Questions tagged [discipline]
How to enforce the rules you set, and consequences when those rules are broken. Use [behavior] for questions about why children act the way they do.
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Four Year Old Pushing and Positive Discipline Techniques
This isn't a major problem for us, but I'm curious to get a few perspectives on this issue. My wife and I have two boys, two and four, both close to two and four, and for the most part we try to use ...
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How do you reduce the anger a mother feels towards her child? [closed]
I met a woman and things have been going well. Recently she has introduced me to her family (older sister and a niece). Her older sister is a widow.
Over the past couple of months, I've grown quite ...
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Should I bother trying to teach my niece I won't respond to tantrums if I only see her once a month and risk her mom undermining me if I don't give in
I get to see my niece roughly once a month. Her mother, who is raising her, is not related to me, but we get along well enough. Unfortunately the mother allows her daughter to get away with throwing ...
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non-militant approach to potty training
I have heard a variety of styles of potty-training and the ones I have been told of struck me as somewhat militant. This is not to say that discipline is something I want to ignore in my kids' lives, ...
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5 year old wants to lie, hide things, destroy others stuff, and is only nice to people when he gets what he wants
My 5 year old has been acting out terribly and I’m at a loss. My husband isn’t helping at all with parenting anymore for this one (the 5 year old his his) or the other two kids.
The youngest is the ...
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My 5 year is taking advantage of my wife's clinical anxiety and depression
My 5 year old acts up around his mother, especially if other people are around. She has clinical anxiety, she's taking antidepressants.
It's not his fault, he noticed that he can get what he wants if ...
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8 year old boy lying and disrespectful
Our 8 year old, talks back a lot and started lying! Last night there was an argument over him lying about taking a shower so I said, this isn't the first time this week you lied about taking a shower ...
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How to discourage toddler from pulling out chairs when he loves to be picked up
My sweet 2 year old boy has developed a new dangerous habit.
He loves to pull out chairs from the table, and will frequently try to climb up on top of them and onto the table as well. Naturally we ...
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How to make positive reinforcement effective when the other parent does not adopt this approach?
My children are two years and nine months old. Their mother and I have separated and we share parenting time. She and I have very different parenting philosophies. I adhere to positive reinforcement ...
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boy (4 years) generally well-behaved but misbehaves when mom is around
My son (4 years and 3 months) is generally well-behaved. There is no trouble in kindergarten, no trouble at grandma's place and not even much trouble at home with his dad. He knows the rules and ...
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Are my parents right to give me a severe punishment for being brought home by the police drunk? I am 16 [closed]
Are my parents right to take such drastic action to stop me drinking alcohol underage? In the past couple of weeks I have been coming home drunk (not on school nights) my parents said they are worried ...
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how to get rid of angry outbursts in a healthy way
Our son, 3.75 years old, gets frustrated fairly easily (e.g. zipper gets stuck when he dresses, tower of building blocks collapses unintentionally). Often this results in him stomping and/or throwing ...
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How to make sure that a child does never repeat certain extremely dangerous actions if the child is too young to understand the dangers?
First of all, I understand and accept that spanking children is wrong in any and all cases and should never be employed.
However, there are two cases when I'd tend to excuse spanking and this is one ...
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How to handle situation when a mother gives her child preferential treatment and is defensive about it?
So the full details of my involvement and actual relationship with my 'friend' and her child are a bit too complicated and distracting to go into right now. For now lets say that I love kids and have ...
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teaching to take care of one's belongings (at least the dear ones)
My son loves balance bikes. He got his first one with 2 and second (larger) with 3. Every morning he could choose whether he wanted to use the old or new one for the way to kindergarten, and he mostly ...
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Should I allow my child to drop an activity just because he’s lost interest?
We encourage our 7 y/o child with adhd to experience different activities that interest him and also help him with social skills. He is impulsive and is eager to participate but loses interest quickly ...
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Protecting your almost adult offspring from bad company and drugs
Given an offspring 16-18 years old (especially with health problems and alergies) how exactly can you protect them (and the entire family) from drugs (their friends do drugs and some are even mules)?
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Protecting your kid from bullying
I have asked a question on how to Earn your kid's trust and getting them to confide in you and "complain" about getting bullied
The question is
How not to lose the trust now that you earned ...
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Crime and Punishment-A Family Approach-Social Issues [closed]
A couple of years ago my then 16 year old sister sprayed me in the face with insecticide and when I told my mother that it isn't funny she should do something about it she asked me how exactly would I ...
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How can I get my kid to stop whistling...so much?
I know this makes me sound like a jerk, but it feels nuanced and I really am trying to learn and grow.
Some added context:
He is using the handflute, or 'hand ocarina' method
He does it very ...
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9 year old boy hurts himself and others inadvertently
I have a son who is really clumsy with his overall motor skills and at the same time is a dreamer, who is not paying attention to his surroundings.
This leads to him having bruises all the time ...
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Is it normal for a 4 year old to scream when told no or something she doesn't like?
I have been looking after my daughter who is 4.
Unfortunately, I have postpartum depression, which makes it difficult at times. However, I do everything to enjoy and spend my time with her. I take her ...
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How to stop my child's teacher from disciplining my child without my consent?
My daughter is 6 she is diagnosed add adhd fetal exposure. We adopted her at 6 weeks. I told the school after a assistant teacher terrorized my child into saying she was lying when she wasn’t not to ...
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Punishing my brother
My younger brother 16 is leaving with me, it's been two years now
He is like every teenager likes to have fun, discover things and get friends. I kept him on the line, safe and sound.
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Appropriate age for use of electronics
I was searching for this video for the last 3 years.
In it a salesperson refuses to sell a tablet to the parents of a 5 year old saying that they can come back in 7 years and 12 years is the ...
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How can I discourage doing a poor job without being a nitpicking perfectionist?
A (from what I can tell) somewhat common contributing factor to children growing up with a lack of self-confidence, or being people-pleasers, is parents who were very strict, perfectionist, and/or ...
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Kleptomania in 9 year old
So, my 9 yo step sons has a big issue with stealing. The issue is that it's not stealing money, or for gain. A lot of the time, he just takes things, just so that he can have it.
He takes something, ...
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7 year old won't believe adults even when they show overwhelming evidence
This one is a weird situation that came to a head yesterday but, now that I look back on it, the behaviour has been there for months.
My seven year old has indoor and outdoor shoes at school. The ...
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Should I issue consequences at bed time?
My nine year old has always had excellent bedtime habits. We considered ourselves fortunate and have maintained consistent routines. She typically goes to bed between 8 and 830.
Recently she has ...
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How to handle a 5-year-old that "bullies" me in order to get attention?
I'm almost 30 years old, and I'm being terrorized by a 5-year-old. Both his step-mom (my cousin) and I don't know what to do with him anymore. This kid has basically been ill-mannered from the day I ...
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I'm worried that my 2-year-old granddaughter is extremely aggressive
I am very worried about my 2-year-old granddaughter (she will be 3 years old in 3 months). Anytime she gets in trouble she laughs no matter how she is disciplined. Her parents have tried talking to ...
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Teen displays bullying behavior towards his siblings, and also towards my kids, how to handle?
We have a family friend stay with us. She has 4 kids. Two teenage boys (17 and 14) and two younger kids (8 yo boy and 6 yo girls).
All kids except the 17 year old has been diagnosed with ADHD.
The 14 ...
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Toddler makes a mess with everything, everywhere
Our son is 17 months old. He is too frequently ruining things and losing our expensive things.
I know these things should be out of reach, but some things can’t be locked and things at his level are ...
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How to convince teenage sister to coexist with parents?
Not a parent but an older sibling and I’m trying to establish some form of peace in my household, I’ll try to give context here without making the question too long.
My sister is a teenager that’s ...
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My younger brother doesn't know when to stop doing something he finds fun even when it's hurting someone else
I have responsibility over my 5 year old brother quite often, enough so that he calls me mom, and I deal with this almost daily and it's extremely frustrating and I don't know what to do, when I ask ...
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Child with ODD and ADHD
I honestly am confused about what to do as a parent. I have a 4 year old child with severe ADHD symptoms and ODD and persistent impulse control issues. My child experiences level 10 tantrums multiple ...
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how to convey certain objects are off limits to a child under 1?
Our daughter turns one years old next month. She has been developing ahead of schedule in many arenas and is a very expressive and affectionate child. Of late, she is able to reach and grab a variety ...
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Basic discipline away from home
My question is similar to this one: about enforcing some basic and necessary discipline vis-à-vis a toddler, such as getting dressed, going to bed, etc. The answer to the cited question is an ...
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Will "positive parenting" techniques work with my children?
I have two children (age 8 & 6). Both are very strong-willed. The stress of the pandemic and remote learning have taken their toll and caused their behaviors to escalate. They are now more ...
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How do you teach a child who doesn't respond to positive or negative reinforcement?
I've got two kids, 8 and 17, and they both struggle to learn from their mistakes, making the same mistakes again and again and again, despite the consequences. For example, they're both huge ...
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8 year old is breaking the rules, and not understanding consequences
So, I recently asked this question, and after following the advice given, it has only made things more erratic.
At this point, they both do listen when told what they have done wrong, and why it is ...
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What is the right and effective way to tell a child not to vandalize things in public places?
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I'm with my 6-7 years old son in a dinosaur park (in a day not busy at all, so he will not behave as a good boy just because there's people around him who could make him feel ...
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Advise on 123 Magic for hyper or anxious kids
Has anybody that’s done 123 Magic have any experience with a child who knowing they will get a time out, negotiates the conditions of their time out? My son will know on 3 he goes to his room for 5 ...
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Lying and hiding from parents
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The child here is a 10 year old. We are a stable two parent household. He is academically good, however, wants to spend all time glued to YouTube/ Video games. We placed a limit of an hour ...
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What to do about a 6 year old who knows when to go to the bathroom but still doesn't?
My 6 year old granddaughter is a smart child and knows when she needs to go the bathroom. She just does not care if she goes in her undies or pants. We have tried everything with her. Tried to give ...
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Is my son uncle making him moody whilst its hurting our marriage?
My wife's brothers live with us, some of them know where boundaries are and some are always telling my wife what to do with kids and intervening.
It has been annoying for me because it seems they are ...
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How do I make my girlfriend's 4 year old stop hurting my dog?
I'm the boyfriend of a now 4 year old's mother and I have been in the little boy's life for about 2 years. We have a good bond, although I don't live with them and see them 2 weeks every 4.
My ex and ...
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How to stop a toddler (seventeen months old) from hitting and pushing the TV?
We have a pretty standard living room set up with a TV sitting on a not-that-high cabinet which is easily in reach of our seventeen month old. Our apartment is very small and for that reason we're not ...
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Is this normal behavior for a kindergarten teacher?
I just had my son's kindergarten teacher tell me that 'the way you are raising him is making my job harder'. I was offended by this but don't have much experience with teachers and don't know if I am ...
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Dealing with "breaking the rules"
So we have 2 young boys, aged 8 and 6. The 8 year old is very smart for his age, he's intuitive, figures out how things work, and knows how to get what he wants. The 6 year old however is more ...
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