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Can/should I ask a sitter to take first aid classes?
If it is of that much concern to you then the simple answer is:
Yes - you should have it as a requirement of the job, either that they already hold a CPR training certificate, or that they will be ...
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Is it feasible to outsource all the unpleasant parts of baby care to a nanny?
I don't have studies either but I feel it's worth writing a bit even if it's somewhat opinion based.
TL;DR: You most probably can outsource all the unpleasant stuff, but then you won't really be the ...
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Are parents of a baby/ toddler really this busy?
Yes she is.
What I think makes this so hard for non-parents to understand is that there's pretty much no days off when you're parenting. Sure, there might be times where you're not obviously doing ...
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Can/should I ask a sitter to take first aid classes?
I am trying to sort if it's reasonable to ask someone to take first
aid & CPR training.
Of course this will vary depending on local customs, but from a German perspective:
Yes, this is totally ...
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Can wife and I handle pre/post our baby birth problems without our parents' help?
You and your wife can absolutely handle a baby without Grandparents help, many people have in the past and will in the future. The real question is: Do you want to?
Having a baby and caring for a ...
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Should I babysit my step granddaughter?
If it were me -- (and there are only going to be opinions, no 'answer'), I would take the opportunity to be positive and loving. Show this baby who you really are and teach her to appreciate her ...
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Is it feasible to outsource all the unpleasant parts of baby care to a nanny?
TL:DR: Your plan for a nanny is definitely feasible, but be aware it might not actually be what you (and your partner) want when your child arrives.
Ok, I remember this. Right now, you are coming ...
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Are parents of a baby/ toddler really this busy?
Yes, parents, especially new parents, are that busy.
I used to take care of pregnant women and then their babies as well. With every first pregnancy, as the due date approached, I'd tell them to lower ...
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When do you pay a babysitter?
In my experience, it is when you come home, before the sitter leaves. At that moment you know how long they babysat for and how much extra you owe them for being late (I used to charge double after ...
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Are parents of a baby/ toddler really this busy?
Welcome, Juli!
I am a stay at home mom of a 9 month old. My husband works from home and shoulders most of the housework and helps with baby care. Baby care is my sole responsibility in life these days....
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Should I babysit my step granddaughter?
Honestly, I think you should do all you can to babysit regardless of what they call you. You yourself can prove that you are more than a babysitter and to children they don't care about names, they ...
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My kid cries when nanny arrives. Is this a red flag?
I wouldn't say that is a red flag. There's no way to say for sure if something's wrong, of course, but odds are that your child is experiencing separation anxiety, which is very common at that age ...
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Raise babysittable kids
Every child is babysittable. There's no special magic to raising a kid that's easier or harder to babysit. All of the other things you're hopefully doing anyway to raise a child who is able to ...
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Is it feasible to outsource all the unpleasant parts of baby care to a nanny?
Frame challenge: outsource as much of the unimportant but inevitable stuff as you can afford, so you have as much time with your child/children as you can.
Cleaning, groceries, clothes shopping, ...
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When to start looking for a new nanny if our 11-month-old does not accept her?
Speaking from my experience having a nanny for my 4 kids, I can tell you that a week is not enough time to find out if your child will bond with your nanny. It IS enough time though for you to observe ...
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Is it feasible to outsource all the unpleasant parts of baby care to a nanny?
You may have the wrong impressions about the real challenges of parenting. Having infant and babies is a lot of work, it's certainly inconvenient and it can be exhausting, but it's actually (IMO) not ...
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Is it feasible to outsource all the unpleasant parts of baby care to a nanny?
You certainly can get help with much of this. I'll go over your concerns line by line.
Having to wake up at night
For the average baby, this isn't something you can really do a lot about; at least ...
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Should I babysit my step granddaughter?
Ask yourself why you babysit, what you get out of it. Make a list if need be. Some of it will be positives, such as being able to see your granddaugther, others will be negatives such as seeing the ...
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Are parents of a baby/ toddler really this busy?
There are excellent answers here already about dealing with babies. Only warning you it does not completely go away as the children get older. Even 10 year olds like to interrupt. The only time I talk ...
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Can wife and I handle pre/post our baby birth problems without our parents' help?
It doesn't so much matter what we think, it matters what your wife thinks, and it sounds like she'll be happiest and most comfortable giving birth and learning to care for an infant with her mother's ...
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How can a single person take care of a fussy 6-month-old baby?
I think your baby is developing well and doing what is very natural to babies. At 6 months, babies are dropping a nap and most start to sleep only 2 naps. In addition, six - nine months is a time of ...
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Can/should I ask a sitter to take first aid classes?
am not finding anyone I am completely happy with
First of all, you will never be happy with any sitter. The parent usually has some ideas on how to raise the kid and the biggest problem here is that ...
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What to do about a 2-year-old who won't sleep without being held?
I don't personally love the idea of 'training' all children to not express what is basically a biologically natural behavior-- staying near an adult after dark to ensure their survival and protection ...
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Are parents of a baby/ toddler really this busy?
Yes, parents are that busy! Moreover, one's ability to care for others gets used up. She sounds like a nice, giving, friend, but she's not YOUR mother and she's not a therapist. The last thing she ...
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Are parents of a baby/ toddler really this busy?
I think this is totally normal. Give it some a few years and you may get back into normal phone calls.
Tldr version -
When you have a small living thing that cannot verbally communicate with you, who ...
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Is it feasible to outsource all the unpleasant parts of baby care to a nanny?
I just want to write a short and sweet answer for you here, addressing the specific items you have listed from a can perspective and trying to ignore the should:
Having to wake up at night
Yes, ...
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Raise babysittable kids
We raised three children that everyone agrees were very easy to babysit or look after, and we used some very simple tactics. To raise your own kids to be as easy as possible for others:
Be consistent ...
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Can/should I ask a sitter to take first aid classes?
Make a contract
There is your answer. If you are completely insistent on them taking a safety training course targeted towards childcare workers, make a contract with a potential candidate you like.
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How can a single person take care of a fussy 6-month-old baby?
are they more of a nature of a baby? Yes, this is separation anxiety. It is natural and normal. Imagine living inside someone for a long time, then being throuwn into a cold, "hostile" world. ...
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Can wife and I handle pre/post our baby birth problems without our parents' help?
Can you both handle this without help from you parents? Absolutely.
From the point of view of making life easier for your wife or yourself, using the help of the parents is just perfectly fine.
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