Questions tagged [behavior]
Why do children act the way they do? Use [discipline] for questions about enforcing your rules.
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Teaching kids how to turn off
I had struggled most of my life and I do not know how to turn it off. e.g. I work 9-5 when I come home either I watch tv with food or go out shopping and when I am back or am free I am on the laptop ...
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Why my kids don't get excited to see me
We have been living with my wife brother for 3 years now, My kids are very excited whenever their uncle comes from door and not me. This sort of hurt, not sure why but what my kids (almost 7 and 2) ...
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Protecting your almost adult offspring from bad company and drugs
Given an offspring 16-18 years old (especially with health problems and alergies) how exactly can you protect them (and the entire family) from drugs (their friends do drugs and some are even mules)?
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Handling obsession with things like washing machine
My three year son is obsessed with some things like washing machine, vaccum cleaner etc. He will not let others to operate these things. He gets mad when someone handles these without him. He will ...
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Protecting your kid from bullying
I have asked a question on how to Earn your kid's trust and getting them to confide in you and "complain" about getting bullied
The question is
How not to lose the trust now that you earned ...
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Crime and Punishment-A Family Approach-Social Issues
What are the consequences (mainly in their social life and social development) of depriving your child of their liberty as a form of punishment?
I am not looking (only) for studies on the effects of ...
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child (almost 3 years) is unable to search for missed stuff
My son who will shortly become 3 years old seems to be unable to search for lost things, and I'd like to know if this is something to worry about.
He often takes some item/toy, runs around with it in ...
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How can I get my kid to stop whistling...so much?
I know this makes me sound like a jerk, but it feels nuanced and I really am trying to learn and grow.
Some added context:
He is using the handflute, or 'hand ocarina' method
He does it very ...
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what shall I do my 12 year old daughter is out of control
My 12 year old daughter has been a nightmare in the past few months. On her good days she is the sweetest most helpful girl but these are becoming very rare. She loves her sporting activities but ...
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4 year old blames all of her accidents on others, how to help her accept responsibility in a good way?
My daughter is 4 years old, getting close to 5. She started doing this only recently. When she does something like fall over, or stub her toe, or spill milk, she immediately starts blaming it on ...
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How do we help our 6 year old son with dangerous behaviors?
Our son has been making some really bad choices lately and we don't know how to help him anymore. A few weeks ago he was playing with his new multitool from scouts but was running in the yard with it ...
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How to best deal with kids ringing doorbell and running away?
I don't talk with my neighbours much besides the occasional hello and wave when we see each other outside. I live in a neighbourhood of townhouses. 2 boys (age low elementary school, I dunno grade 3 ...
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Should endless "but what if" questions be encouraged or discouraged?
Should this behavior from a child be encouraged or discouraged:
They ask you a question, you answer it, but then they ask
but what if [insert clause here]?
You answer again, but they ask
but what ...
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How to make conversation and why my son doesn't engage in convo
My 6 years old son doesn't interact when someone like my mom, or my niece interact with him, which remind me of my wife once said "I do not want him to be like you" it was ouch moment for me ...
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2 year old toddler closes her eyes only in the classroom in school
Our 2 year old closes her eyes in the classroom in school, and only opens them when she steps outside the classroom to go to the playground or toilet. She has been there for 3 weeks, and I'm wondering ...
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13yo kid does not want to use knife for eating [closed]
I have an unusual problem that is creating tense situations at home. My 13y/o boy does not want to use his knife for eating. He bends his head to the dish to eat things like salad or pasta. He ...
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Punishing my brother
My younger brother 16 is leaving with me, it's been two years now
He is like every teenager likes to have fun, discover things and get friends. I kept him on the line, safe and sound.
We argue ...
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Why do babies laugh at being "attacked"?
My son is nearly 1 and I've noticed some weirdness about him. He seems to enjoy when he is being "attacked".
We don't actually attack him of course. Play punching, putting a hand over his ...
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Appropriate age for use of electronics
I was searching for this video for the last 3 years.
In it a salesperson refuses to sell a tablet to the parents of a 5 year old saying that they can come back in 7 years and 12 years is the ...
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Kleptomania in 9 year old
So, my 9 yo step sons has a big issue with stealing. The issue is that it's not stealing money, or for gain. A lot of the time, he just takes things, just so that he can have it.
He takes something, ...
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4 year old - throws things (this is not an anger tantrum)
My 4-year-old boy will sit and listen, read and play all fine. However, he suddenly started to throw things as a ‘game’. It’s so hard to stop him. I tried to read up about it but most websites ...
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My 5 years old being very difficult
My son is almost 6 and is very choosy and in everything he cries, I saw him playing in school (as U.K. school doesn't allow parents to go in and see their kids) but now I came to my home country and ...
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How do change eating habit
My son has a problem with eating. He can eat all the junk like KFC, McDonald's, or rice and sweet yogurt, but starts crying when I ask him to eat more healthy food, or when I ban his TV or iPad.
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7 year old won't believe adults even when they show overwhelming evidence
This one is a weird situation that came to a head yesterday but, now that I look back on it, the behaviour has been there for months.
My seven year old has indoor and outdoor shoes at school. The ...
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How to stop my kids uncle from watching him mobile before bedtime
My son is 1.5 years old, every evening or some night when his uncle takes him to his room, he put his mobile youtube videos and I believe it is affecting his sleep. I m a firm believer that watching a ...
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Ways to stop 8 years old boy from putting his finger in his mouth?
Note: this is related to How can I encourage my son (age 8) to stop sucking his thumb? but not a duplicate, as this case isn't about sucking the thumb but rather putting the finger (second finger, not ...
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How to help a child accept when an activity is over
My five-year-old really struggles with moving from one activity task to another.
For example, we tell him we will only do a certain activity for x amount of time and then be done. It doesn't matter ...
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Toddler makes a mess with everything, everywhere
Our son is 17 months old. He is too frequently ruining things and losing our expensive things.
I know these things should be out of reach, but some things can’t be locked and things at his level are ...
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How to get my younger sister to listen?
Not a parent but a big sister to an 8yo, I'm about ten years her senior.
Mom has left for a month (caring for her parents) and with dad working it's up to me to make sure my sister is doing ok. Every ...
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To what extent should an (almost) two year old be able to lie still on command?
My daughter will be two years old next week. Today she went for a check up with her cardiologist to get an ECG. She refused to lie still during the procedure, getting upset and crying, and was ...
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Should we reciprocate what our children does to us or should we do what ideally should be done?
My question is specific to my son who is about 12 years.
When we ask him to do some favour like helping do some work and sharing his ice cream, he will always refuse to do so.
I am confused as to what ...
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what should I do with my stepfather [closed]
It all started when I first meet my stepfather when I was 11 years old. at first, I thought he was a good person and I can trust him. After one year I meet him again when he already married my mother. ...
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What's a good approach to a kid who behaves rudely in home
I'm not a parent myself but it is regarding my younger sibling and I don't know where to go with this situation.
My younger brother is 20 years old and in his final year of college, currently ...
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Will "positive parenting" techniques work with my children?
I have two children (age 8 & 6). Both are very strong-willed. The stress of the pandemic and remote learning have taken their toll and caused their behaviors to escalate. They are now more ...
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How do you teach a child who doesn't respond to positive or negative reinforcement?
I've got two kids, 8 and 17, and they both struggle to learn from their mistakes, making the same mistakes again and again and again, despite the consequences. For example, they're both huge ...
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how do I help 5 years find interest outside of watching videos on ipad or tv?
Our son is 5 years old, and since home schooling he had been very distracted he has 0% interest in studying or practicing or reading.Even with his lessons on MS Teams, he seem to draw his own his mind ...
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is it time and, if so, ways to show 10 month old daughter how to clean up?
Our baby is 10 months. Very healthy, happy, and on target with developmental milestones. My husband suggested we start showing her how to put away her toys for the day. I'm wondering if it's too soon.
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How do I deal with my son being a bully to his brother?
So, first things first; I am a step-dad. I have known the boys (ages 6 and 8 - lets call them Tim and Robert, respectively) for about 18 months now, and they do look up to me as a father figure (...
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My 6 year old answers teachers slowly during distance education
My 6 year old child's behaviour in zoom schooling is a bit different.
When we take his study at home, he responds well. But when it comes to responding to teachers, he answers a bit slowly.
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How do I get my toddler dried and dressed after the bath calmly?
My toddler loves bathtime, and he loves running around naked afterwards. But this is the trouble! He runs away from me whilst I'm trying to put his cream on, PJs on. Once we are upstairs with milk/...
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8 year old is breaking the rules, and not understanding consequences
So, I recently asked this question, and after following the advice given, it has only made things more erratic.
At this point, they both do listen when told what they have done wrong, and why it is ...
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Unwanted behavior at table, our usual approach is failing so far
Our 11 month old has gotten fairly good at knowing what she may and may not touch around the flat (e.g. a dangerous table, curtains etc.). When she approaches or actually gets her hand on such stuff, ...
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How can I teach a one-year-old to stop throwing food once he's done eating?
I've looked at other questions here about toddlers throwing food. But they seem to do it for the fun of watching things fall, or in the middle of their meal. So those answers do not apply to my ...
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Should we be concerned about preschool siblings playing "sexual" games?
My wife recently discovered our 6 and 4 year old daughters playing an imaginary game where they were pretending to be "husband and wife" and they both had their pants off. As soon as she ...
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Helping an 8 year old understand impulse control, and empathy
Ok, so that does sound like a big ask; but at this point all I want to do is spark some thought processes in that general direction.
In my last question, I had the issue with the boys breaking the ...
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How to reduce screentime habit while eating food for children?
My son is 3.5yo and is very healthy and active. And we do have screentime limits setup on ipad. Right now there is a mealtime association with ipad screentime and it has become a habit. How can i ...
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How do I tell my parents I don't agree with their beliefs? [duplicate]
I am a 15-year-old and this is my problem :
I was raised in an extremely Christian environment, I had no problem following what my parents and the church thought was best for me.
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Teacher asking my 5 year old daughter to take a boy student to toilet
My daughter is in year 1 in the UK. She was asked by her teacher to help a boy of her class go to the boys' toilet and get back. What should I be aware of in such cases? I am not sure what were the ...
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5 year old didn’t wanted his mother to touch [closed]
Today I was shocked and angered at my almost 5 old son when he started crying when his mom was tickling him while she was lying on floor and he was standing next to her. Our son said
I don’t like it.
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How Do I Stop My Two Kids from Fighting? [closed]
My kids are fighting with each other for no reasons. They are twins (4 year old). Sometime they get too serious. Punishment is not the way I really like. Please share some cool ideas.
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