Questions tagged [babysitting]

For all questions concerning babysitting, both from the parents' or the babysitter's perspective. For example, how to choose a trustworthy babysitter, how much to pay, or how to deal with children as their babysitter.

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When do you pay a babysitter?

In general, what is the consensus on when to pay a babysitter? Before services? After? By how long? With an established babysitter, how might it be affected by your familiarity with them, or your ...
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When to start looking for a new nanny if our 11-month-old does not accept her?

We have an 11-month-old son which so far has stayed during the day with either us, the parents, or his grandparents. He is our first child and we basically cared for his every little need up to the ...
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What to do about a 2-year-old who won't sleep without being held?

I nanny for a family whose 2-year-old refuses to sleep without being held, both at naps and night time. She has a bad gag relflex and will continuously throw up if left to cry it out. And once she ...
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How would a caregiver go about advising parents regarding an issue with their child?

I am a retired 57-year-old woman who babysits my neighbor's 3-year-old daughter. I have kept her since she was 2 months old. Both of her parents work 4 days a week, 10 hours a day, with occasional ...
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How to break defiant cycle with time out?

My goddaughter is barely 3 years old and I visit and babysit her often, and have her mother's full permission to use time outs when I feel they are appropriate. She is usually pretty well behaved, ...
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How to fairly and reliably assess babysitter candidates?

My wife and I rely heavily on her grandparents for baby-sitting when we need. Having only them to rely on is difficult when there are schedule conflicts. I want to diversify who we can reach out to ...
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Is it feasible to outsource all the unpleasant parts of baby care to a nanny?

Me and my wife are in our late 20s and considering having children. I am personally excited about starting a family, however I'm not looking forward to all the unpleasant parts of the first few years ...
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Raise babysittable kids

Background: My wife and I babysat 4 children and the parents made it sound like a) there was a schedule and b) if there were difficulties to just say something like 'are you listening', 'are you ...
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My kid cries when nanny arrives. Is this a red flag?

Our nanny has been with us for over a year and she had been getting along with our almost 2-year-old kid very well. About a few weeks ago, our kid started to cry when she arrives and does not want to ...
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Can/should I ask a sitter to take first aid classes?

I live in a relatively rural area which limits certain options for me. Where I live has no professional sitter services at all, you just have to find someone you personally trust. I have recently ...
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How can a single person take care of a fussy 6-month-old baby?

Both my wife and I work full time. So when we had our daughter, for the first 6 months, my in-laws came to live with us and help out. Now, both of them left to take a break. And now my mom is coming ...
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Should I babysit my step granddaughter?

I have been married for over 20 years and have been a stepparent for all of these years since my stepdaughter was just 3 years old. My husband's ex-wife despises my husband and myself and has always ...
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Can wife and I handle pre/post our baby birth problems without our parents' help?

I currently work in an IT firm and my wife stays at home. She is thinking of going back to her hometown in 8th month to stay and give birth to our first baby. She thinks it requires her parents' (...
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My 13-month-old nephew will not sleep through the night and I'm not sure what it could be!

My 13-month-old nephew has a lot of trouble settling into his sleep. His mother works an early morning shift (4:30am) that causes her to break his sleep cycle so that he can begin to be cared for by ...
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How do I get my 7 month old niece to trust me?

I am uncle of a 7 month old girl. She seems really happy when my mother / her grandma interacts with her. But when I interact with her (try to play with her or put her on my arm), she often becomes ...
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How to control my 2- and 5-year-old nieces, who are out of control and don't listen to me, when I babysit them?

I am a pregnant first time mum so no experience with 5 year olds. For example, I babysat for my 5- and 2-year-old nieces last night. They are pretty good when my brother is there but as soon as he ...
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How to choose whether a child minder is the best solution for child care?

I am currently about to be employed and this sadly means I will need to some alternative way to look after my child. I have been thinking about child minders (one who either comes to my house or I let ...
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As a babysitting aunt, how to bond with misbehaving, mean-spirited children?

I live in the USA, my son lives in the Netherlands. He has two little girls aged 5 years and 6 years respectively. My adult daughter, who doesn't have children herself, is visiting them at this time. ...
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How to approach the mother of the twin toddlers I babysit about their seeming developmental delay?

I'm a mother of three grown sons and have been a nanny to dozens of children. Last year I started babysitting 3 week old twins. They were only 2 weeks early, but their development is significantly ...
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Babysitting vs Childminder vs Playschool for 1-year-old twins

I am not sure as to what to opt for. My twin girls have completed their 12 months of age. This whole year I have not been able to sleep properly or have my alone time. I love them a lot and instantly ...
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What is considered to be a safe age to be a babysitter?

One option for a babysitter is finding an older child (teenager) in your neighbourhood. The benefits are obvious (you get to know the family, so there's more trust). But is it truly safe to leave ...
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How can I get an 11-month-old I care for during the day to take a nap?

I care for a 11-month-old baby who has two weeks where they arrive at 5:30am and then 2 weeks they arrive at 1pm. For the 5:30 shift, the baby should be going to sleep. The mom had said it was ...
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What is a healthy, ethical way to deal with a nanny cam?

I know how silly it sounds, but it makes me feel better: I'm asking for a friend. (We've decided we don't need one, as our nanny appears to be far more capable than we - it might make more sense for ...
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What standard questions should one ask when interviewing a nanny?

Obviously, depending on what your specific needs and concerns are, you'll need to tailor your questions to that situation. But, in my experience interviewing candidates for different types of jobs, ...
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How to help an overscheduled toddler as a nanny?

I'm a nanny, working with a 16-month-old girl. Since she was 11 months old she started with some activities, French class and play classes. Now she is really busy, with classes every weekday, each day ...
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I am not sure how I can help my girlfriend. Looking for some guidance [closed]

My girlfriend has a 2-year-old child from a past ex. The ex rarely visits his daughter, but the majority of the time he is there to sort of flirt a bit with my girlfriend. He does not know she is ...
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Where is the best place to find another family for a nanny share?

Finding a nanny is hard enough. There are sites like Craiglist, Care, etc. Where does one go to find other parents in a region who might be interested in a nanny share?
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As a babysitter, how to approach parents about a raise and what is a reasonable charge in the USA?

I have been babysitting/cleaning for a family for about 2 years now. Basically nannying, but not full-time. This family has 4 children, all about 2 years apart. Oldest is 9 and the youngest just ...
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Are most half-day pre-school programs for stay-at-home parents, or are there options?

At least in my state (Washington), the child care licensing is such that most preschools are only able to care for a child for 4 hours per day. I found a couple of places that do preschool and then ...
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What credentials are available to identify a babysitter as trustworthy?

Following on the heels of What are some good places to find trustworthy babysitters?, once we are interviewing potential babysitters, what should we look for to identify them as trustworthy? Of ...
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What are some good places to find trustworthy babysitters?

Our children are 3 and 10 months, and we're thinking about finding a regular babysitter so that we can get out of the house a little more often. In the past we've relied on nearby family, a high ...
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What are the pros and cons of using a nanny-cam?

We are seriously thinking of hiring a nanny, as my wife wishes to hold on to her job in these tough times. I have seen what are called, "nanny-cams", that help us monitor the nanny at home. A video on ...
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Should the nanny quit when the parents don't care about their dangerous children?

I have four weeks left of the worst nannying position of my life. I originally thought the job would be great, three kids that seemed a little naughty but manageable. The interview went great and ...
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Do you pay a part time nanny for vacation?

We have a part-time nanny 3 days a week and we generally pay her cash for those 12 days a month. Our family is going on vacation for 2 weeks where her services won't be necessary and we're wondering ...
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How do you reduce feelings of guilt for leaving children for a date night?

We have two children, 3.5 and 1 years old. My wife and I rarely go out on our own, I can count on one hand since the oldest was born. We have never left them alone all night, they have always woken ...
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What can we do to monitor and evaluate how a babysitter is doing?

Is it appropriate to install recording or other monitoring devices? Should the babysitter know about them?
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What factors should you consider when deciding how much to pay a babysitter?

What factors do you consider when deciding how much to pay a babysitter per hour? The time of day, meals, duration, travel, etc.?