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Questions tagged [tantrums]

Tantrums are emotional outbursts beyond simple crying, found commonly in stressed persons but mostly small children. In parenting, tantrums may relate mostly to toddlers but also apply to other age groups. Questions may be in regards to coping with, deescalating, preventing, or controlling tantrums.

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2.5 year old tantrums one step behind what we're doing

My 2.5 year old daughter tantrums quite strongly. We will try to find things she wants to do to break the tantrum (other than the thing she's asking for, of course). One of the things she loves ...
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How to get my 2.5- and 5.5-year-old daughters under control?

I am a mother of two girls, 2.5 and 5.5 years old. I am really struggling with them. Yes I know all moms struggle but I am completely losing it now. The constant “no” to everything by the older one ...
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My 1-year-old freaks out on her father

So we have a beautiful one-year-old daughter and she has always been a daddy‘s girl up until about a week ago. She started freaking out anytime her dad will go to hold her, change her, or even trying ...
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What to do with tantrums if screaming it out is not possible?

Our daughter is a bit above 3 years old and she's having tantrums multiple times a day, whenever she doesn't get what she wants. Lots of screaming and shouting. We as parents understand that this is ...
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How to deal with a one year old who resists sitting in shopping cart?

We have an 11-month-old boy who is very mobile (has been walking since 9 months) and now loves to play, run around, and climb on things. One problem we have is that when we're in the grocery store, he'...
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What to do about my 3.5-year-old daughter's tantrums, which have worsened?

My daughter has not really had many full-blown tantrums when she was younger, ever. But now at 3.5 years old, almost 4 years old (on 8/27). She has been having the worst tantrums ever. First, she used ...
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What to do about my 5-year-old's tantrums?

I'm a single mother of a 5-year-old boy. Within the last month or so, his tantrums are increasingly getting worse. Hitting, talking back, spitting, name calling, throwing things, the whole nine. I don'...
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Screaming, crying, tantrums, pushing… how to give effective timeout?

I'm the father of a toddler boy. As the title says, his behavior is very poor. If something doesn't go his way, it devolves into pushing, screaming, tantrums and the like. I say wait a minute and ...
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19 month old emitting short bursts of high-pitched screaming when frustrated

I know there are a lot of posts on here about screaming but I feel like my situation may be different. Feel free to mark this as a duplicate post if not... My wife, my mother-in-law, my 19 month old ...
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My almost 12-year-old daughters threw tantrums and screamed outside the house

I’m a part-time working mom and I have twin daughters. They’ll be 12 years old next month. My question is is it normal, even when they’re almost 12 years old, to sometimes scream and cry like crazy ...
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How to help 3-year-old son not immediately start whining/throwing fit

I want to start out saying that I realize there is nothing unusual about my son's behavior as I'm about to describe, especially considering the situation (new baby). I am just wondering what, if ...
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When my 5-year-old is throwing a tantrum, should I leave her alone or stay?

My 5-year-old daughter is generally a pleasant and balanced girl, but sometimes she will get really, really mad and throw a major tantrum. This usually happens when something does not go her way (even ...
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Forcing my sister/child to do any activities outside from school. How to approach a child differently in order to get their interest?

My mom and I are having a lot of struggle with my little sister. She is 12 years old and all of her life we have had a lot of trouble to try and get her into any activity at all. Currently she is in ...
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Allowing freedom of choice to toddler/preschooler isn't working, what next?

I've read a lot about giving children the freedom to choose between acceptable choices, to make them feel like they have some control over things and hence reduce tantrums. And I was pretty convinced ...
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How to deal with tantrums in my five year old?

My 5 year old can't seem to shake off the temper tantrums! Probably because while trying to "fix" it, I've unintentionally given him attention for it. I've gotten to the point of enough. I've done the ...
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I am having a hard time dealing with my 11 year old niece

My fiancé and I have custody of his 11 year old niece. Neither parent is in the picture. She lived with grandma from 4 to 8, then with her father for 4 months at the age of 8 and has been living with ...
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How to control tantrums when neigbors don't let the kid “cry it out”?

Little children (say two/three year olds) frequently have tantrums (I want my ... and I want it NOW!!). Normally, one would let him cry a little, then when he calms down explain why you can't give him ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?

When our 6-year-old daughter is trying something new and hard (homework, reading a hard word, video games, etc.) she can get into a cycle of frustration and anger that ends with her crying in a ball ...
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Rude words, how to teach those are inappropriate

Rude words We, parents are trying not to use those words in front of toddlers even if we have strong disagreement between each other. But this can be more difficult and complex to avoid them speaking ...
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What's the best way to deal with a toddler who cries/paddies when she doesn't get her own way?

I have non-identical twin girls, 22 months old. One of them will cry when she doesn't get her own way and she'll do it fairly quickly even if she is in a good mood. For example, if she wants a ...
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Research on post-partum depression, child behavior and effective treatment?

My daughter experienced severe post-partum depression after her first birth. She took part in a PPD program and with treatment, she improved. Her son, now 9, has a history is extremely aggressive ...
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5 year old girl violent and insulting, help!

I have a 5-year-old girl with an older brother, who is 8. Lately she has started being violent physically and verbally to me when she gets reprimanded or put in time out. I put her in her room and ...
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Why my 3 year old cries and throws a fit about going to child care provider?

My little girl is really upset about going to our childcare provider. She starts off crying and then she screams, wets her pants, and runs off; its horrible! She starts the night before by asking her ...
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Control and power struggles with 4 year old - runs off and gets angry when challenged

I have a 4 year old son who although can be very kind, thoughtful and lovely to be around, exhibits difficult behavior at home and at school which I think are related to power struggles and control. ...
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My 3-year-old screams and smashes his forehead on the floor when he doesn't get what he wants. How can I stop this?

Every few days, my little guy won't get his way on something trivial and decides to throw a fit. He lets out a piercing scream, drops flat, then deliberately smashes his forehead on the floor as hard ...
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My three year old wants everything my five year old is playing with

My three-year-old wants whatever my five-year-old is playing with. He will throw a tantrum if he does not get it, and we find ourselves relying on his older sister to diffuse the situation by "being a ...
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How to teach my son that winning is not everything and to lose graciously? My son cries when he loses and quits playing the game

My 5-year-old son cries when he loses a game. He gets impatient and throws tantrums and beats me when he loses. The same thing happens when he plays with his friends also. I have tried to teach him ...
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What to do about my 2-year-old grandson's long lasting tantrums? [duplicate]

My 2-year-old grandson has extreme tantrums, scratching, biting himself. While in his carseat, he will gauge his legs until they bleed. If he has pants on, he will scratch and dig in his mouth until ...
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How to talk with my six-year-old

I have a six-year-old daughter who is almost never shy or afraid to voice her opinion, but there are times when she is just a bit much to handle. Sometimes she'll misbehave in public in a fairly loud ...
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Continually whining unhappy baby

We are having a problem with our second daughter. She is 15 months old and lately, (the last 2 months), she has just been inconsolable and whiny despite there being no obvious underlying cause. In ...
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How to control an angry and stubborn 5-year-old child?

My 5-year-old son demonstrates really bad behaviour which is embarrassing and upsetting me. This has been on going for the last 4 months. At home, he is extremely naughty, and just doesn't listen to ...
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Where can I get help for my 13-year-old daughter whose tantrums get physical?

I have a 13-year-old daughter. She has had a tantrum tonight after her and her sister got in a little argument. My 13-year-old daughter got to the point where she got physical with my other daughter. ...
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Is it possible to spoil a child, but still teach them not to behave spoiled?

My 9-year-old stepson has terrible tantrums. I was abused as a child and used to act out as a result. Teachers and other adults were very hostile to me and failed to recognize my cries for help. So ...
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2 year old little girl throws 30 min tantrums several times per day

My two year old little girl throws extremely bad tantrums that last at least 30 minutes. They happen about 1-3 times a day. Is this normal? She's pulling her hair, throwing things, hitting, kicking, ...
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How to Handle 5 Year Old Disrespect/Not Listening in Public?

Our 5-year-old daughter is a very smart, sweet, and usually well-behaved girl. She usually hates to get in trouble and responds well to correction. However, lately she has been getting into some ...
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3 year old acts out for parents, but not for nanny

My wife and I are having trouble with our 2.5/3 year old daughter. We have a newborn (1 month old) that we believe is the reason. We are guessing she is jeolous of the attention that her new baby ...
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Breaking 5 year olds tantrums [duplicate]

My 5 year old son has recently got into the habit of getting into these incredibly annoying tantrums. They start when he doesn't get his way and can often rumble on over a couple of hours. They ...
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Toddler won't swallow or spit out food sometimes

Sometimes around dinner my 21 month old toddler will eat reasonably well, and we don't try to force him to eat if he doesn't want anymore. He loves fruits, grains and meats and seems to tolerate ...
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How to deal with 5 year-old “homesickeness”?

Sorry in advance for my english, I'm not a native speaker. Some background: I got pregnant at 20 years old, while I was at the University. My partner was living back then 400 km away from us, so my ...
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My son cries for 30-45 minutes when told “No”

My son can cry all day when told no. It's very tiring and I don't know what more to do. Its an everyday thing with him. I try putting him in time out which is his bed and it gets worse . He ...
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5-year-old tantrums and misbehavior - what am I doing wrong?

My two boys are 4-years-old and 11 months; they will be 5 and 1 next month. My oldest is exceedingly stubborn, and he's displaying strong leadership traits. When he has his mind set on something, his ...
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Is it normal for a 9 year old to cry and throw a fit when his daddy leaves?

My 9 year old son cries and throws a fit when his dad leaves without him. It's not just when he leaves for work; it's everywhere. He sometimes questions his dad as to how long he will be gone, and ...
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Suggestions for 16month old who cries horribly and bangs his head when put down for a nap

My son has never been good at going down for naps. But lately he is getting so bad that he sometimes skips them and I am also afraid he is going to hurt himself as he purposely throws himself at the ...
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How to deal with extreme misbehavior of younger siblings?

I have a 3yr old a 5 year old and an 11 yr old who have just been the most exceptionally worst behaved children on this planet, between the 3&5 yr olds, they backchat, break things, have drawn on ...
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21 month has learned how to climb out of crib

My grandson lives with his Daddy, Nana, and Me, Grandma. In the last 3 weeks he has started having temper tantrums. We used to put him in his Pack-n-Play, or Crib for time out, but he gets so angry he ...
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Is it wrong for a parent to partake in screaming/dominating competitions with their kids?

I'm not the parent and I don't have any kids, so this is just based on what I observe. There's this mother who, when her daughter (about 3 years old) starts crying and making a fuss, she'll lose her ...
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How can I stop my 6-year old from his aggressive behavior of spitting, biting, abusive language, and scratching?

My 6-year-old child has very aggressive behavior. He is very sweet and caring when he is in a great mood, but he loses his temper in few seconds like if my older son (10) touches his thing or even ...
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How should I deal with a 3 year old storming off and sulking over minor incidents

I have three children, a five year old, a three year old and a 10 month old baby. At the slightest thing, the three year old will get annoyed and storm off in a sulk. It could be anything from being ...
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How do you deal with a spoiled niece?

My 8 year old niece (actually my cousin's daughter) is really quite spoiled. Her parents constantly bribe her to get her to do what they want. We sometimes take vacations together. On these ...
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Does good cop/bad cop work with children?

My wife and I have descended into the toddler years with our first. Along with that, she is getting that classic toddler attitude. We understand it's a growing phase and tantrums and outbursts are ...