Questions tagged [divorce]
Questions related to impact of divorcing parents on their child(ren).
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What can I do to prevent my parents divorce? [duplicate]
I’m a young teenager, younger than 16. My stepmom told my mother she wants a divorce, but they’ve been together for several years. My mom was accused of cheating, because my she went to a friends ...
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How can I handle a daughter who says she doesn't want to stay with me more than one day?
I got divorced in 2019 and have a daughter who will be 10 in 4 months. Yesterday I went to their house to pick her up for holidays and she all of a sudden said "dad, I don't want to stay with you ...
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I am planning to ask for divorce. Should I inform my BPD wife's friends so they are prepared to support her?
My wife and I have been married over 20 years. We have two autistic young adult children, and she has borderline personality disorder.
Due to BPD, my wife has abused the children emotionally in many ...
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Etiquette for asking separated parents for a playdate?
My young daughter wants to invite a friend at school over for a playdate whose parents I haven't met. I want to email the other parents to invite them, but in the school directory they have different ...
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How to explain why ex-wife's family no longer wants to be friends with Dad
My son is 10.
The Ex-Wife cheated twice during our 14 year marriage.
Divorce ensued instantly upon this discovery, and no alimony was entitled to her (as per the local laws of the country.)
Although ...
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My Parents have been fighting heavily and today they said they are seriously considering divorce how can I prevent [duplicate]
I am a teenager with a younger sister today my parents said they are considering divorce. I haven’t been able to relax since. If this were to happen my world would come crashing down they said they ...
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how can i help my parants from getting a divorce [duplicate]
im a young tenager and my parents are constantly arguing.
my mum has recantly taken off her rings and was joking around about splitting up, but i think they might actually.
i dont know what to do and ...
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Selling a house post-divorce
I am 22 years old, an only child, and haven't lived with my parents (save for the summer months) since I started college in 2017. I am graduated as of 2020 and I have a stable and well paying job in a ...
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5 year-old (divorced parents) tells dad he doesn't love him
My 5-year old son lives with his mum, 20 minutes down the road from me. Our arrangement is he comes to me Fridays to Sundays. We've been living apart around 1 year. He always tells me he hates coming ...
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Can I bring my parents back together? [closed]
I am fairly young, not a teenager yet. This morning, my parents had a fight and my mom said she was going to stop cooking for my dad. At lunch, I spoke to my dad about apologizing and recognizing my ...
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i am a kid and my parents are asking who do i want to stay with... what should i answer? [closed]
I am a kid and my parents are asking who do I want to stay with... because I think they might want to divorce... what should I answer? I love both of them and do not want to live separately from any ...
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Relationships between siblings in new family arrangement
Me and my now wife are living together since January. We ended our previous marriages in order to be together and we still have issues with her ex-husband to this day. She has a 12yo boy from her ...
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How to minimize covid-19 exposure child visitation with the non-custodial parent?
What practical approaches are recommended or possible to minimize covid-19 exposure during child visitation, weekend visit, with the non-custodial parent? Are there medical or legal guidelines on ...
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How to protect my children from abusive mother?
I am looking for some urgent advice with how to proceed. My wife is constantly emotionally and physically abusive to both my 3 and 5-year-old. She belittles both, plays favorites, talks about her ...
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When to introduce a half-sibling?
My wife and I divorced. Ironically, our relationship now is better than before the divorce.
We have a son (5) who lives with my ex. He is not entirely aware of our situation. We split when he was ...
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parents might me getting Divorced [duplicate]
I've just found out that one of my parents want a divorce.
They don't know that I know.
I am a young teen (about15) what should I do?
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Where to turn for help when my 12-year-old granddaughter keeps hitting her 10-year-old sister?
I have two granddaughters, one turns 12 in August, the other is 10 years old and is small for her age (she was a prem baby). Her parents are divorced since the older child was 5 and the dad has a new ...
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Should I be concerned about my daughter's behavior (or my wife's)? Trying to co-parent
For reference, please see my previous question.
As a newly divorced father I have worries and I am not sure if I am making too much out of them or worrying about nothing. Getting some sleep at night ...
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How to handle a child who acts out trying to reunite separated parents
I separated from my spouse few years ago. Our youngest child has begun recently to act out (eg swearing or being mildly violent). After careful and tactful inquiry, he stated that he is doing so as it ...
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"Mommy doesn't like daddy" - What to do about my 4-year-old daughter crying for 20 min everytime I pick her up from my ex-wife?
I have had a shared parenting agreement for nearly 2 years now for my soon to be 5-year-old daughter. She switches houses every other day during the week and every other weekend. This has been going ...
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Duplicate or single Christmas tree?
After having divorced from my wife, I am trying to maintain a sane relationship with her, and one of the things I have strived for is complementarity with our three kids.
In other words, I try to ...
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My 4 year old won't eat a meal in under an hour.
He used to be a great eater. My step kids were fussy eaters. Now the roles have reversed. My son takes an hour or more to eat a small meal. The tension at mealtimes is palpable. I have had some ...
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How can I help my son overcome his fear of dogs so we can enjoy our time together with my puppy?
"Bob" is a divorced dad of a 5 year old boy, "Tom". Tom lives with his mother and also spends a lot of time with his grandma and great grandmother. Both Bob and his ex-wife work full-time and he only ...
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How can I help my children who just found out my wife left us?
My wife and I have been married for coming up close to 14 years now. We have 3 children, aged 12, 9 and 5. Recently, she started seeing another man and called it quits on me and the kids. She moved ...
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Is unethical behavior during separation/divorce likely to affect future relationship with children?
I am currently seperated from my wife and we are getting a divorce, we have two boys, aged 6 and 3.
IF during this process i was to behave in an unethical way e.g. false accusation of abuse, pursuing ...
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Divorced parents care less about me
I'm 23 and my parents divorced about a year ago and since then, they both make me feel like I'm less important/no longer needed.
I live with my mom, she is lovely but only when the house is clean. I ...
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My parents got divorced and want financial information from me
I live on my own and am relatively financially stable. A few years ago my parents got divorced. Things didn't go smoothly between them and they went to court a number of times.
I never fully ...
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Should I be concerned about my 1-year-old and her mother moving in with a man I've never met?
About 8 months ago, I and the mother of my 1-year-old child separated. Everything was mutual and amicable and we have a reasonably good relationship now - if a bit awkward.
This weekend, when I ...
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What to do or how to feel if my parents want a divorce but say that it is my and my brothers fault also? [closed]
What to do or how to feel if my parents want a divorce but say that it is my and my brother's fault also?
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What are the options when the mother of a 7 year old is imprisoned?
What are the options for explaining a (divorced) mother's absence to a 7 year old? Should the child be told the truth? (Assume the crime is non-violent and financial. Also assume the child has had a ...
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Does a biological parent have the right to attend all parent teacher conferences? [closed]
If the school offers separate conferences to divorced parents, can it exclude one biological parent from one of the conferences? Assume there is no legal reason (e.g. EPO) why the parent cannot be ...
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How do you parent an adult child with a horrible ex? [closed]
I have a 46-year-old son. I'm 62 and his father and I divorced 12 years ago, after 34 years of marriage. I have no one but my son to spend holidays with. My ex has a huge family and a girlfriend. Yet ...
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Does reunification therapy work with 15 year old?
I'm going to provide more detail than maybe is needed to narrowly answer the question, in case it's relevant, and to solicit any broader advice which the moderators will allow. If it is TMI, you can ...
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Should children decide with which parent to stay after friendly divorce [closed]
In case of a friendly divorce, should the children (say 8 year old) be able to choose with which parent to mainly live or should this decision mainly rest with the parents?
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Disclosing parent separation to all children together or each one separately
I am separating from my spouse, and we have decided to tell our children, who are between 5 and 8 years old.
Should we break the news when they are all together (eg in the living room), or to each ...
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6yo son doesn't want to return to mother after scheduled contact
Me and my wife have separated and are going through a divorce, we have two boys, 6 and 2, currently I only get to see the eldest. He stays with me from Friday evening until Sunday evening. I usually ...
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Thinking about a divorce [duplicate]
I'm a girl, younger than 16 years of age, and live in a country where getting divorced is considered VERY BAD in the society for both the parents and the children. My father can't cope up with my ...
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How to approach my adult son and his ex wife about my son's likely fatherhood of her baby when both deny it?
My 21-year-old son is newly divorced. He and his former wife hate each other a lot. Recently, his ex wife started posting pictures on social media of her baby boy just born in November.
Which would ...
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What can I do when my parents want a divorce? [duplicate]
My mum and dad want a divorce and I don't know what I can do. My dad likes another woman and my mom already asked three lawyers for the divorce. My BFF has heard some things about this. My life is ...
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After divorce: alternating parents in the kids' home or alternating kids in parents' houses?
I have three small kids and am going to divorce. Luckily, I am in friendly terms with my ex spouse, and we are making arrangements for our life practicalities.
Planning for our family life ahead, we ...
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I really need help to not let my parents get a divorce [duplicate]
I'm 13 and yes, I know I'm young and don't understand marriage and stuff, but I can't let my parents get a divorce, my mom is the only one who has mentioned wanting a divorce ever, my dad at least ...
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Should I push my parents to divorce? [closed]
My father suffers from depression, my mother and I constantly try to help him.
Five years ago my grandmother, that is his mother, unexpectedly died, and my grandfather's Alzheimer's became evident.
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How to tell kids about divorce when only one parent still loves the other?
Imagine a scenario in which parents are fighting because one is no longer in love with the other.
They eventually decide to divorce, instead of living together but no longer as a real couple. The ...
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Should I try to reconnect my 16-year-old daughter with her father?
My 16-year-old daughter has not been seeing her father since we divorced (in 2008 on the basis of infidelity (from him)). We live cities apart.
She is against of having any relations with him. I was ...
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How can the non-custodial parent remain a strong influence in their children's lives?
I'm a divorced dad who has my kids every other weekend and a couple day visits during my off-weeks. I have a 5yo son who just started kindergarten and a 3yo autistic daughter.
I struggle with a lack ...
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What are some of the risks to a child of a divorce going to trial?
Mediation is faster and less expensive but not possible in cases when one or both of the parents are being unreasonable. What are some of the common and less common risks to a child of 6 years of a ...
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How can I get my children to develop a half sibling relationship
I have an 11 year old daughter, and her dad and I have been divorced since she was 5. I met a man when she was 7 and him and I eventually moved in together. We have had a son who is now 1.5 years old....
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Are my 5-year-old's behavioral problems at daycare normal? [duplicate]
My five-year-old son will be six in August. It's been a rollercoaster ride since he's been two. I'm feeling lost and failed as a parent. Me and his father are divorced since he's been two and we keep ...
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My wife's ex blocks all kind of contact between her and her daughter's (except a Sunday call), should she be honest about it with the children?
My wife calls her girls every Sunday for 30 minutes or less and that's all what her ex allows when it comes to contacting her daughters (their ages are are 6, 7 and 8). They keep asking why can't they ...
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Teenage Boy wants to live with his Mum
I have 3 kids. The eldest boy is 20 and is studying at University, my middle son is 17 and still at school and my youngest is a 12 yo daughter.
About six and a half years ago my wife left and at the ...
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