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Questions tagged [co-parenting]

Co-parenting describes a parenting relationship, where the parents are not in a marriage, living together, or in a romantic relationship with one another.

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Should I try to long-distance parent or will I do more harm than good?

My long distance ex and I have a 4 year old son and we're trying to figure out what to do post-breakup. A little backstory, we've always been long distance (different countries) and we've been very ...
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How do I tell my 9-year-old son that my now ex husband is not his biological dad?

I'm in a situation where I became pregnant with the wrong person and decided to raise my child by myself. Since before his 3rd birthday the biological dad disappeared and hasn't had anything to do ...
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Should I be concerned about my daughter's behavior (or my wife's)? Trying to co-parent

For reference, please see my previous question. As a newly divorced father I have worries and I am not sure if I am making too much out of them or worrying about nothing. Getting some sleep at night ...
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How to bring my 23-year-old daughter to an adult discussion with me and her mother about issues?

Summary I was witness to a banal argument between my 23-year-old daughter and her mum which has lead to a three month impasse, whereby my daughter has installed herself in my small apartment with the ...
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How to explain to my 2-year-old daughter that her biological father now wants to be called “daddy”, after previously denying fatherhood?

My daughter is 2 and a half. My boyfriend and I have been together since I was a few months pregnant. She eventually started calling him daddy and we stopped correcting her as her biological father ...
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Shall I be worried about my 5-year-old son seeming to be depressed when at his mom's?

I have a 5-year-old son and I have him every weekend and days here and there during the week. When I drop him off at his mother's on Sunday nights maybe once or twice a month she texts or calls me and ...
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“Mommy doesn't like daddy” - What to do about my 4-year-old daughter crying for 20 min everytime I pick her up from my ex-wife?

I have had a shared parenting agreement for nearly 2 years now for my soon to be 5-year-old daughter. She switches houses every other day during the week and every other weekend. This has been going ...
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My 3-year-old daughter, who lives with my ex-wife, put me in time out in a dark room. Shall I be worried that she imitated what's being done to her?

Long story short married for 3 years, daughter is currently 3, divorced for 1 year. This year, for Father's day, my ex-wife let me spend the whole day with my daughter, which I was over the moon ...
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Should I continue to allow my ex extra visits with his daughter when he is so unhelpful to me?

I am a single parent (no family around to help) and I have been struggling to raise my daughter alone. I'm also having problems with my ex. Holding down a job is difficult due to constantly calling ...
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My children's Mother's new boyfriend is potentially abusing my child

I have two sons, the eldest is 6 as this question is about him. I am separated from his mother, she has a new boyfriend and is pregnant. My son lives with her during the week and I get him 3/4 ...
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Is the mother a better primary caregiver than the father? [closed]

The traditional parenting approach has been to identify the mother as the primary caregiver for kids, giving the father a more authoritative and rolemodeling status. This is also supported by ...
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Should the father be in the picture?

My daughter is two years old, happy and healthy. Her father and I were together, but he was always jealous (accusing me of looking at other men, flirting, cheating, etc. and there were many rules), ...
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Is my stepson being exposed to something inappropriate? [duplicate]

My step son is 5 years old and spends most of his time with his biological mom. We don't agree with a lot of the things she does but I have never though there was anything not good going on. However, ...
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How do I explain to my 3-year-old the difference between biological dad and step-dad?

My son is 3 1/2 years old. I have been separated from his biological father since he was 6 months old and when my son was 1 1/2 years old, I met my new partner. We are now engaged and have been ...
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How do I keep my step-son in line when the Mother turns around and rewards him for bad behaviour after I had just got done telling him “no”?

It's a constant struggle keeping my 5 year old step-son in line. I want him to have manners and be respectful. I fear that once he starts school he will be in trouble all the time. I fear that my 2 ...
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Does reunification therapy work with 15 year old?

I'm going to provide more detail than maybe is needed to narrowly answer the question, in case it's relevant, and to solicit any broader advice which the moderators will allow. If it is TMI, you can ...
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How To Address Disagreements In Parenting With Non-Custodian Parent

I have full-custody of my daughter (age 7). We're call the other parent 'X' for ease and anonymity. This past Saturday I granted overnight access since X's other child was going to be over too. After ...
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How do I deal with the father of my child hating my parents?

Some backstory The father of my child - I'll call him Bob - and I met when I was a freshman in college. We dated for 4 years and in that time he never got along with my parents. They were either "...
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After divorce: alternating parents in the kids' home or alternating kids in parents' houses?

I have three small kids and am going to divorce. Luckily, I am in friendly terms with my ex spouse, and we are making arrangements for our life practicalities. Planning for our family life ahead, we ...
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How can I determine when I'm ready for children?

I'm 22. My girlfriend and I live together and get along incredibly well. I have a stable job and a stable home. Life is going relatively well. I'm not sure I want to have children. On one hand, being ...
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My 2 yo wakes up every single hour. What should I do?

My situation is a little complicated. I have a 2 yo daughter that spends half of the week with me and the other half with her father. We recently both decided that it was time to move from a crib to a ...
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How to tell kids about divorce when only one parent still loves the other?

Imagine a scenario in which parents are fighting because one is no longer in love with the other. They eventually decide to divorce, instead of living together but no longer as a real couple. The ...
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What is the healthiest way to approach my estranged 17-year-old son?

I have an almost 18-year-old son. He has lived with his narcissistic father for the past 16 years. My son and I had a good relationship until his father packed up our son at the age of 7 (without my ...
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How to handle the father of my 11-year-old son who just met him for the first time in our son's best interest?

I have an 11-year-old son. His father wanted me to abort him. Now, he has seen him for the first time on Saturday. The father has never seen him prior or reached out to ask about him or try to see him....
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An Adult Child and a Difficult Ex

My biological son, 26, will soon be graduating college and my wife (his step-mom) and I are throwing him a graduation party. My wife and I have had a very difficult time with his mother and her ...
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Potty training set back after estranged father returns

My 4 year old granddaughter was fully potty trained. Her father recently moved back to the same state and her parents are not together. She stays dry but now won't use the bathroom for B.M.'s. I feel ...
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How can I get my children to develop a half sibling relationship

I have an 11 year old daughter, and her dad and I have been divorced since she was 5. I met a man when she was 7 and him and I eventually moved in together. We have had a son who is now 1.5 years old....
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Is it okay for two 6- and 9-year-olds to share a bedroom with their 18-year-old step-brother?

I have two 6- and a 9-year-old sons. They live with their father. I have found out that they share a bedroom with their 18-year-old step-brother there. The 18-year-old plays videogames rated 16+ and ...
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Communication between Parents and teachers

I have a question for all parents and teachers. I am a divorced dad and my sons are living with their mother. My problem is that I am not kept up to date on my sons' behavior at school. I do receive ...
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Should I cancel child support?

I'm the father of an 11-year-old boy. I've had custody since he was ~1 1/2. His mom does not have her life together and probably never will. I was a single father at the time but have since remarried. ...
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My 4-year-old daughter's father doesn't want to be a committed dad, yet keeps her hopes alive. How to deal with the situation in her best interest?

My daughter's father is a good "part-time" parent who makes his own schedule. If he doesn't want to show up, he won't. If being a parent is a hassle at the time, he will step away from that role. And ...
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How to minimise the influence of bad parenting by ex husband?

A friend of mine is going through a divorce. She and her soon ex husband have two kids (7 and 3 years old) and have arranged everything regarding custody and visitations. The other day the older kid ...
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How do I discipline my spouse's children?

My spouse and I have kids from previous marriages. He has two boys ages 3 and 6, and I have an 8-year-old boy and we just recently had a daughter together. I'm struggling very hard with his two boys, ...
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How to deal with a 3-year-old very high energy child as a single mom?

I have a 3-year-old who just loves to push my buttons. I'm a single mom who has him every night, but while I work he goes to his father. His dad says he tried to follow the same discipline and naps ...
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How do I deal with my 12-year-old who is smoking?

My 12-year-old is smoking. He has been living with his father, who turns a blind eye, for just over 3 years. He will be returning to live with me shortly. He was encouraged by his father to go and ...
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Divorce communications - How to deal with “you're unwilling to pay” tactic?

I am sure this must be a common issue, but for some reason I can't find a way to track it down via web searches. Here are the basics: I'm divorced, male, mid-40s. I am the noncustodial parent of a ...
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Visitation issue

I don't know what to do, my husband and I didn't have a good way of going until about a month ago. Last year in August his ex started harassing us every time we got his daughter. His anxiety got ...
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Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex: How to Handle Poisoned Comments from Toddler?

I left my verbally abusive ex-wife about 18 months, in part because I could see how much of an effect all the yelling had on my now 5-year old daughter and I wanted both my daughter and my now 3.5 ...
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Custodial arrangements in co-parenting: frequency of transfers from one parent to the other

I'm in a co-parenting situation and I have the feeling our 3.5-year-old son is suffering emotionally from transferring homes too often. He spends one night with mom, then the following night with dad,...