Questions tagged [father]
Questions about being a father or one's father specifically, as opposed to a parent, where the gender of the parent is specifically relevant.
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As a father, should i allow my 5year old son to see me nude?
In July it will be 5years that I will have been a father. My son and I have a good relationship. I am a very cultured man and I really respect and appreciate the privacy of people. Sometimes whenever ...
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How to I tell a 3 year old who his real dad is?
My childs dad walked out when I was pregnant and said he wasn’t ready to be a father. Not long after, I got with my now boyfriend and we have 2 kids of our own together, my other child calls my ...
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My Parents have been fighting heavily and today they said they are seriously considering divorce how can I prevent [duplicate]
I am a teenager with a younger sister today my parents said they are considering divorce. I haven’t been able to relax since. If this were to happen my world would come crashing down they said they ...
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When is the right time to tell a 6 year old his “dad” is not his real dad
My daughter got involved with a guy after having her first child. They married and she now has 2 more kids. However she found out he was having an affair and left him. My grandson is now 6. His “dad” ...
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How should you tell a very intelligent 4 year old that her dad isn’t her dad
I’ve recently found out that the man I thought was my daughter’s father isn’t. How do I tell my baby that someone else is her dad?
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How do I be a Grandad when I'm still being (and learning to be) a Dad?
I'm 42. Had my first son when I was 22 during a short relationship. Met and married my wife and had my second son at 38. He is now 4. My first son is 19 and will become a Dad in a few months. He lives ...
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Absent Father of 6 years from birth with alcohol, drugs and gambling addictions
My child's father has been completely absent since the first week of my child's life. There has been no contact until now (6 years later). He lives around the corner and passes us everyday, he has not ...
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My dad never compliments me and constantly calls me a jerk
My father and I have an inequitable relationship. I'm not allowed to talk back to him or say anything to my mom in his presence without telling him. I have nothing against such a state of affairs; ...
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Can my 6 years old daughter be my business partner?
TL;DR: Can I buy second-hand toys, make them better with my 6.5 years old daughter and sell them for a higher price?
Some context:
This year for Christmas, Santa brought some Lego bricks for my 6.5 ...
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Shared custody father completely overwhelmed, doesn't accept help, what can I do?
My brother is in a very difficult situation. His wife separated from him a year ago. They have two kids, at the time 3 and 5 years old. They moved out of their common apartment, each one into their ...
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How Do I Stop My Two Kids from Fighting? [closed]
My kids are fighting with each other for no reasons. They are twins (4 year old). Sometime they get too serious. Punishment is not the way I really like. Please share some cool ideas.
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My 5 year old Autistic son is very mean to me when his mother is around
I don't understand why all day while she is at work or out there aren't any issues. We go on walks, to parks, play with toys, the day is focused on him. I understand that she is the favorite parent, ...
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DNA Testing on 10 year old
I have three kids. For the last 10 years, my two oldest have had a good relationship with their grandparents and father's family.
This past weekend, an ex-boyfriend and I met up for drinks to catch ...
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8 month old misses father on long trip
Me and my wife live in US with our 8 month old son.I spent my evenings bonding with him. He was a very happy baby here laughing and smiling. He went to India a month ago with his mother. We wanted him ...
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How can I ensure that my daughter is not excessively attached to me?
I have been a single father to my two children- a sixteen year old girl and a fourteen year old boy- ever since my wife separated from me eight years ago and married another man. I have had extremely ...
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How can I fix our relationship after falsely punishing my son?
I am a bad father. I punished my son for something he did not do as it turned out that his friend broke the china plate.
Because I punished my son he did not get to go to his favorite band's final ...
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How to tell my 7-year-old about bio father who just got out of prison?
My 7-year-old daughter's bio father went to prison when she was 3 months old. My son's dad came into our lives when my daughter was like 14 months old and has been here and been dad ever since!
I ...
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Preparing and handling 1-month absence of father for 3.5 year-old
What is the best way to prepare a 3.5 year-old for a 1-month absence of his father?
The child has a very good and intimate relationship to both mother and father. The closer the departure comes the ...
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Toddler ignoring dad and change in his attitude
Our son is really a good boy listening the first time on everything and doesn’t cry, but recently he has been the opposite. I m not strict but his mom is strict and recently my wife started a part ...
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How can I help my 2-year-old son adapt to his biological father?
I found out today, that my soon to be ex husband is not my son's biological father (which is what I was hoping for, as he is mentally, emotionally and physically abusive).
The BF (biological father) ...
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As the father, when is it better for me to be home?
I am going to be a father for the first time in March.
We are living in France, so, thanks to the welfare state, my wife will not be returning to work until September.
I am willing to set a good ...
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Toddler recently pushing me away, no cuddles, not saying goodnight etc etc and I'm withdrawing a bit - is there light at the end of the tunnel?
Our daughter just turned 2 in May. My wife and I haven't really had that many issues with her, but recently she's being odd.
Every time I go to give her a hug, cuddle or kiss she either pulls away or ...
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Should I try to long-distance parent or will I do more harm than good?
My long distance ex and I have a 4 year old son and we're trying to figure out what to do post-breakup.
A little backstory, we've always been long distance (different countries) and we've been very ...
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My 1-year-old freaks out on her father
So we have a beautiful one-year-old daughter and she has always been a daddy‘s girl up until about a week ago. She started freaking out anytime her dad will go to hold her, change her, or even trying ...
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My partner's pregnant with her second child (my first) and shows no emotions. How can I help bring that excitement out of her?
I'm a 32-year-old man expecting my first child in September. I imagined having my first would come with all the joys of that experience.
My partner already has a son of 2, who I've taken as my own ...
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Is it normal that father kisses his teenager son on the lips?
I just watched the new episode on Britain's Got Talent 2018, featured a singing act between a father and son. The act was really great, and I really love the special and deep bond between the father ...
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What to dow when my 13-year-old son still wants to hold my hand?
My 13-year-old son still wants to hold my hand. Holding his dad's hand has been drilled into him since he was able to walk as a safety thing and I assumed as he got older he would not want to anymore,...
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Should I feel bad about this or my mom is overreacting? [closed]
Around the time I was born, my mom and biological father broke up because of domestic violence. He helped us with money in the first year of my life but then went to work abroad. I didn't seen him for ...
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Is this alcohol consumption by my father normal? [closed]
I have recently become aware of a disturbing pattern of alcohol consumption by my father. I am 16 and in the past few years I have noticed that my father has started (or at least I have started ...
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Child would not let me put her to sleep
Our child, 20 months old now, no longer lets me put her to sleep in the evening. We used to alternate with the mom and both cherish this part of parenting. It was fine -- we both followed the same ...
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How do I introduce my sons biological father to my 4 year old when my fiancé has taken that role and is called daddy?
My sons biological father and I have been separated since my child's birth. He wasn't on the birth certificate and hasn't seen him. My fiancé has been in my sons life since he was 3 yrs old and has ...
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How to improve the relationship between 16 years old and his father?
I have two sons: 15 and 16 years old. My older boy is very shy and extremely silent. When we are with other people he never speaks with anybody, he talks only to me and never pays attention to others. ...
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How to confront my father about his alcoholism
Ever since I can remember, my father has drunk alcohol. In fact, his older brother died from alcoholism when I was around the age of 10 - roughly 7 years ago. This was fine, it was all in relative ...
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Being told I'm father to a son I don't want
I'm 21 and recently my ex girlfriend has contacted me to say she's had a child and she thinks he is mine. But it gets more complex because the boy is in care because she is not a fit mother (and I can ...
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How do I tell my daughter the only dad she's ever known, isn't her biological dad? [duplicate]
I had my oldest daughter very young, with a man that chose to not be involved at the time (Who now has two more children by two different woman) we split up when my oldest daughter was about 1. Not ...
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Should I reach out to my 5-year-old's absent father?
My 5-year-old son is starting to ask questions and comment on the fact that he "doesn't have a dad". His biological father and I have not spoken in years, he last saw my son when he was 6/7 months old ...
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dilemma with my four year old only daughter re: her dad [closed]
When my daughter spends time with her dad she becomes a horrible brat on her return. I wonder if it does more harm than good for her to be with him.
He is very loving towards her, but not mature at ...
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Should the father be in the picture?
My daughter is two years old, happy and healthy.
Her father and I were together, but he was always jealous (accusing me of looking at other men, flirting, cheating, etc. and there were many rules), ...
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How do I tell my 13-year-old son I am his biological father?
I have a 13-year-old son and now that his mother and I get along well, we want to tell him that I am his biological father.
I had an on and off girlfriend at that time and when we were off I met my ...
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Does reunification therapy work with 15 year old?
I'm going to provide more detail than maybe is needed to narrowly answer the question, in case it's relevant, and to solicit any broader advice which the moderators will allow. If it is TMI, you can ...
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How to approach my adult son and his ex wife about my son's likely fatherhood of her baby when both deny it?
My 21-year-old son is newly divorced. He and his former wife hate each other a lot. Recently, his ex wife started posting pictures on social media of her baby boy just born in November.
Which would ...
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How should children be treated with regards to meeting their sperm donor?
How should children/teens/young adults be treated with regards to meeting their sperm donor? As in, should they be allowed to do this, encouraged to do this or discouraged from it.
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Can living with my father be a detriment to my ability to parent and be a father figure for my own children?
My parents are very from an Asian culture where family is very important and parents are always meant to be close and respected. That is why when I got married they insisted that my wife and I come ...
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What is the day to day life like as a father?
My girlfriend and I are sure that we want children someday, maybe even in the not so distant future. I will be working full time, as will my girlfriend after the first year. We have a decent income ...
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Baby daddy's jeliouse controlling rebound [closed]
I have a amazing 3 3yr old little not. His father and I got together 2011. We broke up around beginning of 2014. We honestly both fell in love the same day we met at the one and place as the other, we ...
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My wife is under treatment for depression and just had a traumatic labor. What can I do to help her?
My wife gave birth two weeks ago. It was all very traumatic and it has certainly taken its toll on her mood. She suffers from depression anyway, and now I am concerned that she is probably suffering ...
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Should I allow my child's in-and-out father to be a part of his life?
My son will be 3 years old in a couple of months and his father lives out of state. He did live here when my son was born but was not there and would not sign the birth certificate. It took a long ...
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Should I make contact with my son's dad after 3 years?
My 6 year old son's dad hasn't been in his life for over 3 years now. He is getting older now and asking questions about daddy. Me and his dad have had a volatile relationship, we were both young and ...
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I want to dropout of HS yet my dad is mad at my decision
I'm a 16 year old teenager growing up in Texas. My dad was (up until now) a really good dad. We used to do stuff together, but that has changed in the last couple of years or so.
I don't have a good ...
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How to comfort my dad after telling him that I don't like to do anything with him?
I live with my dad and my grandmother. I don't live with my mother because several times she was caught doing drugs around my step sister. They split up when I was 6 months old.
My dad and I don't ...
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