Questions tagged [teen]
Age specific questions from about 13 years to about 19 years. Younger: pre-teen. Older: adult-child.
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"I want to do that on my own" - how to improve situation if they don't actually *do* it?
My 14 year-old is deep in that phase where it becomes ever more important to do stuff on their own. To get this out first: I am exceedingly happy about that - my goal in life is to make my children as ...
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Are my parents right to give me a severe punishment for being brought home by the police drunk? I am 16 [closed]
Are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking alcohol underage? In the past couple of weeks I have been coming home drunk (not on school nights) my parents said they are worried ...
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How to handle teenage daughter that refuses to listen
My fiance and myself have a 16 year old daughter, which was hers from a previous relationship but I've raised with her since our daughter was about 6 months old. We also have 3 other kids together, a ...
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How to let the new 13 year old sibling of my honorary niece/nephew know I'm willing to be an 'uncle' for them too?
I'm an honorary uncle (amongst other things, see below) to my friend's two children. I visit them once a month and spend the day with the two of them and they seem to really enjoy these visits.
My ...
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Is it OK for a teenager to sleep less than the recommended 8 hours?
According to the CDC's webpage on Sleep in Middle and High School Students:
The American Academy of Sleep Medicine has recommended that [...] teenagers aged 13–18 years should sleep 8–10 hours per 24 ...
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My teenage son has no self-control about money
We've got some serious difficulties teaching our 14 years old son how to manage his finances and make him control his spending habits. He doesn't get a weekly allowance, if he wants money he has to ...
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Why do kids dare each other?
My son (15) has always been very susceptible to being dared. To my knowledge, he has never turned one down. Without going into too much detail, the dares are getting more extreme as he gets older. I'm ...
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How can I help my high schooler find his motivation again?
My youngest is a junior in high school (in the US) this year and has been struggling with motivation and staying on top of his work.
He graduated from 8th grade during the 2020 COVID-19 lockdown and ...
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15-year old taking too long with homework
We have a 15-year old, standard-issue geeky honors student. Good all-around. We have a problem with his homework. I think it's a problem with attention management.
Here's the deal - sophomore year, ...
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Protecting your almost adult offspring from bad company and drugs
Given an offspring 16-18 years old (especially with health problems and alergies) how exactly can you protect them (and the entire family) from drugs (their friends do drugs and some are even mules)?
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Should I be concerned about my daughter talking to herself?
My daughter is 12 years old. She is an introvert and was having issues making friends in the past, but now she has a few friends in her school.
She keeps walking around the house (sometimes for an ...
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what shall I do my 12 year old daughter is out of control
My 12 year old daughter has been a nightmare in the past few months. On her good days she is the sweetest most helpful girl but these are becoming very rare. She loves her sporting activities but ...
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Tween kids in separated moms bed - should I be worried?
My long-time wife separated from me about 9 months ago. I find it difficult to talk to her because I have strong emotions towards her, many of them probably not very healthy, but we've managed to talk ...
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16 Year Old, Trying to Deal with Strict, Invasive Parents. What Do I Do?
I'm 16 years old, in my jr year of high school, yet still my parents are treating me like I'm 12. My metal health has suffered a ton and at this point I really don't know what to do. This website is ...
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19 yr old son with a prosthetic left foot
My son had a major work accident over a year ago which ended in his left foot being amputated. He says part of him died so he feels dead thru and thru. Suicide is big in his mind. How , as his mom, ...
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My mom dislikes my hairstyle, is this normal?
I'm just a mid teenager who is trying to find out if the case of my mom disliking and controlling my preferences is common.
I'll start off with a simple example.
Lets say my mom likes a tidily combed ...
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Giving teenage sons driving lessons when their step-mother isn't comfortable with it
Here in New Zealand, the driver licensing system has three stages: Learner, Restricted, Full. Both of my teenage sons (16yo and 18yo, autistic) have their Learner licenses, and are ready to go to ...
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How to help a teenager who can't have injections
My 13yo daughter can no longer handle injections, and has missed 2 vaccinations. She wants to have them and willingly goes to the appointment, but once there totally freaks out and is unable to get ...
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How to tell my son to uninvite a friend without lying or giving the real reason?
I'm a single mother raising a son. My son is 17 years old and is planning a small week-long vacation to Las Vegas. He is bringing just his close gay male friends from high school on the trip. My son ...
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I'm in deep trouble with a family [closed]
We are still in high school and very immature, we say lewd jokes about our friend's gfs to tease our friends or piss them of. I have said it in some of my messages, examples of what I said were, &...
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How do I a 14 year old deal with my mom?
I dont know what to do anymore. I have had to put up with the abuse from my mom my entire life. I've tried to talk to her, I've tried counseling,but nothing seems to work. The situation Im in has ...
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How to approach my teenage child who never shares his feelings but is otherwise fine?
TL;DR - My son turned 18 last month. He is ready to speak when needed and almost never argues. However, he never discusses how he feels about things, what he feels about himself or the people around ...
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Taking children to the musical Kinky Boots
Our local theater is back live this fall. I have tickets for our family, and want to decide whether it is appropriate for 9 and 13 year old children. What kinds of mature topics does Kinky Boots have? ...
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How can I curb my (and my older brother's) game addiction?
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I live in a family of 7. We are a very tight-knit family, all living under the same roof, and we love each other dearly; but we have very strict rules about a lot of things, the one in this ...
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Help me with my studies please [closed]
I live in this hopeless country called India. I was born around 2004, so around this time I've
finished 11th grade and entering 12th grade.
In India, people don't give a damn about your talents other ...
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My teen wets the bed. He is in diapers just at night but he says it’s hard to sleep because "the diaper feels weird”
My teen has been wearing a brand called Depends. It’s supposed to be a light and nonbulky diaper. I don’t understand, please help.
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My son was in bed with his friend without any clothes. What should I do? [closed]
I found my son in bed with his best friend (male) naked during a sleepover. I woke up at the middle of the night and went to go see if they were asleep and found them. What should I assume? Should I ...
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How do I cope with no friends, freedom or internet access? [closed]
I'm 15 and living in care. School laptops are my lifeline but many social media websites, even ones like Reddit and Pinterest, are blocked. At home the only things I can do to pass time in my bedroom ...
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What do I do as a highschooler with extremely strict parents?
I love my parents very much and I'm extremely grateful for everything they've done for me. Sadly, there's some things that mess with my head. I'm only a freshman in highschool (USA), and I've been ...
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Is my Estranged Daughter just messing with me or is she really gender confused? [closed]
My estranged daughter whom I hadn't spoken to in Ten years and due to my mother's sudden death at the beginning of a custody battle I lost to the family with money and a Judge in their pocket. They've ...
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How do I convince my strict parents to allow me to do things as a 17 year old?
I’m 17 and I have my driver's license and I’m legally old enough for many things. However, my parents have not allowed me to drive ever since I upgraded from my permit to my license. I have also been ...
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My son's handwriting is so poor that even he can't read it. How can I help him improve?
My son is 14 years old, and his hand writing is really bad. Teachers complain that they can't read what he writes.
What can I do to help him improve his hand writing? Is there some kind of specialist ...
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Looking for options to deal with 18-yo who refuses to grow up [closed]
My stepdaughter has recently turned 18. She has severe behavioral problems: she urinates in her bedroom, often in her clothes; she starts fires with a lighter; and she refuses to do anything other ...
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How to deal with a situation in which following the rules feels like punishment and breaking them is rewarded?
Disclaimer:
This question is triggered by the current COVID-19 pandemic, but should please be seen as a more general question.
To cut a long story short, a long-planned birthday party sleepover at a ...
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15 year old daughter has a crush on a girl
So, I normally don't snoop when I go into my kids bedrooms. For some reason when I walked into my 15 year old daughters bedroom and saw a journal sitting there I opened it and read it. I realize I ...
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How do I tell my parents I don't agree with their beliefs? [duplicate]
I am a 15-year-old and this is my problem :
I was raised in an extremely Christian environment, I had no problem following what my parents and the church thought was best for me.
About three years ago ...
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Resources & activities for helping teach children how to fact check claims they hear?
I want to teach some middle schools in my family how to better fact check things they hear online, and basically encourage more critical thinking about the things they hear. I'm looking for support ...
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My daughter just turned 13 and confides in me she wants to be a boy [duplicate]
Last week my daughter turned 13.
The following day my mom left with my daughter to go babysit my 12 year old niece while her parents are out of town. I didn't see my daughter again until Saturday but ...
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14 year old stepson wants to wear boxer shorts
Summary
My 14 year old stepson wants to wear boxer shorts.
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At the beginning of the year, I started to do the family laundry to help my husband with the household workload. I discovered ...
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Praise leads to lying - what should be done?
Situation:
A 13-year-old was honest and open with the parents.
The parents praised honesty regarding a tricky subject and thanked the child for confiding in them. They agreed with the child that some ...
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Hyper-modesty in children
you may have seen my other question, but if you have not, I am a hobbyist writer trying to get real parent's responses to questions that have come up about family dynamics in my writing. I am young (...
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Helping a child who panics and runs away at the mere mention of 'doctor' [closed]
Little bit of disclosure, I'm a 21-year-old who has no kids, but am a hobbyist writer. I am writing a story with a family and asked this question here because I want to hear from real parents as to ...
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Behavioural therapy - for parents - combine with… what? Pointers appreciated
TL,DR: My son's therapy is taking a break; to help me help him I am contemplating behavioral therapy for myself - as well as combining this with consequential discipline, praise and all the other ...
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Should a teenager coming out of quarantine be held responsible to clean up after themself?
My almost 15 year old son recently had to spend 10 days in the basement, due to a member of his school testing positive for COVID-19 (he tested negative). During that time he had the run of the whole ...
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My 13 yo daughter is obsessed with being a Furry. What do I do? [duplicate]
My daughter is 13 years old almost 14 and is obsessed to the point she is addicted to becoming a furry. At first I thought it was harmless when she was younger and thought it was just a little phase. ...
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How to help mom deal with disrespectful and uncooperative sister?
I am a 23-year old college senior that temporarily returned from college during quarantine. Due to logistical necessity, since my brother moved into my former room when I left, I've been sleeping on ...
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What are reasons for setting a teen bedtime
I'd like to set a bed / wake time (or guideline) for my teen. While a part of me would say something like 8:00 a.m. in summer, something like being up by 10:00 is okay with me. But logistically (...
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How to keep away suicidal thoughts from my 15-year-old son who says "life is meaningless" after his friend's suicide?
Following a friend's suicide, our 15-year-old son is having an extremely hard time, experiencing suicidal thoughts and visible depression. And while he is very sad and shocked at losing his friend, ...
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Punishing the younger sibling for bullying (physically abusing) the sibling that's 10 years older
What are pedagogically effective ways to punish a 14 year old for bullying the one that's 24 years old? There has been no effect in talking and explaining, and the younger one doesn't really go out ...
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I'm a step father, I don't have any children of my own, how do I deal with a teen boy that acts extremely feminine?
I have been with my fiancee for a little over 4 years. I met her son when he was ten and he is now 14. In the beginning I felt in my personal opinion that he was a little bit of a "Momma's boy" but I ...
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