Questions tagged [pre-teen]
Age specific questions from about 11 years to about 13 years. Also known as "tweens". Younger: middle-childhood. Older: teen.
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My 12-year old daughter all of a sudden says she's trans
To give some background, my daughter has always been the proverbial girly-girl. Loved her long hair and styling it different ways, loved playing with makeup, always begging me to let her wear makeup ...
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Can I bring my parents back together? [closed]
I am fairly young, not a teenager yet. This morning, my parents had a fight and my mom said she was going to stop cooking for my dad. At lunch, I spoke to my dad about apologizing and recognizing my ...
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How to deal with a situation in which following the rules feels like punishment and breaking them is rewarded?
Disclaimer:
This question is triggered by the current COVID-19 pandemic, but should please be seen as a more general question.
To cut a long story short, a long-planned birthday party sleepover at a ...
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How do I help my parents not have a divorce [duplicate]
Hi I am under 12 years of age and I found out lately that my mom and dad want a divorce what do I do? I want to stop it but I don’t know how.
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Feel like I’m failing my 11 year old daughter [closed]
I am a mom to a beautiful and intelligent 11 year old daughter and I feel like I am failing her as a mother. She has been incredibly moody and temperamental for the last few months and I try and talk ...
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Guardianship of a pre-teen who has experienced emotional trauma
My husband and I are petitioning for guardianship over our nephew. His mother (my husband's sister) is not stable. She has issues with mental health and has had problems with addiction for many years. ...
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What can I do to encourage children I mentor to be tolerant of other's differences if parents don't want an open discussion about it?
I believe strongly In encouraging children to be open and respectful of everyone regardless of their differences, That everyone should be loved regardless of their race, gender, sexuality, religion, ...
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depression is affecting my parenting, work and I'd like to move city
I'm a single parent, two kids 14 & 12. no family (I'm a single child orphan, from my late teens) to help with support. I get no help (financial or otherwise) from my former partner who was removed ...
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What to do about my 11 year old daughter dating a boy she's never met when I don't want her to?
My 11 year old girl started year 7. She struggled with finding friends and fitting in, had rumors being said the lot. She handled things well and I discreetly let the school know she’s struggling a ...
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Is it healthy for children (aged 8-14) to play with toys from for R rated film franchises?
Obligatory: not a parent.
I was wandering through Walmart the other day when I came across toys, designed for kids (aged 8-14 is my guess) from the Alien franchise. (Lanard is the company, for those ...
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My 11 yr old daughter wants to be a boy [duplicate]
My daughter came out as "transgender" to me and my husband in a family therapy session. I don't want to call her by her "preferred pronouns" of he/him because if it's a phase i'll be making a fool of ...
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Did I screw up when allowing my 12-year-old to invite only one twin to her party?
My 12-year-old daughter is an only child. A few months ago, she had her first birthday party to which both boys and girls were invited. She chose a neighborhood restaurant to have a small dinner.
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Where to turn for help when my 12-year-old granddaughter keeps hitting her 10-year-old sister?
I have two granddaughters, one turns 12 in August, the other is 10 years old and is small for her age (she was a prem baby). Her parents are divorced since the older child was 5 and the dad has a new ...
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How to help my pre-teen who is getting into trouble at school? [closed]
My daughter has just received a three day suspension from school. She is in seventh grade and this year has gotten progressively worse as time has gone on.
I know that contributing factors are that ...
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What to do about a 12-year-old boy who is shy outside but misbehaves at home?
I am mother of a 12-year-old boy. Compared with other children, his behavior is totally different.
Behavior at home
I think he behaves childishly. He talks loudly, screams and argues. He doesn't ...
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How to find out why my 11-year-old's memory is poor with regard to homework?
I've started to help my 11-year-old step son with his homework and in doing so, I've noticed that his memory is very poor.
We walked through a multi-step process for adding three fractions, and after ...
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Is there any research on the psychological impact of male children pushing same sex parent out of the bed?
This question is about the impact on the psyche of a boy/tween who sleeps in their parents bed and as time goes on the father moves out of the bed.
Certain things that may be of importance are:
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How to gamify learning?
My 11-year-old son is in his second year of secondary school and motivating him to learn is becoming increasingly difficult.
In primary school, the subject material was presented by his teachers in ...
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How can I help my nieces who suffer under their mother's behavior?
My brother-in-law (let's call him Mark) has 3 kids but it turns out the mom (let's call her Alice) is not very "maternal".
She is clearly bothered by the kids and tries in every way to avoid her ...
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How can I discipline an angry 12-year-old without her hating me for it?
My 12-year-old daughter till recently had a good, friendly relationship with us (her parents) and was always happy to discuss anything that happens at school/activity classes and what's going on with ...
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12 years old - school related things
My 12 years old is very active and happy child but sometimes worries a lot. Recently the boy who he use to get along with for some reason started to bad mouthing him to other kids from school saying ...
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What to do about my adopted 11-year-old son's anger issues?
I have adopted my 11-year-old when he was a baby. He has the biggest heart, but is the most challenging:
Parents all siblings - yells and pushes, pulls hair, throws things at
them and squeezes their ...
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My son got in trouble for harassment at school. How can I teach him to stop?
So, a day or two ago, my son touched a girls butt during lunch. She reported him to the counselor and my son got a Saturday Detention, along with having to write a hand written apology to the girl. ...
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Is it inappropriate for young teens to cuddle and sleep together if there is no sign of it being sexual?
I'm trying to decide if I should intervene and would very much appreciate some feedback. I am Japanese btw and my English may not be perfect, sorry.
My son and his best friend are both 13 years of ...
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Respectful parenting and discipline
Been reading a bit about Respectful Parenting and mutual respect as a parenting style and it appeals to us. We have four kids so keeping track of reward charts and various other trackers is complex ...
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How can I teach my daughter to see her errors?
An 11-years daughter of mine, when checking a piece of her writing or math exercise, where she has one or more errors, simply misses them, whispering contentedly something as 5*6=36.
Normally, if I ...
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How to discipline teens for littering?
We have a chore system for our two tweenagers, where we all clean up at the end of the day and they help out. So far it's been pretty good with less and less oversight needed over time, and relatively ...
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How to balance teaching that hard work pays vs chores for free
We made a conscious decision not to give our kids much pocket money: it seemed a bad life lesson to teach that lots of free cash gets handed out on demand. So far that's been okay, and they've learned ...
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My 11-year-old daughter still asks me to zip her jacket
My daughter is now 11 years old, but still asks me to zip her jacket. This really worries me because she can do it herself and is otherwise independent. She even asks me when her friends are around. ...
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My 11-year-old grandson is holding in his poop
My 11-year-old grandson holds in his poop to the point he will pack his butt with toilet paper and when he can't hold it anymore it comes out in the toilet paper. Afterwards, he tries to clean up the ...
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How to handle an 11-year-old boy who doesn't study anymore and reacts aggressively towards me?
My 11-year-old son is now in class 5. Until class 4, he was good in studies, scoring around 90 %, but from this academic year he has not been showing interest in studies. He does not complete his ...
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How to react to an eleven-year-old sneaking out at night to look at the stars?
During the holidays, two kids from two families that we are friends with snuck out at night to look at the stars. The mother of one twelve year old boy reacted with an outburst of anger and severely ...
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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent
I'm asking for a friend of mine, who's the parent. Her child is 12 years old.
Yesterday, at school, the child's classmate was horribly beaten up by a teacher. And I mean horrible. It ended with the ...
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Is a Special Ed teacher allowed to tell regular teachers to instruct their students (6th graders) not to hug a child anymore? [closed]
My child is a boy in the 6th grade. Upon entering middle school, he acquired an all new administration and a new Special Ed teacher. At the end of the previous year, I was told by the Superintendent ...
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12 year old daughter only misbehaves for her parents
I have a 12 year old daughter who behaves for everyone except for my wife and I. Everyone else that encounters her thinks she is just an angel, but at home she is argumentative, talks back, has a ...
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My 11-year-old hates writing as do I. How to provide help to him writing a school essay without forcing him to do what he doesn't want to?
I raise my 11-year-old son by myself. He needs to write a small essay about his first day at school and I don't even know how to help him. He hates writing and is in love with math, so do I. I don't ...
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How do I stop my little brother from throwing things?
My brother is usually very nice to me, but sometimes he acts out. I can't be harsh with him because he is not a mature. He gets in a habit of throwing things.
What can I do to get him to stop ...
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Bad attitude from my 12yr old
My son has a bad attitude, and I can't even have a discussion with him without him kicking off. I try my hardest to not get cross but sometimes it's so hard not to. The way he is being is splitting my ...
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How to help my 11-year-old daughter who is confused because she likes a girl?
My 11-year-old daughter came to me and told me that she thinks she has feelings for another girl. She explained it as she has the same feelings for this girl that she has had for a boy all school year....
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Is this a situation in which I should push for intervention or should I let it go?
Background
I am a mid-older teen living at home and preparing to go to college in about a year. I generally keep to myself and only interact with my parents on the most essential topics so I may be ...
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My 12-year-old daughter is not appreciative
My daughter just turned 12. She is the only child for me and my husband, but we both have other (grown) children from the first marriages. Our daughter is like an angel to us and we love her beyond ...
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Is it appropriate for boys aged 7 and 11 to go shirtless at home in front of 7 year old girl?
I am divorced with 2 boys and my significant other has a girl. My boys are 11 and 7, and she is 7. What brought me here is me not understanding certain things such as, my significant other asks me to ...
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My almost 12-year-old daughters threw tantrums and screamed outside the house
I’m a part-time working mom and I have twin daughters. They’ll be 12 years old next month. My question is is it normal, even when they’re almost 12 years old, to sometimes scream and cry like crazy ...
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My 11-year-old daughter's temper is getting out of control
I need help with my daughter.
She screamed in my face, she tries to block my way when I try to leave the room, she's tried to pull my hair, and she ripped a shirt I was wearing trying to keep me in ...
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How can I help my children who just found out my wife left us?
My wife and I have been married for coming up close to 14 years now. We have 3 children, aged 12, 9 and 5. Recently, she started seeing another man and called it quits on me and the kids. She moved ...
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How to address a child having a racist friend?
I have a son who is 10. He plays online games with a small group of other kids of very similar ages. I know who they are, and I know the parents, but I wouldn't go so far as to say that we are ...
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How can I help my 11 year old daughter with encopresis?
My daughter has was diagnosed with encopresis at age 7. She's had bad constipation since 5, but I thought it was a phase. She cries when she has a "flare up" as she calls it. I can see the pain in her ...
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Should my 12-year son see, how I fail?
I have a 12-year old son. I don't live with his mother, but I try to do as much as possible to help him grow up a happy and healthy adult.
Couple of months ago I learned he had problems with maths ...
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Forcing my sister/child to do any activities outside from school. How to approach a child differently in order to get their interest?
My mom and I are having a lot of struggle with my little sister. She is 12 years old and all of her life we have had a lot of trouble to try and get her into any activity at all. Currently she is in ...
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My husband is likely the father of a child, but the child doesn't know. Is it too late with the child being 12 years old?
This happened before my husband and I were together! My husband was told 11 years ago that he fathered a little boy. The mother told him it was his then the very next day she told him she was just ...
