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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

Sit them down for a big, honest conversation. Don't make it about what you want, though. Make it about what they want, and especially ask them, honestly, how they think what they are doing right now ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

I think it's time to let go of those reins and I honestly think you'll get a very good reaction. I'd even go as far as to say don't restrict her bedtime at all. Granted, rules should be in place like: ...
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Is it too late to read for my baby?

It is not too late at all. Please do try to limit TV, and of course you are tired after working all day. However, this is also your job. Reading, playing, walking to the park -- all of these things ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

OK, this may take some time but it could get you a bit of freedom. Tell your parents that you want to get a job when you turn 16. Use several excuses like, "I want to save up for college," "To get a ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

I really don't know what to do anymore, I just don't think that I can live like this any longer. First of all, I want to assure you that you most certainly can live like this, even though it might ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Children have all kinds of reasons for feeling more comfortable in the presence of their parents at night. I can respect that. But you need your sleep and your time with your wife. One option people ...
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Should I have the same bedtime as my sister?

I'm going to interpret the question as asking how a parent can manage the bedtimes of siblings of different ages, as I think that's a great question, and answerable (as opposed to asking for an ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

The main thing is that your daughter is getting sufficient total sleep (not time in bed, but time asleep, and restorative deep sleep, not fitful sleep). Not getting enough sleep has been considered an ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

I am you 25 years ago. There was no social media at the time, but I recognized myself in that I was not allowed to be with my friends without supervision, no dating until marriage (I always wondered ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

Your brain tells you when to go to sleep by producing melatonin. Melatonin is what makes you feel tired, and prepares you for sleep. The brain hormone melatonin is produced later at night for teens ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

I'm reading a book right now called "Why we Sleep". (I strongly advise everyone to read it too.) It has a whole section on the sleep changes we go through from infancy to old-age. One thing it very ...
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Is it too late to read for my baby?

I enjoy reading to my children each night just before bed. It gives them something to look forward to, especially if the book is very interesting to them, and is a soothing way to end the day. It ...
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Why do babies fight sleep and how to calm them down?

This is an interesting article on the topic: http://www.secretsofbabybehavior.com/2010/05/why-do-some-babies-hate-being-drowsy.html The article has this to say on why some babies hate being drowsy: -...
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If you can't spoil a newborn, when "can" you spoil a baby?

She is not much more than a newborn (that ends at 28 days - or 4 weeks); she's an infant/baby. She has more needs than "habits". In fact, I can't think of a single 'habit' a two month old baby can ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Our daughter is three years old now and has slept in our bed for about two and a half years. Even now, when she wakes up in the middle of the night, she continues her night at our bed. And like yours, ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

It sounds like you're an only child, and your parents are very concerned for your welfare. There are negligent parents out there, who don't give a sh*t about their children and think only of ...
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How can I get involved in the parenting of my girlfriend's sister's 5-year-old who spends too much time on screens etc.?

You are too involved. She is not your child, the mother is not your sister, you aren’t an experienced parent yourself - you have no authority or bearing here. It’s excruciating to watch someone parent ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Many people around the world sleep with their children. I am not saying you should, but that children are not as disturbed as you are by sex. They seem to ignore it or sleep through it. The point is ...
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What can I include in the bedtime routine for an active 6 month old?

In our experience, in addition to the nightime routine, another important factor in good nighttime sleep is the daytime routine. Keep it consistent. At this age keeping it consistent from day to day ...
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Is there a "better" time for parental absence?

Based on my experience as a military kid, my husband's experience as a military dad, and my experience as a foster parent, the biggest factor is how the limited schedule is presented to the kids. For ...
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Is it too late to read for my baby?

First, I would like to say what a wonderful mother you are! You already have what it takes to be a wonderful mother! I am a mother of 4; all of my children are adults now. I remember worrying about ...
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What can I as a teenager do about my insanely strict parents?

My suggestion: first thing is to find a crisis support center for teens. If you're fortunate to have one in walking distance, go there. Otherwise, find one by phone. You need to find a supportive ...
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7 year old demands to go to sleep at 5:00 pm

We got our kids (7 and 8) an alarm clock and said "You're not allowed to get out of bed until the alarm goes off." For us the issue is a little different. They have no trouble staying in bed on ...
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6-year-old bed wetting

Bed wetting, even at 7 years old, is common. About 1 in 40 children at that age wet the bed. Children usually grow out of it. Stop waking her in the night. That doesn't help. Make sure she is ...
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I have just watched my 22 month old dive head first over the gate on her bedroom 5 times after putting her to back to bed 50-60 times

First: all people are different and have different needs. Do not use the needs of one person to determine the needs of another. What is going on in your child's mind and emotions is unique to her. ...
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If you can't spoil a newborn, when "can" you spoil a baby?

I think the important thing to realize here is what is spoiling. To be clear anything related to basic need isn't spoiling. My kids can eat as much veggies as they want during dinner. Go to bed as ...
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How to deal with a 3-year-old very high energy child as a single mom?

Oh @Kate do I feel your pain! I have that kid too; he's 4, and the other morning he was up at 4:30 playing with his trucks in his room. First thing I will suggest is that you take care of YOU. I ...
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How can we get our son to stop sleeping in our bed?

Our first son had a mattress on the floor in his room. We would do bedtime routines in his room, and when he was asleep, we went to our bedroom. This gave us the privacy we needed. At some point in ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

Let her go to bed a half hour later for a week and see how she acts. If she is harder to wake up in the morning, forgetful, cranky, etc, move it back to the usual time. If, however, everything remains ...
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Bedtime for 12-13 year old girl

All through high school, my bedtime was about 9pm. That prepared me to get up the next day by 6am, and be one of the first students to arrive at school. During the teenage years is a time when the ...

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