Questions tagged [conflict]
Habits or opinions that cause disagreement, and how to resolve those differences.
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How to talk to parents about my mental health
18-year-old teen here with no children, I'm asking this question here on how to better communicate with my parents.
My mental health took a massive dip during the Pandemic and I'm still working on it. ...
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6-year-old loves making her little sister cry by dialogue
We have two daughters:
O. (6 years)
Y. (4 years)
We have the impression that O. leaves no opportunity to intentionally make Y. cry. This includes physical acts like hitting/pinching/taking things ...
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How can I get my kid to stop whistling...so much?
I know this makes me sound like a jerk, but it feels nuanced and I really am trying to learn and grow.
Some added context:
He is using the handflute, or 'hand ocarina' method
He does it very ...
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How to best deal with kids ringing doorbell and running away?
I don't talk with my neighbours much besides the occasional hello and wave when we see each other outside. I live in a neighbourhood of townhouses. 2 boys (age low elementary school, I dunno grade 3 ...
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How to play and spend time with kids
I got a 6-year-old and 23 months old, I am guilty of not spending time with my kids because I do not know how to. My son is very good at the following instruction, I got him to switch gaming consoles ...
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My 5 years old being very difficult
My son is almost 6 and is very choosy and in everything he cries, I saw him playing in school (as U.K. school doesn't allow parents to go in and see their kids) but now I came to my home country and ...
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I'm in deep trouble with a family [closed]
We are still in high school and very immature, we say lewd jokes about our friend's gfs to tease our friends or piss them of. I have said it in some of my messages, examples of what I said were, &...
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I'm worried that my 2-year-old granddaughter is extremely aggressive
I am very worried about my 2-year-old granddaughter (she will be 3 years old in 3 months). Anytime she gets in trouble she laughs no matter how she is disciplined. Her parents have tried talking to ...
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Older sib is emotionally abusive to younger sib. I am looking for effective strategies to prevent and ameliorate this
Emotional blackmail
Gaslighting
Manipulation
Blatant lying*
Victim blaming
Physical domineering**
*By blatant lying, I mean telling a lie that you can't possibly think the other party actually ...
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Selling a house post-divorce
I am 22 years old, an only child, and haven't lived with my parents (save for the summer months) since I started college in 2017. I am graduated as of 2020 and I have a stable and well paying job in a ...
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Is my mom overly controlling?
I just wanted some help. I’m 18.
Lately I have been really confused if my mother is overtly controlling or I’m just a frustrated teen or it is dysfunctional household.
I really don’t know where to ...
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How do I convince my strict parents to allow me to do things as a 17 year old?
I’m 17 and I have my driver's license and I’m legally old enough for many things. However, my parents have not allowed me to drive ever since I upgraded from my permit to my license. I have also been ...
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How to teach my 22 year old stepson to communicate instead of burning inside?
I became stepdad to an adult boy (22) (I am not the biological dad). He didn't have anyone to teach him or a father-like figure since his dad passed away when he was 7.
He never went to college or ...
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How do I tell my parents I don't agree with their beliefs? [duplicate]
I am a 15-year-old and this is my problem :
I was raised in an extremely Christian environment, I had no problem following what my parents and the church thought was best for me.
About three years ago ...
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When should I intervene in conflicts between my children and other relatives?
I have a problem that whenever I want to speak and need to speak giving my advice, idea, or argument my heart races, hands shake and I get dry mouth hence leaving me unable to do it.
Currently, our ...
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Toddler's inner conflict with himself
Our son is 2.5 years old. At this age I expected him to start disagreeing with his mother and me, but although he does, occasionally, he seems to be disagreeing with himself more. Especially when he ...
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How to help mom deal with disrespectful and uncooperative sister?
I am a 23-year old college senior that temporarily returned from college during quarantine. Due to logistical necessity, since my brother moved into my former room when I left, I've been sleeping on ...
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My child said to my wifes face that he loves his grandmother (wifes mom) more than her, can you offer some advice how to deal with this?
My wife and I are feeling hurt, because my 5-year-old son said the other night that he loves his grandma (my wife's mom) more than my wife. He said this to her face. She has been in a very bad place ...
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"I don't like this" vs. "Leave me alone"
My two pre-schoolers (almost 4, almost 5) sometimes play rough with each other, e.g. when fighting over some toy. When one of them asks us parents for help, it's sometimes part of the game (they want ...
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Four Year Old - Won't listen, cries frequently, incredibly stubborn
I have two children, a four year old and a two year old. Both my kids are sweet and kind hearted. However, the 4yo has suffered from separation anxiety in the past and has a very stubborn personality. ...
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How to teach kids that loud voices are nothing to be scared of
If parents are habituated to raising their voice when disagreeing with their partner, in the presence of kids, it appears that the kids are visibly distressed due to this. It is clear that its the ...
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How to protect my children from abusive mother?
I am looking for some urgent advice with how to proceed. My wife is constantly emotionally and physically abusive to both my 3 and 5-year-old. She belittles both, plays favorites, talks about her ...
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How to deal with parents that enforce a curfew on an adult
So my parents, especially my mother, feel the need to control many aspects of my life because "I'm not responsible", which is at least partially true. Completely ignoring the fact that I'm never going ...
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How do I express my feelings about my 15-year-old daughter's rude boyfriend?
My 15-year-old daughter always has her boyfriend around the house and I don't like the way he talks to her and my family, as the man of the house I would like to show that I am dominant and show that ...
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How can I make my parents understand that once I finish my studies, everything will be fine?
My parents are not highly educated. They have gone to primary school only. Also, my family's financial condition is poor. But now the condition is improving gradually. Fortunately, I am good at study. ...
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During and after a separation - explaining to children who their "family" is
My wife and I are in a kind of quasi-separation that is likely to lead to divorce. She has been and is emotionally abusive (the silent treatment, projection and gaslighting being what she does most), ...
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Daughter's reluctance to come to my place during a quasi-separation - impact on social life
My wife and I are in a kind of quasi-separation situation. My wife is emotionally abusive, resorting to the silent treatment, gaslighting and projection regularly. She moved to a different city with ...
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6 year old doesn't know my husband is not her father
I have a 6 years old daughter that is not the daughter of my husband. My daughter doesn't know. Nobody else knows except my husband.
I want to tell my daughter some day that my husband is not her ...
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How to help a pre-schooler overcome sensitivity to social setbacks?
My son (3yrs 9 months) is bright and generally happy, but sensitive and sometimes acutely anxious. The sensitivity worries me a little for the future. If something in a social context doesn't go his ...
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How to help 3-year-old stop breaking down about going to the bathroom?
My son is 3 years 11 months old. He's been potty trained for about 10 months now. Things were just fine early on, he would go potty when we asked him to with no complaint. For the last few months ...
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How can I ask my parents to help us by watching the grandkids on occasion?
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I am a happily married mother of two, ages 3 and 4 respectively. My parents are in good health, mom is 62 and dad just turned 70. They have a good marriage and my mother lives in a house, ...
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Should I be concerned about my 6-year-old daughter resolving most of things with crying or yelling?
My 6-year-old daughter is generally a very optimistic, probably happy, smiling kid which likes to play with her sister and others. But... only until everything goes according to her expectations.
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How to bring my 23-year-old daughter to an adult discussion with me and her mother about issues?
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I was witness to a banal argument between my 23-year-old daughter and her mum which has lead to a three month impasse, whereby my daughter has installed herself in my small apartment with the ...
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How to handle child's apology for something he says he didn't do
I have a nephew who's in kindergarden. He's shy and dislikes conflict, when other boys get loud, he goes away to where it's quieter. Another boy accused him of having kicked him; he says he didn't do ...
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My son calls my father in law Grandpa "nonno" (in italian) and his wife (step grandma) is telling my son to call him just Grandpa now not nonno
My son has always called his grandma (my mother-in-law) the Italian word for grandma, "nonna" and his grandpa "nonno", the Italian word for grandpa. Recently my son called his grandpa "nonno" in front ...
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Should I tell my son about his biological father?
I am a mother of 5 children, in the order of a boy (10), 3 girls(7,5,3), and a baby boy just born a few months ago.
I met my husband 10 years ago, 7 months before my first boy was born. Before that, ...
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How to react when two toddlers fight over the same toy?
Your children are playing happily. Suddenly, you hear them yelling and notice that they both grab on to the same toy and fight over it.
You don't know who "had it first" and, thus, has some kind of "...
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What to do when child asks from older kids and they refuse
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My son is 4 years old and, as all other kids, is very fond of video games. He has a limited screen time, and currently his tablet was broken by his younger sister. He cried but then ...
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Between parents and marijuana smoking sister
I live in the UK with my sister, who has been smoking marijuana for about a year now. I have known for a large part of that time. She smokes relatively often, however not enough that it's a major risk ...
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What is the role of parents in conflicts between adult siblings?
Trying to keep this short, the main question is really in the title..
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My sister and I have a conflict which began about eight months ago, and I am currently not talking to her. We're both ...
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How to handle value mis-alignment between parents and kids?
I'm (kinda) asking this question for my parents and family.
My parents and I share very different values. For example, I think we should replace our old washing machine with a new, energy-efficient ...
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Wife agrees with parenting, but is intentionally less strict
The situation is this: My wife and I are married and happy together, with one single child, who is still pretty young (5).
It is a little boy, but the question would work regardless of gender.
We ...
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12 year old boy is totally out of control
My seventh grader screamed "Fuck you" at me last night. I am at the end of my rope. His behavior is so bad I feel like I need to send him away to a boarding school or something because he is causing ...
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How can I stop my parents from fighting?
I'm am 13 years old and my parents have been fighting a lot they stay up all night fighting. Most nights when they do fight I never get any sleep I just cry. I want to tell them how I feel and I tried ...
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How to resolve disagreement about having kids? [closed]
My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 years and love one another very much. My girlfriend wants to get married, and decide whether to have kids until right when we're ready for them (expect ...
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How to deal with siblings always quarreling over simple situations?
I am a 20 year old male about to join undergraduate, living with my cousin (15 yo, grade 8) and my sister (17 yo high schooler) in a single rented room.
We all live away from home for study reasons. ...
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Parents disagree on type of music for toddler's listening
My wife and I listen to different music, and often argue about what our 2 year old son should listen to.
I want him to be closer to me, as I'm a musician and wish to work together with him in the ...
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Should a 6 year old's grandmother be kept away if she is abusive to her father?
My daughter loves her grandma and the feeling is mutual. But on occasion when my mom comes to visit, she loses her temper and she starts yelling at me. Sometimes my daughter overhears this despite my ...
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How to deal with my parents frequently getting mad at my life choices?
I’m 26 and I find both of my parents get mad at me for very bad reasons. For example, I was visiting my mom. In a mad tone she told me to stop playing a game on my phone. Just realizing it now, I find ...
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How do you respond when someone is extending unsolicited parenting advice?
I was in the grocery store and there was a child having a complete meltdown. Another woman, a stranger to me and also to the mother with the tantruming child started yelling that the mother was 'a ...
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