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Questions tagged [conflict]

Habits or opinions that cause disagreement, and how to resolve those differences.

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During and after a separation - explaining to children who their “family” is

My wife and I are in a kind of quasi-separation that is likely to lead to divorce. She has been and is emotionally abusive (the silent treatment, projection and gaslighting being what she does most), ...
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Daughter's reluctance to come to my place during a quasi-separation - impact on social life

My wife and I are in a kind of quasi-separation situation. My wife is emotionally abusive, resorting to the silent treatment, gaslighting and projection regularly. She moved to a different city with ...
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6 year old doesn't know my husband is not her father

I have a 6 years old daughter that is not the daughter of my husband. My daughter doesn't know. Nobody else knows except my husband. I want to tell my daughter some day that my husband is not her ...
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How to help a pre-schooler overcome sensitivity to social setbacks?

My son (3yrs 9 months) is bright and generally happy, but sensitive and sometimes acutely anxious. The sensitivity worries me a little for the future. If something in a social context doesn't go his ...
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How to help 3-year-old stop breaking down about going to the bathroom?

My son is 3 years 11 months old. He's been potty trained for about 10 months now. Things were just fine early on, he would go potty when we asked him to with no complaint. For the last few months ...
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How can I ask my parents to help us by watching the grandkids on occasion?

Background I am a happily married mother of two, ages 3 and 4 respectively. My parents are in good health, mom is 62 and dad just turned 70. They have a good marriage and my mother lives in a house, ...
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How to bring my 23-year-old daughter to an adult discussion with me and her mother about issues?

Summary I was witness to a banal argument between my 23-year-old daughter and her mum which has lead to a three month impasse, whereby my daughter has installed herself in my small apartment with the ...
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How to handle child's apology for something he says he didn't do

I have a nephew who's in kindergarden. He's shy and dislikes conflict, when other boys get loud, he goes away to where it's quieter. Another boy accused him of having kicked him; he says he didn't do ...
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My son calls my father in law Grandpa “nonno” (in italian) and his wife (step grandma) is telling my son to call him just Grandpa now not nonno

My son has always called his grandma (my mother-in-law) the Italian word for grandma, "nonna" and his grandpa "nonno", the Italian word for grandpa. Recently my son called his grandpa "nonno" in front ...
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Should I tell my son about his biological father?

I am a mother of 5 children, in the order of a boy (10), 3 girls(7,5,3), and a baby boy just born a few months ago. I met my husband 10 years ago, 7 months before my first boy was born. Before that, ...
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How do we convince parents that we can't all be there within one week of the holiday every year?

Here is the dilemma. My wife, my brother, my five-year-old son, and I live about five hours from my parents, about four hours from my father-in-law and his SO, and about an hour from my mother-in-law. ...
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What to do when child asks from older kids and they refuse

Background. My son is 4 years old and, as all other kids, is very fond of video games. He has a limited screen time, and currently his tablet was broken by his younger sister. He cried but then ...
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Who behaved badly? [closed]

Grandparents arranged to visit their sons family in order to provide baby sitting services for the weekend while the parents made home renovations. Two days before the weekend, it was agreed that the ...
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Between parents and marijuana smoking sister

I live in the UK with my sister, who has been smoking marijuana for about a year now. I have known for a large part of that time. She smokes relatively often, however not enough that it's a major risk ...
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What is the role of parents in conflicts between adult siblings?

Trying to keep this short, the main question is really in the title.. Background My sister and I have a conflict which began about eight months ago, and I am currently not talking to her. We're both ...
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Trouble with parent who pushes the envelope in every argument

I Live with my father during the summer, and I do my best to make sure that I leave the smallest footprint possible. Doing my own laundry, dishes, food, etc. I think I do a good job. My father and I ...
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How can I help my parents?

Hope this is the right place to ask this question because it's upside down: I'm the child and don't know how to help my parents, so I need an advice. My parents have always had a lots of arguments ...
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How to handle value mis-alignment between parents and kids?

I'm (kinda) asking this question for my parents and family. My parents and I share very different values. For example, I think we should replace our old washing machine with a new, energy-efficient ...
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Wife agrees with parenting, but is intentionally less strict

The situation is this: My wife and I are married and happy together, with one single child, who is still pretty young (5). It is a little boy, but the question would work regardless of gender. We ...
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12 year old boy is totally out of control

My seventh grader screamed "Fuck you" at me last night. I am at the end of my rope. His behavior is so bad I feel like I need to send him away to a boarding school or something because he is causing ...
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How concerned should I be about husband's anger display around baby?

My husband got angry at me during an argument yesterday and threw his keyboard (in shattered) and ripped down the whiteboard (may have thrown it, I don't know. We had left the room) on the wall and ...
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How can I stop my parents from fighting?

I'm am 13 years old and my parents have been fighting a lot they stay up all night fighting. Most nights when they do fight I never get any sleep I just cry. I want to tell them how I feel and I tried ...
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How to resolve disagreement about having kids? [closed]

My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 years and love one another very much. My girlfriend wants to get married, and decide whether to have kids until right when we're ready for them (expect ...
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Should I push my parents to divorce?

My father suffers from depression, my mother and I constantly try to help him. Five years ago my grandmother, that is his mother, unexpectedly died, and my grandfather's Alzheimer's became evident. ...
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How to deal with siblings always quarreling over simple situations?

I am a 20 year old male about to join undergraduate, living with my cousin (15 yo, grade 8) and my sister (17 yo high schooler) in a single rented room. We all live away from home for study reasons. ...
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Parents disagree on type of music for toddler's listening

My wife and I listen to different music, and often argue about what our 2 year old son should listen to. I want him to be closer to me, as I'm a musician and wish to work together with him in the ...
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Should a 6 year old's grandmother be kept away if she is abusive to her father?

My daughter loves her grandma and the feeling is mutual. But on occasion when my mom comes to visit, she loses her temper and she starts yelling at me. Sometimes my daughter overhears this despite my ...
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How do you respond when someone is extending unsolicited parenting advice?

I was in the grocery store and there was a child having a complete meltdown. Another woman, a stranger to me and also to the mother with the tantruming child started yelling that the mother was 'a ...
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Am I interrupting my husband's parenting?

My husband and I constantly have communication problem against parenting. Since I posted here last time about the discrepancies of parenting between us, he was so happy that someone said I should not ...
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An Adult Child and a Difficult Ex

My biological son, 26, will soon be graduating college and my wife (his step-mom) and I are throwing him a graduation party. My wife and I have had a very difficult time with his mother and her ...
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My husband and I have different opinions on parenting

We have a 3 year old cautious and sensitive boy. My husband and I often have different opinions on parenting and sometimes it led to arguments. For some reason, my husband tends to listen to third ...
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How to tell parents of guests that we had a loud fight during a sleepover?

My 9-year-old daughter had a few friends sleep over. My husband and I got into an argument in our room after we sent everyone to bed. He lost control and got really loud. He started slamming doors ...
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The right way to address someone else's child?

The other day I was in line with my twin 3/yo boys and another boy, who was probably 4 or 5, leaped forward and roared in one of their faces. On the way out, they also said he touched their hair. (I ...
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How to treat an 18 year old girl who avoids being with family and likes being with friend?

I am asking this question on behalf of my friend, who has an 18 year old daughter. She has always been talking to me about her daughter, and whenever she talks about her, she cries. The girl used to ...
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Father always wants to be right

I am a 22 year old living with my parents. I'm currently in quite a bit of distress as my father has kicked me out. I assume my mom will talk with him when she gets back from her night shift but for ...
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What to do when parents disagree over medical care? [closed]

What can you do when parents disagree about medical care? In this case (friends of mine), the mother is undiscriminating about medical care. She forms highly speculative ideas about what might be ...
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how to deal with my sister

I have a sister 8 years younger than me (18) years old. My Mom and I have always tried to do the best for her and support her, however she is really rude to all my family members. She doesn't respect ...
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How to stop grandparents from acting overprotective?

I have been living with my wife's family for a while both before and after the birth of my kid, and my mother-in-law feels like she is right about everything. My wife is also a way of nagging what ...
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How do we address other adults telling my son to ask us to bring him to their house?

My sister-in-law has developed a habit both my wife and I find annoying: in order to try and get us to come to their house more often, she constantly pulls my son aside when they're leaving from a ...
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Is it ok to disagree in front of the kids?

We have this little discussion here: Should I let my baby play with oranges? I believe that it is always better for parents to avoid disagreeing, arguing, etc., in front of the kids, especially when ...
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How can I convince my parents to accept my approach on school?

I'm a 16 year-old junior in high school. I often spar with my parents over the fact that I'm failing many classes. The issue, however, is not that I do not understand the material; it's that "failing" ...
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I got a vasectomy after our 3rd child. Now, my wife wants a 4th child, but I don't [duplicate]

My wife and I (both 38 years old) have been married for 8 years now and we have 3 amazing kids (all under the age of 8). We really could not ask for more. Like any couple, we have gone through our ups ...
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How to convince an adult son that pot and LSD, even used sparingly is not acceptable

We have a child who has gone off to college and did not perform well his first year. We also found out during this time that he smoked pot in high school a little, and during his freshman year at ...
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Helping a preschooler be a good friend

My almost-four year old boy has been expressing concerns recently that some of his close friends don't want to be his friend any more. While I'm aware this sort of drama is perpetual in childhood, I ...
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How can I explain to my 5 year that I need to be alone if I am showering?

I'm having a difficult time sometimes with my 5 year old daughter understanding when I need privacy such as when I take a shower or need to put body cream on afterwards, dry up etc. If I explain it to ...
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Can I avoid nice clothing being a source of argument?

My middle child (seven years old) hates dressing up. Well... sort of. He likes shopping for dressy clothing (slacks, vest, button-down shirt, tie) and has a respectable collection. He'll even ...
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Is this bullying? Are we overreacting/under-reacting?

My happy, positive, loving, open-minded, outgoing teenage daughter gets along with other people very easily. She's kind by nature and cares deeply about the feelings of others. She's mature for her ...
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How do I convince my daughter to agree that I want to quit my job and not strain our mother-daughter relationship?

I want to leave and start something on my own. But my husband is not working as well and I fear my daughter will feel bad to say that both her parents are not working. What should I do? I have enough ...
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How to deal with extreme misbehavior of younger siblings?

I have a 3-year-old, a 5-year-old and an 11-year-old who have just been the most exceptionally worst behaved children on this planet. Between the 3- and 5-year-olds, they backchat, break things, have ...
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How should I act during conflict between my child and my spouse if I dispraise the child's behaviour?

We have a lot of conflicts with our son (now 7 years old, but this was not different the years before). One common situation is: there is a conflict between him and my wife (and I'm not involved or ...