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Questions tagged [discipline]

How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.

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Completing the homework - how much is this in parents' responsibility and up to which age?

We have a 10-year-old child who is generally not interested in doing homework. He prefers to play games and watch TV. He's bored by homework which requires some patience and concentration, like ...
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What to do about my 14-year-old sister being out of control and selfish? [closed]

I'm 20 years old and have a 14-year-old sister. We've been having a step father for 12 years, she's never known any different. We all used to get on perfectly. She's always been a really good student. ...
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How to discipline my 5-year-old who misbehaves when tired or hungry?

I have a sweet but headstrong 5-year-old kid. He is usually well behaved and when that is not the case I handle it. But when he is experiencing some kind of physical discomfort - he could be tired, ...
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How to punish my teenage daughter for buying thongs? [closed]

I have a 14-year-old daughter. I found out that she has bought a bunch of thongs and thong body suits and thong bikinis. I also found a bunch of mini skirts and super short shorts. How should I punish ...
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How to keep an active toddler behaved at church?

My wife and I attend church weekly with our son, who’s 14 months. He’s become very physically active and can’t really sit still for long during the service (he wants to crawl, walk, play, etc...). We ...
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What to do about a 12-year-old boy who is shy outside but misbehaves at home?

I am mother of a 12-year-old boy. Compared with other children, his behavior is totally different. Behavior at home I think he behaves childishly. He talks loudly, screams and argues. He doesn't ...
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How can I introduce discipline into my 8-year-old daughter's life? [closed]

I have an 8-year-old daughter and I have had some past issues with kids and feel a lot of guilt. So I really find it hard to believe that strict. But now it has got a little bit of control. She back ...
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Am I losing control as a father and head of house?

Our 3.5-year-old son just keep reacting: asking mom about all things. He doesn’t care if I am calling. if he is crying I am trying to console him. He would fight me to go to mother and I keep ...
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How to make a 3-year-old stop hitting her 8-month-old brother?

Recently, my 3-year-old daughter started hitting her 8-month-old baby brother. It started a few weeks ago, and is getting more and more common. So far everything we've tried, we've been unable to ...
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How to stop toddler crying when we watch tv

Gone are the days when cartoons were limited. Our 3 years old watch tv for cartoons but when I come home in the evening after dinner I like to catch up on news or while eating diner. Basically, he ...
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How to stop 3 year old screaming when something is wrong?

My daughter is 3 years and 2 months, she doesn't speak in whole sentences, just words or set phrases. She will scream when something goes wrong or if she's told no. For example, if she's playing ...
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How to overcome the nasty mouth and disrespect of my 6-year-old boy?

I am a widowed single mother of a 6-year-old boy. He knew his father until he passed away, this August will be four years ago. Since then I have been close to maybe two men. One is no longer with us ...
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Toddler ignoring dad and change in his attitude

Our son is really a good boy listening the first time on everything and doesn’t cry, but recently he has been the opposite. I m not strict but his mom is strict and recently my wife started a part ...
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How can I discipline an angry 12-year-old without her hating me for it?

My 12-year-old daughter till recently had a good, friendly relationship with us (her parents) and was always happy to discuss anything that happens at school/activity classes and what's going on with ...
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My 4-year-old is biting at school. How to make him stop?

I have a 4-year-old child. In the last month, he has bitten 2 kids. He's a loving child, but very strong willed, impatient and has difficulty taking turns. I've read a lot, and done everything: ...
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What to do with a 7-year-old who just started stealing?

My 7-year-old daughter is currently on vacation from school until this Monday. Yesterday, she was in "camp" - a full-day version of the after-care program we usually send her to. At some point, she ...
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My son got in trouble for harassment at school. How can I teach him to stop?

So, a day or two ago, my son touched a girls butt during lunch. She reported him to the counselor and my son got a Saturday Detention, along with having to write a hand written apology to the girl. ...
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How to stop 3-year-old from bouncing in every bed?

My 3-year-old son has the habit of sitting and bouncing in bed. It doesn't interfer with sleeping and napping. He even jumps on the sofa. He does that whenever he enters a room with a bed and when he ...
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How do I get my 7YO son to [do thing he doesn't want to] when he offers a sequence of excuses?

Me: [Son's name] - go brush your teeth! Son: I just have to : finish this page of my book finish watching this episode finish throwing this ball go look at this thing [repeat and ...
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Respectful parenting and discipline

Been reading a bit about Respectful Parenting and mutual respect as a parenting style and it appeals to us. We have four kids so keeping track of reward charts and various other trackers is complex ...
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How to make a teen stop vaping?

I have a 16-year-old daughter. She is vaping a nicotine product. I know that, because I found liquid nicotine and a vaping pipe in her room twice and smelled it in her room once. I don't believe she ...
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What to do about a 21-month-old girl who hits other little kids for no observable reason?

My 1-year-old daughter is babysat by my sister in law. Her cousin is 21 months old and hits, sits, kicks, pinches and pulls hair. Her mom calls her a bully and says she does it to all little kids, but ...
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Constipation and not eating while holding back poo. How can we help our son?

Our son is going to be 3 years old. Lately, he had constipation and he doesn't eat much. Now he holds back his stool because he had a rash, but now it is really hard for us to make him poo as he cries ...
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How to discipline teens for littering?

We have a chore system for our two tweenagers, where we all clean up at the end of the day and they help out. So far it's been pretty good with less and less oversight needed over time, and relatively ...
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How to make our toddler stop saying a bad word?

My 2.5-year-old son is repeatedly using a bad word. We have tried so many times to change him but to no avail. What can we do to change this habit? Also, he gets angry very quickly and starts throwing ...
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How to break defiant cycle with time out?

My goddaughter is barely 3 years old and I visit and babysit her often, and have her mother's full permission to use time outs when I feel they are appropriate. She is usually pretty well behaved, ...
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Am I being too hard on my 7-year-old child?

I never thought I would have children. I suddenly walked into a beautiful little 7-year-old's life, with the commitment of becoming the best mother I can be to her. But sometimes, I question whether ...
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How to discipline my fiancée's very, very defiant misbehaving 5-year-old?

My ability to help in this situation is limited because of the fact that the 5 year old I'm asking about is my fiancée's son. I have been with her now for 3 years and have been the male figure in this ...
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How can I stop my two year old toddler from throwing/breaking stuff when frustrated?

My two year old son (only child) lately has developed a habit of attempting to throw/break things when frustrated. In most cases, it's something that belongs to us (the parents) -- like a candle ...
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Friend kid problem

My friend and I have been friends for about 9 years. She has a son who has severe ADHD and my daughter is 5 and she has mild autism. When my friend is around with her son, her son is very ...
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What is a better approach than “mum with the carrot, dad with the stick”?

It seems to me that "mum with the carrot, dad with the stick" is a very bad approach, at least for me (dad) as the kids (the 3.5-year-old mainly) are behaving very badly especially with me! What is ...
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Can we say “bad boy” to my 2-year-old son if he misbehaves or does something which we don't like?

My 2-year-old son has learnt a new word "No" recently. He is aware of what "No" indicates and when to tell this in the perfect situation. If he doesn't like anything or if we change the channels on ...
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How to get my 2.5- and 5.5-year-old daughters under control?

I am a mother of two girls, 2.5 and 5.5 years old. I am really struggling with them. Yes I know all moms struggle but I am completely losing it now. The constant “no” to everything by the older one ...
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How to make my son stop pulling my clothes?

My son is now around 6 years old. Today he pulled my sister's clothes in a gathering. This is so embarrassing. He did this after a few months. What does this gesture mean and how do I make him ...
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Should I use timeouts with my goddaughter if her mother doesn't?

My goddaughter is 2.5 years old and lives in another state. We video chat every week, which she looks forward to, but I only see her in person intermittently. She is also an outgoing and assertive ...
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How to handle an 11-year-old boy who doesn't study anymore and reacts aggressively towards me?

My 11-year-old son is now in class 5. Until class 4, he was good in studies, scoring around 90 %, but from this academic year he has not been showing interest in studies. He does not complete his ...
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How to deal with a one year old who resists sitting in shopping cart?

We have an 11-month-old boy who is very mobile (has been walking since 9 months) and now loves to play, run around, and climb on things. One problem we have is that when we're in the grocery store, he'...
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As a parent, how do I discipline kids who refuse to comply without physically or emotionally harming them?

Core Question My 13 year-old younger brother defies any attempt to control him and my parents do not/can not tell him to do anything that he doesn't want to do. He simply refuses to do it and there ...
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How to stop 5-year-old hitting?

My 5-year-old sons' behaviour has deteriorated over the last 9 months but mostly in the last 4 months has it been more noticeable. He will hit and lash out at both myself and my partner's children ...
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Toddler putting small stones in her mouth thinking it's funny

My 1.5-year-old has recently started putting small stones (the size of hazelnuts) in her mouth when we are outdoors, which of course can be very dangerous. I have tried everything I could think of ...
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Using scare tactics to get children to obey

My daughter is 18 months old. Recently we have been using scare tactics to make her obey. Do this or else Aunty from the top floor will come and shout at you Do this or the dog will come for you We ...
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Backed into a corner with 9-year-old and tablet confiscation

My 9-year-old son spends as much time as he can get away with using his iPad (in this case watching Youtube videos). His iPad is also required for school. This evening, after giving him ample warning ...
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Should I punish my teenage sister, whom I have full custody of, for lying to me in order to secretly see her boyfriend?

I'm 24 years old and have full custody of my 16-year-old sister. She has been living with me for the last 3 years. I found out today, from her, that she has been lying to me about spending time with a ...
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Raise babysittable kids

Background: My wife and I babysat 4 children and the parents made it sound like a) there was a schedule and b) if there were difficulties to just say something like 'are you listening', 'are you ...
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What to do about my 3.5-year-old daughter's tantrums, which have worsened?

My daughter has not really had many full-blown tantrums when she was younger, ever. But now at 3.5 years old, almost 4 years old (on 8/27). She has been having the worst tantrums ever. First, she used ...
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How to make our 5-year-old son stop being violent towards other children at school?

How can I stop my 5-year-old from hitting and kicking kids at school? He doesn't behave this way anywhere else. My wife and I don't argue much and we have a happy household. We are embarrassed and ...
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Disciplining: what to do when kid starts hiding his mischief?

We try to set well-defined/predictable and not-to-harsh consequences for mischief of our 4.5-year-old: timeouts, taking away toys, refusing to play, skipping story-time, etc., but no physical ...
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How can I undo the bad behavior my 2.5 year old daughter learned from 5 year old children?

We went on a trip with some friends for 2 days, and there were three 5-year-old girls. After returning from the trip, my daughter has been pushing her brother 5X more, kicking her mother 5X more (for ...
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Should we gently take away thing from a baby's hands before she can eat them?

My almost 1-year-old baby grabs whatever she can from the ground and tries to eat it. Should we take it gently from her and tell her "No"? Should we "hit" it out of her hand with a finger, I am ...
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Five-year-old son constantly fondling himself - is it normal?

When my five-year-old son wears some comfy clothes, like joggers or pyjamas especially after school, he tends to either sit on the sofa or lie on the floor and basically fondle himself. He started ...