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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

You say that you don't want him to play it -- that's your answer, you should not buy it for him. Parents set the rules. Explaining why you aren't buying it can help him accept this decision more ...
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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

In addition to the pretty good answers already provided, I'd like to point out that GTA 5 is not in any way suitable for a 10 year old. There is one specific mission that gives a very good example why ...
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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

I guess it boils down to whether you think your son can cope with the content, i.e. can distinguish between the fiction and reality and process the displayed emotions and actions, or not. In my ...
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How can I be more meaningful in my thanks to my parents?

Please let me first assure you that I'm speaking from experience here. Your post is pure music to my ears. I have a son who has ADHD and ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder.) I had heard of ODD, but ...
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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

Wrong expectations lead to disappointment. Let him know in advance that GTA is not what he's getting for his birthday and ask him what he wants instead. You and others who raise the kid (partner, ...
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Child with ODD and ADHD

Someone will probably comment that ODD and ADHD can't be diagnosed reliably in a preschooler. Not only is that unhelpful, it's also untrue. I can't speak to your child's ADHD, but it sure sounds like ...
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4-Year Old Fights the School Routine

One of the most useful things I learned with regards to being on time for things, as I raised my children (8 and 10 now), is this: don't worry about being on time today. No matter what it is, don't ...
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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

I'm going to play the devil's advocate here as most of the answers are very similar. By age 10, barring a severe development disability, a child knows what is and isn't real (https://news.utexas.edu/...
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How to make my 8-year-old son stop crying over the most simple things?

I am not an expert on ADHD and can not emphasize enough that what I am about to say is not easy to do in practice without addressing ADHD or any other emotional/cognitive condition. As with ...
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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

Try it yourself before you buy it, and/or watch an IGN or related video game review. GTA V has been out for a few years now so there will be plenty of opportunities to rent or buy it used for a ...
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How to convince a young child with ASD to begin ADHD medicine?

We couldn't wait any longer. Our daughter confronted us about why we wanted her to make her take "happy pills" and that it was silly to expect someone to be happy all the time. I told her that whoever ...
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How to help a teen that wants to learn productive skills, but has entertainment addiction?

I have experienced something similar to your son (although a lot milder I suspect), however I am a professional software engineer and in my very limited free time I make games. Something I've always ...
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How to deal with my 5-year-old son who has ADD/ADHD and constantly misbehaves?

I'm wondering if your son was misdiagnosed with ADHD. The Resperdone should calm someone with ADHD and only stimulates someone who doesn't have ADHD. If the diagnosis was made by a a professional ...
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My step son is being treated for ADHD and we are not sure if he should be

I'm not going to speculate on whether or not your stepson has ADHD. I haven't met him, I am not a developmental psychologist, and even if I was it would be impossible to diagnose over the internet. ...
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ADHD-friendly occupations

I regularly worked as sound engineer on child and teenage vacations with a touring musical (band and choir) and have made very good experiences with explicitly picking male ADHD children as helpers/...
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As a teenager, my mom refuses to believe that I have anxiety/depression/ possibly ADHD. How can I help her understand that she is hurting me?

As someone who suffers from depression and anxiety and was finally diagnosed with ADHD in their 30's, I feel your pain on this one. What can you do to convince your mother you have them? ...
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ADHD-friendly occupations

I also have a son with ADHD, and am mildly chagrined to realize I haven't yet given much thought to his life after my household. A web search for "job suitable for adhd" turns up a few lists. Some ...
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Should I seek a diagnosis for dyslexia for my daughter?

While a formal diagnosis may not be important, I think it is important to explore the possibility of your child being dyslexic in addition to (or possibly instead of) being ADHD. We suspected that ...
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How to help my 7 year old daughter with ADD organize her room?

Based on experience with two adults with diagnosed ADD/ADHD, if your daughter really has ADD - as opposed to the normal limited attention span of a 7 year old - then big picture strategic things like ...
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Mindfulness Meditation for 6 year old with ADHD, ASD

I taught special needs students, including autistic students for over 30 years. We did yoga and meditation to varying degrees of success every day. We started with 30 seconds of meditation -- yoga ...
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Are fidgets an effective tool for helping ADHD children focus?

They can help though I think it varies from case to case. In my experience, having been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD over 10 years ago, having something to fidget with in your hands can be useful in ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son stop crying over the most simple things?

While not an official DSM symptom of ADHD, Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria is a common issue with ADHD. I'm just learning what to do with an ADHD child, so take this advice lightly: I've started ...
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How to help my 7 year old daughter with ADD organize her room?

My wife and I had a disagreement on my daughters' rooms. She's very much into neat and orderly. My daughters and I, not so much. After many discussions, I managed to convince her that there were ...
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How do I motivate my ten-year old to take responsibility and to do his best?

Children with ADHD can be prone to depression, since much of the feedback or attention they get is negative -- either criticism for not focusing or trying hard enough, or a stressed parent pointing ...
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Has anyone had success with Occupational Therapy and ADHD?

I think most parents do amateur/informal occupational therapy for their children with ADHD without realizing it. To me, occupational therapy feels like formalized common sense. It entails adapting a ...
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Authoritative stance of AMA against ADHD?

The first hit on google leads to this 1998 paper written for the AMA's Council on Scientific Affairs which says precisely the opposite of your psychologist friend. ...there is little evidence of ...
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My child wants GTA V for his birthday

Would you allow your son to go to a strip club and grope the strippers who are giving him a lap dance? (Only when the bouncers aren't looking of course.) Because you can do that in this game, and it ...
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How to convince a young child with ASD to begin ADHD medicine?

I was ADHD inattentive and did not receive medication for it (story for another time, but I am passed that now). My wife is ADHD inattentive and she may be mild ASD, and she started her medication as ...
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18-year-old son doesn't want to finish highschool and is smoking a lot of weed!

Moving away would only help your son if the thing that is causing him to neglect school and smoke weed instead is related to your current location. But there's a good chance that his location is not ...
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