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Questions tagged [tantrums]

Tantrums are emotional outbursts beyond simple crying, found commonly in stressed persons but mostly small children. In parenting, tantrums may relate mostly to toddlers but also apply to other age groups. Questions may be in regards to coping with, deescalating, preventing, or controlling tantrums.

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Our 5-year-old boy doesn't respond to timeouts, etc. What are some other methods of discipline?

Our 5-year-old boy loves to challenge us when we try to discipline him. We would ask him not to do something and he would go right ahead and do it. Eventually it escalates and he starts to scream, ...
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How to stop our 2-year-old's bedtime tantrums and make her sleep through the night?

Our daughter is approaching 2 and has consistently had issues with bedtime. At the mention of bedtime, she will regularly start crying (but still follows me upstairs to bed). In general, one of us ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son stop crying over the most simple things?

My 8-year-old son has ADHD and has been on the same medication for 3 years. Anytime he doesn't get something he wants, has to do something he doesn't want to do (homework, chores, stop playing his ...
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How to settle crying toddler after nap

Our son cries up when his mom is not next to him and it will go on for hours and I eventually loose my temper but It is not his fault not mine fault, he sleeps next to his mother since he was born but ...
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How to stop 3 year old screaming when something is wrong?

My daughter is 3 years and 2 months, she doesn't speak in whole sentences, just words or set phrases. She will scream when something goes wrong or if she's told no. For example, if she's playing ...
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How would a caregiver go about advising parents regarding an issue with their child?

I am a retired 57-year-old woman who babysits my neighbor's 3-year-old daughter. I have kept her since she was 2 months old. Both of her parents work 4 days a week, 10 hours a day, with occasional ...
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What to do about our toddler fully regressing with sleep and acting out after we got a baby?

We have a 2.5-year-old child. Our toddler was colic for the first 6 months, then slept like a champ - seeming to make up for his past indiscretions as an infant ;) At 2 we transitioned him to a "big ...
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Toddler misbehaves a lot less with dad, than with mom

My 2-year-old is misbehaving a lot less with me, than with his mom. He goes to bed without issues, stops watching TV when it's time for bed, no tantrums in the super market (mostly), no problems with ...
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My 10 month old has started scream crying because he can’t reach the shower drain during bath time - how can I get this to stop?

When alone with my 10 mo son at bath time, I place his tub in the shower stall, shower first, and then clean him. For the past couple nights, he’s suddenly started scream crying because he can’t ...
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2.5 year old tantrums one step behind what we're doing

My 2.5 year old daughter tantrums quite strongly. We will try to find things she wants to do to break the tantrum (other than the thing she's asking for, of course). One of the things she loves ...
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How can I stop my two year old toddler from throwing/breaking stuff when frustrated?

My two year old son (only child) lately has developed a habit of attempting to throw/break things when frustrated. In most cases, it's something that belongs to us (the parents) -- like a candle ...
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How to get my 2.5- and 5.5-year-old daughters under control?

I am a mother of two girls, 2.5 and 5.5 years old. I am really struggling with them. Yes I know all moms struggle but I am completely losing it now. The constant “no” to everything by the older one ...
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My 1-year-old freaks out on her father

So we have a beautiful one-year-old daughter and she has always been a daddy‘s girl up until about a week ago. She started freaking out anytime her dad will go to hold her, change her, or even trying ...
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What to do with tantrums if screaming it out is not possible?

Our daughter is a bit above 3 years old and she's having tantrums multiple times a day, whenever she doesn't get what she wants. Lots of screaming and shouting. We as parents understand that this is ...
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How to deal with a one year old who resists sitting in shopping cart?

We have an 11-month-old boy who is very mobile (has been walking since 9 months) and now loves to play, run around, and climb on things. One problem we have is that when we're in the grocery store, he'...
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What to do about my 3.5-year-old daughter's tantrums, which have worsened?

My daughter has not really had many full-blown tantrums when she was younger, ever. But now at 3.5 years old, almost 4 years old (on 8/27). She has been having the worst tantrums ever. First, she used ...
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What to do about my 5-year-old's tantrums?

I'm a single mother of a 5-year-old boy. Within the last month or so, his tantrums are increasingly getting worse. Hitting, talking back, spitting, name calling, throwing things, the whole nine. I don'...
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Screaming, crying, tantrums, pushing… how to give effective timeout?

I'm the father of a toddler boy. As the title says, his behavior is very poor. If something doesn't go his way, it devolves into pushing, screaming, tantrums and the like. I say wait a minute and ...
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What to do about 13-month-old who cries and whines all the time?

My 13-month-old daughter was very well behaved up until about 11.5 months. I guess it's separation anxiety but I've come to a point where I don't know what to do. It's making me miserable, exhausted, ...
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19 month old emitting short bursts of high-pitched screaming when frustrated

I know there are a lot of posts on here about screaming but I feel like my situation may be different. Feel free to mark this as a duplicate post if not... My wife, my mother-in-law, my 19 month old ...
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My almost 12-year-old daughters threw tantrums and screamed outside the house

I’m a part-time working mom and I have twin daughters. They’ll be 12 years old next month. My question is is it normal, even when they’re almost 12 years old, to sometimes scream and cry like crazy ...
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How to help 3-year-old son not immediately start whining/throwing fit

I want to start out saying that I realize there is nothing unusual about my son's behavior as I'm about to describe, especially considering the situation (new baby). I am just wondering what, if ...
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When my 5-year-old is throwing a tantrum, should I leave her alone or stay?

My 5-year-old daughter is generally a pleasant and balanced girl, but sometimes she will get really, really mad and throw a major tantrum. This usually happens when something does not go her way (even ...
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Forcing my sister/child to do any activities outside from school. How to approach a child differently in order to get their interest?

My mom and I are having a lot of struggle with my little sister. She is 12 years old and all of her life we have had a lot of trouble to try and get her into any activity at all. Currently she is in ...
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Allowing freedom of choice to toddler/preschooler isn't working, what next?

I've read a lot about giving children the freedom to choose between acceptable choices, to make them feel like they have some control over things and hence reduce tantrums. And I was pretty convinced ...
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How to deal with tantrums in my 5-year-old?

My 5-year-old can't seem to shake off the temper tantrums! Probably because while trying to "fix" it, I've unintentionally given him attention for it. I've gotten to the point of enough. I've done the ...
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I am having a hard time dealing with my 11 year old niece

My fiancé and I have custody of his 11 year old niece. Neither parent is in the picture. She lived with grandma from 4 to 8, then with her father for 4 months at the age of 8 and has been living with ...
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How to control tantrums when neigbors don't let the kid “cry it out”?

Little children (say two/three year olds) frequently have tantrums (I want my ... and I want it NOW!!). Normally, one would let him cry a little, then when he calms down explain why you can't give him ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

When our 6-year-old daughter is trying something new and hard (homework, reading a hard word, video games, etc.) she can get into a cycle of frustration and anger that ends with her crying in a ball ...
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What's the best way to deal with a toddler who cries/paddies when she doesn't get her own way?

I have non-identical twin girls, 22 months old. One of them will cry when she doesn't get her own way and she'll do it fairly quickly even if she is in a good mood. For example, if she wants a ...
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Research on post-partum depression, child behavior and effective treatment?

My daughter experienced severe post-partum depression after her first birth. She took part in a PPD program and with treatment, she improved. Her son, now 9, has a history is extremely aggressive ...
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What to do about a 5-year-old girl being violent and insulting?

I have a 5-year-old daughter and an 8-year-old son. My daughter is normally a sweet, passionate, and loving child. There are no problems in school at all. Lately, she has started being violent ...
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What to do about my 3-year-old crying and throwing a fit about going to daycare?

My 3-year-old girl is really upset about going to our childcare provider. She starts off crying and then she screams, wets her pants, and runs off; it's horrible! She starts the night before by asking ...
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My 3-year-old screams and smashes his forehead on the floor when he doesn't get what he wants. How can I stop this?

Every few days, my little guy won't get his way on something trivial and decides to throw a fit. He lets out a piercing scream, drops flat, then deliberately smashes his forehead on the floor as hard ...
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How to change a 4-year-old's violent and defiant behavior when his parents made him our responsibility?

My fiancé's nephew is 4 years old. He refuses to show respect and manners to adult figures; he constantly cusses (his favorite word is "wtf bitch", and he says it to me only.) He also constantly ...
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My three year old wants everything my five year old is playing with

My three-year-old wants whatever my five-year-old is playing with. He will throw a tantrum if he does not get it, and we find ourselves relying on his older sister to diffuse the situation by "being a ...
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How to teach my son that winning is not everything and to lose graciously? My son cries when he loses and quits playing the game

My 5-year-old son cries when he loses a game. He gets impatient and throws tantrums and beats me when he loses. The same thing happens when he plays with his friends also. I have tried to teach him ...
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What to do about my almost 5-year-old always having to be first in everything or else crying and fighting?

I have 3 children. The oldest one, a girl, is turning 5 in 2 months, her brother just turned 4, and the little one just turned 1. The oldest one will literally push her brother out the way to get in ...
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How to talk with my six-year-old

I have a six-year-old daughter who is almost never shy or afraid to voice her opinion, but there are times when she is just a bit much to handle. Sometimes she'll misbehave in public in a fairly loud ...
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Continually whining unhappy baby

We are having a problem with our second daughter. She is 15 months old and lately, (the last 2 months), she has just been inconsolable and whiny despite there being no obvious underlying cause. In ...
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How to control an angry and stubborn 5-year-old child?

My 5-year-old son demonstrates really bad behaviour which is embarrassing and upsetting me. This has been on going for the last 4 months. At home, he is extremely naughty, and just doesn't listen to ...
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Where can I get help for my 13-year-old daughter whose tantrums get physical?

I have a 13-year-old daughter. She has had a tantrum tonight after her and her sister got in a little argument. My 13-year-old daughter got to the point where she got physical with my other daughter. ...
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Is it possible to spoil a child, but still teach them not to behave spoiled?

My 9-year-old stepson has terrible tantrums. I was abused as a child and used to act out as a result. Teachers and other adults were very hostile to me and failed to recognize my cries for help. So ...
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Is it normal for a 2-year-old girl to throw 30 min tantrums several times per day?

My 2-year-old daughter throws extremely bad tantrums that last at least 30 minutes. She's pulling her hair, throwing things, hitting, kicking, biting people, hiding under things. They happen about 1-3 ...
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How can I help my 14-year-old daughter be less angry?

My daughter is 14. She is usually very good and not hard to cope with, but sometimes she gets very angry. For example, when I take away her phone, or her sisters use her belongings, or she can't do ...
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How to stop my 4-year-old from having tantrums at preschool?

My 4-, soon to be 5-, year-old daughter has temper tantrums at preschool. She does not have them for me and has not had them for me for the past couple of years. I never fed her temper tantrums. It ...
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How to Handle 5 Year Old Disrespect/Not Listening in Public?

Our 5-year-old daughter is a very smart, sweet, and usually well-behaved girl. She usually hates to get in trouble and responds well to correction. However, lately she has been getting into some ...
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3-year-old acts out for parents, but not for nanny

My wife and I are having trouble with our 2.5/3-year-old daughter. We have a newborn (1 month old) that we believe is the reason. We are guessing she is jealous of the attention that her new baby ...
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Breaking 5 year olds tantrums [duplicate]

My 5 year old son has recently got into the habit of getting into these incredibly annoying tantrums. They start when he doesn't get his way and can often rumble on over a couple of hours. They ...
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How to tackle the screaming/tantrum of a 6-month-old boy?

My 6-month-old grandson wants to watch the the "VuVu" video while eating. So he starts to scream loudly and crazily, almost like e tantrum, just to watch that while eating. Any suggestions as to how ...