
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Is placing my child in the same class as a close cousin a bad idea?

When I was young, I had a cousin the same age, and one a year older that I went to school with. I don't remember if we had any classes together..... There were no issues.... it is quite common for ...
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Teaching children how to fight back

Bullies tend to have more experience with fighting than other kids. The advice your mother gave you might just get you beaten up worse, unless you have martial arts training. And that's probably the ...
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Teaching children how to fight back

Our school system has a "zero tolerance" policy that suspends both students who were in a fight. A child of mine was once standing in a schoolyard when someone ran up from the side and knocked him ...
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Don't touch my hair!

If his hair is kinda long or thick then this might be the problem. Or, some people just hate wet hair on specific spots of their head; I know this from experience. Cut his hair short and try again. ...
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How do you feed a picky eater?

I shall take you through what I do, this is a reasonably time consuming approach but i also have two ASD children (for a total of 7) so there are nine of us to feed each day. Plan a week's menu out ...
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