Questions tagged [pre-schooler]

Age specific questions from about 3 years to about 5 years. Younger: toddler. Older: primary-schooler.

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How to deal with a 3.5-year-old who starts to cry when someone speaks louder to him?

My 3.5-year-old son simply cries when someone talks or gives commands in higher volume. He stops crying when I hug him again. But this is new behaviour in him. In school, staff informed me that he ...
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How to help our 3-year-old deal with continuously missing clothes and bad behavior from another kid in the nursery?

My 3-year-old daughter has been going to nursery for a year now. We live in Denmark. Her clothes began disappearing in the day care (first a dress, then a jacket). And she was saying the name of one ...
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How to deal with spillage when my 6-year-old son uses the toilet?

My son is 6 years old and I have been dealing with spillage in the toilet. He himself is very concerned and tries to avoid it by holding his 'thing' and pointing it down. This way he is successful but ...
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How best to help a language-delayed 3.5-year-old in a foreign language environment?

We are an English-speaking American family with 2 children, and have recently moved to Germany. The length of our stay is indefinite, and we've decided to try to integrate culturally and ...
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How to entertain (or keep in bed) a 5-year-old who gets up at 5am?

We have two girls: Elise, who is 2 and is decidedly an evening person: running and bouncing and laughing and playing until 7 or 8 PM if she can get away with it (which she can't, we want her in bed ...
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How to help a 4.5-year-old to no longer get “stuck” on minor minute details?

My 4.5-year-old often insists on certain things that seem to suggest he has some issues with flexibility. For example: He wants the green straw not the red one He wants to wear a different shirt to ...
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What to do about a 4.5-year-old soiling underwear shortly before bedtime when he usually uses the toilet?

My 4.5-year-old son was well potty trained. He has only recently started to soil his pants. This always happens in the 30 minutes before bedtime, always when he is in his room playing alone. He tells ...
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How to make our 3-year-old stop talking over every conversation around her?

Our 3-year-old daughter has been talking over any conversation in her vicinity for the past few months with increasing intensity. I can't talk for more than a minute or two to my wife when our ...
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Raising a bilingual kid. When should we introduce the majority language?

We are a family living in an English speaking country with a 3-year-old. My wife and I speak both French and English and we are committed to raise our kid bilingual in both languages. So far our ...
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How to encourage my 5-year-old who seems to be unusually interested in astronomy?

My almost 5-year-old son has developed a great interest in astronomy since last few months. I show him pictures of planets in books and videos on YouTube. He asks me to point out planets in the night ...
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Does separating necessarily cause damage?

Me and my (ex)girlfriend have a 3 years old child. He is an accidental child from a one night stand (where I was completely drunk and she was sober), but I didn't want to leave them alone, so I gave ...
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Is it normal for a 3-year-old to repeat the question before answering?

My 3 years and 3 months old son has speech delay. He repeats the question and then answers (mainly choice questions). At age 3, if I asked him any question ('this or that'), he simply repeated ('this ...
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How to discern whether a 3-year-old's repetitive hand movements are normal or not?

My 3-year-old son has a habit of holding his two hands tightly closed near his mouth and biting teeth so as to show he's excited. He performs this action only when he plays with toys. It comes ...
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When the length of a commute can be recognized as not acceptable for a kindergartner?

I have learned of kids with crazy long commutes in their school bus for public schools. I'm surprised of having such longs commutes (1 hour) for a 4-to-5 year old starting kindergarten. I understand ...
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How can I get involved in the parenting of my girlfriend's sister's 5-year-old who spends too much time on screens etc.?

I am a 30ish years old man, living at my girlfriend's parents place for 4 months. It's been 2 months already, 2 more to go. I don't have kids (yet, but want to). With us is my girlfriend's sister and ...
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How to help my 4-year-old get back to sleep in the middle of the night?

My 4-year-old son gets up every night to go to the bathroom. When he goes back to bed, he has trouble falling back asleep and will either talk, sing or play until he does and that sometimes takes ...
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Preparing and handling 1-month absence of father for 3.5 year-old

What is the best way to prepare a 3.5 year-old for a 1-month absence of his father? The child has a very good and intimate relationship to both mother and father. The closer the departure comes the ...
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Am I losing control as a father and head of house?

Our 3.5-year-old son just keep reacting: asking mom about all things. He doesn’t care if I am calling. if he is crying I am trying to console him. He would fight me to go to mother and I keep ...
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How to stop 3 year old screaming when something is wrong?

My daughter is 3 years and 2 months, she doesn't speak in whole sentences, just words or set phrases. She will scream when something goes wrong or if she's told no. For example, if she's playing ...
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How to help an expat pre-schooler learn the local language?

We're an expat family from Hungary living in the Czech Republic. Our oldest child is almost five years old. She's in kindergarten for 8 hours. She was born here already and started daycare at 1.5 ...
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How would a caregiver go about advising parents regarding an issue with their child?

I am a retired 57-year-old woman who babysits my neighbor's 3-year-old daughter. I have kept her since she was 2 months old. Both of her parents work 4 days a week, 10 hours a day, with occasional ...
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How to teach writing to a left-handed child?

My son is 3 years old. He has a tendency to use his left hand more than his right hand. I have seen he holds the pencil easily with his left hand. I suppose he is going to use his left hand for ...
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How to motivate a 3.5-year-old to use the potty when she knows how to, but is strongly opposed to it?

My god daughter is about 3.5 years old. She has demonstrated she is aware of when she needs to pee/poop and if naked will ask for a pullup to be put on just so she can use it. I believe if she ...
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How do I refresh my children's memory after long time of being away from me?

I have not seen my children since the beginning of October. There was no goodbye and they have moved to another city. They are 4 and 6 years old, both have mild autism, both non-verbal. What is the ...
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How to improve our 3-year-old's sleep cycle without skipping long afternoon nap?

My 3-ear-old goes to daycare where they have the policy to not wake up the sleeping kids. Therefore she ends up taking 3 hours nap from 12-3. When she comes home around 6 pm, she would be all fresh ...
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How to improve my 3-year-old's social interaction, as she does not play with other kids?

My 3-year-old does not play with other kids and in all the parties just linger around us (mom/dad). Even if the party is with her own class mates from school and she knows them a lot. I have tried ...
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How do I get my 3 1/2 year-old to poop in the potty and not on the floor?

I have a 3 1/2 year-old son who poops on the floor. He knows when he needs to go because he hides and poops on the floor. He will not poop in the potty. I bought him a child potty to poop in and he ...
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My 4-year-old is biting at school. How to make him stop?

I have a 4-year-old child. In the last month, he has bitten 2 kids. He's a loving child, but very strong willed, impatient and has difficulty taking turns. I've read a lot, and done everything: ...
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How to dress kids for the unpleasant weather?

This is regarding my 5-year-old little sister Leah and her school friends that come to ours in the morning to walk to school with her. When it's raining heavily which it can do a lot in Ireland, and ...
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3.5-year-old still pooing in underwear

I have a 3.5-year-old daughter, who has got peeing on the toilet down fine, but poos are another story. We've been on the change from nappies to undies for about 6-8 months. She will simply poo in ...
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How to stop 3-year-old from bouncing in every bed?

My 3-year-old son has the habit of sitting and bouncing in bed. It doesn't interfer with sleeping and napping. He even jumps on the sofa. He does that whenever he enters a room with a bed and when he ...
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What to do when 3.5-year-old still asks for pacifier 6 months after weaning?

Our 3.5-year-old girl has no pacifier since her 3. birthday. Before that, she was really addicted to it, asking all the time if she could have it (although we had clear rules, only during sleep time ...
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How to keep a 3 year old's skin hydrated through out the day?

Our sweet little one has trouble with dry skin. Sometimes during the night, there can be 40 minutes of scratching, which keeps everyone up! We put lotion on the skin, we sometimes even put Burt Bees ...
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4 yr old has become very negative since starting school

My 4 (and 4 months) year old son (i'm going to call him John here) started school in september, a couple of months ago. (he's in what is called 'Reception' in England - it might be called pre-school ...
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What kind of frame for prescription glasses for a 3 year old?

I have looked at questions on this site and most of them are trying to get their kids to learn to wear glasses. My question is a pre-cursor of sorts. Just today my 3 and a half year old was diagnosed ...
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My 4-year old son - in preschool full time - only wants to stay home without kids in his free time. Should we be concerned?

My son is 4 1/2. He's been in daycare and preschool since he was 6 months old. As such, he has been surrounded by other kids every weekday for his whole life. As an introvert, I totally feel ...
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What age do children understand what it means to hide?

My 4-year-old niece doesn't understand yet the difference between not seeing and not being seen: when she wants to hide from someone, she simply closes her eyes, and that's it. For example, when ...
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4 year old has trouble drinking from a cup

My 4 year old is having trouble learning to drink from a cup. He drinks from a sippy cup but can’t use a straw and when trying to drink from a cup he puts his tongue in the glass instead of under the ...
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How to help our 4-year-old who can't bite food into appropriately sized pieces?

My almost 4-year-old won’t bite his food. He doesn’t seem to know how to. If given a large piece of food, he will try to stuff the whole piece in his mouth or won’t even try to eat it because of its ...
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How to stop 4,5 year old to ask about every little thing to do for her

My 4,5 year old daughter asks about every little thing to do for her, e.g. pass her glass of water which stands 3 meters from us and it's the same work for me and for her to do that. Another example ...
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My 4-year-old wants fairy to grant her wishes - how to keep the magic alive without always having to buy presents?

My 4-year-old daughter asked the fairy for a specific toy. I want to keep the magic alive, but don’t want to buy gifts everytime she posts her wishes to her fairy.... I’m looking for an age-...
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How to discipline my fiancée's very, very defiant misbehaving 5-year-old?

My ability to help in this situation is limited because of the fact that the 5 year old I'm asking about is my fiancée's son. I have been with her now for 3 years and have been the male figure in this ...
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Toilet/Potty Training (4 Year Old Daughter)

I've read a few of the other posts here regarding the same topic and I've tried the answers that were given. My daughter is four years old and still in pull-ups, using them like diapers. She is ...
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How to help a 3 year old to sleep better?

My 3 year old doesn't go to sleep until late after 11pm and wakes up by 7.30am. Is this ok? She sleeps for 2 to 3 hours in the afternoon until 5pm. Since birth she hasn't slept properly.
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Should I intentionally lose a game to make my daughter happy?

My daughter is very clever at playing chess. At 5 years of age, she could win against her mother and grandparents, but still couldn't beat me. She kept playing with me and tried to win, but always ...
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My daughter tells me her teacher slapped her. How should I proceed?

I have a 4-year-old daughter. She goes to a small, private preschool. It is one class, all my daughter's age. There is no director; it consists of four women, who are partners, who take turns ...
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Young kids and other people's dogs

I have a five-year-old son. Quite often when we're walking in the countryside a puppy of a big breed will come running up to him and try to jump up and often end up knocking him over and/or scratching ...
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How to help a pre-schooler overcome sensitivity to social setbacks?

My son (3yrs 9 months) is bright and generally happy, but sensitive and sometimes acutely anxious. The sensitivity worries me a little for the future. If something in a social context doesn't go his ...
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How to convince a 4-year old child that professional cyclists are not littering during a race?

We were watching a Cycling Tour on TV yesterday and my 4.5-year old son saw that after having drinks or chocolates those cyclists were throwing the empty bottles/wrappers on the roadside. I ...
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What is a better approach than “mum with the carrot, dad with the stick”?

It seems to me that "mum with the carrot, dad with the stick" is a very bad approach, at least for me (dad) as the kids (the 3.5-year-old mainly) are behaving very badly especially with me! What is ...