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The teacher erased 3 pages of my 5 year old's completed homework
I am a retired teacher and I am shocked that this teacher felt that was appropriate.
I'd start by talking to the teacher -- but you hang on to the papers. IMO, and probably the vast majority of ...
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The teacher erased 3 pages of my 5 year old's completed homework
This teacher is carefully producing a future math-hater. I've worked with enough high school students to know.
I've also worked with enough people in personal counseling to know that whether you ...
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The teacher erased 3 pages of my 5 year old's completed homework
I agree with the other answers. This was not an appropriate way to correct the child's homework. From just this example, I would guess that the teacher was more interested in obedience than initiative,...
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How to encourage children to do their homework?
...knowledge and mastery ought to be its own reward.
Question: do you work (at your job) for free because it's rewarding and what you want to do? No, you work because you get a paycheck for it. (I ...
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The teacher erased 3 pages of my 5 year old's completed homework
When your child is at school the teacher is in loco parentis (literally "in the place of parents"): meaning that they should treat each and every child as if they were the parent, nurturing ...
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How to stop my 6 year-old son from running away and crying when faced with a homework challenge?
Find out why
The first thing to do is to find out why he's running away and crying. I am deeply concerned that no-one in your family has apparently even thought to ask him that. If you had, then I ...
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The teacher erased 3 pages of my 5 year old's completed homework
I'd like to add a different perspective:
I assume that the red writing was done by the teacher. This would make the entire page a form that your child was supposed to fill in in a very specific ...
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How to stop my 6 year-old son from running away and crying when faced with a homework challenge?
Your child is six years old, and what you’re describing is a normal, developmentally appropriate reaction. Your job as the parent is to help him learn how to approach difficult tasks, by being ...
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The teacher erased 3 pages of my 5 year old's completed homework
I think a large concern here that has not been brought up is the destruction of evidence of progress. Even if your child should do it again, and even if they do do better, they will have no way of ...
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The teacher erased 3 pages of my 5 year old's completed homework
I would agree with you that this is not the right way of checking homework of a 5 year old. It can be very discouraging to the child. I do not think the teacher should erase the homework even if the ...
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The teacher erased 3 pages of my 5 year old's completed homework
If this is pre-school, his teacher may not be an actual teacher that completed an elementary education, or early learning course. Many pre-school teachers that work in day care centers are very well ...
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How to encourage children to do their homework?
Try making sure it is fun, for younger ones, and works towards a goal, for older kids.
I always enjoyed homework, and one of my children does too, so it is very easy to just steer her homework the ...
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How to encourage children to do their homework?
The number one change we made that helped with this issue was eliminating all screen time (computer, television, tablet, everything except dedicated eReaders) during the week. This drastically cuts ...
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How to stop my 6 year-old son from running away and crying when faced with a homework challenge?
I’m gobsmacked. I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that perhaps in your efforts to be concise you were a little harsh on the way you portrayed yourself?
Ok, firstly, homework at age 6? ...
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How to encourage children to do their homework?
My sons went through hell and we became enforcers for pretty much no result. They both did well and are now both happy and enjoying life.
School on its own can be tough for kids without home being ...
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The teacher erased 3 pages of my 5 year old's completed homework
Your kid has a better handwriting than I and many fellow software engineers I know.
Furthermore, the instructions are unnecessarily terse and hard to decipher.
Not to mention the abysmal handwriting ...
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The teacher erased 3 pages of my 5 year old's completed homework
While I don't think that the erasing by the teacher is the best policy, I feel that you are overreacting. It would be enough to explain your kid that sometimes disagreements happen, and that although ...
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My 11-year-old hates writing as do I. How to provide help to him writing a school essay without forcing him to do what he doesn't want to?
Two things first:
There are things one needs to do, even if one hates it. I do not like documentation, but I need to write documentation for my code, so that others can use it/maintain it. This is a ...
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Completing the homework - how much is this in parents' responsibility and up to which age?
my attitude is learning can't be forced, or forced learning is something else but not learning.
Hmm. I think most teachers would disagree with you. Most of my Latin students weren't taking Latin ...
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How to stop my 6 year-old son from running away and crying when faced with a homework challenge?
I think you should take a step back and perhaps put yourself in your son's shoes. As a six year old, his highest priority isn't these assignments. It's playing. It's running around and jumping or ...
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How to encourage children to do their homework?
I think your concerns are valid, but you're projecting a bit of your own feelings onto your children's experiences. While they may make it clear they do not enjoy doing homework, their reasons for ...
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How to encourage 5 year old to read?
Have you considered that a full school day for a 5yo can be tough and demanding and that he might need a bit of time to adjust?
From what you write, he’s really struggling and tired, which means that ...
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How to stop my 6 year-old son from running away and crying when faced with a homework challenge?
Well, here's some things for you to think about - a few slaps to warm your ears.
Firstly, from your description it seems that you are far too harsh with your son, and you seem unempathetic. A child ...
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How to make 11 years old kid do homework
First: please always take comments about self-harm or suicide seriously. They may not be serious now, but that doesn't mean they won't eventually be. Look into resources for parents to understand ...
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How to deal with my 9 year old son who is not listening to me
Is someone else there to supervise what he does? Nine is still quite young to expect them to work independently and be able to rely on that. Some kids will, but personality will play a big role in ...
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How to encourage children to do their homework?
Given your own feelings:
As a child, I resented it deeply because I felt that once I'd left school, I should also have left schoolwork.
I don't see any reason you should try to encourage/force ...
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How to find out why my 11-year-old's memory is poor with regard to homework?
This may be a comprehension gap rather than a motivational issue or memory gap. (See @Anongoodnurse, I can write an answer that doesn't start with physical issues :D )
Math is unique in that it ...
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My daughter doesn't want to do as instructed
To lead with: while it probably feels like this is extreme and impossible to deal with, we all deal with things that are not all that different as parents. Particularly if you're trying to parent in ...
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Completing the homework - how much is this in parents' responsibility and up to which age?
Encouraging children to do home work is challenging, particularly if they're fairly young. Particularly for a good student, homework is often boring in my experience; for many students, repetition is ...
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15-year old taking too long with homework
Why does he have this problem? Well, he's 15 - their brains are changing so much it's impressive they can walk and talk, let alone concentrate. It's not uncommon at all.
If in the short term you need ...
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