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Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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18-month-old kicked out of church nursery

Our 18-month old was kicked out of our church's nursery where we send him during worship services & church classes. He's kicked out unless one of us are in there with him, which makes it difficult ...
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6 year old does not respond to disciplinary actions…what to do?

I have a six-year old who talks back, hits, etc. and does not respond to disciplinary measures such as time outs, taking away toys, etc. When he is being disciplined he would not listen and would ...
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How do you get a three year old to do… anything?

Get dressed, get undressed, wash their hands after using the toilet, brush their teeth, go to bed, get out of bed, stop jumping on their baby sibling, go to childcare, leave childcare, start moving, ...
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Is school punishment for mediocre test results reasonable?

My daughter is 9 years old, she's just started grade 4. We've had her in a school for gifted kids since kindergarten. It's been great so far because they understand the challenges that gifted kids ...
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How to make my 6.5-year-old stop playing with saliva?

My 6.5-year-old son is a normal, happy child but has a nasty habit of wiping his mouth on his hands, or taking saliva out of his mouth and spreading it, e.g. on his foot (?) multiple times a day. He ...
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How to prevent my 3-year-old boy from climbing on top of me?

We have a 3-year-old boy who spends most of his time at home. Oftentimes, while we are trying to work, or teaching our older kids, the boy will start to climb on top of us. Telling him "Stop" doesn't ...
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What can we do about our 9-month-old putting fingers down his throat?

For the past 6 weeks or so, our 9-month-old son has been in the habit of sticking a finger far into his mouth; to the point where he coughs; and sometimes throws up as a result. If we are next to him ...
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How to make my pre-schooler stop trying to make his friends follow the instructions given to him?

My son is 3 years and 8 months old. He starts to cry when any of his friends in school makes any mistake. For example, if his friends make any mistake in writing, he starts to cry. If his friends are ...
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How do I get pre-schoolers to stop asking for food every hour?

My boyfriend has three little girls, 3, 3 and 5 years old. I try to feed them balanced and correctly portioned meals and snacks even though the 5-year-old is extremely picky. They eat about every 2 ...
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How to lessen a depressed teenager's absences?

Some context Dad died unexpectedly on 2014 and mom was murdered on 2017. This has caused a myriad of problems for us. It's just me (26) and my brother (16) left so I have to to be a parent figure to ...
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How to make a 5-year-old follow instructions in kindergarten?

I have a 5-year-old granddaughter. She has only been in kindergarten for two weeks and has been in trouble three times for not following instructions. No walking in line without touching wall or ...
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How to make a 3.5-year-old stop deliberately waking up her 1-year-old sister?

We've got two daughters of 3.5 (B) and 1 (L) years, respectively. B's behaviour is sometimes a bit reminiscent of what was described in someone else's earlier question. The particular issue/situation ...
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What to do about a defiant 5-year-old?

Our 5-year-old daughter just started kindergarten a week ago. After over a year of defiant behaviour, I had hoped that school would give my wife and I a much needed change for the better with our ...
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How to help a 14-year-old recognize reckless, destructive behavior as such and take it seriously after partially blinding our dog?

Our 14-year-old is a great kid. No joke. He causes very little issues for us. Lately though, he has simply turned reckless in his behavior at times. I have attributed this change to the fact that he ...
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How to make my 16-year-old stop biting?

My 16- nearly 17-year-old son still bites. He isn’t neurotypical and he already goes to therapy. He does see what he is doing as normal for him alone. He bites when anyone tries to hug him or give ...
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How to make my niece stop bothering my son because she is older?

My son is 3 years and 9 months old. I have a problem telling my 5-year-old niece that she is bothering my son. She's always telling him that she has something that he doesn't have, or knows swimming ...
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How to get a 3-year-old to stop running away?

My 3-year-old will break away from me or my husband and he is so fast we cannot catch him. It happens in the house but sometimes outdoors in a parking lot, at the pool or play area especially when he ...
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What to do about our 10-month-old keeping on shouting?

My 10-month-old daughter keeps shouting most of the times until she gets what she needs. At times, she keeps shouting even if we try everything. We haven't tried sign language yet. Has anyone else ...
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Our 5-year-old boy doesn't respond to timeouts, etc. What are some other methods of discipline?

Our 5-year-old boy loves to challenge us when we try to discipline him. We would ask him not to do something and he would go right ahead and do it. Eventually it escalates and he starts to scream, ...
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Toddlerhood - when does it end?

Wow. As a first time mother, I'm finding this toddler phase to be the most challenging so far. My girl is almost 17 months old. She is sassy! She climbs everything, she's a daredevil, she's testing ...
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“Never punish in anger” - How far does this extend?

I've heard the phrase, "You should never punish your child in anger," before, and it makes logical sense. However, how far does this extend? If a child, let's say a four-year-old, does something ...
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How to remove mobile addiction in my toddler

Our son is 3 years old and addicted to mobile, he need to play games, or he will cry and make fuss. My wife give her phone and he is always starring down at it. To make him quiet coz he make a lot of ...
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Can my mother charge me money for not doing what she says?

When I don't do the washing up, or take out the trash, or whatever when mum asks, she charges me $10. I have a job, but am 17 living at home. I am wondering if she is allowed to make up fines for ...
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How to help our 2-year-old adjust to new daycare where he's violent and pushy?

Our 2-year-old has just moved from a fairly loud, apathetic, semi-violent daycare, to the point where he was coming home with bites and bruises almost daily, to a new, nicer daycare closer to our work....
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How can I fix our relationship after falsely punishing my son?

I am a bad father. I punished my son for something he did not do as it turned out that his friend broke the china plate. Because I punished my son he did not get to go to his favorite band's final ...
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How to make our 3-year-old stop talking over every conversation around her?

Our 3-year-old daughter has been talking over any conversation in her vicinity for the past few months with increasing intensity. I can't talk for more than a minute or two to my wife when our ...
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How to make my 6- and 8-year-old's stop using the f-word?

My kindergartener and 2nd grader have learned the f-word and a lot of other words in school and they say them at home. I never react too stubbornly with them or stop them to use those words. I gently ...
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How do I discipline a 14-year-old girl without pushing her away?

I have a 14-year-old sister who my grandmother and I are gaining custody of. I don't doubt my grandmother's ability to take care of and discipline my sister the way she should be, but she and I are ...
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Completing the homework - how much is this in parents' responsibility and up to which age?

We have a 10-year-old child who is generally not interested in doing homework. He prefers to play games and watch TV. He's bored by homework which requires some patience and concentration, like ...
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What to do about my 14-year-old sister being out of control and selfish? [closed]

I'm 20 years old and have a 14-year-old sister. We've been having a step father for 12 years, she's never known any different. We all used to get on perfectly. She's always been a really good student. ...
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How to discipline my 5-year-old who misbehaves when tired or hungry?

I have a sweet but headstrong 5-year-old kid. He is usually well behaved and when that is not the case I handle it. But when he is experiencing some kind of physical discomfort - he could be tired, ...
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How to punish my teenage daughter for buying thongs? [closed]

I have a 14-year-old daughter. I found out that she has bought a bunch of thongs and thong body suits and thong bikinis. I also found a bunch of mini skirts and super short shorts. How should I punish ...
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How to keep an active toddler behaved at church?

My wife and I attend church weekly with our son, who’s 14 months. He’s become very physically active and can’t really sit still for long during the service (he wants to crawl, walk, play, etc...). We ...
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What to do about a 12-year-old boy who is shy outside but misbehaves at home?

I am mother of a 12-year-old boy. Compared with other children, his behavior is totally different. Behavior at home I think he behaves childishly. He talks loudly, screams and argues. He doesn't ...
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How can I introduce discipline into my 8-year-old daughter's life? [closed]

I have an 8-year-old daughter and I have had some past issues with kids and feel a lot of guilt. So I really find it hard to believe that strict. But now it has got a little bit of control. She back ...
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Am I losing control as a father and head of house?

Our 3.5-year-old son just keep reacting: asking mom about all things. He doesn’t care if I am calling. if he is crying I am trying to console him. He would fight me to go to mother and I keep ...
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How to make a 3-year-old stop hitting her 8-month-old brother?

Recently, my 3-year-old daughter started hitting her 8-month-old baby brother. It started a few weeks ago, and is getting more and more common. So far everything we've tried, we've been unable to ...
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How to stop toddler crying when we watch tv

Gone are the days when cartoons were limited. Our 3 years old watch tv for cartoons but when I come home in the evening after dinner I like to catch up on news or while eating diner. Basically, he ...
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How to stop 3 year old screaming when something is wrong?

My daughter is 3 years and 2 months, she doesn't speak in whole sentences, just words or set phrases. She will scream when something goes wrong or if she's told no. For example, if she's playing ...
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How to overcome the nasty mouth and disrespect of my 6-year-old boy?

I am a widowed single mother of a 6-year-old boy. He knew his father until he passed away, this August will be four years ago. Since then I have been close to maybe two men. One is no longer with us ...
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Toddler ignoring dad and change in his attitude

Our son is really a good boy listening the first time on everything and doesn’t cry, but recently he has been the opposite. I m not strict but his mom is strict and recently my wife started a part ...
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How can I discipline an angry 12-year-old without her hating me for it?

My 12-year-old daughter till recently had a good, friendly relationship with us (her parents) and was always happy to discuss anything that happens at school/activity classes and what's going on with ...
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My 4-year-old is biting at school. How to make him stop?

I have a 4-year-old child. In the last month, he has bitten 2 kids. He's a loving child, but very strong willed, impatient and has difficulty taking turns. I've read a lot, and done everything: ...
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What to do with a 7-year-old who just started stealing?

My 7-year-old daughter is currently on vacation from school until this Monday. Yesterday, she was in "camp" - a full-day version of the after-care program we usually send her to. At some point, she ...
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My son got in trouble for harassment at school. How can I teach him to stop?

So, a day or two ago, my son touched a girls butt during lunch. She reported him to the counselor and my son got a Saturday Detention, along with having to write a hand written apology to the girl. ...
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How to stop 3-year-old from bouncing in every bed?

My 3-year-old son has the habit of sitting and bouncing in bed. It doesn't interfer with sleeping and napping. He even jumps on the sofa. He does that whenever he enters a room with a bed and when he ...
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How do I get my 7YO son to [do thing he doesn't want to] when he offers a sequence of excuses?

Me: [Son's name] - go brush your teeth! Son: I just have to : finish this page of my book finish watching this episode finish throwing this ball go look at this thing [repeat and ...
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Respectful parenting and discipline

Been reading a bit about Respectful Parenting and mutual respect as a parenting style and it appeals to us. We have four kids so keeping track of reward charts and various other trackers is complex ...
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How to make a teen stop vaping?

I have a 16-year-old daughter. She is vaping a nicotine product. I know that, because I found liquid nicotine and a vaping pipe in her room twice and smelled it in her room once. I don't believe she ...
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What to do about a 21-month-old girl who hits other little kids for no observable reason?

My 1-year-old daughter is babysat by my sister in law. Her cousin is 21 months old and hits, sits, kicks, pinches and pulls hair. Her mom calls her a bully and says she does it to all little kids, but ...