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My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where "no presents" was specified on the invitation

Don't bring a gift; don't call and ask This is an opportunity to teach your son three very important lessons: 1. Your beliefs are not more important than their beliefs. While it may be tempting to ...
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My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where "no presents" was specified on the invitation

I would suggest handing the gift over privately before or after the party. That way you don't make other parents feel bad that they didn't bring a gift, or feel like you are sucking up, or whatever ...
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How should I respond to a parent who's upset their child wasn't invited to a (small) birthday party?

In this situation, I think you responded in the best possible way. You deferred to your son's choice, since ultimately it was his birthday; his choice of friends. You referenced historical evidence ...
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My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where "no presents" was specified on the invitation

Re: compromise. The gift recipient's parents are giving the gift of the party to all the attendees. It is natural in society to reciprocate in some way for gifts received, so points to your son for ...
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At what age is it OK in USA to hold a birthday party at home instead of a party venue?

Well, the definition of "OK" will vary, but I have never held my daughter's birthday parties at a venue. She wasn't interested in it and I don't like them anyway. Doing something at home gave us the ...
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My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where "no presents" was specified on the invitation

I think there are a couple of important points here: My son (3) likes to give presents. (...) We recently received an invitation to a cousin's 5th birthday. The invitation says "No gifts please!...
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My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where "no presents" was specified on the invitation

If the parents are generally okay with gifts, and just don't want them at the party, I would recommend telling him to give the gift at another time entirely, and not making it a 'birthday gift'. The ...
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How to react to a girl's mum inviting themselves to my daughter's party?

Just tell her simply: We have planned to have a small party with my daughter's close friends, and so we did not invite the whole class. Where to take it from there is up to you. If this girl and ...
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How should I respond to a parent who's upset their child wasn't invited to a (small) birthday party?

I would focus on two aspects here: three is a very small party; she probably assumed something like one-per-year and was therefore concluding her son is your son's 11th-favorite friend. Ouch. she ...
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My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where "no presents" was specified on the invitation

If the other parents have requested 'no presents' then you should respect their wishes. Even if you give a gift before the party it is still going to cause problems, when guests subsequently compare ...
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Bat mitzvah party invitations

Mazel tov :) A bat mitzvah is the same as any party: she invites those people who she wants to share in her celebration and achievement. I'd encourage your daughter to consider inviting them. Being ...
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Did I screw up when allowing my 12-year-old to invite only one twin to her party?

In my opinion, by twelve it should be up to the children to work this out, and the parents should not involve themselves directly - they should help their children navigate these things if they need ...
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How do you handle invites and venue registration for a venue birthday party when you don't know the turnout?

Invites For pre-K I would advice inviting ALL the kids in his class. My own pre-K boys don't remember all their friends, say the love playing with someone one day, and says they 'never liked him' the ...
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My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where "no presents" was specified on the invitation

This is an opportunity to begin to teach your son about honoring the wishes of others. If your son gives a gift, he is not giving what the receiver wants (the receiver having specifically asked for "...
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My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where "no presents" was specified on the invitation

Many other answers focus upon the assumption that the "no gifts" rule is to prevent public competition. However, I would ask the parents directly and explain the situation. There could be other ...
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At what age is it OK in USA to hold a birthday party at home instead of a party venue?

There are absolutely no USA laws or regulations about this - and expectations vary. Many people have young child birthday parties at home. I think you're mainly locked in to "the practices of upper ...
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My daughter hurt a little girl's feelings at a birthday party

I'm not sure if this is a cultural/traditional thing but most of the parents I know tell children to open their gifts later (after their friends have left) precisely because of this reason. Young kids ...
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My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where "no presents" was specified on the invitation

I don't understand the problem. Since when has the "wants" of a 3 year old guest been more important than the house rules? Take the opportunity of teaching your son the importance of respect and ...
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What does a party for 13 yo look like today?

The best way to figure out a party is to ask him what he wants. He could want something as simple as pizza, snack foods, movies and a game console, or something a bit more planned as a last hurrah of ...
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Throwing parties for teenagers

Have you talked to your child about these fears you have? Why don't you as a family sit down and try to find out what each one's expectations for this party are? Wouldn't your child understand that ...
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My daughter hurt a little girl's feelings at a birthday party

I am working through something similar with my daughter, and unfortunately there is no easy answer. I recommend explaining to her that her action hurt the other child's feelings and ask her how she ...
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What's the etiquette for birthday invites for younger siblings?

To provide a specific answer to your question: no, there is not an established rule of etiquette for the situation you cite. The goal of etiquette, especially when throwing a party, is to put your ...
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Party games for the 4-th birthday

When I was a little child, my parents had a lot ideas of what to play. I will just sum them up and explain it if necessary. Cottonwool Blowing Using a tape, you mark some lanes on the floor. Now ...
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My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where "no presents" was specified on the invitation

I think that its really lovely of your son to be so generous definitely encourage this!, but also be respectful of the parents wish (this is a wish that they have given for the party, to disobey would ...
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My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where "no presents" was specified on the invitation

You absolutely must honor the "No Gifts!" request. You can tell your son that he will give a gift to charity instead of to that child; or you can buy the gift and "forget" to take it and give it to ...
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At what age is it OK in USA to hold a birthday party at home instead of a party venue?

I can't answer for USA, but in the 4 European countries I've lived in, "parties at venues" is a rare thing for below-teens, and typically the kids don't care as long as they have fun. I've certainly ...
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How do you handle invites and venue registration for a venue birthday party when you don't know the turnout?

Has your child gone to any other parties of his pre-k class? If so, about what is the turnout to those? That should give you an indication of what the turnout to your kid's party will be. If ...
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Halloween Themed Activity

Traditional Halloween and harvest games Bobbing for apples Donut on a string eating contest. Pumpkin carving ( here is a template https://www.zombiepumpkins.com/dr-frank-n-furter-pumpkin-pattern/254/)...
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Bat mitzvah party invitations

Personally I think that she'll only have one bar mitzvah. She should invite those who are special to her. If people are asking her if they are invited she can then be honest and say "It's a really ...
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My son wants to bring a present to a birthday party where "no presents" was specified on the invitation

There are few quandaries or challenges in education, they are mostly AGLO moments (AGLO = Another Great Learning Opportunity). This is not a challenge, it is an opportunity to teach your child three ...
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