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Rough and tumble play with 1.5 yo son turns to actual voilent behavior
I have the feeling that my one-and-a-half-year-old son often wants to play wildly in the evenings or even have a kind of tussle. However, this almost exclusively follows the pattern that it is ...
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My 5 year is taking advantage of my wife's clinical anxiety and depression
My 5 year old acts up around his mother, especially if other people are around. She has clinical anxiety, she's taking antidepressants.
It's not his fault, he noticed that he can get what he wants if ...
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As a father, should i allow my 5year old son to see me nude?
In July it will be 5years that I will have been a father. My son and I have a good relationship. I am a very cultured man and I really respect and appreciate the privacy of people. Sometimes whenever ...
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How do I enforce a boundary asking my parents to give our kids fewer gifts?
It sounds a bit ungrateful, but my mom gives so many gifts that it actually inhibits any one else's (especially me and my wife's) ability to get gifts for my kids. If I get my kids one gift my mom ...
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How do I help my child to love her mother more than her grandmother?
I've got a doozy here. When my first kid was born we were living at home with my parents. My wife and I were very overwhelmed being new parents and my mother (who was over the top excited to have her ...
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Why is that my oldest daughter doesn’t want to give us grandchildren? [closed]
I have three daughters with my wife. I want a grandchild from my oldest daughter. I have grandchildren from my youngest two. We want a grandchild, whether a boy or girl from her. She said no. What ...
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How to I tell a 3 year old who his real dad is?
My child's dad walked out when I was pregnant and said he wasn’t ready to be a father. Not long after, I got with my now-boyfriend and we have two kids of our own together. My first child calls my ...
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My Parents have been fighting heavily and today they said they are seriously considering divorce how can I prevent [duplicate]
I am a teenager with a younger sister today my parents said they are considering divorce. I haven’t been able to relax since. If this were to happen my world would come crashing down they said they ...
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Child interest in how movie types have changed over time
My father recently retired. Being a cinephile, he has a large collection of old film reels and has now come up with a project he wants to involve my son in: sorting and cleaning out the reels. This ...
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When is the right time to tell a 6 year old his “dad” is not his real dad
My daughter got involved with a guy after having her first child. They married and she now has 2 more kids. However she found out he was having an affair and left him. My grandson is now 6. His “dad” ...
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Is it normal for kids to act up around grandparents
My mother-in-law has been staying with us for the past couple of days. My 2-year-old loves when she comes because she’s fun and she brings lots of candy and sugar.
Everything has been fine up until ...
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(How) do you explain a 3 year-old that he has to stay at his grand-ma for longer than anticipated?
My 3 year-old has been with his maternal grand-parents for a week, as was planned for a long while.
His mom and I were supposed to pick him up today, but we both tested positive for Covid this morning....
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How should you tell a very intelligent 4 year old that her dad isn’t her dad
I’ve recently found out that the man I thought was my daughter’s father isn’t. How do I tell my baby that someone else is her dad?
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How do I be a Grandad when I'm still being (and learning to be) a Dad?
I'm 42. Had my first son when I was 22 during a short relationship. Met and married my wife and had my second son at 38. He is now 4. My first son is 19 and will become a Dad in a few months. He lives ...
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Absent Father of 6 years from birth with alcohol, drugs and gambling addictions
My child's father has been completely absent since the first week of my child's life. There has been no contact until now (6 years later). He lives around the corner and passes us everyday, he has not ...
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Grandmother keeps calling my daughter "Good girl"
My mother keeps calling my 9 month old daughter "Good girl" when she does something that pleases her. I was initially fine with this, having had it in my own upbringing, but my wife pointed ...
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My dad never compliments me and constantly calls me a jerk
My father and I have an inequitable relationship. I'm not allowed to talk back to him or say anything to my mom in his presence without telling him. I have nothing against such a state of affairs; ...
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Can my 6 years old daughter be my business partner?
TL;DR: Can I buy second-hand toys, make them better with my 6.5 years old daughter and sell them for a higher price?
Some context:
This year for Christmas, Santa brought some Lego bricks for my 6.5 ...
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Shared custody father completely overwhelmed, doesn't accept help, what can I do?
My brother is in a very difficult situation. His wife separated from him a year ago. They have two kids, at the time 3 and 5 years old. They moved out of their common apartment, each one into their ...
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What to do about a 6 year old who knows when to go to the bathroom but still doesn't?
My 6 year old granddaughter is a smart child and knows when she needs to go the bathroom. She just does not care if she goes in her undies or pants. We have tried everything with her. Tried to give ...
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How Do I Stop My Two Kids from Fighting? [closed]
My kids are fighting with each other for no reasons. They are twins (4 year old). Sometime they get too serious. Punishment is not the way I really like. Please share some cool ideas.
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My 5 year old Autistic son is very mean to me when his mother is around
I don't understand why all day while she is at work or out there aren't any issues. We go on walks, to parks, play with toys, the day is focused on him. I understand that she is the favorite parent, ...
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How to get an 8+ month old acquainted with a grandparent after a rough start?
Our 8 month old son started being aware and wary of strangers since he turned 7 months old. We've discovered that the way to get friendly with him is to approach him slowly. Interact with him from ...
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Small item for a grandparent to send via mail
My father-in-law enjoys sending small notes to my 5 year old son as a means of maintaining their connection. A few months ago he started sending one or two sheets of stickers as part of each envelope. ...
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How to encourage video chatting with family?
During this social distancing and lockdown situation, we have all been going through, we haven't been able to connect with loved ones which has been hard.
It's been especially rough for my parents ...
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My child said to my wifes face that he loves his grandmother (wifes mom) more than her, can you offer some advice how to deal with this?
My wife and I are feeling hurt, because my 5-year-old son said the other night that he loves his grandma (my wife's mom) more than my wife. He said this to her face. She has been in a very bad place ...
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How to prepare for a holiday with manipulative grandparents?
I’m trying to work out the best course of action here.
Backstory:
My father-in-law was, at one time, violent abusive and manipulative. My wife now keeps an arms-reach relationship with him on the ...
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DNA Testing on 10 year old
I have three kids. For the last 10 years, my two oldest have had a good relationship with their grandparents and father's family.
This past weekend, an ex-boyfriend and I met up for drinks to catch ...
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8 month old misses father on long trip
Me and my wife live in US with our 8 month old son.I spent my evenings bonding with him. He was a very happy baby here laughing and smiling. He went to India a month ago with his mother. We wanted him ...
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How to make a 5-year-old follow instructions in kindergarten?
I have a 5-year-old granddaughter. She has only been in kindergarten for two weeks and has been in trouble three times for not following instructions. No walking in line without touching wall or ...
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Where to turn for help when my 12-year-old granddaughter keeps hitting her 10-year-old sister?
I have two granddaughters, one turns 12 in August, the other is 10 years old and is small for her age (she was a prem baby). Her parents are divorced since the older child was 5 and the dad has a new ...
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How can I ensure that my daughter is not excessively attached to me?
I have been a single father to my two children- a sixteen year old girl and a fourteen year old boy- ever since my wife separated from me eight years ago and married another man. I have had extremely ...
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How to get preschoolers to interact with me over the TV?
I'm a godfather/honorary uncle to a number of preschoolers. They get excited about my visits and mostly prefer to play with me. However, during my longer (8 hours to few days long) visits they will ...
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How can I fix our relationship after falsely punishing my son?
I am a bad father. I punished my son for something he did not do as it turned out that his friend broke the china plate.
Because I punished my son he did not get to go to his favorite band's final ...
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How to help a 2 year old with a fear of airplanes?
My just-over-2 year old granddaughter is afraid of aircraft of all kinds passing overhead. No one knows why, and she isn't verbal enough to explain, though she is getting schooled in feeling words. ...
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How do I discipline a 14-year-old girl without pushing her away?
I have a 14-year-old sister who my grandmother and I are gaining custody of. I don't doubt my grandmother's ability to take care of and discipline my sister the way she should be, but she and I are ...
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How to tell my 7-year-old about bio father who just got out of prison?
My 7-year-old daughter's bio father went to prison when she was 3 months old. My son's dad came into our lives when my daughter was like 14 months old and has been here and been dad ever since!
I ...
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Preparing and handling 1-month absence of father for 3.5 year-old
What is the best way to prepare a 3.5 year-old for a 1-month absence of his father?
The child has a very good and intimate relationship to both mother and father. The closer the departure comes the ...
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How to motivate a 3.5-year-old to use the potty when she knows how to, but is strongly opposed to it?
My god daughter is about 3.5 years old. She has demonstrated she is aware of when she needs to pee/poop and if naked will ask for a pullup to be put on just so she can use it. I believe if she ...
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What to do about my 19-month-old grandson who doesn't talk or make eye contact?
My 19-month-old grandson is my son's and daughter-in-law's first and only child. He lives with me as do his parents. I see my grandbaby everyday. He had a severe regression after his 12 month ...
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Toddler ignoring dad and change in his attitude
Our son is really a good boy listening the first time on everything and doesn’t cry, but recently he has been the opposite. I m not strict but his mom is strict and recently my wife started a part ...
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At what age should a boy be able to clean up the toilet after himself?
I have a 6-year-old grandson who pees on the toilet, around the toilet and down the front of the toilet every single time he uses the bathroom. My daughter insists he is too young to clean the toilet. ...
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Grandparents want to raise my son but I want him back
My situation is a little tricky. Husband wanted a kid real bad and I wasn't ready, but I thought together we'd do amazing so I consented. Kid came into the world and husband hid in his videogames so I ...
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How can I help my 2-year-old son adapt to his biological father?
I found out today, that my soon to be ex husband is not my son's biological father (which is what I was hoping for, as he is mentally, emotionally and physically abusive).
The BF (biological father) ...
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How to break defiant cycle with time out?
My goddaughter is barely 3 years old and I visit and babysit her often, and have her mother's full permission to use time outs when I feel they are appropriate. She is usually pretty well behaved, ...
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Father now, earlier nursery versus grandparents now, later nursery?
Our son is 14 months old. Both the mother and I have in the last month entered full time education (I was in full time employment, she was on maternity leave). We are lucky to have my wife's parents ...
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As the father, when is it better for me to be home?
I am going to be a father for the first time in March.
We are living in France, so, thanks to the welfare state, my wife will not be returning to work until September.
I am willing to set a good ...
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Daughter is deciding to have a child with near-total stranger
I have a daughter who has made many, many bad choices in her life. At 26, she has already been in several failed relationships, got addicted to heroin, recovered (6 years now), moved in with a guy ...
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Toddler recently pushing me away, no cuddles, not saying goodnight etc etc and I'm withdrawing a bit - is there light at the end of the tunnel?
Our daughter just turned 2 in May. My wife and I haven't really had that many issues with her, but recently she's being odd.
Every time I go to give her a hug, cuddle or kiss she either pulls away or ...
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Should I try to long-distance parent or will I do more harm than good?
My long distance ex and I have a 4 year old son and we're trying to figure out what to do post-breakup.
A little backstory, we've always been long distance (different countries) and we've been very ...
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