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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

Sit them down for a big, honest conversation. Don't make it about what you want, though. Make it about what they want, and especially ask them, honestly, how they think what they are doing right now ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

I think it's time to let go of those reins and I honestly think you'll get a very good reaction. I'd even go as far as to say don't restrict her bedtime at all. Granted, rules should be in place like: ...
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Is it too late to read for my baby?

It is not too late at all. Please do try to limit TV, and of course you are tired after working all day. However, this is also your job. Reading, playing, walking to the park -- all of these things ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

OK, this may take some time but it could get you a bit of freedom. Tell your parents that you want to get a job when you turn 16. Use several excuses like, "I want to save up for college," "To get a ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

I really don't know what to do anymore, I just don't think that I can live like this any longer. First of all, I want to assure you that you most certainly can live like this, even though it might ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Children have all kinds of reasons for feeling more comfortable in the presence of their parents at night. I can respect that. But you need your sleep and your time with your wife. One option people ...
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Should I have the same bedtime as my sister?

I'm going to interpret the question as asking how a parent can manage the bedtimes of siblings of different ages, as I think that's a great question, and answerable (as opposed to asking for an ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

The main thing is that your daughter is getting sufficient total sleep (not time in bed, but time asleep, and restorative deep sleep, not fitful sleep). Not getting enough sleep has been considered an ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

I am you 25 years ago. There was no social media at the time, but I recognized myself in that I was not allowed to be with my friends without supervision, no dating until marriage (I always wondered ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

Your brain tells you when to go to sleep by producing melatonin. Melatonin is what makes you feel tired, and prepares you for sleep. The brain hormone melatonin is produced later at night for teens ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

I'm reading a book right now called "Why we Sleep". (I strongly advise everyone to read it too.) It has a whole section on the sleep changes we go through from infancy to old-age. One thing it very ...
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Is it too late to read for my baby?

I enjoy reading to my children each night just before bed. It gives them something to look forward to, especially if the book is very interesting to them, and is a soothing way to end the day. It ...
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If you can't spoil a newborn, when "can" you spoil a baby?

She is not much more than a newborn (that ends at 28 days - or 4 weeks); she's an infant/baby. She has more needs than "habits". In fact, I can't think of a single 'habit' a two month old baby can ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Our daughter is three years old now and has slept in our bed for about two and a half years. Even now, when she wakes up in the middle of the night, she continues her night at our bed. And like yours, ...
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How can I get involved in the parenting of my girlfriend's sister's 5-year-old who spends too much time on screens etc.?

You are too involved. She is not your child, the mother is not your sister, you aren’t an experienced parent yourself - you have no authority or bearing here. It’s excruciating to watch someone parent ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Many people around the world sleep with their children. I am not saying you should, but that children are not as disturbed as you are by sex. They seem to ignore it or sleep through it. The point is ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

It sounds like you're an only child, and your parents are very concerned for your welfare. There are negligent parents out there, who don't give a sh*t about their children and think only of ...
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What can I include in the bedtime routine for an active 6 month old?

In our experience, in addition to the nightime routine, another important factor in good nighttime sleep is the daytime routine. Keep it consistent. At this age keeping it consistent from day to day ...
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Is it too late to read for my baby?

First, I would like to say what a wonderful mother you are! You already have what it takes to be a wonderful mother! I am a mother of 4; all of my children are adults now. I remember worrying about ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

My suggestion: first thing is to find a crisis support center for teens. If you're fortunate to have one in walking distance, go there. Otherwise, find one by phone. You need to find a supportive ...
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If you can't spoil a newborn, when "can" you spoil a baby?

I think the important thing to realize here is what is spoiling. To be clear anything related to basic need isn't spoiling. My kids can eat as much veggies as they want during dinner. Go to bed as ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Our first son had a mattress on the floor in his room. We would do bedtime routines in his room, and when he was asleep, we went to our bedroom. This gave us the privacy we needed. At some point in ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

Let her go to bed a half hour later for a week and see how she acts. If she is harder to wake up in the morning, forgetful, cranky, etc, move it back to the usual time. If, however, everything remains ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

All through high school, my bedtime was about 9pm. That prepared me to get up the next day by 6am, and be one of the first students to arrive at school. During the teenage years is a time when the ...
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6-year-old child taking about an hour and a half to get to sleep

I had the same problem as a child. It took me an hour to two hours to get to sleep every night. This persisted until I was an adult, and didn't entirely go away until I had my first child, at which ...
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Is it too late to read for my baby?

my parents read to me for quite awhile. I remember as a very young child my father reading Charlett's Web to us, back when I was to young to fully follow it, and later my mother reading a series of ...
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Why is my toddler protesting sleep with me and not my partner?

First: You're doing a great job. New parents often don't hear that enough. It's difficult to put a specific reason on why, but here are some things to consider: You are mom. Children always have a ...
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Should I have the same bedtime as my sister?

Teens should get between 8-10 hours of sleep a night. Since you are at the young end of that range, you should err on the side of needing closer to 10 hours https://www.cdc.gov/healthyschools/...
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A natural vs more rigid bedtime for a three year old

It is absolutely appropriate (and possible) to move to a fixed bedtime. He won't be thrilled initially, but it's doable, and possibly the sooner you do so, the easier the adjustment will be. Bedtimes, ...
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