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Questions related to impact of divorcing parents on their child(ren).

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When to introduce a half-sibling?

My wife and I divorced. Ironically, our relationship now is better than before the divorce. We have a son (5) who lives with my ex. He is not entirely aware of our situation. We split when he was ...
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parents might me getting Divorced [duplicate]

I've just found out that one of my parents want a divorce. They don't know that I know. I am a young teen (about15) what should I do?
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How do I stop this [duplicate]

Hi my name is Alex I went into my dads room and I could tell that he was mad . It was about my mom and her family. My mom works for her mom and sister she gives money to them even tho they do nothing ...
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Where to turn for help when my 12-year-old granddaughter keeps hitting her 10-year-old sister?

I have two granddaughters, one turns 12 in August, the other is 10 years old and is small for her age (she was a prem baby). Her parents are divorced since the older child was 5 and the dad has a new ...
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Should I be concerned about my daughter's behavior (or my wife's)? Trying to co-parent

For reference, please see my previous question. As a newly divorced father I have worries and I am not sure if I am making too much out of them or worrying about nothing. Getting some sleep at night ...
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How to handle a child who acts out trying to reunite separated parents

I separated from my spouse few years ago. Our youngest child has begun recently to act out (eg swearing or being mildly violent). After careful and tactful inquiry, he stated that he is doing so as it ...
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“Mommy doesn't like daddy” - What to do about my 4-year-old daughter crying for 20 min everytime I pick her up from my ex-wife?

I have had a shared parenting agreement for nearly 2 years now for my soon to be 5-year-old daughter. She switches houses every other day during the week and every other weekend. This has been going ...
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Duplicate or single Christmas tree?

After having divorced from my wife, I am trying to maintain a sane relationship with her, and one of the things I have strived for is complementarity with our three kids. In other words, I try to ...
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My 4 year old won't eat a meal in under an hour.

He used to be a great eater. My step kids were fussy eaters. Now the roles have reversed. My son takes an hour or more to eat a small meal. The tension at mealtimes is palpable. I have had some ...
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How can I help my son overcome his fear of dogs so we can enjoy our time together with my puppy?

"Bob" is a divorced dad of a 5 year old boy, "Tom". Tom lives with his mother and also spends a lot of time with his grandma and great grandmother. Both Bob and his ex-wife work full-time and he only ...
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How can I help my children who just found out my wife left us?

My wife and I have been married for coming up close to 14 years now. We have 3 children, aged 12, 9 and 5. Recently, she started seeing another man and called it quits on me and the kids. She moved ...
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Is unethical behavior during separation/divorce likely to affect future relationship with children?

I am currently seperated from my wife and we are getting a divorce, we have two boys, aged 6 and 3. IF during this process i was to behave in an unethical way e.g. false accusation of abuse, pursuing ...
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Divorced parents care less about me

I'm 23 and my parents divorced about a year ago and since then, they both make me feel like I'm less important/no longer needed. I live with my mom, she is lovely but only when the house is clean. I ...
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My parents got divorced and want financial information from me

I live on my own and am relatively financially stable. A few years ago my parents got divorced. Things didn't go smoothly between them and they went to court a number of times. I never fully ...
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Should I be concerned about my 1-year-old and her mother moving in with a man I've never met?

About 8 months ago, I and the mother of my 1-year-old child separated. Everything was mutual and amicable and we have a reasonably good relationship now - if a bit awkward. This weekend, when I ...
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What to do or how to feel if my parents want a divorce but say that it is my and my brothers fault also? [closed]

What to do or how to feel if my parents want a divorce but say that it is my and my brother's fault also?
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What are the options when the mother of a 7 year old is imprisoned?

What are the options for explaining a (divorced) mother's absence to a 7 year old? Should the child be told the truth? (Assume the crime is non-violent and financial. Also assume the child has had a ...
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Is the mother a better primary caregiver than the father? [closed]

The traditional parenting approach has been to identify the mother as the primary caregiver for kids, giving the father a more authoritative and rolemodeling status. This is also supported by ...
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Does a biological parent have the right to attend all parent teacher conferences? [closed]

If the school offers separate conferences to divorced parents, can it exclude one biological parent from one of the conferences? Assume there is no legal reason (e.g. EPO) why the parent cannot be ...
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How do you parent an adult child with a horrible ex? [closed]

I have a 46-year-old son. I'm 62 and his father and I divorced 12 years ago, after 34 years of marriage. I have no one but my son to spend holidays with. My ex has a huge family and a girlfriend. Yet ...
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Does reunification therapy work with 15 year old?

I'm going to provide more detail than maybe is needed to narrowly answer the question, in case it's relevant, and to solicit any broader advice which the moderators will allow. If it is TMI, you can ...
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Should children decide with which parent to stay after friendly divorce [closed]

In case of a friendly divorce, should the children (say 8 year old) be able to choose with which parent to mainly live or should this decision mainly rest with the parents?
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Disclosing parent separation to all children together or each one separately

I am separating from my spouse, and we have decided to tell our children, who are between 5 and 8 years old. Should we break the news when they are all together (eg in the living room), or to each ...
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6yo son doesn't want to return to mother after scheduled contact

Me and my wife have separated and are going through a divorce, we have two boys, 6 and 2, currently I only get to see the eldest. He stays with me from Friday evening until Sunday evening. I usually ...
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Thinking about a divorce [duplicate]

I'm a girl, younger than 16 years of age, and live in a country where getting divorced is considered VERY BAD in the society for both the parents and the children. My father can't cope up with my ...
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How to approach my adult son and his ex wife about my son's likely fatherhood of her baby when both deny it?

My 21-year-old son is newly divorced. He and his former wife hate each other a lot. Recently, his ex wife started posting pictures on social media of her baby boy just born in November. Which would ...
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What can I do when my parents want a divorce? [duplicate]

My mum and dad want a divorce and I don't know what I can do. My dad likes another woman and my mom already asked three lawyers for the divorce. My BFF has heard some things about this. My life is ...
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After divorce: alternating parents in the kids' home or alternating kids in parents' houses?

I have three small kids and am going to divorce. Luckily, I am in friendly terms with my ex spouse, and we are making arrangements for our life practicalities. Planning for our family life ahead, we ...
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I really need help to not let my parents get a divorce [duplicate]

I'm 13 and yes, I know I'm young and don't understand marriage and stuff, but I can't let my parents get a divorce, my mom is the only one who has mentioned wanting a divorce ever, my dad at least ...
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Should I push my parents to divorce?

My father suffers from depression, my mother and I constantly try to help him. Five years ago my grandmother, that is his mother, unexpectedly died, and my grandfather's Alzheimer's became evident. ...
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How to tell kids about divorce when only one parent still loves the other?

Imagine a scenario in which parents are fighting because one is no longer in love with the other. They eventually decide to divorce, instead of living together but no longer as a real couple. The ...
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Should I try to reconnect my 16-year-old daughter with her father?

My 16-year-old daughter has not been seeing her father since we divorced (in 2008 on the basis of infidelity (from him)). We live cities apart. She is against of having any relations with him. I was ...
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How can the non-custodial parent remain a strong influence in their children's lives?

I'm a divorced dad who has my kids every other weekend and a couple day visits during my off-weeks. I have a 5yo son who just started kindergarten and a 3yo autistic daughter. I struggle with a lack ...
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What are some of the risks to a child of a divorce going to trial?

Mediation is faster and less expensive but not possible in cases when one or both of the parents are being unreasonable. What are some of the common and less common risks to a child of 6 years of a ...
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How can I get my children to develop a half sibling relationship

I have an 11 year old daughter, and her dad and I have been divorced since she was 5. I met a man when she was 7 and him and I eventually moved in together. We have had a son who is now 1.5 years old....
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Are my 5-year-old's behavioral problems at daycare normal? [duplicate]

My five-year-old son will be six in August. It's been a rollercoaster ride since he's been two. I'm feeling lost and failed as a parent. Me and his father are divorced since he's been two and we keep ...
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My wife's ex blocks all kind of contact between her and her daughter's (except a Sunday call), should she be honest about it with the children?

My wife calls her girls every Sunday for 30 minutes or less and that's all what her ex allows when it comes to contacting her daughters (their ages are are 6, 7 and 8). They keep asking why can't they ...
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Teenage Boy wants to live with his Mum

I have 3 kids. The eldest boy is 20 and is studying at University, my middle son is 17 and still at school and my youngest is a 12 yo daughter. About six and a half years ago my wife left and at the ...
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How to help my 9-year-old daughter with an eating disorder (comfort eating)?

I am divorced and have custody of my children. I noticed that my 9-year-old daughter is eating much more food than she usually does and she has gained so much weight. She eats more during meals and in ...
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What names can a father-in-law use w former daughter-in-law after a divorce

I am planning for the future time (hopefully this year) when a nasty divorce that involves a child (my grandchild) is finalized. Over the past 5 years, my relationship with my daughter-in-law has ...
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How to minimise the influence of bad parenting by ex husband?

A friend of mine is going through a divorce. She and her soon ex husband have two kids (7 and 3 years old) and have arranged everything regarding custody and visitations. The other day the older kid ...
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My 5 year old princess makes me feel unwanted [closed]

A brief background: I have been divorced for 3 years now. My ex wife wants me dead, she made threats like "Both of us won't come out of this alive" near the end of our marriage. She has opened an ...
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What is best for my child - a narcissist father or no father?

I grew up with my parents divorced. I was 3 when my Dad moved out, and 6 when the divorce was final. This was during the 70's, so my Mom got full custody and we saw Dad for dinner once a week. He was ...
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4 year old seems suddenly uninterested in me

I have been separated from my childrens' father for nearly two years. I have custody of our two children, and he lives in a different city than us. Although it is a long haul for him to get to us, he ...
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Names or Phrases to Use for Step-Mom?

We were taking a great family vacation and on the way back, a stranger asked my 6-year old daughter if my girlfriend was her mom. She said "no, this is Ema, who lives with us." Both of them ended up ...
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My son's dad is spending less time with him lately

I am recently divorced and have one child. My ex-husband had our son every other weekend for the full weekend and lately he has been bringing him back earlier on a Saturday instead of a Sunday. I feel ...
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Why does my 2.5 son not sleep at all when he's with me, but sleeps all night with his father? (We're divorced)

I have a 34 month-old boy. His father and I have been separated for a year, and my son lives half the time with his father and half the time with me and my partner, with whom I'm expecting another ...
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Dealing with parental alienation syndrome (PAS) when the child is younger

Similar to this question, except it just started yesterday, and the child is 3. My son is 3, turning 4 next month. My ex was inching to take away my weekend visits, and I compromised (since it's ...
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divorced parents from different states moving together but separately [closed]

My wife and I are separated and living in MA. We created and signed separation agreement with shared custody or our 3 year old child with the help of a mediator and have taken the necessary parenting ...
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I don't want to be a father [closed]

I feel awful about this, but I can't keep my silence about it anymore. I'm a 25 year old man. I am a piano teacher and have a lot of entrepreneurial/artistic dreams and goals. I met a girl about two ...