A few years ago I wrote this question, I had moved out for 3 years just to find myself back at the same house again but with different circumstances. My mother in law passed away last year and my wife and I decided to shift as her brother was not financially stable (so I am the one who pays rent/bills. Things haven't changed in terms of evading privacy as stated in the attached post but it has gone more out of control as we have the second son who is a few months old.
The problem now is that I have seen a stark difference in my elder son's behavior. While he is very much attached to his younger brother. He likes to be noticed and loves to talk a lot but our second son take all of our energy and some of my wife brothers are mean(I think) e.g. if they are playing with the baby and my first son try to play too with his brother (which is obvious), he gets scolded (e.g. stop kissing him hard).
I wish I can talk to them but I have a communication problem (My heart starts pondering if I want to point out something e.g. here I want to point out my wife's brother to change his tone).
Because I lost my last job, I work much on a new job leaving me no time to play with him and when I do I do not know what to play with my 4-year-old.
Since shifting, my son sleeps in our room on a floor bed and there is no more room, and I do not want him to sleep next to my wife's brother because of the reason I mentioned above.
I see my son being moody and his uncle saying "we r not talking to you coz ur not being nice and moody". I really cannot understand why my son is being so moody, he is very playful, creative.
What can I do as a father to fix the situation?