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"I want to do that on my own" - how to improve situation if they don't actually *do* it?

My 14 year-old is deep in that phase where it becomes ever more important to do stuff on their own. To get this out first: I am exceedingly happy about that - my goal in life is to make my children as ...
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How can I handle a daughter who says she doesn't want to stay with me more than one day?

I got divorced in 2019 and have a daughter who will be 10 in 4 months. Yesterday I went to their house to pick her up for holidays and she all of a sudden said "dad, I don't want to stay with you ...
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Our hamster died, and witnessed by our child. How to communicate with/support her?

We kept a hamster in our house and my daughter liked it. She was very gentle when holding it. She had a really happy time with the hamster. But this week the hamster died when she was playing with it. ...
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How to talk to parents about my mental health

18-year-old teen here with no children, I'm asking this question here on how to better communicate with my parents. My mental health took a massive dip during the Pandemic and I'm still working on it. ...
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My 12yo. daughter told me she's gay, but not my wife. What should I do? [closed]

Ok backdrop..My wife and daughter kinda have that butting heads type relationship which has made it always easier for me to be close to my daughter. Just a few days ago my daughter and I talked about ...
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How can I handle kids telling me extremely boring stuff?

I have a 9 and a 12 year old. They'll (either one) get into a video game and then want to talk about it. Have you ever heard someone talk about, say, minecraft? first i got some oak sticks, but then ...
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Dealing with allegations of asking for kissing

We are visiting my wife Aunt and she has a daughter who is 3 years elder than my son, who is 7. I would describe my son as moody as well as good, depending on his mood. He does like attention so makes ...
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How to help our 7 year old "get to the point" of his stories. Or is this a developmental stage?

Our 7 year old takes a long time to tell a story or relate an event. He will repeat sentences over again if he stumbles over a word or detail. He will ramble on over a minor detail. How can we help ...
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How to explain pet's death to a three year old?

In the last six months my daughter (she'll turn three in November) really got into playing with her grandparents' dog; they live in a different town so we visit them occasionally, and while I don't ...
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Why won't my child speak?

My son is 6 and he is absolutely can talk lots and knows lots of words in English and Japanese. My wife is a controlling person who doesn't believe in structure- has to do some now that son was going ...
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How to best prepare a pre-school child for surgery and associated procedures?

My child of four years (and eight months) is soon having surgical treatment. I want to prepare them in the best way possible for the trip to the hospital and best manage any distress around the ...
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what shall I do my 12 year old daughter is out of control

My 12 year old daughter has been a nightmare in the past few months. On her good days she is the sweetest most helpful girl but these are becoming very rare. She loves her sporting activities but ...
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How to play and spend time with kids

I got a 6-year-old and 23 months old, I am guilty of not spending time with my kids because I do not know how to. My son is very good at the following instruction, I got him to switch gaming consoles ...
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How do I tap into my 18 year old daughter?

My abusive and controlling partner of twenty years, locked my out of our jointly owned home. I have since had to fund alternative accommodation from my savings, he hasn’t let me have any contents, I’m ...
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How to teach my 4 year old when are appropriate times to scream (for general screaming, not related to tantrums)

My 4 year old has a very high-pitched scream. It used to cause pain in my ears when she first started doing it (when she was 2 if I remember right?) but it doesn't anymore; I think the high-pitched ...
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How can I discourage doing a poor job without being a nitpicking perfectionist?

A (from what I can tell) somewhat common contributing factor to children growing up with a lack of self-confidence, or being people-pleasers, is parents who were very strict, perfectionist, and/or ...
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Kleptomania in 9 year old

So, my 9 yo step sons has a big issue with stealing. The issue is that it's not stealing money, or for gain. A lot of the time, he just takes things, just so that he can have it. He takes something, ...
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How do change eating habit

My son has a problem with eating. He can eat all the junk like KFC, McDonald's, or rice and sweet yogurt, but starts crying when I ask him to eat more healthy food, or when I ban his TV or iPad. Part ...
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How to approach my teenage child who never shares his feelings but is otherwise fine?

TL;DR - My son turned 18 last month. He is ready to speak when needed and almost never argues. However, he never discusses how he feels about things, what he feels about himself or the people around ...
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My son doesn't understand me when I talk to him

My son is 20 months old, and an active child. He listens when I call his name, and we have some non-verbal communication. But he doesn't understand what I'm saying to him. Whenever I say, "Come ...
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What are constructive ways to teach the value of attitude/tone to a 5 year old?

My five year old son occasionally has abbrassive tones with other parents and friends. It's hard to describe. Things like: "I saaaaaaaaaid I don't want to play on the swings!" (when invited ...
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17 year old son decided he is a girl but previous to coming out has never shown signs of feminine behavior [closed]

My now 18 year old son came out as transgender six months ago. He has never been girly. He is a stinky teenage boy, who does not clean his room, has to be forced to bathe and his voice and manner of ...
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How do I convince my strict parents to allow me to do things as a 17 year old?

I’m 17 and I have my driver's license and I’m legally old enough for many things. However, my parents have not allowed me to drive ever since I upgraded from my permit to my license. I have also been ...
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How to teach my 22 year old stepson to communicate instead of burning inside?

I became stepdad to an adult boy (22) (I am not the biological dad). He didn't have anyone to teach him or a father-like figure since his dad passed away when he was 7. He never went to college or ...
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How to talk to 4 year old children about action scenes in movies?

My 4-year-old twins like to watch TV shows occasionally that have a bit of action in them. My kid's favorite TV show is "The Walking Dead." My husband is concerned that it's a little too ...
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Avoiding kids calling me Daddy when playing without making a big deal about it?

I'm a known sperm donor, meaning I've donated sperm to a few women to help them have children, and I'm lucky enough to get a chance to visit and play with some of the children I donated for. Most of ...
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Should I use the word please when giving preschooler's orders?

We try to stress the importance of using please and thank you with kids, and one of the ways we do that is by demonstrating the use of good manners ourselves by always using please and thank you when ...
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Advise on 123 Magic for hyper or anxious kids

Has anybody that’s done 123 Magic have any experience with a child who knowing they will get a time out, negotiates the conditions of their time out? My son will know on 3 he goes to his room for 5 ...
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5 year old didn’t wanted his mother to touch [closed]

Today I was shocked and angered at my almost 5 old son when he started crying when his mom was tickling him while she was lying on floor and he was standing next to her. Our son said I don’t like it. ...
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Explaining to a child the issues of inappropriate content and helping them pick cleaner games? Comforting a child after having to take away an Item?

My child got a video game from a friend's parent as a "gift". I didn't know what was in the game until we turned it on. For the first few minutes the game looked ok but later got dirty ...
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When should I intervene in conflicts between my children and other relatives?

I have a problem that whenever I want to speak and need to speak giving my advice, idea, or argument my heart races, hands shake and I get dry mouth hence leaving me unable to do it. Currently, our ...
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best way to initiate conversation with five year old son

My son's mother and I have a hard time getting our five year old son to respond to any type of questions. Whether that be about his day, how he's feeling, what he's interested in, when asked directly ...
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Why my 4 year old is acting moody

A few years ago I wrote this question, I had moved out for 3 years just to find myself back at the same house again but with different circumstances. My mother in law passed away last year and my wife ...
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Pen-pal’ing in 21st century [closed]

Last night, my friend and I had the idea of setting up his daughter and mine as pen pals. He lives in Calgary, Canada, I live in Hong Kong. His daughter is 7, mine is 9; they have never met. Is pen-...
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How to encourage video chatting with family?

During this social distancing and lockdown situation, we have all been going through, we haven't been able to connect with loved ones which has been hard. It's been especially rough for my parents ...
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How do I explain the reasons behind protesting and rioting to my children?

We live in a major US city, and while we live far enough away from the areas most affected by the rioting and protesting that is currently ongoing, we are not so far that my children aren't aware - ...
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Kid opens up during Corona, make it last

After 7 weeks of Corona-lockdown, staying at home and home-schooling our 6-year old, he is opening up. He has told me what goes on at school, that he is often angry and how he vents. He has told me ...
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What to do when you side with your kids over your partner

I'm new here - be kind. Without getting into the specifics of the event, the punishment, etc. I have a daily recurring issue. A personal concern I have with my partner is their inability to listen/...
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worried about prior marijuana use [closed]

If I used marijuana everyday before I found out I was pregnant ( I quit as soon as I found out) My question is when my blood work comes back from first doctors appointment positive for THC , will CPS ...
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How to encourage my daughter to be more social?

My daughter is 10. She is very shy that she does not have friends at school. currently I am overseas and try to video talk to her, but she is shy to talk to me and does not want to talk to me cause ...
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How best for a trans/non-binary person to respond to their 6-year-old cousin asking if I'm a girl or a boy?

I have twin 6-year-old cousins (a boy and a girl) who I usually see about once a week or so, when the locally-resident segment of my family get together for dinner on Friday evenings. Yesterday, when ...
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How to tell my 4-year-old son not to get hyper with his uncle or anyone except parents?

My brother in law is a cocky, arrogant person. The way I see it, my son plays with him and they laugh and play really loud, but suddenly he has change of mood like flicking a switch. As 4-year-olds do ...
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Social Confidence/Intelligence for 7 y/o boy

I have a 7 y/o 2nd grade boy. He’s really talented academically, especially in the reading and writing areas, but he is lacking socially. I’ve noticed it when watching him at classroom events, the t-...
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What to do with a hyperactive/agressive/non-responsive 5 years boy?

My nephew is 5 years old and going to be 6 in about 2 months, he is hyperactive and aggressive towards others, also he doesn't seem to understand what his parents or anyone else told him to do or not ...
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Fear of DAD and leaving [closed]

I'm 26 years but i still stay with my Dad because in a typical african home its a taboo for a lady to leave her fathers and live alone. They see it as her being wayward and she will not have chances ...
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How to deal with a 6 year old who was "caught" cheating?

This is regarding my son who is 6 years old and is studying in Grade 1. We got a call from his class teacher that he was caught "cheating" during dictation assessment. Actually, we revise the words at ...
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How to help my son improve without being discouraging?

I am building and painting miniatures, and have been doing so for many years. My son is showing more and more interest in building and painting them with me, which is great. I let him build a ...
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At what age it is psychologically OK to teach child that parents need personal time?

I have 3 years old twins and I have a problem that I don't have any personal time, because when I finish my job and go home, they ask me to play with them all time I spent at home. When I go to work, ...
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How to deal with a stubborn but brilliant child?

I have 2 boys, aged 6 years and 4 years respectively. This concern is regarding the younger one. He has been very stubborn since birth. But on the other hand, I believe he is very brilliant and has a ...
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How can I live like a normal teenager with my super strict parents?

I am 16 and a junior in high school. I have an older sister who is 22 and live with both of my parents. My parents are super strict compared to my friends' parents. They are very religious, which I ...
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