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Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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How can I stop my two year old toddler from throwing/breaking stuff when frustrated?

My two year old son (only child) lately has developed a habit of attempting to throw/break things when frustrated. In most cases, it's something that belongs to us (the parents) -- like a candle ...
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Friend kid problem

My friend and I have been friends for about 9 years. She has a son who has severe ADHD and my daughter is 5 and she has mild autism. When my friend is around with her son, her son is very ...
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What is a better approach than “mum with the carrot, dad with the stick”?

It seems to me that "mum with the carrot, dad with the stick" is a very bad approach, at least for me (dad) as the kids (the 3.5-year-old mainly) are behaving very badly especially with me! What is ...
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How to get my 2.5- and 5.5-year-old daughters under control?

I am a mother of two girls, 2.5 and 5.5 years old. I am really struggling with them. Yes I know all moms struggle but I am completely losing it now. The constant “no” to everything by the older one ...
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How to make my son stop pulling my clothes?

My son is now around 6 years old. Today he pulled my sister's clothes in a gathering. This is so embarrassing. He did this after a few months. What does this gesture mean and how do I make him ...
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Should I use timeouts with my goddaughter if her mother doesn't?

My goddaughter is 2.5 years old and lives in another state. We video chat every week, which she looks forward to, but I only see her in person intermittently. She is also an outgoing and assertive ...
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How to handle an 11-year-old boy who doesn't study anymore and reacts aggressively towards me?

My 11-year-old son is now in class 5. Until class 4, he was good in studies, scoring around 90 %, but from this academic year he has not been showing interest in studies. He does not complete his ...
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As a parent, how do I discipline kids who refuse to comply without physically or emotionally harming them?

Core Question My 13 year-old younger brother defies any attempt to control him and my parents do not/can not tell him to do anything that he doesn't want to do. He simply refuses to do it and there ...
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How to stop 5-year-old hitting?

My 5-year-old sons' behaviour has deteriorated over the last 9 months but mostly in the last 4 months has it been more noticeable. He will hit and lash out at both myself and my partner's children ...
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Toddler putting small stones in her mouth thinking it's funny

My 1.5 y.o. has recently started putting small stones (the size of hazelnuts) in her mouth when we are outdoors, which of course can be very dangerous. I have tried everything I could think of to ...
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Using scare tactics to get children to obey

My daughter is 18 months old. Recently we have been using scare tactics to make her obey. Do this or else Aunty from the top floor will come and shout at you Do this or the dog will come for you We ...
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Backed into a corner with 9-year-old and tablet confiscation

My 9-year-old son spends as much time as he can get away with using his iPad (in this case watching Youtube videos). His iPad is also required for school. This evening, after giving him ample warning ...
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Should I punish my teenage sister, whom I have full custody of, for lying to me in order to secretly see her boyfriend?

I'm 24 years old and have full custody of my 16-year-old sister. She has been living with me for the last 3 years. I found out today, from her, that she has been lying to me about spending time with a ...
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Raise babysittable kids

Background: My wife and I babysat 4 children and the parents made it sound like a) there was a schedule and b) if there were difficulties to just say something like 'are you listening', 'are you ...
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What to do about my 3.5-year-old daughter's tantrums, which have worsened?

My daughter has not really had many full-blown tantrums when she was younger, ever. But now at 3.5 years old, almost 4 years old (on 8/27). She has been having the worst tantrums ever. First, she used ...
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Disciplining: what to do when kid starts hiding his mischief?

We try to set well-defined/predictable and not-to-harsh consequences for mischief of our 4.5-year-old: timeouts, taking away toys, refusing to play, skipping story-time, etc., but no physical ...
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Should we gently take away thing from a baby's hands before she can eat them?

My almost 1-year-old baby grabs whatever she can from the ground and tries to eat it. Should we take it gently from her and tell her "No"? Should we "hit" it out of her hand with a finger, I am ...
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Five-year-old son constantly fondling himself - is it normal?

When my five-year-old son wears some comfy clothes, like joggers or pyjamas especially after school, he tends to either sit on the sofa or lie on the floor and basically fondle himself. He started ...
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How to remove electronics and shift sleep schedule of 6-year old?

I started taking care of my grandchild when she was still 7 months old. During her first day to 6 months old she was with her father and my daughter. Sadly, their relationship didn't last. Right now, ...
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What to do about my 5-year-old's tantrums?

I'm a single mother of a 5-year-old boy. Within the last month or so, his tantrums are increasingly getting worse. Hitting, talking back, spitting, name calling, throwing things, the whole nine. I don'...
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Statistical research done on the effectiveness of curfews [duplicate]

Recently, my 18 year old son went to court for a possession for the purposes of trafficking (P.P.T.) charge. His mother and I have been divorced for the last three years; and she told me that the ...
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What to do about my future wife's 8-year-old son who does what he wants with no regard for anyone else?

I have a son and getting married with the mother of three children in a few weeks. She has an 8-year-old son, whom this question is about, and an older son and a younger daughter. All is well with ...
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How to discipline very violent behaviour with an ADHD child of 7

My 7 year old son, who has been diagnosed with ADHD, is exhibiting hard to manage behavior. Some recent examples are: He doesn't do as he is asked He runs out of school by a main Rd alone He gets ...
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How to handle child's apology for something he says he didn't do

I have a nephew who's in kindergarden. He's shy and dislikes conflict, when other boys get loud, he goes away to where it's quieter. Another boy accused him of having kicked him; he says he didn't do ...
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How to get 3.5 to dress up in the morning

I'm having a hard time recently with my 3.5 yo where I struggle to get him out the door in the morning without multiple tantrums and cries. He usually gets up on his own and come to my room where we ...
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First time kindergartner having trouble with focus

I have a 5-year-old who's in kindergarten for the first time this year. He is a smart person, but in class he's not staying focused. He gets sidetracked easily but he can comprehend and get the ...
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Why does my daughter always try to get in trouble?

I have a sixteen year old daughter and recently especially she's been acting out. She dyed her hair red knowing she wasn't allowed to and that she would get in trouble. Five days later she sneaked a ...
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My 2.5yr old daughter does not answer to us

Anyone ever experienced similar situation? My 2.5yr old daughter always trying to ignore my words, by not listening and not answering. For example, when there's conflict I try to blame her on some ...
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How to make my 15-year-old sister stop stealing money?

My younger sister is 15 years old. We grow up in a single parent family. She has the bad habit of stealing money, which began when she was very young and still continues. We punished her - sometimes ...
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“Back your partner” - how far?

This seems to be axiomatic in parenting discussions. You back your partner in front of the children, even if you disagree or consider they are wrong, and then you talk to them about it in private. I ...
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How to teach my son to protect himself from other kids?

My son is 30 months old and he is very nice and quiet kid but children take his toys and beat him without saying anything to them. What i need to do to teach him to protect himself and not to cry when ...
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How to discipline our 16-month-old son who stopped listening to us and started to misbehave?

Our 1-year- and 4-month-old son's behavior was perfect before - he always listened to us. But now it seems that he takes a completely different direction. For example, we explain to him that ...
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My 4 year old won't eat a meal in under an hour.

He used to be a great eater. My step kids were fussy eaters. Now the roles have reversed. My son takes an hour or more to eat a small meal. The tension at mealtimes is palpable. I have had some ...
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My 1 year old doesn't seem to know she is being scolded

I have a 14 month old child, she's very active and likes to grab anything that catches her attention. Whenever we teach her something such as mama and papa, she doesn't want to listen, and her ...
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Which approach is appropriate to manage a 14-year old boy that constantly ignores his parents?

I have recently had the worst problems with my son ever. Since two and a half years he is non-stop ignoring rules and being cheeky to me and my wife. At first we thought that this kind of behaviour ...
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How do I make it clear to a one year old that I'm unhappy, when it enjoys being scolded?

There are already good answers here, but in the case of my one year old, he actually enjoys when I scold him (tell him No! etc.). It's usually him scratching people/pulling somebody's hair etc. I ...
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My 12-year-old daughter is not appreciative

My daughter just turned 12. She is the only child for me and my husband, but we both have other (grown) children from the first marriages. Our daughter is like an angel to us and we love her beyond ...
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Son having problems going to pre k

My 4 year old has been going to pre-kindergarten for a little over a month. He has been having problems in class behaving. He talks back to his teachers and tells them "no" along with trying to do ...
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Uncontrollable child

My girlfriend of two years has an 11-yearold son who is completely out of hand. She and I both are at our wits end trying to help him or figure out his behavior or correct it. Today she got our ...
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What kind of negative reinforcement works good on your 5 year old for misbehavior?

My son has few unwanted behavior I like to reduce. For example he throws objects like pencil, toys etc sometimes in frustration and sometimes he just enjoys. He throws papers outside our patio and he ...
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8 year old boy, getting in trouble at school, what to do? New school, taken away from mom and living with dad now

Our 8 year old boy is now living with us, taken away from his mom due to abuse and now living with his dad, new home & new school. When living with his mom he was late to missed school 34 times in ...
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Is a three year old mentally developed enough to comprehend delayed punishment?

Long story short, my three year old threw an epic tantrum at bed time. There were several attempts to address the situation before I was finally able to mollify her. I felt there needed to be ...
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Can they suspend an IEP student in kindergarten?

My son is in kindergarten this year with an IEP related to autism. He was suspended today for behavior the reason given on suspension form is caused, attempted or threatened to cause physical injury. ...
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What to do when child asks from older kids and they refuse

Background. My son is 4 years old and, as all other kids, is very fond of video games. He has a limited screen time, and currently his tablet was broken by his younger sister. He cried but then ...
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Am I really just taking advantage or is my mom abusive?

I am a 34-year-old single mother of 4. My children are 14 years old, 13 years old, 5 years old, and 9 months old. Just to give a little background, in March of 2016 my brother died suddenly on my ...
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Please give me some advice, he doesn't listen to his teachers and always running around in school [closed]

Hello my son is 5 year's old and just started Primary School with a July birthday he is one of the youngest, it break's my heart to say he is being very naughty at school, he was a angel in Foundation ...
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What to do about 3-year-old boy hitting kids at preschool when bored?

My 3-years-old boy just started the preschool. He is not listening, he is bored by the activities that the other kids are doing, he hits the children and he is laughing. (it seems like he is having ...
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How can I establish new parental controls for older children

I have an interesting issue. We have two new kids that have come to us with tablets. Normally, we would give children of this age tablets (7 and 11). These tablets would have parental controls, and ...
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How to deal with my 13-year-old son's friend, who makes me feel uncomfortable?

I am 38-year-old mother to a 13-year-old son. He is close friends with a boy (let's call him Alex). I have noticed earlier Alex behaving weirdly before me like complimenting me on my looks, things I ...
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What to do about my boyfriend's 6-year-old who behaves very badly when away from his parents?

My boyfriend has a 6-year-old boy for whom he has primary custody over. He visits his mother for the summer, some holidays, talks to her via Skype and on the phone. He seems to have a very loving and ...