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How should I teach my child to help but also do things on her own?

I would try modeling the behavior you would like to see in her. I suspect you are correct in your assumption that she learned her current behavior from observing you. Which means you will probably ...
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When to teach children to use search engines?

Before the days of the internet, parents tended to have a kind of God-like image in their child's mind and would be trusted to provide the right answers on a range of random topics that the child ...
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When to teach children to use search engines?

One of our jobs as parents is teaching; using the internet to help with this task is fine, but before you do, teach them how to be safe when they're online. Teach your kids about online safety (...
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When to teach children to use search engines?

My son is 8, and I haven't taught him to use google yet, despite him having his own computer, but I have shown him many times. My main reason is that getting a good result on a general search engine ...
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How can I help my son be more independent with his homework?

There is a very simple reason why you should not do your son's homework: The results of homework assignments show the teachers whether what he taught was understood. Think of the following scenario:...
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At what age should you allow your kids to go out alone?

First of all, you must check your country's laws. In Poland it's illegal to leave children without supervision when they're under 7 years old (there are several exceptions though). You should allow ...
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How do we help 2 yo play independently when we’re busy?

I think it's unrealistic to expect a 2 year old to be able to play by themselves for a long time. Some might, but not all. We tried the "cry it out" technique tonight but we know it'll take more ...
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At what age or developmental milestones is it safe to leave children unattended?

I had to make an account just to answer this question. I live in an European country and we start school at age 7. I grew up in a small town close to my school and it was overall a very safe place. ...
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How can I help my son be more independent with his homework?

I agree with the points in Stephie's answer. The first step is to stop doing his assignment for him: not only is it cheating, he simply isn't learning. The entire purpose of schoolwork, whether at ...
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What is the reasoning behind encouraging your child not to be a 'tattle-tale'?

As @Stephie pointed out in the comments, the definition of tattletale can be a little ambiguous. I think many parents encourage their children to come to them for help in resolving an issue, but don'...
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My 17-year-old daughter gets excellent grades but shows little interest in socializing or getting a job

All the things that you mention seem fairly minor. My husband picks off the pizza toppings that he doesn't like. There's nothing childish about not liking a particular food. Labeling this as "...
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When to teach children to use search engines?

There are a few obstacles: Ability to read, write, and spell. Even a first- or second-grade student who's pretty good at reading and writing may struggle to input an unfamiliar word or spelling. ...
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When are kids old enough to have a horse

I was horse crazy since I was old enough to read books about horses. Any child is old enough to ride (I got my own horse when I was sixteen, and taught my four year old sister to ride on my horse, my ...
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My 11-year-old daughter still asks me to zip her jacket

As long as your daughter 'can' zip her own jacket, I don't think this is anything you need to worry about. Sometimes my 9 year old wants me to carry her out to the breakfast table in the morning. Of ...
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How can I live like a normal teenager with my super strict parents?

This is a difficult situation you're in. At 16 it is reasonable to be allowed a certain degree of independence, and sometimes it can be very difficult for parents to give you that independence. 1) ...
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What factors should I consider when deciding to let children fly unaccompanied?

First off check that it is possible, I know some airplanes have rules about minimum ages for unaccompanied minors, so you may want to check. Also, don't assume you can take them to and pick them up ...
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How can a much older brother gain recognition for being a de-facto father?

I sometimes feel conflicted and depressed about not being their father. [...] I feel like I can't get any recognition for fulfilling that role because I am "just a brother". Question your mindset: ...
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How to make my parents stop interfering with my life in every way?

I really feel your pain and I think I understand the situation that you're in. Don't despair - you will find a way to make it work - where you can balance your need for independence and respect and ...
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Staying focused getting ready for school

You might try incentives. Set a schedule and use a loud timer to mark the milestones. "Timer's running...five minutes til teeth have to be brushed." Timer goes off, are teeth brushed? If so, one ...
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How to make my 18-year-old son get a job while in college?

My advice would be not to withhold the necessaries (like textbooks). If your goal is for him to get an education, you are shooting yourself in the foot by causing him to fail in college. Paying for ...
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How to get my child to play alone?

This is late for independent play to start. This is a learned activity. This suggests that you start young. Here are eight tips that have most helped us in encouraging our toddlers to ...
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How can I make my 6-year-old daughter zip her jacket up?

In short you cannot make her do it. You can tell her whenever you see her with it undone but is this really worth it if all it causes is an argument or you getting annoyed when she won’t listen? And ...
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Help - taken legal guardianship of 16 yr old sister who is moving in but already staying over with boys etc

Let me see if I understand this. You're the 16 year old's big brother (didn't say how old). Mum didn't set boundaries with her, so she was doing poorly at school, but you didn't really say if she had ...
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When to teach children to use search engines?

I strongly Agree with Vaylkyrie's answer that you need to teach online safety above all. But as an addition: teach them by showing them! They ask something you don't know right off your head? Take ...
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My 17-year-old daughter gets excellent grades but shows little interest in socializing or getting a job

These are two separate issues. First of all, having only a few friends is fine. You worry if your kid has none, and that's not your kid's problem. Being a picky eater is not a problem either. Some ...
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How can I live like a normal teenager with my super strict parents?

I offer up this answer with some reluctance, because having read Stacey's answer, I think hers goes in the same direction, but is much better. But since I wrote it, I guess I can as well share it. ...
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How can I live like a normal teenager with my super strict parents?

My parents were fairly strict, although not quite as strict as you've described. I wasn't allowed to date at all until I was 16, and then only group dates. I had a strict curfew, and they always had ...
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At what age should you allow your kids to go out alone?

Be sure to check the laws where you live. Legal and reasonable don't always overlap. When I was growing up in Canada, at 3-4 we would cross the street or go to the neighbors house alone. By 5 i and ...
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