Questions tagged [pre-teen]
Age specific questions from about 11 years to about 13 years. Also known as "tweens". Younger: middle-childhood. Older: teen.
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Is it inappropriate for young teens to cuddle and sleep together if there is no sign of it being sexual?
I'm trying to decide if I should intervene and would very much appreciate some feedback. I am Japanese btw and my English may not be perfect, sorry.
My son and his best friend are both 13 years of ...
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Respectful parenting and discipline
Been reading a bit about Respectful Parenting and mutual respect as a parenting style and it appeals to us. We have four kids so keeping track of reward charts and various other trackers is complex ...
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How can I teach my daughter to see her errors?
An 11-years daughter of mine, when checking a piece of her writing or math exercise, where she has one or more errors, simply misses them, whispering contentedly something as 5*6=36.
Normally, if I ...
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How to discipline teens for littering?
We have a chore system for our two tweenagers, where we all clean up at the end of the day and they help out. So far it's been pretty good with less and less oversight needed over time, and relatively ...
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How to balance teaching that hard work pays vs chores for free
We made a conscious decision not to give our kids much pocket money: it seemed a bad life lesson to teach that lots of free cash gets handed out on demand. So far that's been okay, and they've learned ...
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My 11-year-old daughter still asks me to zip her jacket
My daughter is now 11 years old, but still asks me to zip her jacket. This really worries me because she can do it herself and is otherwise independent. She even asks me when her friends are around. ...
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My 11-year-old grandson is holding in his poop
My 11-year-old grandson holds in his poop to the point he will pack his butt with toilet paper and when he can't hold it anymore it comes out in the toilet paper. Afterwards, he tries to clean up the ...
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How to handle an 11-year-old boy who doesn't study anymore and reacts aggressively towards me?
My 11-year-old son is now in class 5. Until class 4, he was good in studies, scoring around 90 %, but from this academic year he has not been showing interest in studies. He does not complete his ...
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How to react to an eleven-year-old sneaking out at night to look at the stars?
During the holidays, two kids from two families that we are friends with snuck out at night to look at the stars. The mother of one twelve year old boy reacted with an outburst of anger and severely ...
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An incident happened at school and child didn't (want to) tell the parent
I'm asking for a friend of mine, who's the parent. Her child is 12 years old.
Yesterday, at school, the child's classmate was horribly beaten up by a teacher. And I mean horrible. It ended with the ...
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Is a Special Ed teacher allowed to tell regular teachers to instruct their students (6th graders) not to hug a child anymore? [closed]
My child is a boy in the 6th grade. Upon entering middle school, he acquired an all new administration and a new Special Ed teacher. At the end of the previous year, I was told by the Superintendent ...
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12 year old daughter only misbehaves for her parents
I have a 12 year old daughter who behaves for everyone except for my wife and I. Everyone else that encounters her thinks she is just an angel, but at home she is argumentative, talks back, has a ...
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My 11-year-old hates writing as do I. How to provide help to him writing a school essay without forcing him to do what he doesn't want to?
I raise my 11-year-old son by myself. He needs to write a small essay about his first day at school and I don't even know how to help him. He hates writing and is in love with math, so do I. I don't ...
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How do I stop my little brother from throwing things?
My brother is usually very nice to me, but sometimes he acts out. I can't be harsh with him because he is not a mature. He gets in a habit of throwing things.
What can I do to get him to stop ...
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Bad attitude from my 12yr old
My son has a bad attitude, and I can't even have a discussion with him without him kicking off. I try my hardest to not get cross but sometimes it's so hard not to. The way he is being is splitting my ...
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11 daughter likes a girl
My 11 year old daughter came to me and told me that she thinks she has feelings for another girl. She explained it as she has the same feelings for this girl that she has had for a boy all school year....
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Is this a situation in which I should push for intervention or should I let it go?
Background
I am a mid-older teen living at home and preparing to go to college in about a year. I generally keep to myself and only interact with my parents on the most essential topics so I may be ...
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My 12-year-old daughter is not appreciative
My daughter just turned 12. She is the only child for me and my husband, but we both have other (grown) children from the first marriages. Our daughter is like an angel to us and we love her beyond ...
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Is it appropriate for boys aged 7 and 11 to go shirtless at home in front of 7 year old girl?
I am divorced with 2 boys and my significant other has a girl. My boys are 11 and 7, and she is 7. What brought me here is me not understanding certain things such as, my significant other asks me to ...
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My almost 12-year-old daughters threw tantrums and screamed outside the house
I’m a part-time working mom and I have twin daughters. They’ll be 12 years old next month. My question is is it normal, even when they’re almost 12 years old, to sometimes scream and cry like crazy ...
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My 11-year-old daughter's temper is getting out of control
I need help with my daughter.
She screamed in my face, she tries to block my way when I try to leave the room, she's tried to pull my hair, and she ripped a shirt I was wearing trying to keep me in ...
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How to address a child having a racist friend?
I have a son who is 10. He plays online games with a small group of other kids of very similar ages. I know who they are, and I know the parents, but I wouldn't go so far as to say that we are ...
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How can I help my 11 year old daughter with encopresis?
My daughter has was diagnosed with encopresis at age 7. She's had bad constipation since 5, but I thought it was a phase. She cries when she has a "flare up" as she calls it. I can see the pain in her ...
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3answers
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How to remain unaffected by my son's emotions?
My son is ten years old now and I feel that over the past year or so he has become increasingly irritable and prone to angry outbursts. He is easily frustrated by the smallest things and tears up and ...
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Should my 12-year son see, how I fail?
I have a 12-year old son. I don't live with his mother, but I try to do as much as possible to help him grow up a happy and healthy adult.
Couple of months ago I learned he had problems with maths ...
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Forcing my sister/child to do any activities outside from school. How to approach a child differently in order to get their interest?
My mom and I are having a lot of struggle with my little sister. She is 12 years old and all of her life we have had a lot of trouble to try and get her into any activity at all. Currently she is in ...
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My husband is likely the father of a child, but the child doesn't know. Is it too late with the child being 12 years old?
This happened before my husband and I were together! My husband was told 11 years ago that he fathered a little boy. The mother told him it was his then the very next day she told him she was just ...
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4answers
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How to motivate my extremely lazy 12 year-old?
My 12 year-old son is a good kid, but he is extremely unmotivated to do literally anything unless I or his mother are constantly riding him the whole time. As a young child, he was "easy" to raise ...
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12 year old boy is totally out of control
My seventh grader screamed "Fuck you" at me last night. I am at the end of my rope. His behavior is so bad I feel like I need to send him away to a boarding school or something because he is causing ...
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How to deal with two 10- and 12-year-old brothers fighting?
I am a father of 10- and 12-year-old boys. Both used to play happily and regularly and fought on occasions. The younger boy used to complain about his older brother with some deep cries and proof of ...
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How to figure out which of my children is lying to me? [duplicate]
I'm looking for advice on how to determine which of my children is lying. I have 4 kids, 12, 12, 8, 6.
About once a week, something bad will happen, (this last incident, somebody poured a bowl of ...
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Topics for kids for moving in with girlfriend and kids [closed]
I'm somewhat of a shy guy, more precisely though I just don't know what to talk about. My problem is that I've moved in with my girlfriend, and she has two kids, a girl aged 12 and a boy aged 14, and ...
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My 13-year-old daughter is talking to a 20-year old girl on the internet. Is this normal?
She’s not very open so I have no idea whether their conversations are age-appropriate. She is a really intelligent and responsible kid, and she's definitely smart enough not to give out any personal ...
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Older boy showing inappropriate video to younger child
My 12 year old nephew, N, took my 9 year old son aside and showed him a video of ISIS beheading a victim. I am just flabbergasted that N would do that. Interestingly N did not show the video to my ...
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Children and Cell phones
How young is too young to have a cell phone? My 11 year old spends weekends away from mom and I need to keep in touch.
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What to do about my out-of-control 12-year-old daughter?
My 12-year-old daughter is a good kid. But when something doesn't go her way she calls me a bitch and cusses a lot. I take her phone away when she does that.
She can be so good, but it's like turning ...
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How to handle the father of my 11-year-old son who just met him for the first time in our son's best interest?
I have an 11-year-old son. His father wanted me to abort him. Now, he has seen him for the first time on Saturday. The father has never seen him prior or reached out to ask about him or try to see him....
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What to do with my pre-teen daughter who has been out of control since a severe accident?
Last December we were victims of a vehicle accident that killed my husband and left my son severely brain damaged. My daughter who is 12 and will be 13 in couple months was the only one in our vehicle ...
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What to do about my 12-year-old son who doesn't show interest in anything?
I have a 12-year-old son. In the last 2 years, he has shown no interest in doing anything, not listening, not hanging out with friends, etc. He doesn't like cleaning up behind himself, is just not ...
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11 year old leaking or wetting pants while laughing [duplicate]
My 11 year old daughter has "leaked" or wet her pants (small amount) while laughing hard. She has become irrationally fearful to the point where she quit soccer and doesn't want to do anything where ...
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Neighbor's child is trying to spend all her time with us
Background
My wife and I recently moved into a town-house apartment in a large complex. We have a Husky pup that my wife walks twice a day (she's a stay-at-home) and the dog attracts lots of ...
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My 9-year-old son tries to force himself into a group of friends after being rejected and is pushed over. How to help him build character?
I have a 9-year-old son. He is a lovely, sweet person with a great fondness for his friends. He is emotional, emphatic, smart and overall a nice kid.
Today I learned that he is getting himself into ...
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How can I help my 11-year old boy create his first videogame?
Today I sent my child a link to a report about a boy, who
has created a commercially viable videogame. My son replied
that he may intend to do something similar.
I asked him about the bottleneck of ...
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Restless fingers while speaking
It's very hard for me to have a relaxed talk with my son - 12 years old.
He does not like talking and if he does he is playing with his fingers.
This drives my crazy and it makes me afraid. I tell ...
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teens nagging at each others
The kids of my GF, 14 and 11 respectively, have that annoying tendancy to nag at each other when night time is coming. Teen girl likes to pout and teenage boy thinks himself as some kind of prima ...
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How to talk to my 13 year old son about inapropriate comments
Recently an issue has arisen with my 13 year old son and a girl he was "dating". While they were dating, I was one of those parents that always went through his phone and read messages.
I was ...
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2answers
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What to do with a disinterested 12-year-old boy?
My 12-year-old grandson does not have any interests other than video games. He can be a good student, but he does not turn in work and always complains about not having friends and nobody liking him. ...
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I'm 11 Years old, scared of my parents and I'm considering running away [closed]
I'm 11 years old, I live with my father, my mother and my 2 cats. When I was little life was great. We had so much fun together, me and my parents, but about 2 years ago things took a turn for the ...
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How to deal with a preteen's sudden unhealthy obsession?
Say a preteen girl is going through an unhealthy obsession. I know many people go through a phase of extreme obsession with something at some point, whether it's with a celebrity, a school crush, a ...
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What to do if your threaten be your older sister! [closed]
So I was in my home doing nothing but making some updates to my wifi network when my sister came and something happened between my sister,mother and I my sister 17 year old and me 13 year old went out ...
