Questions tagged [tantrums]
Tantrums are emotional outbursts beyond simple crying, found commonly in stressed persons but mostly small children. In parenting, tantrums may relate mostly to toddlers but also apply to other age groups. Questions may be in regards to coping with, deescalating, preventing, or controlling tantrums.
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Should I bother trying to teach my niece I won't respond to tantrums if I only see her once a month and risk her mom undermining me if I don't give in
I get to see my niece roughly once a month. Her mother, who is raising her, is not related to me, but we get along well enough. Unfortunately the mother allows her daughter to get away with throwing ...
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3 year old tantrums
My now almost 3 year old daughter has been having some trouble in the last few weeks of needing help for things she usually does for herself. This includes things like getting into highchair/booster ...
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2 year old scratching face and bangs head
My two and a half year old is a very intelligent child who has already learned three languages and can form entire sentences. Sadly, he will often throw tantrums during the day if he does not get his ...
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6 year old scared of everything new
3-4 months back my 6 years old daughter used to happy and excited when we go outside especially when she is going to birthday parties.
One day we were invited for a birthday party and for that we just ...
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Is it normal for kids to act up around grandparents
My mother-in-law has been staying with us for the past couple of days. My 2-year-old loves when she comes because she’s fun and she brings lots of candy and sugar.
Everything has been fine up until ...
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Is it normal for a 4 year old to scream when told no or something she doesn't like?
I have been looking after my daughter who is 4.
Unfortunately, I have postpartum depression, which makes it difficult at times. However, I do everything to enjoy and spend my time with her. I take her ...
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How to help a child accept when an activity is over
My five-year-old really struggles with moving from one activity task to another.
For example, we tell him we will only do a certain activity for x amount of time and then be done. It doesn't matter ...
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how and when to establish limits with fussing in a near year old child?
Our daughter is almost a year old. By our and everyone else's who's met her impressions, she is a wonderful and easy baby who is developing ahead of schedule.
This morning, when she and I were out, ...
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Toddler gets extremly upset about the presence of certain toys and items in her play area
My 32mo daughter gets extremely upset when I introduce a new item or toy into her play area or bedroom. For example, when the seasons change and she needs a blanket in her bed, she will throw a ...
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4 Year Old Temper/Anger
This is my 2nd post. My first was regarding an issue with toddler hurting my dog. The toddler is not mine and I don't have any other children. I love the little boy and we have a great bond and ...
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What are some good ways a father can engage a toddler boy who is 1 year and 8 months old?
My toddler boy who is 1 year and 8 months is fond of running, climbing, falling down. He has had several bruises on his head but does not care. He was playing in bed even when his hand was on a sling ...
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My 4 yr old all of the sudden started clinging to me and throwing tantrums by morning drop-off. Any advice?
My 4 yr old has always been going to daycare happily ever since, and I don't remember ever having problems with him during drop-off. Now during lockdown we were home together for two months! Daycare ...
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How long should i let my two year old cry for before giving up and giving her what she wants?
My daughter is 2 years and one month old. Her eating isn't great, I suspect because we let her eat treats at mealtimes, regardless of whether she eats the nutritious stuff we put in front of her.
So ...
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Night terrors/ temper tantrums?
My 3 yr old niece is waking up in the middle of the night with screaming fits, screaming "help me", " I hurt", and her body goes rigid and starts trembling and shaking (like a seizure). She will ...
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How do we help 2 yo play independently when we’re busy?
My wife and I have a 2 year old boy. He's very attached to my wife / his mom. He's typically happy to play on his own, as long as we're nearby. But if we go into the kitchen (next room over) to cook, ...
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Toddler struggling to adjust to new class in daycare
My 2.4 year old is struggling to adjust to his new daycare class, with him refusing to get into the car, crying when we leave the house, crying hysterically when I walk him to his class, hurting his ...
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How to teach a 4 year-old-child to handle tantrums?
My 4 year old son only accepts appreciation, he cannot accept "No,Don't..".
A few neighbor kids came home to play with my son, he slightly tapped a 2 year old friend in his head, a 12 year girl who ...
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How to deal with toddler discipline and tantrums
Obviously toddlers have different behaviours so this is not an easy one size fits all question. So I am asking generically as opposed to specifically.
Today I had to discipline my toddler for a very ...
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How to minimize 4 year old trouble with behaving when dealing with different gaurdians styles
I have a 4 year old goddaughter lives in another state, but I visit her every one to two months and when I visit I am often her primary/only care giver for the days I'm visiting, as her parents take ...
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4-year-old screaming at every occasion
We are a family of four, my wife currently attends teacher education which in relatively time consuming. Our two sons of 6 and 4-1/2 years are at the kindergarten in the morning and I care for them ...
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Sudden onset of multiple tantrums a day in toddler
My two year old son has recently started with constant, unrelenting contrary/oppositional behavior and tantrums. I realize that saying "no" and tantrums are basically the traditional ...
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Our 5-year-old boy doesn't respond to timeouts, etc. What are some other methods of discipline?
Our 5-year-old boy loves to challenge us when we try to discipline him. We would ask him not to do something and he would go right ahead and do it. Eventually it escalates and he starts to scream, ...
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How to stop our 2-year-old's bedtime tantrums and make her sleep through the night?
Our daughter is approaching 2 and has consistently had issues with bedtime.
At the mention of bedtime, she will regularly start crying (but still follows me upstairs to bed). In general, one of us ...
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How to make my 8-year-old son stop crying over the most simple things?
My 8-year-old son has ADHD and has been on the same medication for 3 years. Anytime he doesn't get something he wants, has to do something he doesn't want to do (homework, chores, stop playing his ...
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How to settle crying toddler after nap
Our son cries up when his mom is not next to him and it will go on for hours and I eventually loose my temper but It is not his fault not mine fault, he sleeps next to his mother since he was born but ...
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How to stop 3 year old screaming when something is wrong?
My daughter is 3 years and 2 months, she doesn't speak in whole sentences, just words or set phrases.
She will scream when something goes wrong or if she's told no.
For example, if she's playing ...
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How would a caregiver go about advising parents regarding an issue with their child?
I am a retired 57-year-old woman who babysits my neighbor's 3-year-old daughter. I have kept her since she was 2 months old. Both of her parents work 4 days a week, 10 hours a day, with occasional ...
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What to do about our toddler fully regressing with sleep and acting out after we got a baby?
We have a 2.5-year-old child. Our toddler was colic for the first 6 months, then slept like a champ - seeming to make up for his past indiscretions as an infant ;)
At 2 we transitioned him to a "big ...
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Toddler misbehaves a lot less with dad, than with mom
My 2-year-old is misbehaving a lot less with me, than with his mom. He goes to bed without issues, stops watching TV when it's time for bed, no tantrums in the super market (mostly), no problems with ...
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My 10 month old has started scream crying because he can’t reach the shower drain during bath time - how can I get this to stop?
When alone with my 10 mo son at bath time, I place his tub in the shower stall, shower first, and then clean him.
For the past couple nights, he’s suddenly started scream crying because he can’t ...
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2.5 year old tantrums one step behind what we're doing
My 2.5 year old daughter tantrums quite strongly. We will try to find things she wants to do to break the tantrum (other than the thing she's asking for, of course). One of the things she loves ...
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How can I stop my two year old toddler from throwing/breaking stuff when frustrated?
My two year old son (only child) lately has developed a habit of attempting to throw/break things when frustrated. In most cases, it's something that belongs to us (the parents) -- like a candle ...
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How to get my 2.5- and 5.5-year-old daughters under control?
I am a mother of two girls, 2.5 and 5.5 years old. I am really struggling with them. Yes I know all moms struggle but I am completely losing it now. The constant “no” to everything by the older one ...
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My 1-year-old freaks out on her father
So we have a beautiful one-year-old daughter and she has always been a daddy‘s girl up until about a week ago. She started freaking out anytime her dad will go to hold her, change her, or even trying ...
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What to do with tantrums if screaming it out is not possible?
Our daughter is a bit above 3 years old and she's having tantrums multiple times a day, whenever she doesn't get what she wants. Lots of screaming and shouting.
We as parents understand that this is ...
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How to deal with a one year old who resists sitting in shopping cart?
We have an 11-month-old boy who is very mobile (has been walking since 9 months) and now loves to play, run around, and climb on things. One problem we have is that when we're in the grocery store, he'...
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What to do about my 3.5-year-old daughter's tantrums, which have worsened?
My daughter has not really had many full-blown tantrums when she was younger, ever. But now at 3.5 years old, almost 4 years old (on 8/27). She has been having the worst tantrums ever. First, she used ...
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What to do about my 5-year-old's tantrums?
I'm a single mother of a 5-year-old boy. Within the last month or so, his tantrums are increasingly getting worse. Hitting, talking back, spitting, name calling, throwing things, the whole nine. I don'...
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Screaming, crying, tantrums, pushing... how to give effective timeout?
I'm the father of a toddler boy. As the title says, his behavior is very poor. If something doesn't go his way, it devolves into pushing, screaming, tantrums and the like. I say wait a minute and ...
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What to do about 13-month-old who cries and whines all the time?
My 13-month-old daughter was very well behaved up until about 11.5 months. I guess it's separation anxiety but I've come to a point where I don't know what to do. It's making me miserable, exhausted, ...
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19 month old emitting short bursts of high-pitched screaming when frustrated
I know there are a lot of posts on here about screaming but I feel like my situation may be different. Feel free to mark this as a duplicate post if not...
My wife, my mother-in-law, my 19 month old ...
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My almost 12-year-old daughters threw tantrums and screamed outside the house
I’m a part-time working mom and I have twin daughters. They’ll be 12 years old next month. My question is is it normal, even when they’re almost 12 years old, to sometimes scream and cry like crazy ...
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How to help 3-year-old son not immediately start whining/throwing fit
I want to start out saying that I realize there is nothing unusual about my son's behavior as I'm about to describe, especially considering the situation (new baby). I am just wondering what, if ...
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When my 5-year-old is throwing a tantrum, should I leave her alone or stay?
My 5-year-old daughter is generally a pleasant and balanced girl, but sometimes she will get really, really mad and throw a major tantrum. This usually happens when something does not go her way (even ...
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Forcing my sister/child to do any activities outside from school. How to approach a child differently in order to get their interest?
My mom and I are having a lot of struggle with my little sister. She is 12 years old and all of her life we have had a lot of trouble to try and get her into any activity at all. Currently she is in ...
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Allowing freedom of choice to toddler/preschooler isn't working, what next?
I've read a lot about giving children the freedom to choose between acceptable choices, to make them feel like they have some control over things and hence reduce tantrums. And I was pretty convinced ...
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How to deal with tantrums in my 5-year-old?
My 5-year-old can't seem to shake off the temper tantrums! Probably because while trying to "fix" it, I've unintentionally given him attention for it. I've gotten to the point of enough. I've done the ...
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I am having a hard time dealing with my 11 year old niece
My fiancé and I have custody of his 11 year old niece. Neither parent is in the picture. She lived with grandma from 4 to 8, then with her father for 4 months at the age of 8 and has been living with ...
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How to control tantrums when neigbors don't let the kid "cry it out"?
Little children (say two/three year olds) frequently have tantrums (I want my ... and I want it NOW!!). Normally, one would let him cry a little, then when he calms down explain why you can't give him ...
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How do I calm a frustrated 6-year-old?
When our 6-year-old daughter is trying something new and hard (homework, reading a hard word, video games, etc.) she can get into a cycle of frustration and anger that ends with her crying in a ball ...
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