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Questions tagged [violence]

For all questions pertaining to violence with either the child being violent, being subject to violence or witnessing violence. Use the specific tag like [hitting] or [biting] if the question is solely about that behavior. As an umbrella term, use the tag [violence] when it's about several forms of violence or if a specific tag doesn't exist.

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5-yo getting violent

My son has always been kind and never got us worried before. Never had any issues. We recently relocated and he had to change school. The school assigned buddies to everyone because they had merged ...
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Our 5-year-old boy doesn't respond to timeouts, etc. What are some other methods of discipline?

Our 5-year-old boy loves to challenge us when we try to discipline him. We would ask him not to do something and he would go right ahead and do it. Eventually it escalates and he starts to scream, ...
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How to help our 2-year-old adjust to new daycare where he's violent and pushy?

Our 2-year-old has just moved from a fairly loud, apathetic, semi-violent daycare, to the point where he was coming home with bites and bruises almost daily, to a new, nicer daycare closer to our work....
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How can I help my 5-year-old introvert boy relax?

I have a 5-year-old boy, with two younger brothers (1 year and 3 years old). He is intelligent, sensitive (easily stressed) and shy. I would definitely label him an introvert, but he does not like to ...
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How to help a 6-year-old who witnessed a school shooting?

I am not a parent, but am asking this for a good friend. He has a 6-year-old daughter who was in the attached elementary school during a recent high school shooting. I don't think she saw anyone get ...
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What to do about my 14-year-old sister being out of control and selfish? [closed]

I'm 20 years old and have a 14-year-old sister. We've been having a step father for 12 years, she's never known any different. We all used to get on perfectly. She's always been a really good student. ...
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How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation?

How much self control can an 8-year-old be expected to show under physical and psychological provocation. I separated from my ex wife about 4 years ago. My son has been living with her for around the ...
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What to do about my adopted 11-year-old son's anger issues?

I have adopted my 11-year-old when he was a baby. He has the biggest heart, but is the most challenging: Parents all siblings - yells and pushes, pulls hair, throws things at them and squeezes their ...
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My daughter tells me her teacher slapped her. How should I proceed?

I have a 4-year-old daughter. She goes to a small, private preschool. It is one class, all my daughter's age. There is no director; it consists of four women, who are partners, who take turns ...
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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent

I'm asking for a friend of mine, who's the parent. Her child is 12 years old. Yesterday, at school, the child's classmate was horribly beaten up by a teacher. And I mean horrible. It ended with the ...
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How to explain to a 4-year-old kid to stop playing with kids who beat him?

My 4-year-old kid is very very energetic. He is very intelligent and he gets bored very easily. He started reading from 2 and a half years old, and now he is reading books in 2 different languages ...
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How to make our 5-year-old son stop being violent towards other children at school?

How can I stop my 5-year-old from hitting and kicking kids at school? He doesn't behave this way anywhere else. My wife and I don't argue much and we have a happy household. We are embarrassed and ...
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My 11 year old step daughter is making troubling comments about my newborn twin daughters, her half sisters

My husband and I have been married for 5 years. It was my first marriage and I did not have any children. He was married before and has three children with his ex-wife. We had tried for 4 years to get ...
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How to handle a child who acts out trying to reunite separated parents

I separated from my spouse few years ago. Our youngest child has begun recently to act out (eg swearing or being mildly violent). After careful and tactful inquiry, he stated that he is doing so as it ...
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My children witnessed family violence. How should I handle it? [closed]

Yesterday my sister-in-law unleashed a torrent of verbal abuse during a family gathering, which culminated in her pinning her sister to the floor and punching her, and when I asked her to leave, a ...
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12 year old grandson hitting 7 year old sister

My 10 year-old grandson hits, pushes, kicks and spits on my 7 year-old grand-daughter. He has ADHD. When she complains, he always says it’s not his fault, that it was a accident or she got in the way ...
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Is “slapping a badly-behaved child” against the law in US? [closed]

I heard a violent argument between a mother and her child. Obviously it was the child's mistake and he said something really really bad that must have hurt mother's feelings. His words made ...
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What to do about a 4 year old abusing animals? [closed]

I am extremely distraught, so please forgive my rambling and errors. Edits are welcome. Yesterday, before I got home, my wife called to tell me that she found our son choking our kitten that we've ...
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How to deal with tantrums in my 5-year-old?

My 5-year-old can't seem to shake off the temper tantrums! Probably because while trying to "fix" it, I've unintentionally given him attention for it. I've gotten to the point of enough. I've done the ...
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How to help my 18-year-old who may be the victim of bullying?

My 18-year-old son is in high school and near graduating; like 40 days from now he will graduate. He is so smart and into business and science and gets top grades so I am thankful. He is so respectful ...
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How to deal with two 10- and 12-year-old brothers fighting?

I am a father of 10- and 12-year-old boys. Both used to play happily and regularly and fought on occasions. The younger boy used to complain about his older brother with some deep cries and proof of ...
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What can I do about a 10-year-old who can't seem to understand that hitting is wrong?

I'm helping to raise a pair of 10-year-old twins, who I will call James and Emily. James hits his sister to get his way. If she is sitting where he wants to sit, he hits her to get her to move. If she ...
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How to deal with my 2-year-old daughter crying and getting angry when we don't give her what she asks for?

My daughter is 2 years and 4 months old. Yesterday, she asked me to give her my phone and I told her, "No this is mine." She started crying and hitting me and then she bit me. I got shocked, then I ...
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Bully broke my sons bone, what next? [closed]

While at school my son has been getting bullied by a boy. They are both in 6th grade and used to be friends until recently, not the boy bullies him. Today I got a call to come get my son because he ...
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What to do after my nephew showed a graphic video to my 9-year-old son?

My 12-year-old nephew "Bob" took my 9-year-old son aside and showed him a video of ISIS beheading a victim. I am just flabbergasted that Bob would do that. Interestingly Bob did not show the video to ...
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What to do about a 5-year-old girl being violent and insulting?

I have a 5-year-old daughter and an 8-year-old son. My daughter is normally a sweet, passionate, and loving child. There are no problems in school at all. Lately, she has started being violent ...
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How to make my preschooler stop acting out in school when I don't even know who started it?

My child is continuously acting up at school. Almost daily she comes home with a bad note about how she wasn't nice to friends or being defiant. I'm worried that, regardless of what actually ...
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How to change a 4-year-old's violent and defiant behavior when his parents made him our responsibility?

My fiancé's nephew is 4 years old. He refuses to show respect and manners to adult figures; he constantly cusses (his favorite word is "wtf bitch", and he says it to me only.) He also constantly ...
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Parents that do not allow outlets for stress

What if a kid wanted to dedicate a portion of a room of an apartment to installing Judo-like padding, and perhaps even boxing bags, to go to and take out the stress of when parents shouted at them? ...
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How to make my 3-year-old stop throwing things at people?

My 3-year-old boy throws things at people for no reason. Sometimes he just needs attention and sometimes he's just doing this for fun, but it has been very hard on us because it gave me a black eye ...
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How to make my 3.5-year-old stop pinching his teacher, classmates, siblings and parents?

My 3.5-year-old son has been pinching every now and then. We have another 2-year-old daughter. Recently, the problem has been getting worse, he has started pinching/scratching his teacher in the pre-...
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Why does my 12-month-old slap us?

My 12-month-old son has just recently taken to slapping us - the parents. He has been directing the slaps to our faces, chests and arms. What is causing this? Is there anyway for us to stop it?
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What to do about an overly confident 4.5-year-old who retaliates at nursery?

Our 4.5-year-old son has recently been getting into trouble at nursery. On three separate occasions now we have been called in to speak to the teachers there as he has done something naughty. This has ...
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Should I worry About My 10yo Nephew's Interest in Violence?

I have a 10yo nephew who is obsessed with violence. It's all he talks about. He asks me and my father things like; If I had a gun and you had a knife, could you kill me? If I start doing ...
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How to make a 2.5-year-old stop beating, biting and hurting others if he thinks it is a game?

I have a 2.5-year-old son. He is very hyperactive, and somehow he thinks that beating, biting, throwing things and hurting others is a game. He threw a toy car at me once and it hurt me badly. He ...
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How unusual is it for a 3.5-year-old to scratch his own face and draw blood?

A 3.5-year-old child we know was sat down for misbehaving and then scratched his own face drawing blood. We wondered how common this was and how it may be stopped from happening again. How unusual is ...
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Story of a sad mom - adult son who is violent and suffering from depression

Please read my story: a sad mom and let me know what your suggestion is. I have a 23 year old son. Since 7 years ago, my husband and I have had lots of problems with our son. He was living with us ...
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How to help my violent 5-year-old son become calmer?

I have a beautiful 5-year-old son (almost 6). Over the past 6 months, his aggression and behaviour are becoming really difficult and hard to handle. He has been quite violent towards himself (hitting ...
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My 6-year-old daughter is hitting her teacher and talking back!

I have a 6-year-old daughter. Today, my babysitter said that my child hit her teacher. She hit her in the mouth and didn't say sorry when the teacher asked her to say sorry. Then the teacher said she ...
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How to explain Paris terrorist attack to primary school age children?

How can I explain terrorism and the recent radical Muslim shootings in Paris to my primary school age children? They have obviously noticed the media reports and they saw our local TV tower lit up ...
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Why do kids pick up on violence in cartoons/movies?

Why is it that children seem to pick up and mimic even the tiniest examples violence on TV? It's like a golden beacon of what not to do and they seem to be just magnetized towards it. Let me try to ...
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Kindergartner with no control over his emotions/behavior

My son has been diagnosed with ADHD. He has been kicked out of four different daycares starting when he was just 2 years old. He is now in Kindergarten, and my wife and I hoped that with his recent ...
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Why is my 4-year-old child more aggressive now?

My child recently turned 4 late this summer. We've noticed he has been more aggressive lately. Background: I've pretend wrestled, boxed, and sword fought with my child before his third birthday. I ...
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Handling toddler aggression towards my child

My 2yo daughter was playing on a playground, rotating on a kind of one-person carousel. A 2.5, maybe 3yo boy approached her, obviously (to me) wanting to sit on it and use it. The boy immediately ...
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My 10 year old daughter punches her legs when she gets angry or doesn't get her way

When my daughter gets angry, she makes this mean looking face and then starts punching on her legs. Should I be concerned about this behavior? I do tell her to "stop it" and I would ask her, 'Why is ...
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Should I be worried about a 1-year-old getting excited and grabbing and scratching people's faces hard?

I'm grandmother of a 1-year-old boy. My son has ADHD and is home trying to get disability, so they let me take the baby every week and he usally stays about 3 days. I am trying everything that I ...
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How can I teach my son that it's ok to hit back?

My 3.5-year-old son has learned in the kindergarten, you do not bite, hit or kick another child. But some children bite, kick or hit my son. I told him, he must tell the kindergarten teacher or kick/...
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How do I help my son deal with a sexually abusive bully in preschool?

My son (4 1/2) attends a pre-school that we all like very much. He's in a class of kids ranging from 3 to 5. He generally prefers to socialize with the older children. In this particular class, ...
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How to control and stop my 1.5-year-old's violent behavior patterns?

I have a 1.5-year-old son. I have noticed below violent behavior patterns: hurting people by hitting, biting, pinching and plucking hair etc. yelling and crying a lot when disappointed or angry. I ...
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As a babysitting aunt, how to bond with misbehaving, mean-spirited children?

I live in the USA, my son lives in the Netherlands. He has two little girls aged 5 years and 6 years respectively. My adult daughter, who doesn't have children herself, is visiting them at this time. ...